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Thought I would run this by you smart cookies.
As I have belly ached enough about it, I have been alone for a year. My ex is also my business partner.
Whilst I reside in Austria, we still maintain a high level of contact and since being back in the UK for the summer, we have had contact, dinner and coffee and meetings and so on.
However, and this brings me to the thread title, he is angry at me, when it was a mutual split, we sold our house, we split the proceeds, we kept the business running as it would have been professional suicide if we had given that up, but his anger is so apparent, he is nasty to me, blames me for all that he has suffered over the last year, he will not reason, I cannot talk to him and I think the world of him, professionally I am stuck with it, unless I branch out alone, which would compromise him and I think I am feeling trapped.
I am at a loss, I have looked at the business as he has the majority shareholding, I can see that he has done nothing, our office is a mess and the staff are bewildered, I have managed to pacify our secretary who bless her took him out for dinner to talk to him and he sat there in silence, he is meeting his work commitments, his cleaner has stated that he has changed and that he is moody and she cannot talk to him and I am worried, but then I have to protect myself.
How do I deal with the anger, I have been away a year, I have reinvested cash into the business when I first left to boost the cash flow so that he did not have to draw down from his IRA, I have done all I can.
I remove myself from the situation, he comes back with more anger, it really is spiteful and mean. I feel he resents my new life, I do think it is harder for the one left behind, I have suggested he returns to the US, to be near his family, but he refuses, leave the town where we lived, he refuses, I did suggest six months ago that he come out to me for a break, he refused.
Where do I go guys?
Anybody else, ever had an angry partner or ex that there was no reasoning with?
What do you all think, all views appreciated.
Many thanks.