How quickly do you move w/ a new relationship? (68)
tipaly81Moscow, Idaho USA56 Threads 15 Polls 950 PostsI haven't really met anyone or heard of many who have found love via the internet, but I have met quite a few people on the web and some are nice and sweet, while others I could leave alone. But I am still trying to feel out the whole dating online thing. I think I might be someone who needs a physical being around to form a relationship. Have others had similar thoughts or am I on my own? How quickly do you move after meeting someone online, especially if you click w/ them?
Not intending to be nosy,just curious. 
Thanks!
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tipaly81: I haven't really met anyone or heard of many who have found love via the internet, but I have met quite a few people on the web and some are nice and sweet, while others I could leave alone. But I am still trying to feel out the whole dating online thing. I think I might be someone who needs a physical being around to form a relationship. Have others had similar thoughts or am I on my own? How quickly do you move after meeting someone online, especially if you click w/ them?
Not intending to be nosy,just curious. Thanks!
Not intending to be nosy,just curious. Thanks!
Locally, when I'm dating, if we don't meet in the first couple weeks,
I consider her an "online buddy", if things change after that...cool,
but I ain't holdin' my breath.
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Ocee35: Locally, when I'm dating, if we don't meet in the first couple weeks,
I consider her an "online buddy", if things change after that...cool,
but I ain't holdin' my breath.
I consider her an "online buddy", if things change after that...cool,
but I ain't holdin' my breath.
Makes sense, I can understand being a good penpal. Thats what I want to get out of this situation. But, of course would like to date.
Feel kind of funny trying to date anyone locally. Too many people know everyone around here, and that would be wierd to date a guy and realize I went to school w/ a couple of his old girlfriends.
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tipaly81: I haven't really met anyone or heard of many who have found love via the internet, but I have met quite a few people on the web and some are nice and sweet, while others I could leave alone. But I am still trying to feel out the whole dating online thing. I think I might be someone who needs a physical being around to form a relationship. Have others had similar thoughts or am I on my own? How quickly do you move after meeting someone online, especially if you click w/ them?
Not intending to be nosy,just curious. Thanks!
I have had three boyfriends I have met online, One I dated who lived near me for 5 months before he became his true jerk self. Not intending to be nosy,just curious. Thanks!
One I fell inlove with and moved in with after several months and then several months later it fell apart, he lived in his past and self esteem problems.
The third one, I fell for and talked hundreds of hours in mail and many hours by phone, but he decided he didn't want to move up here , and stay where he had a good job and paid for home. Oh well.
So take time no matter what sometimes even dating all the time like the first one, it took time to find out it won't work.
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i think moving too fast is bad... but never really done online dating like i said. I guess if the person is genuine and all and you talk to eachother for a while online and phone and get to know eachother then meet... i guess it would be starting as a friendship then more happens once you meet... i honestly wouldnt just say yes to someone online unless i knew them well enuf to answer... ya know?
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For each couple it will be different.Know in your heart and morein your head that yo are ready.Discuss it with him when time comes.
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mylifewithu: I have had three boyfriends I have met online, One I dated who lived near me for 5 months before he became his true jerk self.
One I fell inlove with and moved in with after several months and then several months later it fell apart, he lived in his past and self esteem problems.
The third one, I fell for and talked hundreds of hours in mail and many hours by phone, but he decided he didn't want to move up here , and stay where he had a good job and paid for home. Oh well.
So take time no matter what sometimes even dating all the time like the first one, it took time to find out it won't work.
One I fell inlove with and moved in with after several months and then several months later it fell apart, he lived in his past and self esteem problems.
The third one, I fell for and talked hundreds of hours in mail and many hours by phone, but he decided he didn't want to move up here , and stay where he had a good job and paid for home. Oh well.
So take time no matter what sometimes even dating all the time like the first one, it took time to find out it won't work.
True, true. I am a little frustrated by some of the guys I have met who ask me to completely true to them after the first meeting,
boy is that knee slapper. I should change my intro to, "not a mail order bride"
think that might work?
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Chvygurl: i think moving too fast is bad... but never really done online dating like i said. I guess if the person is genuine and all and you talk to eachother for a while online and phone and get to know eachother then meet... i guess it would be starting as a friendship then more happens once you meet... i honestly wouldnt just say yes to someone online unless i knew them well enuf to answer... ya know?
Yeah, I agree. I am really slow to give out my number too. I feel that is just as private as knowing exactly where I live and my relatives names and all. I also really don't like talking on the phone that much. I'd prefer to write. Just wierd I guess.
