I agree...if I'm reading his post correctly. I don't think he means the love for someone you have never been with. As has been pointed out that could never have been love. It could have been desire or a wish for love. I think he means that if you are with someone you love, get a taste for it, and then the person moves on and leaves you behind that is the love we cannot have....and it probably is the longest lasting, strongest and deepest...until we find someone to fill the void....
stanley8m: I would agree in the circumstance of a love we had and lost, But if it is a love we never had, then it was never love to begin with.
Basically thats where I'm coming from Stanley. Partly due to a thread you posted the other day that got me thinking. Kinda like a fisherman story and the one that got away.
skyblue43: I agree...if I'm reading his post correctly. I don't think he means the love for someone you have never been with. As has been pointed out that could never have been love. It could have been desire or a wish for love. I think he means that if you are with someone you love, get a taste for it, and then the person moves on and leaves you behind that is the love we cannot have....and it probably is the longest lasting, strongest and deepest...until we find someone to fill the void....
I'm not sure if great minds think a like or fools seldom differ. But I'm going with former rather than the latter.
skyblue43: I agree...if I'm reading his post correctly. I don't think he means the love for someone you have never been with. As has been pointed out that could never have been love. It could have been desire or a wish for love. I think he means that if you are with someone you love, get a taste for it, and then the person moves on and leaves you behind that is the love we cannot have....and it probably is the longest lasting, strongest and deepest...until we find someone to fill the void....
Yeah I disagree. You break up with someone you can't have them back and you 'think' that is the strongest deepest love you have had and think that feeling will last forever in your heart but then you can meet someone new even better and then your thinking changes
celticeyes1: Yeah I disagree. You break up with someone you can't have them back and you 'think' that is the strongest deepest love you have had and think that feeling will last forever in your heart but then you can meet someone new even better and then your thinking changes
Doesn't it depend on the reason for the 'break up'..Not all seperations/breakups are acrimonious. Sometimes in life people are forced to sperate not through any fault of their own but purely down to cirumstances.
And some even manage to 'hold the candel' for each other in the hope cupid, the gods or other roll the dice in their favour again
Phoenix: Doesn't it depend on the reason for the 'break up'..Not all seperations/breakups are acrimonious. Sometimes in life people are forced to sperate not through any fault of their own but purely down to cirumstances.
And some even manage to 'hold the candel' for each other in the hope cupid, the gods or other roll the dice in their favour again
Yes but you asked if I agreed or disagreed and in my circumstances I disagree. Yeah it happens to some people but hasn't happened to me No point holding a candle for something that will never be, if it was 'meant' to be it would already be
celticeyes1: Yes but you asked if I agreed or disagreed and in my circumstances I disagree. Yeah it happens to some people but hasn't happened to me No point holding a candle for something that will never be, if it was 'meant' to be it would already be
I told you you'd be hard work tonight. Let me get a coffee down my throat and I'll get back to you. I understand what you are saying but haven't you heard of 'never say never'?
I told you you'd be hard work tonight. Let me get a coffee down my throat and I'll get back to you. I understand what you are saying but haven't you heard of 'never say never'? Yeah I heard of the saying never say never but I doubt I would ever think that way in this instance. Its non productive to think that way about a lost love and I tend to think logically rather than emotionally. Just the way my mind works
@Phoenix Yeah I heard of the saying never say never but I doubt I would ever think that way in this instance. Its non productive to think that way about a lost love and I tend to think logically rather than emotionally. Just the way my mind works
celticeyes1: Yeah I heard of the saying never say never but I doubt I would ever think that way in this instance. Its non productive to think that way about a lost love and I tend to think logically rather than emotionally. Just the way my mind works
Many moons ago, I was told it is the opposite about how men and you lot think. You are a smart cookie. Let me finish my coffee and hopefully I'll help you change your mind.
vinny1967: Having been lucky enough to love and be loved twice, I disagree. Love lost is painful but there is always hope and I can't wait for the next time
Is love the second time around the same though? I have truly loved once and been in another deep emotional relationship, however the second time, did not have the intensity of feeling that I experienced first time. Or maybe that's just me.
stanley8m: Is love the second time around the same though? I have truly loved once and been in another deep emotional relationship, however the second time, did not have the intensity of feeling that I experienced first time. Or maybe that's just me.
Well it was for me Stan. They were different relationships but the feeling for the other person was the same. You know what I mean when your pulse rate increases just when you see her, or you feel so strong and break out into a sweat when she just smiles at you.
And thats half of the beauty and what intrigues me about you lot. Your differences.
So mademoiselle, I'll try to break the 'quote' down. Have you ever been in a relationship thats gone pear shaped** and you both went your seperate ways. But you still have strong feelings for? Even in the knowledge of knowing it's over.
** I'm not interested in details, 'cause they are just that details.
Phoenix: Shock to the system would be closer to the truth. And thats half of the beauty and what intrigues me about you lot. Your differences.
So mademoiselle, I'll try to break the 'quote' down. Have you ever been in a relationship thats gone pear shaped** and you both went your seperate ways. But you still have strong feelings for? Even in the knowledge of knowing it's over.
** I'm not interested in details, 'cause they are just that details.
I would say yes feelings as in I hope they're happy but not strong feelings like I want to get back with them and pine over them
Phoenix: And you haven't thought, if only the 'dice' had rolled the other way, he'd still be kissing me over the gzrden gate?
No like I said its non productive to think that way. Every past relationship has had a role or place in your life to make you who you are today and where you are. I quite like where I am and who I am so why look back? I would rather concentrate on the present and the future not the past
celticeyes1: No like I said its non productive to think that way. Every past relationship has had a role or place in your life to make you who you are today and where you are. I quite like where I am and who I am so why look back? I would rather concentrate on the present and the future not the past
Generally thats how people learn. By looking back and learning from it. So they don't make the same mistakes or other in the future.
I stand to be corrected here (I'm not patronising). But something tells me you've build walls around your 'heart' higher than Belfast peace lines. I'm not saying you aren't open to the idea of meeting someone. Kinda more like 'once bitten twice shy'..
So you've not even for a fleeting second in your 'me' time wondered 'if only' over a past lover?
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