Is communication important? (30)
Depends on the reason for the shut down. If it is so one or both people have time to collect theirselves before dealing with the issue then yeah. But if its an avoidance tactic then no way...
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melani: Is shutting down communication healthy for a relationship every time something goes wrong?
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Let me know what you feel...
Goodness, no! That's the worst thing you can do! This is when you need good communication the most, so you can talk through things.
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melani: Is shutting down communication healthy for a relationship every time something goes wrong?
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No not at all.
The other person is not a mind reader and will not automatically know how you feel, what is wrong from your point of view...
It is not a healthy relationship if there is no communication..
Communication and trust is a key element in a healthy relationship.
Yes people sometimes need their own space and time to think but then hopefully they will come and talk it through when they have it straight in their own head...
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thanks for this response. This is what happens to me all the time. Although it is all over and my scars are healing, everytime a disagreement rose, it was a case of endless fights and finally shutting down communication. I have stayed without contacts a few times simply because I couldn't digest the harshness of the words and endless fights, but later on, I realized that he shut down communication with a clear purpose to avoid me. I got used to the frequent spells of silence, realizing all the time, that it was most unhealthiest way to carry out a relationship.
I hope it doesn't happen to anyone else.
I hope it doesn't happen to anyone else.
druidess6308: Goodness, no! That's the worst thing you can do! This is when you need good communication the most, so you can talk through things.
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melani: Is shutting down communication healthy for a relationship every time something goes wrong?
Let me know what you feel...
Let me know what you feel...
Shutting down communication when things go wrong = shutting down the relationship itself.
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melani: Is shutting down communication healthy for a relationship every time something goes wrong?
Let me know what you feel...
Let me know what you feel...
Works wonders for me gets things done!
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Laura25: Shutting down communication when things go wrong = shutting down the relationship itself.
What Laura said...........Hi
........Hope your well rested.............
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Tamarin: No not at all.
The other person is not a mind reader and will not automatically know how you feel, what is wrong from your point of view...
It is not a healthy relationship if there is no communication..
Communication and trust is a key element in a healthy relationship.
Yes people sometimes need their own space and time to think but then hopefully they will come and talk it through when they have it straight in their own head...
The other person is not a mind reader and will not automatically know how you feel, what is wrong from your point of view...
It is not a healthy relationship if there is no communication..
Communication and trust is a key element in a healthy relationship.
Yes people sometimes need their own space and time to think but then hopefully they will come and talk it through when they have it straight in their own head...
Totally agree, Tam. Absolutely.
What drives me mad though, its when I say to a partner "I need some space to think" and they automatically think its because I am going to leave them. Drives me ballistic
Sometimes you really do need some breathing space to ponder on something, in order to come back with a sensible and thought out response..
I guess women have their "caves" as well
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Laura25: Shutting down communication when things go wrong = shutting down the relationship itself.
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To shut down communications is not right as then you cant get to the source of the problem in the first place, but i do believe in taking time out for each other to calm down, then think about what happened and why you are fighting or disagreeing. Then come back and talk things out.....its good to talk but nots so good to shout as no one hears when you shout at them.....
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vinny1967: What Laura said...........
Hi ........
Hope your well rested.............
Hi ........
Hope your well rested.............
Hi Vinny
It was the best vacation I had in years
Thanks
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Without communication in a relationship you having nothing
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melani: thanks for this response. This is what happens to me all the time. Although it is all over and my scars are healing, everytime a disagreement rose, it was a case of endless fights and finally shutting down communication. I have stayed without contacts a few times simply because I couldn't digest the harshness of the words and endless fights, but later on, I realized that he shut down communication with a clear purpose to avoid me. I got used to the frequent spells of silence, realizing all the time, that it was most unhealthiest way to carry out a relationship.
I hope it doesn't happen to anyone else.
I hope it doesn't happen to anyone else.
I've been there twice. Never again.
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In response to: Is shutting down communication healthy for a relationship every time something goes wrong?
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Shutting down communication is never healthy for a relationship especially if something goes wrong. If you don't talk things out, things just fester and get worse. Not only that, if you don't take the time to work things out, it will just keep happening over and over again. But that's just my opinion.
Mornin' all!
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melani: thanks for this response. This is what happens to me all the time. Although it is all over and my scars are healing, everytime a disagreement rose, it was a case of endless fights and finally shutting down communication. I have stayed without contacts a few times simply because I couldn't digest the harshness of the words and endless fights, but later on, I realized that he shut down communication with a clear purpose to avoid me. I got used to the frequent spells of silence, realizing all the time, that it was most unhealthiest way to carry out a relationship.
I hope it doesn't happen to anyone else.
I hope it doesn't happen to anyone else.
I finally had to go to that point in last relationship to save my sanity.
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lifesajoy: Shutting down communication is never healthy for a relationship especially if something goes wrong. If you don't talk things out, things just fester and get worse. Not only that, if you don't take the time to work things out, it will just keep happening over and over again. But that's just my opinion.
Mornin' all!
I totally agree...and you have to talk things out together, not have arguments that one party always has to try to win. Nobody wins those. Been there twice, too. Not going there again, thank goodness. If I had any doubts about that, I wouldn't be with him. Mornin' all!
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lifesajoy: Shutting down communication is never healthy for a relationship especially if something goes wrong. If you don't talk things out, things just fester and get worse. Not only that, if you don't take the time to work things out, it will just keep happening over and over again. But that's just my opinion.
Mornin' all!
Mornin' all!
This does not work if one party wants everything done their way. Your way is wrong, mine right. Shut down time, arggggggg!
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druidess6308: I totally agree...and you have to talk things out together, not have arguments that one party always has to try to win. Nobody wins those. Been there twice, too. Not going there again, thank goodness. If I had any doubts about that, I wouldn't be with him.
We are so much alike, if sure we'll find solutions.
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buzzy: We are so much alike, if sure we'll find solutions.
I know that, Love. We both appreciate what we have, and value communication and respect. 
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