is it ok to become jelous if your wife is having coffee and going to movies with other men she calls (80)
montecito: 1. She's not his wife.....yet.
2. People come here to ask opinions. Just because he is on CS doesn't mean he is looking for someone else.
3. I think he's sees very clearly what is going on and that is why he is asking our opinion and not jumping to conclusions.
4. As far as the western world being crazy....Definitely the U.S.A. is to blame for her actions..
2. People come here to ask opinions. Just because he is on CS doesn't mean he is looking for someone else.
3. I think he's sees very clearly what is going on and that is why he is asking our opinion and not jumping to conclusions.
4. As far as the western world being crazy....Definitely the U.S.A. is to blame for her actions..
Read my reply please..is is somewhere here:)
have a nice day:)
waad_hadid: Arabic traditions don't permit such acts being made by wives,,,
I agree she is out of order, but she is not a wife yet, and she is not an Arab
montecito: 1. She's not his wife.....yet.
2. People come here to ask opinions. Just because he is on CS doesn't mean he is looking for someone else.
3. I think he's sees very clearly what is going on and that is why he is asking our opinion and not jumping to conclusions.
4. As far as the western world being crazy....Definitely the U.S.A. is to blame for her actions..
2. People come here to ask opinions. Just because he is on CS doesn't mean he is looking for someone else.
3. I think he's sees very clearly what is going on and that is why he is asking our opinion and not jumping to conclusions.
4. As far as the western world being crazy....Definitely the U.S.A. is to blame for her actions..
and adding something more:
he is clever???
Very clever?
by asking people if'black is black?'
and it is one of symptoms of 'rotten western' morality...when obvious things are 'suspicious' and people have to ask about OBVIOUS things
halakala: and adding something more:
he is clever???
Very clever?
by asking people if'black is black?'
and it is one of symptoms of 'rotten western' morality...when obvious things are 'suspicious' and people have to ask about OBVIOUS things
my morals are good...*thank.you*....he is clever???
Very clever?
by asking people if'black is black?'
and it is one of symptoms of 'rotten western' morality...when obvious things are 'suspicious' and people have to ask about OBVIOUS things
halakala: you are very bitter and think too personally that I blame the Usa...calm down and see clearly the problem,first of all
Everybody can say here their opinion..and I can as well.
I Lost this info that she is only his girlfriend..not a wife..ok,it is my faulr..but still I will claim that this situation is crazy,and it is NORMAL for western world...dishonesty is very often between western people...where the interest is more important
People are together mostly because of interest/you give me ..something,and I will give you...something../
I saw so many American films....and I saw this 'relation business' in so many films...and now I am reading here..and much more in the internet.,..and it is your reality...
Everybody can say here their opinion..and I can as well.
I Lost this info that she is only his girlfriend..not a wife..ok,it is my faulr..but still I will claim that this situation is crazy,and it is NORMAL for western world...dishonesty is very often between western people...where the interest is more important
People are together mostly because of interest/you give me ..something,and I will give you...something../
I saw so many American films....and I saw this 'relation business' in so many films...and now I am reading here..and much more in the internet.,..and it is your reality...
I couldn't have said it better.
leigh2154: Mornin!
Mornin Leigh, hope you having a good morning.
galrads: I couldn't have said it better.
galrads: I couldn't have said it better.
Aaaah, did you read it? Dishonesty is often between western people? really? We are more dishonest than eastern people? Really?
Because she watches movies, for god's sake?
If someone was really interested in you, who would tell you...."should find someone else" ?This tell me one party feels superior than the other.She has given conditions for it to work.I think there is something in this relationship.Period.
outdoorgirlsun: Aaaah, did you read it? Dishonesty is often between western people? really? We are more dishonest than eastern people? Really?
Because she watches movies, for god's sake?
Because she watches movies, for god's sake?
because I lived in the WEST ,and have some friend in the West..and everything that say is from what I 'saw and heard'/reality/
Sorry that it touches you personally...
outdoorgirlsun: Aaaah, did you read it? Dishonesty is often between western people? really? We are more dishonest than eastern people? Really?
Because she watches movies, for god's sake?
Because she watches movies, for god's sake?
wils0n: Hey Friends - need some help... set me stright..
