Is It Possible to Find Long Term Online? (159)
No friend,I am not desperate by far,but after 5yrs of being divorced and turning 45,I need to get moving...in the dating/relationship mode. I mean,I am not a young 30yr old anymore so that I can just date around and play the field. I am a divorced man in his mid 40s with some baggage. I mean doesnt everyone that is divorced have some baggage? If they didnt then they wouldnt be divorced. The problem I run into is that most women have sat around with their ex's for the last 20yrs making babies and cooking. Now their kids have left the house and they are now divorced and they get this second wind. It is called "freedom". Well,while they were cooking and having babies,I was going out and partying,dating,and playing the field. I got that out of my system,but finding someone else who is in my shoes is the problem I face...
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Nothings impossible........
NOTHING!
NOTHING!
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jonahstrials: I find it easy to meet people,chat and even have a date with someone on the online dating sites. It isn't easy meeting someone online and having a long term relationship. Most women I have met just don't want commitment or to date just one person. Is it me or am I correct in coming to this conclusion?
Sure it is,,, But long term online is a month
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I wonder that myself as I stare at these walls in my cell eeerrrr house, dating sux period, people are just too self centered, that is the world we are creating, to be in a long term relationship it takes spending time with your partner, but that is something most are not willing to do in this selfish world, many balk at the idea of putting anothers needs above their own, they would rather ration 7% of their free time to the one they call their SO.
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buzzy: But then again, maybe it is you. Do you seem too desparate, too needy? Do you cling like there is no tomorrow? The best way to find out is ask the women you dated. Don't accept "It just wasn't right" excuse. Ask specific reasons why. Do not take their cricticsm negatively, but constructivly. Just remember, their are 7 women to ever man. They are more desprate then we are. I know I'm going to get slamed for that remark. But it only stands to reason. Find out where you need to improve if that is the case. There is someone for everyone. Well, there are 7 someones for you. Find her, um them.
LOL yes its true that in real life there are 7 women to every man, but online men outnumber women 85 - 1 , and the 7 - 1 stat is misleading, birth rates are about the same with slightly more males, the only reason there are more women than men is because women live longer, simply put there are more widows than widowers, but in the prime dating ages 18 - 45 men out number women, 1.7 - 1 and all the good ones get snatched up early. whats left? well its too painful to think about.
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IMHO, there is no hard relationships, there is only hard persons.....
just be careful you are not one of them
cheers
just be careful you are not one of them
cheers
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Nothing is impossible in this humans world
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jonahstrials: I find it easy to meet people,chat and even have a date with someone on the online dating sites. It isn't easy meeting someone online and having a long term relationship. Most women I have met just don't want commitment or to date just one person. Is it me or am I correct in coming to this conclusion?
No you won't as most woman changes their minds like a baby changes dypers.
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jonahstrials: No friend,I am not desperate by far,but after 5yrs of being divorced and turning 45,I need to get moving...in the dating/relationship mode. I mean,I am not a young 30yr old anymore so that I can just date around and play the field. I am a divorced man in his mid 40s with some baggage. I mean doesnt everyone that is divorced have some baggage? If they didnt then they wouldnt be divorced. The problem I run into is that most women have sat around with their ex's for the last 20yrs making babies and cooking. Now their kids have left the house and they are now divorced and they get this second wind. It is called "freedom". Well,while they were cooking and having babies,I was going out and partying,dating,and playing the field. I got that out of my system,but finding someone else who is in my shoes is the problem I face...
Yes, older women who have been divorced and raised their kids do go through a period of enjoying their freedom... but that only lasts for a while and then they are quite happy to share that freedom with a partner.
I´m through with sitting at home and have a very active social life and enjoy traveling and trying new things... but it would be nice to have a partner to share that with.
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jonahstrials: I find it easy to meet people,chat and even have a date with someone on the online dating sites. It isn't easy meeting someone online and having a long term relationship. Most women I have met just don't want commitment or to date just one person. Is it me or am I correct in coming to this conclusion?
According to research:
The proportion of divorces initiated by women ranged around 60% for most of the 20th century, and climbed to more than 70% in the late 1960s when no-fault divorce was introduced: so says a just-released study by law professor Margaret Brinig of George Mason University in Arlington, Virginia and Douglas Allen, economist at Vancouver's Simon Fraser University. The researchers undertook one of the largest studies ever on divorce, using 46,000 cases from the four American states that keep statistics on which partner initiates the action. In addition to women filing twice as often, the researchers found, they are more likely to instigate separations and marriage break ups.
Woman dont always know what they want...
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X_REBEL: According to research:
The proportion of divorces initiated by women ranged around 60% for most of the 20th century, and climbed to more than 70% in the late 1960s when no-fault divorce was introduced: so says a just-released study by law professor Margaret Brinig of George Mason University in Arlington, Virginia and Douglas Allen, economist at Vancouver's Simon Fraser University. The researchers undertook one of the largest studies ever on divorce, using 46,000 cases from the four American states that keep statistics on which partner initiates the action. In addition to women filing twice as often , the researchers found, they are more likely to instigate separations and marriage break ups.
