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I my self has a need to be within a few hours driving distance to be able to visit my kids and grandbabies. I have friends nearby also. I could move, but only within the area. If money wasn't an issue where I don't have to depend on someone else and I knew I could get around then the distance could be greater. I wouldn't want to move out of the country. We can only depend on ourselves, we do have to be independent in that way. Cause the only person that will always be there for us is ourselves.
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mylifewithu: I my self has a need to be within a few hours driving distance to be able to visit my kids and grandbabies. I have friends nearby also. I could move, but only within the area. If money wasn't an issue where I don't have to depend on someone else and I knew I could get around then the distance could be greater. I wouldn't want to move out of the country. We can only depend on ourselves, we do have to be independent in that way. Cause the only person that will always be there for us is ourselves.
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mylifewithu: I my self has a need to be within a few hours driving distance to be able to visit my kids and grandbabies. I have friends nearby also. I could move, but only within the area. If money wasn't an issue where I don't have to depend on someone else and I knew I could get around then the distance could be greater. I wouldn't want to move out of the country. We can only depend on ourselves, we do have to be independent in that way. Cause the only person that will always be there for us is ourselves.
I had thought of moving from where I'm at until I broke my heel last fall. My neighbors pitched in and helped take care of me while I was down. Makes it difficult to leave when you have wonderful neighbors. Having a house that is paid for also makes it difficult to think about moving.
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Sommerauer71: Interesting, question there Bnatur. I have weak moments, I am human, but what I tend to do is to take those moments and embrace them, so I may cry, I may go underground, but those moments are becoming rarer. I have my vulnerabilities, I cry at sad films, but not much gets me down. If I have a problem, I deal with it, I never used to deal with it and would sit and worry and bury my head in the sand, I would never tell people if I had a problem, therefore that caused bigger problems and they just never went away, now I deal with it, I hold my hands up and I say that I need some help.
well thats good I think. Life is meant to be felt. Repressing feelings results in all kinds of problems, physically and mentally; so when you feel sad or fear or whatever, its best to indulge it, get through it, rather than attempt to set it aside or pretend its not there. Always the best choice. Indulge it, understand it and you get through it... IMHO
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I think you are right, I lead a large team, I am pretty tough, but I am approachable, I am a kind person and will do anything to help a person out, I am a believer in reform, forgiveness, but if the report is not on my desk when I requested it, then I do not want to know why, I want to know when.
I think you are right, I lead a large team, I am pretty tough, but I am approachable, I am a kind person and will do anything to help a person out, I am a believer in reform, forgiveness, but if the report is not on my desk when I requested it, then I do not want to know why, I want to know when.
no excuses! no blame, just when!!
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You have hit the nail on the head there, but that theory swings both ways, not just for women.
I want a man who will take the lead, put me in my place, is on my wavelength, who I can support, who will support me, inter dependent as opposed to co dependent. Knowing that we are a partnership, yet we can survive without each other, if we had to.
Interesting conversation though, don't you think?
You have hit the nail on the head there, but that theory swings both ways, not just for women.
I want a man who will take the lead, put me in my place, is on my wavelength, who I can support, who will support me, inter dependent as opposed to co dependent. Knowing that we are a partnership, yet we can survive without each other, if we had to.
Interesting conversation though, don't you think?
I like the use of interdependant. I have always stood back from people who use the word independant, to me its suggests a -my way or the highway attititude, I aint changing for nothing -kind of person. In fact people who tend to use the statement have themselves so spread out as to freinds and activities that any reasonable dependance would be questionable. Its ok for them I guess, but like you I would prefer inter-dependance. There is no shame in depending on another, much less one youre in a loving realtionship with..
It has become interesting yes!
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WhatUwish4: Maybe I'm stumbling over the term "running," as it implies something negative. I think the fact that I'm giving myself two years to decide means I am deliberating more than running. It's a great big world out there, and I'm kind of excited to see where we end up...
But I'm thinking you understand me anyway...
But I'm thinking you understand me anyway...
then we shall eliminate the word running and opt for 'planning' toward something as opposed to planning to get away from something.
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BnaturAl: then we shall eliminate the word running and opt for 'planning' toward something as opposed to planning to get away from something.
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BnaturAl: then we shall eliminate the word running and opt for 'planning' toward something as opposed to planning to get away from something.
That is what her plan is, going towards something!! And it's how it should be, not running for that only makes us weak.
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mylifewithu: That is what her plan is, going towards something!! And it's how it should be, not running for that only makes us weak.
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BnaturAl: well thats good I think. Life is meant to be felt. Repressing feelings results in all kinds of problems, physically and mentally; so when you feel sad or fear or whatever, its best to indulge it, get through it, rather than attempt to set it aside or pretend its not there. Always the best choice. Indulge it, understand it and you get through it... IMHO
Absolutely, why I chose to be alone, because I knew that getting over my marriage would not be solved by getting under another man, so to speak, I learnt, and the amount of my friends who kept trying to match me with single male friends drove me insane, because they said 'You should not be alone' I wanted to be alone in my misery, get through it, it was not easy, nor was it pretty, but it taught me alot, moving to a new country, learning a new language, I began to realise that what I gained far outweighed what I had lost, my husband, to another woman, but now we both look back, I have learnt to live with the fact that I drove him into the arms of another woman, he was tortured and I would not let him in to help me. He could have worked harder, but he did not and I cannot change that, he has since gone on to have another baby with this lady, who is lovely and we are a nuclear family, we all get on. Acceptance is something that I found reassuring and helped me through
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no excuses! no blame, just when!!
no excuses! no blame, just when!!
