Don't Tell Everything (99)
shipoker58Las Vegas, Nevada USA30 Threads 2,969 PostsIf a perspective partner holds back info on former relationships...it makes me wonder what else she is holding back. Why can't people just be open and honest with each other???
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I would keep private things private. But I am one that if you ask me a question be prepared for the answer. If you don't want to know the truth or not prepared then you better not ask. Just me!
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brokenspirit: Thank you Dru, That is exactly how I feel, but guess at the time
I was still in the old school of you have to keep your man happy
if you want him to not stray. So many unpleasant things happened
the 2 years I was with this man, I won't mention most of them.
But as I have stated, my trust has taken a beating. Will take
things much slower when I meet the man I am waiting for.
I was still in the old school of you have to keep your man happy
if you want him to not stray. So many unpleasant things happened
the 2 years I was with this man, I won't mention most of them.
But as I have stated, my trust has taken a beating. Will take
things much slower when I meet the man I am waiting for.
Which is why I said that I think it is necessary to talk about it...just not in bed together. And I think you have to work to keep each other happy to make a relationship work. It's a partnership, and a man who loves you won't stray...he'll realize that he's responsible for his own happiness, and that you're responsible for yours, but that the two of you can help each other to achieve this as well. It's all about the little things, and one person should not be sacrificing themself to "keep" the other.
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choppinsman: hit the nail right on the head. time and a place for everything.
Thank you, Choppinsman.
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shipoker58: If a perspective partner holds back info on former relationships...it makes me wonder what else she is holding back. Why can't people just be open and honest with each other???
Ship, you know I think you are a terrific guy and we do not always
agree, which is great. But let me ask you this, If she did with
you in the bedroom, what he did with me, to get herself
turned on, would you honestly give her that type of info?
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druidess6308: Which is why I said that I think it is necessary to talk about it...just not in bed together. And I think you have to work to keep each other happy to make a relationship work. It's a partnership, and a man who loves you won't stray...he'll realize that he's responsible for his own happiness, and that you're responsible for yours, but that the two of you can help each other to achieve this as well. It's all about the little things, and one person should not be sacrificing themself to "keep" the other.
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brokenspirit: If and when you meet someone, you both click and decide you
want to build a life together. He/ She asks you questions about
your ex. Will you be honest and tell them what they want to know,
or keep some things to yourself?
I personally think I would want the past left in the past. You are
starting a new journey with someone and it should be your
experience, not involving who you were with at one time.(JMO)
want to build a life together. He/ She asks you questions about
your ex. Will you be honest and tell them what they want to know,
or keep some things to yourself?
I personally think I would want the past left in the past. You are
starting a new journey with someone and it should be your
experience, not involving who you were with at one time.(JMO)
I say past is the Past
leave it there...
what ever i had with my ex's has nothing to do with my
future..
Past can ruin the future..
but my husband talks about the past..
and like ship said dont ask if you dont want to know..
My husband will tell you the truth..
He gets on me about my past..
but i tell him past is the past..nothing to do with us
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brokenspirit: Ship, you know I think you are a terrific guy and we do not always
agree, which is great. But let me ask you this, If she did with
you in the bedroom, what he did with me, to get herself
turned on, would you honestly give her that type of info?
agree, which is great. But let me ask you this, If she did with
you in the bedroom, what he did with me, to get herself
turned on, would you honestly give her that type of info?
It isn't about getting turned on...her kisses will do that. It's about honesty!!
Don't ask..don't tell....has more than one application!!
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shipoker58: If a perspective partner holds back info on former relationships...it makes me wonder what else she is holding back. Why can't people just be open and honest with each other???
Do you find it really necessary to drag all the skeletons out of the closet? Just because I may love someone doesn't mean I'm joined at the hip. I would only tell them if something would affect the current relationship. I would consider it none of their business, just as me knowing every detail of their past.