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This was a great question. I am pleased that people responded. I think some of the answers are great. What happens when your the kinda of person who only knows how to do things 1000%? That you put all your energy into 1 person or thing until your totally comfortable with it and then move onto the next thing. Sometimes i think it can be miss read. As being pushy or over zealous but really u just want to give/show all your best parts and energy to that person...then if it works out, they truly know what to expect from you...if it doesnt, u walk away knowing you did everything you could to give it a chance. Anyone else share that passion problem of being over zealous about everything in life?
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Bouttimesb: This was a great question. I am pleased that people responded. I think some of the answers are great. What happens when your the kinda of person who only knows how to do things 1000%? That you put all your energy into 1 person or thing until your totally comfortable with it and then move onto the next thing. Sometimes i think it can be miss read. As being pushy or over zealous but really u just want to give/show all your best parts and energy to that person...then if it works out, they truly know what to expect from you...if it doesnt, u walk away knowing you did everything you could to give it a chance. Anyone else share that passion problem of being over zealous about everything in life?
I have that type of "passion" or ethic for work. I put everything I have into my job and will quite and move on if I find that I am alone in my thinking of proper work ethic.
I really have not had a super serious relationship, so I don't know how I am w/ those. But my friendships are either intense or non-existant. I really don't have a ton of friends, because I put family first, and I have had bad experiences w/ some friendships.
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tipaly81: True, true. I am a little frustrated by some of the guys I have met who ask me to completely true to them after the first meeting, boy is that knee slapper. I should change my intro to, "not a mail order bride" think that might work?
I'm like that... I don't come out and tell someone I expect them not to see anyone else right away,
but honestly, If I find out someone I'm dating is seeing other people,
I am very likely to stop seeing them.
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Ocee35: but honestly, If I find out someone I'm dating is seeing other people,
I am very likely to stop seeing them.
I am very likely to stop seeing them.
....and very likely to lose someone who could become the dearest person in the world to you....
There is, or at least should be, nothing wrong in seeing other people until you've moved to the "exclusive" stage? (for many reasons)
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Ocee35: I'm like that... I don't come out and tell someone I expect them not to see anyone else right away,
but honestly, If I find out someone I'm dating is seeing other people,
I am very likely to stop seeing them.
but honestly, If I find out someone I'm dating is seeing other people,
I am very likely to stop seeing them.
That makes complete sense. That sort of understanding I believe should be mutual. I mean, you should be able to have a discussion about what the boundries are and what areas are sensative and all. That is need to know info. Otherwise, stuff gets messed up, and everyone is in the dog house.
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There is no such thing as meeting online, that is a complete fantasy. When I talk to someone online, I like for it to move to phone and then actually meeting irl as quickly as possible, only way to know if you're going to hit it off or not. Then you can find out all about them, see where and how they live, what kind of personality they have when there's not a computer to hide behind. Otherwise you're just penpals, and there's way too much room there for hiding things, like a wife and kids.
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AudrysSis: ....and very likely to lose someone who could become the dearest person in the world to you....
There is, or at least should be, nothing wrong in seeing other people until you've moved to the "exclusive" stage? (for many reasons)
There is, or at least should be, nothing wrong in seeing other people until you've moved to the "exclusive" stage? (for many reasons)
Dating is just that; dating. How else will you really get to know someone? Email/chatting is fine to start out, but some people are completely different in real life. Your not making a lifelong commitment dating someone, just getting to know them better and hopefully having a good time while doing it.------ This thread is Archived ------
Conversing through the computer acts as a feeling filter. I can't really feel touched or "loved" through the screen. It is very impersonable, but I supose that is why some people really like this mode of communication. 
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Yesss! Exactly!
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AudrysSis: Yesss! Exactly!
^ was to 'Woody'
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tipaly81: Conversing through the computer acts as a feeling filter. I can't really feel touched or "loved" through the screen.
I can, I guess 'cos I love and truly believe in the power of language.
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woody636: Dating is just that; dating. How else will you really get to know someone? Email/chatting is fine to start out, but some people are completely different in real life. Your not making a lifelong commitment dating someone, just getting to know them better and hopefully having a good time while doing it.
I guess that is my conflict. I like the conversations we have here. They are great and thought provoking at times, and other times I have a hoot of a time w/ the joking and all. But the jumping to the romance stage is a bit murky for me. I tend to back off and become distant at any mention of a relationship and all.
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