Bang on.
A death in the family or winning the lottery is the only thing I will accept.
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I like the use of interdependant. I have always stood back from people who use the word independant, to me its suggests a -my way or the highway attititude, I aint changing for nothing -kind of person. In fact people who tend to use the statement have themselves so spread out as to freinds and activities that any reasonable dependance would be questionable. Its ok for them I guess, but like you I would prefer inter-dependance. There is no shame in depending on another, much less one youre in a loving realtionship with..
I like the use of interdependant. I have always stood back from people who use the word independant, to me its suggests a -my way or the highway attititude, I aint changing for nothing -kind of person. In fact people who tend to use the statement have themselves so spread out as to freinds and activities that any reasonable dependance would be questionable. Its ok for them I guess, but like you I would prefer inter-dependance. There is no shame in depending on another, much less one youre in a loving realtionship with..
Good man, I agree with all of that.
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It has become interesting yes! thanks for being upfront!
It has become interesting yes! thanks for being upfront!
Pleasure.
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dazzling_dave: I had thought of moving from where I'm at until I broke my heel last fall. My neighbors pitched in and helped take care of me while I was down. Makes it difficult to leave when you have wonderful neighbors. Having a house that is paid for also makes it difficult to think about moving.
I my self has a need to be within a few hours driving distance to be able to visit my kids and grandbabies. I have friends nearby also. I could move, but only within the area. If money wasn't an issue where I don't have to depend on someone else and I knew I could get around then the distance could be greater. I wouldn't want to move out of the country. We can only depend on ourselves, we do have to be independent in that way. Cause the only person that will always be there for us is ourselves.
Hi dave!
Both of you would running to something, if I understand your posts correctly. Thats a very big issue in my opinion. Knowing that someone is willing to bridge the distance because they are running to you, is not only more romantic, but less dangerous, if that person was say running from someone or something, like the law, or a bad relationship and you were they're chosen 'haven' soley by chance. Knowing you had something to stay for but still wanted to move would be closer to love... I think
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Sommerauer71: Hello cardsfan
Nah, who told you that?
hiya gorgeous...well just read it a bit more...lolNah, who told you that?
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mylifewithu: No I don't think this was the original question, just one he came up with later
Well, I am completely discombobulated now.
Which question was that then?
Here we are, 28 pages down the line.
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cardsfan24: hiya gorgeous...well just read it a bit more...lol
I put my serious head on for twenty minutes, so I suppose it did become serious.
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BnaturAl: Hi dave!
Both of you would running to something, if I understand your posts correctly. Thats a very big issue in my opinion. Knowing that someone is willing to bridge the distance because they are running to you, is not only more romantic, but less dangerous, if that person was say running from someone or something, like the law, or a bad relationship and you were they're chosen 'haven' soley by chance. Knowing you had something to stay for but still wanted to move would be closer to love... I think
Both of you would running to something, if I understand your posts correctly. Thats a very big issue in my opinion. Knowing that someone is willing to bridge the distance because they are running to you, is not only more romantic, but less dangerous, if that person was say running from someone or something, like the law, or a bad relationship and you were they're chosen 'haven' soley by chance. Knowing you had something to stay for but still wanted to move would be closer to love... I think
Hey Al. If that were the case, they would never catch me because I would also be running away from them.
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Sommerauer71: I put my serious head on for twenty minutes, so I suppose it did become serious.
i can't ever get mine to screw on hiya dave how's life bro???
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Why do we continue to follow the rooster that justs crows and really has nothing to say with the exception of its time to get up because the sun is up
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dazzling_dave: I had thought of moving from where I'm at until I broke my heel last fall. My neighbors pitched in and helped take care of me while I was down. Makes it difficult to leave when you have wonderful neighbors. Having a house that is paid for also makes it difficult to think about moving.
It is very understandable, when you have so much that you don't want to just throw that all away. When there are good reasons for staying, that is where you should be. ------ This thread is Archived ------
dazzling_dave: Hey Al. If that were the case, they would never catch me because I would also be running away from them.
well there's always furry little farm animals Dave ..
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BnaturAl: Hi dave!
Both of you would running to something, if I understand your posts correctly. Thats a very big issue in my opinion. Knowing that someone is willing to bridge the distance because they are running to you, is not only more romantic, but less dangerous, if that person was say running from someone or something, like the law, or a bad relationship and you were they're chosen 'haven' soley by chance. Knowing you had something to stay for but still wanted to move would be closer to love... I think
Both of you would running to something, if I understand your posts correctly. Thats a very big issue in my opinion. Knowing that someone is willing to bridge the distance because they are running to you, is not only more romantic, but less dangerous, if that person was say running from someone or something, like the law, or a bad relationship and you were they're chosen 'haven' soley by chance. Knowing you had something to stay for but still wanted to move would be closer to love... I think
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Hello cardsfan
Nah, who told you that?