Im a bit confused - any input would be greatly aprecciated...... (74)
ANurse4U: The whole rush of attraction comes out of desperation. Relax and give yourself some time to get to know this man. Who knows? He just might turn out to be your best friend.
I think you're maybe right - I may be having a reaction to yesterdays nervousness
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thinking ... it'll drag ya down and mess you up ... stop it!!!!!!
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BnaturAl: thinking ... it'll drag ya down and mess you up ... stop it!!!!!!
Ya woked up then?
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countrygirl62: I would take your time. If there is one thing that I have learned is that no matter what the other person has, you still many not love the guy.
I dated a guy that had a house on a couple of acres, he was good looking, played music, and he really liked me, but there was no connection. I tried, but it did not work.
I dated a guy that had a house on a couple of acres, he was good looking, played music, and he really liked me, but there was no connection. I tried, but it did not work.
This is one of my worries too and Im definitely going to take my time
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BnaturAl: thinking ... it'll drag ya down and mess you up ... stop it!!!!!!
if it aint the devils own advocate himself 
Mornin Al 
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Sommerauer71: Ok, lets look at this biologically.
He has his veil? Regardless of what it is, it is there, we all have our self protection modes.
The fact that he is respectful of his previous partners. would be something that I would find attractive, much better than bitterness and anger. We all have pasts and those partners that were involved in our lives, have contributed to who we are, I really do not have a problem probing about a person's past, it where we go from here that counts and part of getting to know a person and what they are all about.
This man sounds lovely Trish, as for you living up to it? Up to what? You are not getting married or planning to move in with him, those are your issues, not his and something you have to work through as you get closer to him, if you do.
That is fear and your insecurities, get through those, if he likes what he sees then he will not be thinking that, he could well be thinking that you are exactly what he wants. Shoooo those insecurities away, send him a text and thank him for a lovely evening and that you look forward to doing it again.
That is my view. And that is exactly what I would do.
He has his veil? Regardless of what it is, it is there, we all have our self protection modes.
The fact that he is respectful of his previous partners. would be something that I would find attractive, much better than bitterness and anger. We all have pasts and those partners that were involved in our lives, have contributed to who we are, I really do not have a problem probing about a person's past, it where we go from here that counts and part of getting to know a person and what they are all about.
This man sounds lovely Trish, as for you living up to it? Up to what? You are not getting married or planning to move in with him, those are your issues, not his and something you have to work through as you get closer to him, if you do.
That is fear and your insecurities, get through those, if he likes what he sees then he will not be thinking that, he could well be thinking that you are exactly what he wants. Shoooo those insecurities away, send him a text and thank him for a lovely evening and that you look forward to doing it again.
That is my view. And that is exactly what I would do.
Yes, its good and natural that there was a veil and I do have enough self confidence to know I will be able to get through that but this is messin in deep waters.........
we had a game of scrabble that lasted about 4 hrs, it was lovely and all the while we kept forgetting the game and talking about lots of things which had influenced our pasts, I didnt work to an agenda or structure conversations, it just came out naturally and one of the things which impressed me most was the way he was respectful of his ex's - theres no doubt that this is a nice guy I have met and I think you are also right in that I have to face my own insecurities......
I took your advice and sent a text saying thanks for a great afternoon and I hope we get the chance to talk again........
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Sommerauer71: Ya woked up then?
YEP !!!!!!!!!!
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trish123: ok, so, my little CS family...... I have issues to deal with today and could really do with your help....
I met somebody yesterday, he isnt a member of CS..........
there are lots of things I like about him but the whole encounter has left more questions than its answered.......
I have been wrong in the past so to a certain extent, I have to be wary of my own judgment and the other thing is that I know I dont have to make my mind up after just one meeting......
does that whole rush of attraction have to be there from the start or will it grow on me? theres a lot I like about the guy or I wouldnt have even had one date, is it gonna take a few or at least one more date to know this or what - Im confused, I like the guys lifestyle, it would suit me down to the ground, but Im sure not going to go for it on that basis - maybe this is just a close call................
I dont know if the bits that I didnt like are down to a first meeting being a bit like an interview - aaaarggghhhhhhhhhh
I met somebody yesterday, he isnt a member of CS..........
there are lots of things I like about him but the whole encounter has left more questions than its answered.......
