Help, Is this another step in healing!! (47)
mylifewithu: I feel emotionally numbed, is this normal, what does everyone think?
I feel like after throwing out all my heartbreak pain that I am numb to all feelings. I feel no grief, no pain, no joy, no anxiety, I don't feel empty or hollow, I can't feel anything.
Too calm , like a zombie or something. Is this part of the healing, will it go away and give me feeling of being alive again someday.
I stuck myself with a pin to make sure I can still feel something, to make sure I am alive at least. Reminds me of being on antidepressant and losing all feelings, which is why I stopped taking them a few years ago. I do know I can still laugh at jokes, and I can't describe it, but something there is still not right.
I tried looking it up on the internet and found a few that have lost all feelings too, and only advice they got was that it might be depression. But I don't have feelings of dread or anything, I feel nothing. Has anyone felt this before?
I feel like after throwing out all my heartbreak pain that I am numb to all feelings. I feel no grief, no pain, no joy, no anxiety, I don't feel empty or hollow, I can't feel anything.
Too calm , like a zombie or something. Is this part of the healing, will it go away and give me feeling of being alive again someday.
I stuck myself with a pin to make sure I can still feel something, to make sure I am alive at least. Reminds me of being on antidepressant and losing all feelings, which is why I stopped taking them a few years ago. I do know I can still laugh at jokes, and I can't describe it, but something there is still not right.
I tried looking it up on the internet and found a few that have lost all feelings too, and only advice they got was that it might be depression. But I don't have feelings of dread or anything, I feel nothing. Has anyone felt this before?
i have felt it but that was not the part of the healing ( not for me)...i couldn't laugh nor cry nor talk, just staring into a point...and then i started feeling pain , then tears, many many tears and only after that i started feeling the healing process....
only tears will save you, if u feel like crying, just let them go out (no matter how many there are).You will feel relieved and healed
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mylifewithu: I feel emotionally numbed, is this normal, what does everyone think?
I feel like after throwing out all my heartbreak pain that I am numb to all feelings. I feel no grief, no pain, no joy, no anxiety, I don't feel empty or hollow, I can't feel anything.
Too calm , like a zombie or something. Is this part of the healing, will it go away and give me feeling of being alive again someday.
I stuck myself with a pin to make sure I can still feel something, to make sure I am alive at least. Reminds me of being on antidepressant and losing all feelings, which is why I stopped taking them a few years ago. I do know I can still laugh at jokes, and I can't describe it, but something there is still not right.
I tried looking it up on the internet and found a few that have lost all feelings too, and only advice they got was that it might be depression. But I don't have feelings of dread or anything, I feel nothing. Has anyone felt this before?
I feel like after throwing out all my heartbreak pain that I am numb to all feelings. I feel no grief, no pain, no joy, no anxiety, I don't feel empty or hollow, I can't feel anything.
Too calm , like a zombie or something. Is this part of the healing, will it go away and give me feeling of being alive again someday.
I stuck myself with a pin to make sure I can still feel something, to make sure I am alive at least. Reminds me of being on antidepressant and losing all feelings, which is why I stopped taking them a few years ago. I do know I can still laugh at jokes, and I can't describe it, but something there is still not right.
I tried looking it up on the internet and found a few that have lost all feelings too, and only advice they got was that it might be depression. But I don't have feelings of dread or anything, I feel nothing. Has anyone felt this before?
Yes because you are refusing to feel one emotion you have turned it off...but he problem with that it...you can't turn one off without turning them all off..there must be something there...some pain that you haven't dealt with...maybe even subconsciously.....Been there done that...now I remind myself that no matter what is there to feel...it can't kill me...so I just feel it...recognize it and let it go....
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mylifewithu: I feel emotionally numbed, is this normal, what does everyone think?
I feel like after throwing out all my heartbreak pain that I am numb to all feelings. I feel no grief, no pain, no joy, no anxiety, I don't feel empty or hollow, I can't feel anything.
Too calm , like a zombie or something. Is this part of the healing, will it go away and give me feeling of being alive again someday.
I stuck myself with a pin to make sure I can still feel something, to make sure I am alive at least. Reminds me of being on antidepressant and losing all feelings, which is why I stopped taking them a few years ago. I do know I can still laugh at jokes, and I can't describe it, but something there is still not right.
I tried looking it up on the internet and found a few that have lost all feelings too, and only advice they got was that it might be depression. But I don't have feelings of dread or anything, I feel nothing. Has anyone felt this before?