My wife to be ( or not to be ) is giving me some bad vibes. I see guys on her facebook showing interest in her commenting all the time on her. But never on pics of me and her. recently he showed interest in her saying he missed her alot. and she responded by saying she missed him alot too. This is in front of family and friends etc. Is this kind of thing normal ? She tells me it is and I need get used to it or I should find someone else. She would change not even a little she say I don't trust her. But I feel this kind of behaviour is killing my trust in her.
Anyway people... set me stright.
Cheers
My wife to be ( or not to be ) is giving me some bad vibes. I see guys on her facebook showing interest in her commenting all the time on her. But never on pics of me and her. recently he showed interest in her saying he missed her alot. and she responded by saying she missed him alot too. This is in front of family and friends etc. Is this kind of thing normal ? She tells me it is and I need get used to it or I should find someone else. She would change not even a little she say I don't trust her. But I feel this kind of behaviour is killing my trust in her.
Anyway people... set me stright.
Cheers
There's your answer, exactly what she told you.
Have you considered that maybe, just maybe, it's your own insecurities that are killing your trust in her, not her behaviour?
A person saying they miss someone, isn't expressing an interest, it's saying they miss someone. Unless she actually told you they were together before, as a couple or as lovers, then you're assuming there's more to it. Even if they were together, they're not now, and besides, there's nothing wrong with missing an ex, they're not all evil, some are actually nice people.
I have to ask, do you think she should ditch all her male friends, just because you don't like it? What about her female friends, family, siblings, etc.? Does she have a dog or a cat, is it a male?
What is it about marriage (shudder) that brings out a sense of possession, or ownership of another human being? Not saying this is the case here, but you never know.
Hey Wilson, when are you going to invite your betrothed into this conversation, seeing as she's the one you should be discussing this with, not hundreds or thousands of other people.
that's why communication is quite important in any relationship, that is one on one eye level & heart to heart talking, like how someone visits a psychologist ;) both partner will take turn to talk as well as listen.
i wonder if Wilson's relationship w. his gf a long distance one, for how come he's not the one going out to have coffee w. his gf & her friend? instead of her asking a guy friend to watch movies, why not Wilson ask his gf & her guy friend to watch movie together and get to know her guy friend? then next time ask his gf & a girl friend of his, for sure he has one or two, to go for coffee and down to the cinema.
remember, when ye think of marriage, ye don't just marry yer fiancé/e but as well as the whole family or clan likewise some or few closest friends or bffs lest ye live far away from them or isolate yerselves from both of yer clans;)
to Hala, calm down ye are being too harsh though esp. generalising western people, humans are not too perfect (that's why we're here on Earth to make ourselves perfect spiritually that is), in every nation, family or one of us there's always dishonesty however, we must only not feed it... not even beyond white lies. besides, we are here to connect, no matter whot are status in life is, we're here to understand & respect. peace.
:)
Blessed be every one...
i wonder if Wilson's relationship w. his gf a long distance one, for how come he's not the one going out to have coffee w. his gf & her friend? instead of her asking a guy friend to watch movies, why not Wilson ask his gf & her guy friend to watch movie together and get to know her guy friend? then next time ask his gf & a girl friend of his, for sure he has one or two, to go for coffee and down to the cinema.
remember, when ye think of marriage, ye don't just marry yer fiancé/e but as well as the whole family or clan likewise some or few closest friends or bffs lest ye live far away from them or isolate yerselves from both of yer clans;)
to Hala, calm down ye are being too harsh though esp. generalising western people, humans are not too perfect (that's why we're here on Earth to make ourselves perfect spiritually that is), in every nation, family or one of us there's always dishonesty however, we must only not feed it... not even beyond white lies. besides, we are here to connect, no matter whot are status in life is, we're here to understand & respect. peace.
