mmm NO BAGGAGE what exactly does it mean (39)
crazzzymolly: I have noticed quite a few guys put in their requirements no Baggage, I assume baggage means from your past life
this statement has me perplexed. Does it mean don"t tell me about your past if it wasn't all fun and joyous occasions and nothing bad sad or unhappy has happened to you? Don't think anyone would be here on this site if that was the case. Don't want you if your a psychotic stalker,( fair enough) just don't tell me about the not so perfect past I am not interested, I am looking for someone that is perfect in every way and has lived in fantastic land all their life. Please help me understand this short statement NO BABBAGE
this statement has me perplexed. Does it mean don"t tell me about your past if it wasn't all fun and joyous occasions and nothing bad sad or unhappy has happened to you? Don't think anyone would be here on this site if that was the case. Don't want you if your a psychotic stalker,( fair enough) just don't tell me about the not so perfect past I am not interested, I am looking for someone that is perfect in every way and has lived in fantastic land all their life. Please help me understand this short statement NO BABBAGE
I meant BAGGAGE LOL You can explain BABBAGE as well if you like
crazzzymolly: I meant BAGGAGE LOL You can explain BABBAGE as well if you like
i guess it depends on the opinion of the person , but in my mind "baggage" in this context is whether you have moved on past your last relationship. sometimes kids are considered baggage by daters both male and female, coz they are a permanent connection to an ex.
I never concider children Baggage to me the term means carried hatred ,suspicion, mistrust , deep seated issues from your past . I believe it is a broad & somewhat unrealistic request once we hit 30+ had a few failed relationships we all have baggage Its how we deal ,
comment should read
all baggage left at the front door before entering my life
or
all baggage safely stowed in the overhead compartment before takeoff.
Kizzy
comment should read
all baggage left at the front door before entering my life
or
all baggage safely stowed in the overhead compartment before takeoff.
Kizzy
psuedonym: i guess it depends on the opinion of the person , but in my mind "baggage" in this context is whether you have moved on past your last relationship. sometimes kids are considered baggage by daters both male and female, coz they are a permanent connection to an ex.
Yes I suppose, but in your preferences you can state no children preferred. So why put in no baggage.
kizzy27: I never concider children Baggage to me the term means carried hatred ,suspicion, mistrust , deep seated issues from your past . I believe it is a broad & somewhat unrealistic request once we hit 30+ had a few failed relationships we all have baggage Its how we deal ,
comment should read
all baggage left at the front door before entering my life
or
all baggage safely stowed in the overhead compartment before takeoff.
Kizzy
comment should read
all baggage left at the front door before entering my life
or
all baggage safely stowed in the overhead compartment before takeoff.
Kizzy
Yes I agree with you kizzy children never baggage. They are innocent little beings having to deal with the adults BAGGAGE sometimes.
kizzy27: I never concider children Baggage to me the term means carried hatred ,suspicion, mistrust , deep seated issues from your past . I believe it is a broad & somewhat unrealistic request once we hit 30+ had a few failed relationships we all have baggage Its how we deal ,
comment should read
all baggage left at the front door before entering my life
or
all baggage safely stowed in the overhead compartment before takeoff.
Kizzy
comment should read
all baggage left at the front door before entering my life
or
all baggage safely stowed in the overhead compartment before takeoff.
Kizzy
Couldn't have said it more perfectly myself!! And yes children definitely aren't baggage - they should be considered a bonus (instant family without the pain!!) and especially so if they are loving and respectful to you, your partner and your family!! I've always considered baggage to be the full Tosca luggage set and if you've seen the Tosca luggage range there's no way you wanna be carting all that crap around either on holidays or within a relationship!!
psuedonym: i guess it depends on the opinion of the person , but in my mind "baggage" in this context is whether you have moved on past your last relationship. sometimes kids are considered baggage by daters both male and female, coz they are a permanent connection to an ex.
don't understand that? as most have stated, children are and always will be a part of that person which makes them who they are today, And as long as the EX is'nt constantly brought into the pic then wats the problem???An when i say this i mean talking about him/her all the time, The Ex will always be a part of the new picture especially when they have children together, Children are not baggage, they are a bonus
kizzy27: I never concider children Baggage to me the term means carried hatred ,suspicion, mistrust , deep seated issues from your past . I believe it is a broad & somewhat unrealistic request once we hit 30+ had a few failed relationships we all have baggage Its how we deal ,
comment should read
all baggage left at the front door before entering my life
or
all baggage safely stowed in the overhead compartment before takeoff.
Kizzy
comment should read
all baggage left at the front door before entering my life
or
all baggage safely stowed in the overhead compartment before takeoff.