I feel like after throwing out all my heartbreak pain that I am numb to all feelings. I feel no grief, no pain, no joy, no anxiety, I don't feel empty or hollow, I can't feel anything.
Too calm , like a zombie or something. Is this part of the healing, will it go away and give me feeling of being alive again someday.
I stuck myself with a pin to make sure I can still feel something, to make sure I am alive at least. Reminds me of being on antidepressant and losing all feelings, which is why I stopped taking them a few years ago. I do know I can still laugh at jokes, and I can't describe it, but something there is still not right.
I tried looking it up on the internet and found a few that have lost all feelings too, and only advice they got was that it might be depression. But I don't have feelings of dread or anything, I feel nothing. Has anyone felt this before?
yes, I have...you are not alone... 
the best thing to do in my opinion ( and my former therapist's opinion) is to do things that you THINK you may enjoy. The more things that you try, you will find that you are coming around. I'm here if you need me Sweetheart....I know what your problem is, I just can't spell it...
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As Shaman, as psycotherapist and as a person who has gone through deep pain, I can asure you that this is part of healing and in a given time...which even might take years...it will go away and you will feel again, but the way you look at situations in life will never be the same realy.
Each pain of the heart is part of our lessons in life in order to get stronger...not harder please....and learn how to be a whole person, not just simply a man or a woman.
It might do you good to do some inner work with what has happened to you in order to advance the healing process...there are many books of selfaid, recommending specialy books by Louise L Hay, "The power is within you" or "You can heal your life"...those are supposed to be worked with, not for simple reading. If you would like to ask me anything, feel free to send me a mail.
Each pain of the heart is part of our lessons in life in order to get stronger...not harder please....and learn how to be a whole person, not just simply a man or a woman.
It might do you good to do some inner work with what has happened to you in order to advance the healing process...there are many books of selfaid, recommending specialy books by Louise L Hay, "The power is within you" or "You can heal your life"...those are supposed to be worked with, not for simple reading. If you would like to ask me anything, feel free to send me a mail.
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Yes because you are refusing to feel one emotion you have turned it off...but he problem with that it...you can't turn one off without turning them all off..there must be something there...some pain that you haven't dealt with...maybe even subconsciously.....Been there done that...now I remind myself that no matter what is there to feel...it can't kill me...so I just feel it...recognize it and let it go....
Hello !! Y
That must be it, still holding something back and turned everything off to avoid feeling any pain. Thankyou for everyone's advice. Maybe I need to find a way to cry one more time and let some feelings come back
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Yes because you are refusing to feel one emotion you have turned it off...but he problem with that it...you can't turn one off without turning them all off..there must be something there...some pain that you haven't dealt with...maybe even subconsciously.....Been there done that...now I remind myself that no matter what is there to feel...it can't kill me...so I just feel it...recognize it and let it go....
you wanna live it! Even the feel nothing part. At least you're noticing, so yes it's healing me thinks 
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mylifewithu: Hello !! Y That must be it, still holding something back and turned everything off to avoid feeling any pain. Thankyou for everyone's advice. Maybe I need to find a way to cry one more time and let some feelings come back
Yes you probably do darlin....Hope you feel better soon and I am here too if you need to talk!!!!!
I find that journalling sometimes helps in that case...don't think about what to write just write and let things flow the way they choose to flow!!!!!!
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BnaturAl: you wanna live it! Even the feel nothing part. At least you're noticing, so yes it's healing me thinks
It's definitely part of the healing process...it just means that something is there that you may not be ready to deal with yet...it might be too painful still!!!!!!!!
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Cherokeegrandma: As Shaman, as psycotherapist and as a person who has gone through deep pain, I can asure you that this is part of healing and in a given time...which even might take years...it will go away and you will feel again, but the way you look at situations in life will never be the same realy.
Each pain of the heart is part of our lessons in life in order to get stronger...not harder please....and learn how to be a whole person, not just simply a man or a woman.
It might do you good to do some inner work with what has happened to you in order to advance the healing process...there are many books of selfaid, recommending specialy books by Louise L Hay, "The power is within you" or "You can heal your life"...those are supposed to be worked with, not for simple reading. If you would like to ask me anything, feel free to send me a mail.
Thankyou for your great advice, that really helps. Just knowing this is just another step in healing , then I can hope that it will become better. I have had a lot of pain in my life, but never had it drain me of emotions like this. Concentrating on anything is really hard right now. And hopefully that becomes better sometime too.Each pain of the heart is part of our lessons in life in order to get stronger...not harder please....and learn how to be a whole person, not just simply a man or a woman.
