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As usual, Laura, you're seeing a bit more deeply into things than most. I noticed you highlighted "as long as you are healthy and fit" in your quote of your post, and did the same with my "reasonably fit and looks that way." That's an interesting distinction, because there certainly are slim ladies who aren't in particularly good shape but still look good by many men's standards, while some ladies are carrying extra weight (a higher fat percentage) and actually are in good physical shape - perhaps being more robust than their skinnier lady comrades. So there is undeniably an esthetic factor involved which has nothing to do with the physical robustness of the lady in question.

Also, "extra" weight is pretty subjective. Some women might think they're average though some men may consider them either slim or fat. I guess a guy would be unreasonable about someone being slim if being that slim actually compromised the girl's health/vitality...or if their standard was extremely difficult to obtain. But there are so many different bodies and tastes out there. Some girls want a guy who's ripped - and that requires significant work and dieting to achieve.

If guys in general seemed to find you more attractive when you were 112 - with lust oozing out of every pore in their bodies! - then I guess I'd take that into consideration if I were you... How did you think you looked at that weight? Some weights/fat percentages can be more complimentary in terms of the shape of one's face and body than others. Obviously, at your height, 125 - 135 lbs. would not be considered by virtually any guy as "fat." If I had to make a prediction, I personally would find you, at 5'4" more attractive in the lower hundreds...that's simply from my limited experience with women.

While it's hard to quantify "slim," "average," or "overweight" exactly, I do think your odds are improved of snagging a guy if you are in the slim to average rage. Of course, some guys prefer more meat, but it's really a numbers game...