:)
Blessed be every one...
that's why communication is quite important in any relationship, that is one on one eye level & heart to heart talking, like how someone visits a psychologist ;) both partner will take turn to talk as well as listen.
i wonder if Wilson's relationship w. his gf a long distance one, for how come he's not the one going out to have coffee w. his gf & her friend? instead of her asking a guy friend to watch movies, why not Wilson ask his gf & her guy friend to watch movie together and get to know her guy friend? then next time ask his gf & a girl friend of his, for sure he has one or two, to go for coffee and down to the cinema.
remember, when ye think of marriage, ye don't just marry yer fiancé/e but as well as the whole family or clan likewise some or few closest friends or bffs lest ye live far away from them or isolate yerselves from both of yer clans;)
to Hala, calm down ye are being too harsh though esp. generalising western people, humans are not too perfect (that's why we're here on Earth to make ourselves perfect spiritually that is), in every nation, family or one of us there's always dishonesty however, we must only not feed it... not even beyond white lies. besides, we are here to connect, no matter whot are status in life is, we're here to understand & respect. peace.
:)
Blessed be every one...
i wonder if Wilson's relationship w. his gf a long distance one, for how come he's not the one going out to have coffee w. his gf & her friend? instead of her asking a guy friend to watch movies, why not Wilson ask his gf & her guy friend to watch movie together and get to know her guy friend? then next time ask his gf & a girl friend of his, for sure he has one or two, to go for coffee and down to the cinema.
remember, when ye think of marriage, ye don't just marry yer fiancé/e but as well as the whole family or clan likewise some or few closest friends or bffs lest ye live far away from them or isolate yerselves from both of yer clans;)
to Hala, calm down ye are being too harsh though esp. generalising western people, humans are not too perfect (that's why we're here on Earth to make ourselves perfect spiritually that is), in every nation, family or one of us there's always dishonesty however, we must only not feed it... not even beyond white lies. besides, we are here to connect, no matter whot are status in life is, we're here to understand & respect. peace.
:)
Blessed be every one...
that's why communication is quite important in any relationship, that is one on one eye level & heart to heart talking, like how someone visits a psychologist ;) both partner will take turn to talk as well as listen.
i wonder if Wilson's relationship w. his gf a long distance one, for how come he's not the one going out to have coffee w. his gf & her friend? instead of her asking a guy friend to watch movies, why not Wilson ask his gf & her guy friend to watch movie together and get to know her guy friend? then next time ask his gf & a girl friend of his, for sure he has one or two, to go for coffee and down to the cinema.
remember, when ye think of marriage, ye don't just marry yer fiancé/e but as well as the whole family or clan likewise some or few closest friends or bffs lest ye live far away from them or isolate yerselves from both of yer clans;)
to Hala, calm down ye are being too harsh though esp. generalising western people, humans are not too perfect (that's why we're here on Earth to make ourselves perfect spiritually that is), in every nation, family or one of us there's always dishonesty however, we must only not feed it... not even beyond white lies. besides, we are here to connect, no matter whot are status in life is, we're here to understand & respect. peace.
:)
Blessed be every one...
i wonder if Wilson's relationship w. his gf a long distance one, for how come he's not the one going out to have coffee w. his gf & her friend? instead of her asking a guy friend to watch movies, why not Wilson ask his gf & her guy friend to watch movie together and get to know her guy friend? then next time ask his gf & a girl friend of his, for sure he has one or two, to go for coffee and down to the cinema.
remember, when ye think of marriage, ye don't just marry yer fiancé/e but as well as the whole family or clan likewise some or few closest friends or bffs lest ye live far away from them or isolate yerselves from both of yer clans;)
to Hala, calm down ye are being too harsh though esp. generalising western people, humans are not too perfect (that's why we're here on Earth to make ourselves perfect spiritually that is), in every nation, family or one of us there's always dishonesty however, we must only not feed it... not even beyond white lies. besides, we are here to connect, no matter whot are status in life is, we're here to understand & respect. peace.
:)
Blessed be every one...
dump her,and find urself a girl who will not miss anybody when she is with u.
Rummy1: dump her,and find urself a girl who will not miss anybody when she is with u.
That's a great way of putting it Rummy...
montecito: That's a great way of putting it Rummy...
thanx and hi Monte
Rummy1: dump her,and find urself a girl who will not miss anybody when she is with u.
No one person can be all and everything to someone else, nor should they even attempt to be.
That's insanity.
may be u r right or may be we dont understand each other cos we live in diferent cultures.but I d never be with the girl who misses another man all the time.its just not acceptable for me.if she misses another man,then she must live with him.