It might do you good to do some inner work with what has happened to you in order to advance the healing process...there are many books of selfaid, recommending specialy books by Louise L Hay, "The power is within you" or "You can heal your life"...those are supposed to be worked with, not for simple reading. If you would like to ask me anything, feel free to send me a mail.
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gypsykisses: yes, I have...you are not alone...
the best thing to do in my opinion ( and my former therapist's opinion) is to do things that you THINK you may enjoy. The more things that you try, you will find that you are coming around.
I'm here if you need me Sweetheart....
I know what your problem is, I just can't spell it...
Knowing others have felt this , really helps , thankyou. I do keep doing the things I liked just to keep myself going, cause I am and always will be a fighter to survive.the best thing to do in my opinion ( and my former therapist's opinion) is to do things that you THINK you may enjoy. The more things that you try, you will find that you are coming around.
I'm here if you need me Sweetheart....
I know what your problem is, I just can't spell it...
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Bobby "Blue" Bland -
You've Got To Hurt Before You Heal
When you lose the one you love
You heart goes through changes
Especially when your sweet memories
Still hold their thrill
And just when you think
The pain is all gone
Don't fool yourself
'Cause here's the deal
That's the way love works
You've got to hurt before you heal
Oh, yes you have
You gonna cry all you gonna cry
And when the tears
They may stop falling
They may stop falling all down your face
But they still fall down your heart
You never know
How long the wound'll take to heal
It might take months
It could take years
But that's the way love works
You've got to hurt...oh...before you heal
I said before you heal
You're gonna cry
Oh, you're gonna cry
And when the tears
They may stop fallin'
They may stop fallin' down your face
But they still fall down your heart
Oh you never know
How long the wound'll take to heal
It might take months
It could take years
But that's the way love works
Uh huh, you got to hurt
Well before you heal
Oh yes you have
Just when you think the pain is all gone
Don't fool yourself
'Cause here's the deal
And that's the way love works
Lord you got to hurt before you heal
Oh yes you have
That's the way love works
You got to hurt...well...before you heal
Let us sing it one more time
That's the way love works
Lord you got to hurt before you heal
Oh yes you have
That's the way love works
Lord you got to hurt before you heal...
You've Got To Hurt Before You Heal
When you lose the one you love
You heart goes through changes
Especially when your sweet memories
Still hold their thrill
And just when you think
The pain is all gone
Don't fool yourself
'Cause here's the deal
That's the way love works
You've got to hurt before you heal
Oh, yes you have
You gonna cry all you gonna cry
And when the tears
They may stop falling
They may stop falling all down your face
But they still fall down your heart
You never know
How long the wound'll take to heal
It might take months
It could take years
But that's the way love works
You've got to hurt...oh...before you heal
I said before you heal
You're gonna cry
Oh, you're gonna cry
And when the tears
They may stop fallin'
They may stop fallin' down your face
But they still fall down your heart
Oh you never know
How long the wound'll take to heal
It might take months
It could take years
But that's the way love works
Uh huh, you got to hurt
Well before you heal
Oh yes you have
Just when you think the pain is all gone
Don't fool yourself
'Cause here's the deal
And that's the way love works
Lord you got to hurt before you heal
Oh yes you have
That's the way love works
You got to hurt...well...before you heal
Let us sing it one more time
That's the way love works
Lord you got to hurt before you heal
Oh yes you have
That's the way love works
Lord you got to hurt before you heal...
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The numbness is also stress related. I don't personally think that is the beginning of healing, but more the body's way of saying it needs help. Kinda like "I am not going to co-operate until you shift this stuff first." Louise Hay is a good idea, as her workbooks in particular at least let you look at the questions you should be asking ...
The healing starts when you acknowlege what caused all that hurt you are holding, and actually cry about it, or shout it out, write about it, or whatever emotion you got stuck on.
Thinking you can cope alone and time will heal it won't work. You actually have to "do" something about this kind of shut-down.
Specialist cognitive behavioural therapy sometimes cuts to the heart of what you are not acknowledging and is often done in groups to help you with that process.
Anti depressives often don't help even though this comes under the header of depression. Overload needs to be unloaded.
The healing starts when you acknowlege what caused all that hurt you are holding, and actually cry about it, or shout it out, write about it, or whatever emotion you got stuck on.
