Rejection is very painful for sure.................... (74)
hollandgirl: This is all in the past now tipaly, dealt with and forgiven.
It is good when later I realized what my mother's upbringing was, making forgiving easy.
When I realized that my first husband cheated to bolster his ego, as he had low self esteem, it was not so difficult to it go.
When you have been able to deal with the big ones, then the little ones are mere little bumps in the road.
It is good when later I realized what my mother's upbringing was, making forgiving easy.
When I realized that my first husband cheated to bolster his ego, as he had low self esteem, it was not so difficult to it go.
When you have been able to deal with the big ones, then the little ones are mere little bumps in the road.
I think what helped me a lot was finding a boyfriend at 14.
I spend a lot of time with his family, the mother more nuturing
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hollandgirl: I agree and that is why I told Ken that I
wanted to feel the pain so not to become desensitized.
I want all my feelings to stay awake, alert.
Nothing is that kind of trouble in my life now, but where it
to happen again, well I will deal with it then.
wanted to feel the pain so not to become desensitized.
I want all my feelings to stay awake, alert.
Nothing is that kind of trouble in my life now, but where it
to happen again, well I will deal with it then.
Yeah, and I completely agree.
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mylifewithu: No I know we aren't thru with the lessons, lets just hope they are all of the good variety now.
Yes..we can only hope....
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Does Love is secluded to england and its neighbouring countries itself?
Visiting an indian college, it feels like a hybrid zoo with different animals coming from various religions. You should have been in my place. There would be no question of me rejecting someone or getting rejected!!!
kunal
Visiting an indian college, it feels like a hybrid zoo with different animals coming from various religions. You should have been in my place. There would be no question of me rejecting someone or getting rejected!!!
kunal
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hollandgirl: This is all in the past now tipaly, dealt with and forgiven.
It is good when later I realized what my mother's upbringing was, making forgiving easy.
When I realized that my first husband cheated to bolster his ego, as he had low self esteem, it was not so difficult to it go.
When you have been able to deal with the big ones, then the little ones are mere little bumps in the road.
It is good when later I realized what my mother's upbringing was, making forgiving easy.
When I realized that my first husband cheated to bolster his ego, as he had low self esteem, it was not so difficult to it go.
When you have been able to deal with the big ones, then the little ones are mere little bumps in the road.
Jenny, I am glad you were able to forgive. Not for them, for your own peace of mind.
Very often rejection is not about rejected:‘Balding, skinny, can dance a little,’ they said of Fred Astaire at his first audition.
Albert Einstein’s parents feared he was sub-normal.
Beethoven’s music teacher declared him ‘hopeless’ at composing.
... so on ....
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bellbottom13: Does Love is secluded to england and its neighbouring countries itself?
Visiting an indian college, it feels like a hybrid zoo with different animals coming from various religions. You should have been in my place. There would be no question of me rejecting someone or getting rejected!!!
kunal
Visiting an indian college, it feels like a hybrid zoo with different animals coming from various religions. You should have been in my place. There would be no question of me rejecting someone or getting rejected!!!
kunal
That is good and the way it should be.
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hollandgirl: I think what helped me a lot was finding a boyfriend at 14.
I spend a lot of time with his family, the mother more nuturing
I spend a lot of time with his family, the mother more nuturing
So true, sis, when we had our tough lessons with the person who gave us life, Creator sends us many loving and caring people who nutre us and teach us other choices....only for us to be free to choose how we want to react towards others.
Rejection, well, I am used to be loved as much as to be rejected, for many different reasons. It is not painful to me to be rejected as I do consider that each of us has a choice to what we want ,or not, to have in life, things and humans or animals or enviorments,.....
See it that way, you can t go to bed with all the guys who long for it...in my case, there would be much too many and I do not expect that all of them are able to realy love me,maybe because they do not even have a true loving heart, nor the qualities I would like to share my life with.....nor do I think that a man has to accept a woman just because she has fallen for him. Rejection is only part of choosing until you find who realy is the right one, being you the right one for him as well.
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"Rejection", it ain't about us!!
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laura225: Jenny, I am glad you were able to forgive. Not for them, for your own peace of mind. Very often rejection is not about rejected:
‘Balding, skinny, can dance a little,’ they said of Fred Astaire at his first audition.
Albert Einstein’s parents feared he was sub-normal.
Beethoven’s music teacher declared him ‘hopeless’ at composing.
... so on ....
‘Balding, skinny, can dance a little,’ they said of Fred Astaire at his first audition.
Albert Einstein’s parents feared he was sub-normal.