I have been wrong in the past so to a certain extent, I have to be wary of my own judgment and the other thing is that I know I dont have to make my mind up after just one meeting......
does that whole rush of attraction have to be there from the start or will it grow on me? theres a lot I like about the guy or I wouldnt have even had one date, is it gonna take a few or at least one more date to know this or what - Im confused, I like the guys lifestyle, it would suit me down to the ground, but Im sure not going to go for it on that basis - maybe this is just a close call................
I dont know if the bits that I didnt like are down to a first meeting being a bit like an interview - aaaarggghhhhhhhhhh
Trish, it's your 1st date with a guy... let it be, go with the flow - you don't have to move-in together next week, right? Enjoy, don't overanalyze it (I know
I always do too!), you DO NOT know him yet so why to drive yourself insane trying to answer all these questions. It is not possible at this stage of the game. 1 (hypothetical) question can be answered though : NO, that whole rush of attraction doesn't have to be there from the start, some attraction is fine and YES ppl DO grow on each other with time when things go well - very much so.
Good luck
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trish123: Yes, its good and natural that there was a veil and I do have enough self confidence to know I will be able to get through that but this is messin in deep waters.........
we had a game of scrabble that lasted about 4 hrs, it was lovely and all the while we kept forgetting the game and talking about lots of things which had influenced our pasts, I didnt work to an agenda or structure conversations, it just came out naturally and one of the things which impressed me most was the way he was respectful of his ex's - theres no doubt that this is a nice guy I have met and I think you are also right in that I have to face my own insecurities......
I took your advice and sent a text saying thanks for a great afternoon and I hope we get the chance to talk again........
we had a game of scrabble that lasted about 4 hrs, it was lovely and all the while we kept forgetting the game and talking about lots of things which had influenced our pasts, I didnt work to an agenda or structure conversations, it just came out naturally and one of the things which impressed me most was the way he was respectful of his ex's - theres no doubt that this is a nice guy I have met and I think you are also right in that I have to face my own insecurities......
I took your advice and sent a text saying thanks for a great afternoon and I hope we get the chance to talk again........
Scrabble is a great way of getting to know a person, I like a man who can articulate himself.
Another requirement of mine.
Good for you Trish, oooh, I am all excited for you now, I hope he responds. He sounds delightful.
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trish123: Yes, its good and natural that there was a veil and I do have enough self confidence to know I will be able to get through that but this is messin in deep waters.........
we had a game of scrabble that lasted about 4 hrs, it was lovely and all the while we kept forgetting the game and talking about lots of things which had influenced our pasts, I didnt work to an agenda or structure conversations, it just came out naturally and one of the things which impressed me most was the way he was respectful of his ex's - theres no doubt that this is a nice guy I have met and I think you are also right in that I have to face my own insecurities......
I took your advice and sent a text saying thanks for a great afternoon and I hope we get the chance to talk again........
we had a game of scrabble that lasted about 4 hrs, it was lovely and all the while we kept forgetting the game and talking about lots of things which had influenced our pasts, I didnt work to an agenda or structure conversations, it just came out naturally and one of the things which impressed me most was the way he was respectful of his ex's - theres no doubt that this is a nice guy I have met and I think you are also right in that I have to face my own insecurities......
I took your advice and sent a text saying thanks for a great afternoon and I hope we get the chance to talk again........
The veil thing sounds like he's just protecting himself from further hurt. As for the game of scrabble, honey there is your clue. You just sound like you are afraid. There is a certain comfort in being single. Restlessness when you finally do find someone. It's funny how we think that we have put our past behind us and are secure within ourselves until we meet a terrific guy
and all the crap we have endured starts to wash over us like a tidal wave, things long passed and forgotten. As for the attraction part, it could just be that your inner self is killing it without you knowing it. You sound scared and that is not a bad thing to be at this point. I would relax, and enjoy. He sounds like a terrific guy, and I know he's getting a one in a million woman.
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laura225: Trish, it's your 1st date with a guy... let it be, go with the flow - you don't have to move-in together next week, right? Enjoy, don't overanalyze it (I know I always do too!), you DO NOT know him yet so why to drive yourself insane trying to answer all these questions. It is not possible at this stage of the game.
1 (hypothetical) question can be answered though : NO, that whole rush of attraction doesn't have to be there from the start, some attraction is fine and YES ppl DO grow on each other with time when things go well - very much so.
Good luck
1 (hypothetical) question can be answered though : NO, that whole rush of attraction doesn't have to be there from the start, some attraction is fine and YES ppl DO grow on each other with time when things go well - very much so.
Good luck
Thanks Laura, you're right, I have to get this thing into perspective
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Sommerauer71: Scrabble is a great way of getting to know a person, I like a man who can articulate himself.
