Straight up, I know it's been asked but we have a whole new crew here...so how about some honest answers here, Would you give a person a chance even if at first you weren't attracted to them?
Here's my honest answer, probably not as far as dating goes, but would love a friendship to develop, and who knows after that happens.
Physical attraction to me doesn't mean they are "physically attractive" in the cosmetic sense. There must be that chemistry between us for me to continue dating them. The chemistry definitely includes a mental and emotional connection.
If you weren't physically attracted "at first" If it is at first, they aren't family yet.
After you are already committed, and the person's looks change, as everyone does with age, of course you love them, they are your family and you have already grown together in a way that nothing can divide, right?
attraction in the phyiscal sense wanes as the time passes by....
the integrity of freindship can only be tested by time.....
I've wished I've could be blindfolded, It makes me think of how when one's mind is distracted by drugs, emotional, finanicial victory or defeat, that the appearance factor for what ever reason shuts down. One of our five senses... but, to this day I battle with the knowledge of knowing it occurs yet cannot yet willfully shut it down.... I am a weak, weak man
yeah, appearance (attraction) is what motivates my next level in a relationship. Why Are we all so brainwashed by media that appearance is the First thing on which we judge.....apparantly i am
Ok maybe this would be more clear, say for instance, one here, you get an email from someone, and you don't think that they look good, do you ignore the email, and hope they go away, or do you answer to be polite, or do you answer because reguardless of how they look, they are human too and for that reason alone you respond.....
common curtousy I answer, because they are human, being polite is something I do in person... also, a little "do unot others comes into play." when speaking of E-mails and such. I'm basically a distance guy here.
But I know what grabs my attenttion and attracts me when in stores,
What has me worried is.....time. All our appearances will change.
well...I missed the train!lol i could overcome physical attraction but i coulnt guive a chance to somebody who ,with her personality,woulnt attract me... i do beleive that interior beauty is the key...no matter how they look.
cutelildevilsmomportsmouth, New Hampshire USA7,772 posts
I think it depends on meeting them in the flesh.I have talked to not so handsome men ,been attracted because of good conversation but have met them in the flesh and discovered some other trait that was a turn off such as poor hygiene or just plain uglier than the photo.
I look at the person as a whole. After all if you are going to be with someone then you are getting all of them, and not just the parts you are attracted to. Personality, Morals, and the way you live your life, good and bad ( I can be bad ) are all one package. But it does help to have a nice *ss LOL
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Here's my honest answer, probably not as far as dating goes, but would love a friendship to develop, and who knows after that happens.
;) Dix