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Agreed. ^





I will say ... it's best, overall, to be as realistic as you possibly can ... and think things through, as well as discuss all aspects - in depth.





Best wishes, Alan.

The one woman I would ever have considered a relationship with I met here by sheer accident. She lives 1400 miles away and in the United States. We spoke through CS email, email, telephone and skype more often that I spoke with people living locally. She was going through a very rough period in her life and so was I. We shared everything. I was very much in Love with her and was planning on going to see her. Everything I knew about her was everything I had ever wanted in my life. Things that were occuring on both sides delayed this meeting perhaps too long. I was in the process of selling my house and finalizing court papers in reagrds to my children and then she disappeared without a word. I have not heard from her in 4 months and my heart is lost. I do not understand what happeed and she will not respond to me in any way. She told me that she Loved me and this woman did not use those words lightly. I was in the process of getting paper work done to work in the United States, of becoming an American citizen but it was all too little too late. I harbour no ill feelings in any way. I am hurt of course but not angry in any way. Everything we had was more than I had hoped for from any woman again in my life. I had just settled my mind on staying alone and spending my life with frieds before I met her and I still have all of that. I left my heart in her hands as I know it was never in a safer place, and I do not regret a single instance of the time we shared. If I could go back and do one thing differently I would have raced to her side at the earliest opportunity, perhaps things might have ended differently perhaps not. I Loved her with all my heart and always will.

Neither of you can afford a 7-8 hour drive, but you're considering relocation. You know, often this is how people get hurt.

Generally it's the person who has suspended their relationship with reality,

getting shredded by the one working an angle.



Just sayin.

That is so sad to hear, but some reason for her something wasn't right, or she would've waited for you, love is patient and never ending. So I would believe she might have met another. And if you had gotten there to meet her, it might have worked, but we can't live on what if's or what could've been or what I should've done. It's good you hold no anger. Just remember the good times and move on to find a love that is willing to go the lengths to have you.

shes the one that will be relocating.. as i cant relocate