Kizzy
i personally don't mind kids
they taste quite nice either baked or bbq'd
nah seriously i'm a big kid myself so i have no trouble with kids , but some people do
viva la difference
Oh so true wiser words have never bin spoken Now I liked that answer, it gels with me and next time I see that quote, I wont cringe and think hell I had better be careful what I write, I just wont write.
crazzzymolly: I have noticed quite a few guys put in their requirements no Baggage, I assume baggage means from your past life
this statement has me perplexed. Does it mean don"t tell me about your past if it wasn't all fun and joyous occasions and nothing bad sad or unhappy has happened to you? Don't think anyone would be here on this site if that was the case. Don't want you if your a psychotic stalker,( fair enough) just don't tell me about the not so perfect past I am not interested, I am looking for someone that is perfect in every way and has lived in fantastic land all their life. Please help me understand this short statement NO BABBAGE
this statement has me perplexed. Does it mean don"t tell me about your past if it wasn't all fun and joyous occasions and nothing bad sad or unhappy has happened to you? Don't think anyone would be here on this site if that was the case. Don't want you if your a psychotic stalker,( fair enough) just don't tell me about the not so perfect past I am not interested, I am looking for someone that is perfect in every way and has lived in fantastic land all their life. Please help me understand this short statement NO BABBAGE
I want my pain!
I need my pain!
It's what makes me who I am.
I am the sum of my past experiences.
But I don't let it dominate my life
I think mostly baggage is a term referring to unresolved issues within one's past not one's past Per-Se. We all have unresolved issues with our past but it is how we let those effect our present that is the issue.
Kids are kids, If someone has issues with that then they need to deal with their baggage first!
That's my 0.36 Russian Rouble worth.
psuedonym: remember i'm a sole parent and have had sole custody for 0ver 10 years, whether you ladies accept it or not, there are women (and men) that struggle with jealousy. example, one lady i was dating covered up her jealousy well for about 8 weeks. then the whole frienship/relationship dissolved, when she asked me to have my ex take back custody, and when i asked if she was going to do the same with her kids , she went berserk. was ok for her to have kids, but mine reminded her of the fact i'd had prior relationships
I know 1 lady on another site that lives in mackay and she won't have anything to do with men if they have kids.She doesn't have any herself
even though she is 42.She says that she doesn't dislike children.
As far as she is concerned men often use kids against her.I have told
her that I have a daughter so she said no thanks bye.
JASON656: I know 1 lady on another site that lives in mackay and she won't have anything to do with men if they have kids.She doesn't have any herself
even though she is 42.She says that she doesn't dislike children.
As far as she is concerned men often use kids against her.I have told
her that I have a daughter so she said no thanks bye.
even though she is 42.She says that she doesn't dislike children.
As far as she is concerned men often use kids against her.I have told
her that I have a daughter so she said no thanks bye.
That sound almost like she could have jealousy issues,is very needy and wants 100 percent attention and anyone else like a child she would have to share the attention, and that would not be good for any child, so good job she said so in the beginning, and didn't become the wicked stepmother.
I call baggage what a woman will blame you for, be scared of about you or feel the need to hide something from you without you ever being in any of these situations with them. But it's luggage and everyone has it. Guys too
kismat: I call baggage what a woman will blame you for, be scared of about you or feel the need to hide something from you without you ever being in any of these situations with them. But it's luggage and everyone has it. Guys too
I think that is really well put, Kis!
Regardless of who we are or what we want to do in our next relationships we will always have those walls built to protect us from the harms that have been dealt to us. Providing the conditions are right, we can slowly overcome them but for some they may take time depending on the severity.
kismat: I call baggage what a woman will blame you for, be scared of about you or feel the need to hide something from you without you ever being in any of these situations with them. But it's luggage and everyone has it. Guys too
I agree, but a lot can boil down to how we deal with the baggage we carry, for example does the person carry hate, resentment ?
Ralf74: I think that is really well put, Kis!
Regardless of who we are or what we want to do in our next relationships we will always have those walls built to protect us from the harms that have been dealt to us. Providing the conditions are right, we can slowly overcome them but for some they may take time depending on the severity.
Regardless of who we are or what we want to do in our next relationships we will always have those walls built to protect us from the harms that have been dealt to us. Providing the conditions are right, we can slowly overcome them but for some they may take time depending on the severity.
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this statement has me perplexed. Does it mean don"t tell me about your past if it wasn't all fun and joyous occasions and nothing bad sad or unhappy has happened to you? Don't think anyone would be here on this site if that was the case. Don't want you if your a psychotic stalker,( fair enough) just don't tell me about the not so perfect past I am not interested, I am looking for someone that is perfect in every way and has lived in fantastic land all their life.