Rummy1: may be u r right or may be we dont understand each other cos we live in diferent cultures.but I d never be with the girl who misses another man all the time.its just not acceptable for me.if she misses another man,then she must live with him.
We're back to that jealousy, possession and ownership issue then, and thankfully that isn't the way it is with everyone. Although, it has less to do with culture than it does with individual people. I see it here too, and I think it's a horrible way to view another person.
The OP left way too many things open to interpretation, and from that, people can assume whatever they like, from their own perspective, not neccessarily what's actually going on in his situation.
Oh well, glad I'm single and don't have to deal with any of this.
outdoorgirlsun: Aaaah, did you read it? Dishonesty is often between western people? really? We are more dishonest than eastern people? Really?
Because she watches movies, for god's sake?
Because she watches movies, for god's sake?
Not really, but I tried to read it.
Well, golly gee wiz... Honestly, can't a guy be facetious too once in a while?
Yes, but I "honestly" didn't understand a word the poster was making. That post sounded kind of like prez. Obama.
Honestly, though, at the time I posted, I was also thinking of another post in another thread that read, "I think a laptop that has 36" hips and long legs is preferable."
Honestly, I think we're all good people. It's just getting along that's tough to do.
galrads: Not really, but I tried to read it.
Well, golly gee wiz... Honestly, can't a guy be facetious too once in a while?
Yes, but I "honestly" didn't understand a word the poster was making. That post sounded kind of like prez. Obama.
Honestly, though, at the time I posted, I was also thinking of another post in another thread that read, "I think a laptop that has 36" hips and long legs is preferable."
Honestly, I think we're all good people. It's just getting along that's tough to do.
Well, golly gee wiz... Honestly, can't a guy be facetious too once in a while?
Yes, but I "honestly" didn't understand a word the poster was making. That post sounded kind of like prez. Obama.
Honestly, though, at the time I posted, I was also thinking of another post in another thread that read, "I think a laptop that has 36" hips and long legs is preferable."
Honestly, I think we're all good people. It's just getting along that's tough to do.
I'm glad to read this post Gal cause when you said "I agree" I couldn't believe you agreed with that "Western people" comment..
montecito: I'm glad to read this post Gal cause when you said "I agree" I couldn't believe you agreed with that "Western people" comment..
wils0n: Hey Friends - need some help... set me stright..
My wife to be ( or not to be ) is giving me some bad vibes. I see guys on her facebook showing interest in her commenting all the time on her. But never on pics of me and her. recently he showed interest in her saying he missed her alot. and she responded by saying she missed him alot too. This is in front of family and friends etc. Is this kind of thing normal ? She tells me it is and I need get used to it or I should find someone else. She would change not even a little she say I don't trust her. But I feel this kind of behaviour is killing my trust in her.
Anyway people... set me stright.
Cheers
My wife to be ( or not to be ) is giving me some bad vibes. I see guys on her facebook showing interest in her commenting all the time on her. But never on pics of me and her. recently he showed interest in her saying he missed her alot. and she responded by saying she missed him alot too. This is in front of family and friends etc. Is this kind of thing normal ? She tells me it is and I need get used to it or I should find someone else. She would change not even a little she say I don't trust her. But I feel this kind of behaviour is killing my trust in her.
Anyway people... set me stright.
Cheers
Just tell her polite way.....May God Bless You
When someone tells you should find someone else (which she is), you should listen.
I remember when I first met my ex wife. She introduced me to her "almost" ex-boy friend as one of her friends.
After we had been married a couple of years, I wish I had remembered that experience when she introduced me to one of her "new friends".
After we had been married a couple of years, I wish I had remembered that experience when she introduced me to one of her "new friends".
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Everybody can say here their opinion..and I can as well.
I Lost this info that she is only his girlfriend..not a wife..ok,it is my faulr..but still I will claim that this situation is crazy,and it is NORMAL for western world...dishonesty is very often between western people...where the interest is more important
People are together mostly because of interest/you give me ..something,and I will give you...something../
I saw so many American films....and I saw this 'relation business' in so many films...and now I am reading here..and much more in the internet.,..and it is your reality...