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hey up there I hear you and mister got hitched,did it include a shotgun?Thats the way we around here do things.Ok I am playing,but its true those guys get a good runnin go and they are gone,best to u both.------ This thread is Archived ------
FreedomLover: Do you find it really necessary to drag all the skeletons out of the closet? Just because I may love someone doesn't mean I'm joined at the hip. I would only tell them if something would affect the current relationship. I would consider it none of their business, just as me knowing every detail of their past.
I am just saying...if they ask, tell them. I'm not saying open up avenues you don't want opened. But be forth right when asked. Sooner or later they will quit asking questions they don't want the answers to!!
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kissmedeeply: I say past is the Past
leave it there...
what ever i had with my ex's has nothing to do with my
future..
Past can ruin the future..
but my husband talks about the past..
and like ship said dont ask if you dont want to know..
My husband will tell you the truth..
He gets on me about my past..
but i tell him past is the past..nothing to do with us
I agree with you on this cause in my last marriage where my husband was mean, he threw some things in face from my past to try to hurt me. So if you do tell things , beware it can come back on you if it all goes down hill. Or like my husband when he got into his evil moods.leave it there...
what ever i had with my ex's has nothing to do with my
future..
Past can ruin the future..
but my husband talks about the past..
and like ship said dont ask if you dont want to know..
My husband will tell you the truth..
He gets on me about my past..
but i tell him past is the past..nothing to do with us
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shipoker58: I am just saying...if they ask, tell them. I'm not saying open up avenues you don't want opened. But be forth right when asked. Sooner or later they will quit asking questions they don't want the answers to!!
That was the problem Ship. He truly wanted the answers and he
would become very aroused by me telling him what he wanted
to know, until I finally quit saying those things and would just
lay there.
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mylifewithu: I agree with you on this cause in my last marriage where my husband was mean, he threw some things in face from my past to try to hurt me. So if you do tell things , beware it can come back on you if it all goes down hill. Or like my husband when he got into his evil moods.
I'm so sorry you had to experience that.
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Now my answer for the thread.I found out the hard way.That tellin all is sometimes not for the best.Some people can condemn u if you have or give them the slightest edge.I was raised on tellin the truth.And you all ask me why I am not caught or I shy away take 2 steps back.I had this guy who was everything a lady would want.He had the looks,great job,life worth being there for.But he was coddled by his parents.So much so that he never used his own mind for nothing.And I got so pissed off at myself mostly for thinkin of him as future.They investigated my past ran me thru their ratings and found me unacceptable.Why you ask,I had no parents raised by my grandmother,they aren't listed as known to me.And couple times I went to jail was so unappropriate.So the fool left me in tears,never gave my heart since.And it was that thing u know that just felt like it could have been
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shipoker58: I am just saying...if they ask, tell them. I'm not saying open up avenues you don't want opened. But be forth right when asked. Sooner or later they will quit asking questions they don't want the answers to!!
I can see where you can get in trouble with this one. So, lets say you current girlfriend asked you if you thought your ex-girlfriend or wife was a better lover, and lets say they were, would you tell her? I think if you said yes, you would be sleeping out on the couch. I could just see you standing there, "I was only telling you the truth!"
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hillbillyhoney: hey up there I hear you and mister got hitched,did it include a shotgun?Thats the way we around here do things.Ok I am playing,but its true those guys get a good runnin go and they are gone,best to u both.
Was that for me honey..
Yeh i had the gun to his head..its do or die
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Shirley49WV: I'm so sorry you had to experience that.
Thanks Sweetie, but I got stronger and smarter by going thru that. 
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FreedomLover: I can see where you can get in trouble with this one. So, lets say you current girlfriend asked you if you thought your ex-girlfriend or wife was a better lover, and lets say they were, would you tell her? I think if you said yes, you would be sleeping out on the couch. I could just see you standing there, "I was only telling you the truth!"
Yes, I would. And I have gotten into trouble because of it! A former lover asked me if that was the greatest head I ever received....I said no!! She asked who did it better, and I told her!!
That ended the fun for the night!!
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kissmedeeply: Was that for me honey..
Yeh i had the gun to his head..its do or die
Yeh i had the gun to his head..its do or die
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