Another requirement of mine.
Good for you Trish, oooh, I am all excited for you now, I hope he responds. He sounds delightful.
Another requirement of mine.
Good for you Trish, oooh, I am all excited for you now, I hope he responds. He sounds delightful.
Same here haha, and it was a great game of scrabble - only 30 or so points between which of us won
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Sounds to me like it is too early to decide anything. We put so much pressure on ourselves to do a certain way or be a certain way.
Just take it easy for a bit, see where it goes. You will know after a few weeks if it is meant to be or not.
We often make wrong decisions because we do it based on emotion rather than gathering information over time.
Just take it easy for a bit, see where it goes. You will know after a few weeks if it is meant to be or not.
We often make wrong decisions because we do it based on emotion rather than gathering information over time.
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gypsykisses: The veil thing sounds like he's just protecting himself from further hurt. As for the game of scrabble, honey there is your clue. You just sound like you are afraid. There is a certain comfort in being single. Restlessness when you finally do find someone. It's funny how we think that we have put our past behind us and are secure within ourselves until we meet a terrific guy and all the crap we have endured starts to wash over us like a tidal wave, things long passed and forgotten. As for the attraction part, it could just be that your inner self is killing it without you knowing it. You sound scared and that is not a bad thing to be at this point. I would relax, and enjoy. He sounds like a terrific guy, and I know he's getting a one in a million woman.
I couldn't have said it better...mornin sweety......
Trish...go for it....life's too short....and it's much too soon to tell anything...just go with the flow and listen to your mind...body and soul along the way....Rome wasn't built in a day and neither is romance...I don't think it's something we can ever figure out until we are meant to.....
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gypsykisses: The veil thing sounds like he's just protecting himself from further hurt. As for the game of scrabble, honey there is your clue. You just sound like you are afraid. There is a certain comfort in being single. Restlessness when you finally do find someone. It's funny how we think that we have put our past behind us and are secure within ourselves until we meet a terrific guy and all the crap we have endured starts to wash over us like a tidal wave, things long passed and forgotten. As for the attraction part, it could just be that your inner self is killing it without you knowing it. You sound scared and that is not a bad thing to be at this point. I would relax, and enjoy. He sounds like a terrific guy, and I know he's getting a one in a million woman.
I am pretty much afraid yep - I have got used to this being single, its many years since I actually shared this existence with somebody but I guess, like I say to other people, 'you gotta be in it to win it' haha.....
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trish123: Yes but theres the rub - Im frightened that the lifestyle may be what is attracting me - I think you may know how appealing a little cottage in 3 acres of national park would be to me, a couple of miles from any roads and I could play in the garden till my little heart was content..... he's built windturbines, the water is from a spring etc - its just my ideal lifestyle.............
Hallo Trish! Delighted for you and wish you the best!! Just remember to savour it all; the value of life isn't measured by the amount of time you get, but by how well you enjoy what you have...or at least that is the optimist's outlook.
Nothing wrong with being attracted by a lifestyle as well either!
Better than me by far...mine repels most people! %D Enjoy!!
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Hugz_n_Kissez: I couldn't have said it better...mornin sweety...... Trish...go for it....life's too short....and it's much too soon to tell anything...just go with the flow and listen to your mind...body and soul along the way....Rome wasn't built in a day and neither is romance...I don't think it's something we can ever figure out until we are meant to.....
Thanks Hugz
well, I have messaged now as well as texting so we will see.........
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trish123: Thanks Hugz
well, I have messaged now as well as texting so we will see.........
well, I have messaged now as well as texting so we will see.........
Now I know I am the worst one for not taking my own advice...but I suggest then..you step back and take the advice you would give someone else in the same situation....that helps to look at things neutrally without your emotions getting in the way....Maybe I'll try the same thing next time....
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Now I know I am the worst one for not taking my own advice...but I suggest then..you step back and take the advice you would give someone else in the same situation....that helps to look at things neutrally without your emotions getting in the way....Maybe I'll try the same thing next time....
haha, its this flipping log jam of over analysing - its clouding over what I instinctively know - but what I wrote at the start of the thread was really the start of my day - it was odd to wake up and think - woo hoo - I met somebody
and I guess an immediate reaction to have fears but there is where I need to bring rationality into the equation - all too often I see people judging the present on past experiences so I have to take my own medicine here too and make sure I dont let that one in 
ps - does aprecciate have one 'p' or two?
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