Thinking you can cope alone and time will heal it won't work. You actually have to "do" something about this kind of shut-down.
Specialist cognitive behavioural therapy sometimes cuts to the heart of what you are not acknowledging and is often done in groups to help you with that process.
Anti depressives often don't help even though this comes under the header of depression. Overload needs to be unloaded.
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jampet: you're not full of cr*p BN- in that mind lurks an insightful thinking caring man!!-:::::sorry for spilling the beans
thanks ..
... took me 58 years to get this way and it still aint easy bein me cuz practicing ain't the same as talkin.. life is extremely simple, predominantly common sense, I wish I had figured it all out years ago...
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Thankyou everyone, I really have gotten much great advice!! This has all given me a touch of light to see what is going on and how I can fight thru this all. I need to start walking again, that's some good advice, it used to really help me when I had troubles dealing with life.
I will find what leftover pain is in there and holding all my feelings back. I think I am doing exactly that and holding everything back so not to feel pain. So I will find something to pull out my tears again. I just suppressed too much. I have become detached from my feelings so not to feel anything. So I do need to deal with leftover pain and feel it, instead of hiding from it.
I really appreciate everyone's help and support, and I will get better. Thanks to some great people here , Hugs to all of you!!!
I will find what leftover pain is in there and holding all my feelings back. I think I am doing exactly that and holding everything back so not to feel pain. So I will find something to pull out my tears again. I just suppressed too much. I have become detached from my feelings so not to feel anything. So I do need to deal with leftover pain and feel it, instead of hiding from it.
I really appreciate everyone's help and support, and I will get better. Thanks to some great people here , Hugs to all of you!!!
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mylifewithu: Thankyou everyone, I really have gotten much great advice!! This has all given me a touch of light to see what is going on and how I can fight thru this all. I need to start walking again, that's some good advice, it used to really help me when I had troubles dealing with life.
I will find what leftover pain is in there and holding all my feelings back. I think I am doing exactly that and holding everything back so not to feel pain. So I will find something to pull out my tears again. I just suppressed too much. I have become detached from my feelings so not to feel anything. So I do need to deal with leftover pain and feel it, instead of hiding from it.
I really appreciate everyone's help and support, and I will get better. Thanks to some great people here , Hugs to all of you!!!
I will find what leftover pain is in there and holding all my feelings back. I think I am doing exactly that and holding everything back so not to feel pain. So I will find something to pull out my tears again. I just suppressed too much. I have become detached from my feelings so not to feel anything. So I do need to deal with leftover pain and feel it, instead of hiding from it.
I really appreciate everyone's help and support, and I will get better. Thanks to some great people here , Hugs to all of you!!!
<== applying duct tape 
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I've been there....pretty recently.....think I'm doin pretty good though. Moving on and talking to new people and making new friends. I just realized this morning that this is the week Mark would have been here......it is weird but oh well.......his bad luck and his loss!!!!!
I'm movin on
and enjoyin life 
Hang in there...it really does get better!!!!
Email me if you want to talk!!!!
I'm movin on
and enjoyin life Hang in there...it really does get better!!!!
Email me if you want to talk!!!!
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BnaturAl: <== applying duct tape
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Sounds like midget tossing wouldn't make you feel any better 
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mylifewithu: I would find something that duct tape can't fix, darn it!! Unless I get to tape you up.
Thankyou for your great advice and helpful solutions bnatural. I will add watching a tear jerker movie to my list things of things to do to work on helping me.
Thankyou for your great advice and helpful solutions bnatural. I will add watching a tear jerker movie to my list things of things to do to work on helping me.
cool! ... be patient though, if its still a hold over from the meds shutting off brain receptors, it may still take some time; but, you're a crab creature, so the emotions will most defintely be back
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I feel like after throwing out all my heartbreak pain that I am numb to all feelings. I feel no grief, no pain, no joy, no anxiety, I don't feel empty or hollow, I can't feel anything.
Too calm , like a zombie or something. Is this part of the healing, will it go away and give me feeling of being alive again someday.
I stuck myself with a pin to make sure I can still feel something, to make sure I am alive at least. Reminds me of being on antidepressant and losing all feelings, which is why I stopped taking them a few years ago. I do know I can still laugh at jokes, and I can't describe it, but something there is still not right.
I tried looking it up on the internet and found a few that have lost all feelings too, and only advice they got was that it might be depression. But I don't have feelings of dread or anything, I feel nothing. Has anyone felt this before?