Woman dont always know what they want...
The proportion of divorces initiated by women ranged around 60% for most of the 20th century, and climbed to more than 70% in the late 1960s when no-fault divorce was introduced: so says a just-released study by law professor Margaret Brinig of George Mason University in Arlington, Virginia and Douglas Allen, economist at Vancouver's Simon Fraser University. The researchers undertook one of the largest studies ever on divorce, using 46,000 cases from the four American states that keep statistics on which partner initiates the action. In addition to women filing twice as often , the researchers found, they are more likely to instigate separations and marriage break ups.
Woman dont always know what they want...
... or have finally gotten strong enough not to stay with what they don´t want.
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X_REBEL: According to research:
The proportion of divorces initiated by women ranged around 60% for most of the 20th century, and climbed to more than 70% in the late 1960s when no-fault divorce was introduced: so says a just-released study by law professor Margaret Brinig of George Mason University in Arlington, Virginia and Douglas Allen, economist at Vancouver's Simon Fraser University. The researchers undertook one of the largest studies ever on divorce, using 46,000 cases from the four American states that keep statistics on which partner initiates the action. In addition to women filing twice as often , the researchers found, they are more likely to instigate separations and marriage break ups.
Woman dont always know what they want...
The proportion of divorces initiated by women ranged around 60% for most of the 20th century, and climbed to more than 70% in the late 1960s when no-fault divorce was introduced: so says a just-released study by law professor Margaret Brinig of George Mason University in Arlington, Virginia and Douglas Allen, economist at Vancouver's Simon Fraser University. The researchers undertook one of the largest studies ever on divorce, using 46,000 cases from the four American states that keep statistics on which partner initiates the action. In addition to women filing twice as often , the researchers found, they are more likely to instigate separations and marriage break ups.
Woman dont always know what they want...
Obviously, they do know what they want if they are the ones filing for divorce. Did the study happen to mention the reasons for divorce?
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jbibiza: ... or have finally gotten strong enough not to stay with what they don´t want.
yes in the minority of cases perhaps...but this research is indicative that men try to reconcile before using a divorce as the last option...whereas woman are more ruthless...
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naturalcdn: Obviously, they do know what they want if they are the ones filing for divorce. Did the study happen to mention the reasons for divorce?
I haven´t read any studies or statistics.... but my thoughts would be that because most women now have careers and make a living for themselves, they are less willing to put up with an undesirable relationship in order to have security.
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naturalcdn: Obviously, they do know what they want if they are the ones filing for divorce. Did the study happen to mention the reasons for divorce?
I haven´t read any studies or statistics.... but my thoughts would be that because most women now have careers and make a living for themselves, they are less willing to put up with an undesirable relationship in order to have security.
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X_REBEL: yes in the minority of cases perhaps...but this research is indicative that men try to reconcile before using a divorce as the last option...whereas woman are more ruthless... or do you think in all 46 000 case studies the woman were bashed???
Ruthless or realistic? My ex would have liked to keep the marriage going and wanted to try for a reconciliation... I knew what we had wasn´t a relationship that I would ever be happy with and while you can change some basic behaviours you can´t change who a person is at their core. I had lost all respect for my ex husband and without respect... love was never going to be an option.
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jbibiza: I haven´t read any studies or statistics.... but my thoughts would be that because most women now have careers and make a living for themselves, they are less willing to put up with an undesirable relationship in order to have security.
thoughts and facts are not the same...next time do your research...and what you say doesn't make any sense at all. Is there no more sacredness in marriage...or do too many people marry for the wrong reasons?
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jbibiza: Ruthless or realistic? My ex would have liked to keep the marriage going and wanted to try for a reconciliation... I knew what we had wasn´t a relationship that I would ever be happy with and while you can change some basic behaviours you can´t change who a person is at their core. I had lost all respect for my ex husband and without respect... love was never going to be an option.
Yes well no one said marriage was gonna be easy...it's hard work...we can't just divorce someone everytime he/she changes...i mean come on, what's gonna happen if your partner changes every 2 years...you gonna be married like 20 times or what?
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X_REBEL: Yes well no one said marriage was gonna be easy...it's hard work...we can't just divorce someone everytime he/she changes...i mean come on, what's gonna happen if your partner changes every 2 years...you gonna be married like 20 times or what?
No... I´m just going to be a hell of a lot more careful in choosing the next one... I´ve been divorced for 25 years... I´m not rushing into anything...
... and no, a person doesn´t change... they may grow, some behaviours may change, but who that person is at their core, their values and strenghts or weakness´s remain the same. This is often the cause of divorce... when one person believes they can change a person and then realizes they can´t.
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