Beethoven’s music teacher declared him ‘hopeless’ at composing.
... so on ....
I didn't know that about Fred Astaire, makes me feel a lot better about my dancing skills.
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HJFinAZ: "Rejection", it ain't about us! !
Correction!! It ain't about them.. The "feeling" of rejection is ours, we must own it..
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ModestlyAwesome: I didn't know that about Fred Astaire, makes me feel a lot better about my dancing skills.
After spending a couple thousand at Fred Astaire, my instructor (a lovely young lady) asked me to meet her for coffee one day. Her words to me rang loud and clear. "Patrick, save your money"....
Now days the only dance I know is
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But put me in a race car on a dirt track and watch me "dance"....
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HJFinAZ: After spending a couple thousand at Fred Astaire, my instructor (a lovely young lady) asked me to meet her for coffee one day. Her words to me rang loud and clear. "Patrick, save your money "....
Now days the only dance I know is ......
Now days the only dance I know is ......
Meh, the more someone tells me I can't do something, the more I tend to try to prove them wrong,
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ModestlyAwesome: Yeah, and I completely agree.
You are very wise for someone that young
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Jenny, I am glad you were able to forgive. Not for them, for your own peace of mind. Very often rejection is not about rejected:
‘Balding, skinny, can dance a little,’ they said of Fred Astaire at his first audition.
Albert Einstein’s parents feared he was sub-normal.
Beethoven’s music teacher declared him ‘hopeless’ at composing.
... so on ....[/quote
‘Balding, skinny, can dance a little,’ they said of Fred Astaire at his first audition.
Albert Einstein’s parents feared he was sub-normal.
Beethoven’s music teacher declared him ‘hopeless’ at composing.
... so on ....[/quote
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Cherokeegrandma: So true, sis, when we had our tough lessons with the person who gave us life, Creator sends us many loving and caring people who nutre us and teach us other choices....only for us to be free to choose how we want to react towards others.
Rejection, well, I am used to be loved as much as to be rejected, for many different reasons. It is not painful to me to be rejected as I do consider that each of us has a choice to what we want ,or not, to have in life, things and humans or animals or enviorments,.....
See it that way, you can t go to bed with all the guys who long for it...in my case, there would be much too many and I do not expect that all of them are able to realy love me,maybe because they do not even have a true loving heart, nor the qualities I would like to share my life with.....nor do I think that a man has to accept a woman just because she has fallen for him. Rejection is only part of choosing until you find who realy is the right one, being you the right one for him as well.
Rejection, well, I am used to be loved as much as to be rejected, for many different reasons. It is not painful to me to be rejected as I do consider that each of us has a choice to what we want ,or not, to have in life, things and humans or animals or enviorments,.....
See it that way, you can t go to bed with all the guys who long for it...in my case, there would be much too many and I do not expect that all of them are able to realy love me,maybe because they do not even have a true loving heart, nor the qualities I would like to share my life with.....nor do I think that a man has to accept a woman just because she has fallen for him. Rejection is only part of choosing until you find who realy is the right one, being you the right one for him as well.
Hi sis;
I am surely not even considering this sort of rejections, no, they are not included at all.
This kind we experience all the time, and this will be until the day we leave this planet.
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ModestlyAwesome: I didn't know that about Fred Astaire, makes me feel a lot better about my dancing skills.
I guarantee, you will be a great dancer if I put your feel upon a hot plate
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scorpiosiren: some pretty horrible things have happened me jenny n i wud never ever in a million yrs do on my daughter wot she done on me im the total opposite i tell my daughter every day how much i love her i hug n have snuggles everyday with her the final straw wit my mother was when she threw me n my 6week old daughter out on the street in the freezin cold because i put her handbag on the floor to sit down n feed my daughter
It is great that your not passing your hurt on to your daughter and treat her the way a loving mother should.
You will see the rewards in your daughter. Besides it is healing for your self at the same time.
Knowing that you are capable to love, regardless what has be done to you, perhaps because of what was done to you.
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ModestlyAwesome: Meh, the more someone tells me I can't do something, the more I tend to try to prove them wrong,
Me too, but I would much rather put the bucks into a motorcycle , race car or something else I really enjoy. I get tired of putting my money into something others enjoy..
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This is all in the past now tipaly, dealt with and forgiven.
It is good when later I realized what my mother's upbringing was, making forgiving easy.
When I realized that my first husband cheated to bolster his ego, as he had low self esteem, it was not so difficult to it go.
When you have been able to deal with the big ones, then the little ones are mere little bumps in the road.