Dilemma with my teen.. what would you do? (121)
My son is 16yrs old (just)..
To be fair to him.. he is well behaved.. and I do trust him. He usually (I think! haha) tells me where's he's been and what he's been up to. Is never late home etc etc..
Right well.. He and some of his friends want to go to a festival.. this one -->
BUT!!.. it's about 300 miles away!
AND! there is no 'adult' going with them... well not a decent one.
The person that plans of driving them.. he is an adult (just)... but he is not the sharpest tool in the shed.. and his driving freaks me out! (I seen him driving around the town)..
I have (so far) told my son.. nope...
But he reeeeeeeeally wants to go.. I do trust him.. (and he is 'smart') but 300 miles is a bloody long way with no adults with them.
But I feel a bit mean saying no.. I feel guilty for saying no now.
What should I do??
Let him go? (and grin and bear it)..
Let him go.. IFFFF they catch the train instead..
Or stick by what I said and say no..
To be fair to him.. he is well behaved.. and I do trust him. He usually (I think! haha) tells me where's he's been and what he's been up to. Is never late home etc etc..
Right well.. He and some of his friends want to go to a festival.. this one -->
BUT!!.. it's about 300 miles away!
AND! there is no 'adult' going with them... well not a decent one.
The person that plans of driving them.. he is an adult (just)... but he is not the sharpest tool in the shed.. and his driving freaks me out! (I seen him driving around the town)..
I have (so far) told my son.. nope...
But he reeeeeeeeally wants to go.. I do trust him.. (and he is 'smart') but 300 miles is a bloody long way with no adults with them.
But I feel a bit mean saying no.. I feel guilty for saying no now.
What should I do??
Let him go? (and grin and bear it)..
Let him go.. IFFFF they catch the train instead..
Or stick by what I said and say no..
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Your chance to find out what your son is capable of doing? right or wrong?
Big trust checker...let him...go
Big trust checker...let him...go
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I have let him catch the train that far before ... to stay with him friend and their dad. But that was supervised almost all the way.
and a few months ago.. I did let him take a day trip to London (a 600mile round trip from here)... up and back in a day to watch his beloved Lord of the Rings.. (Musical!)
It took me a A LOT to let him do that.. but he managed fine.
I just think that 16 is waaayyy too young to be waltzing off to a festival 300 miles away with no adults.
and an idiot driver... (I think I am already decided on the NO WAY with that prat driving)..
and a few months ago.. I did let him take a day trip to London (a 600mile round trip from here)... up and back in a day to watch his beloved Lord of the Rings.. (Musical!)
It took me a A LOT to let him do that.. but he managed fine.
I just think that 16 is waaayyy too young to be waltzing off to a festival 300 miles away with no adults.
and an idiot driver... (I think I am already decided on the NO WAY with that prat driving)..
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cardsfan24: Your chance to find out what your son is capable of doing? right or wrong?
Big trust checker...let him...go
Big trust checker...let him...go
Faaanks for your input Stew
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Hmmmm...I dunno what to say. I was already driving and going on 1500 km road trips at that age.
Mind you at 6 I was on my bike and going on 20 km road trips.
Yeah, I was a worry as a child.
Mind you at 6 I was on my bike and going on 20 km road trips.
Yeah, I was a worry as a child.
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kidatheart: Hmmmm...I dunno what to say. I was already driving and going on 1500 km road trips at that age.
Mind you at 6 I was on my bike and going on 20 km road trips. Yeah, I was a worry as a child.
Mind you at 6 I was on my bike and going on 20 km road trips. Yeah, I was a worry as a child.
bloody hell!... it's a wonder you mum wasn't bald!!
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Claayer: Faaanks for your input Stew
yep..per..sGot to let him have some fun, ya know...don't want him lying to ya about really wantin to go somewhere and you won't let him so he says he is somewhere else ya know?
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Let him go:
1)with someone one the road u can trust(adult)
2)or someone for the train(adult)
hes ur son give him options......300miles???????????for a 16yr older not a distance if hes going with frens
1)with someone one the road u can trust(adult)
2)or someone for the train(adult)
hes ur son give him options......300miles???????????for a 16yr older not a distance if hes going with frens
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cardsfan24: yep..per..s
Got to let him have some fun, ya know...don't want him lying to ya about really wantin to go somewhere and you won't let him so he says he is somewhere else ya know?
Got to let him have some fun, ya know...don't want him lying to ya about really wantin to go somewhere and you won't let him so he says he is somewhere else ya know?
Yeah he wants to go sooo badly.. I am slightly concerned he may go without my permission..
(which would be a first!.. But I don't want that to happen)
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pyaremohan: Let him go:
1)with someone one the road u can trust(adult)
2)or someone for the train(adult)
hes ur son give him options......300miles???????????for a 16yr older not a distance if hes going with frens
1)with someone one the road u can trust(adult)
2)or someone for the train(adult)
hes ur son give him options......300miles???????????for a 16yr older not a distance if hes going with frens
Hellooo Pya
Thanks for that... I MIGHT let him go.. if he catches the train.. Then I can help him organise the tooing and froing from the station.. tent food etc. Otherwise he MAY go without my permission (I HOPE not grrrrrr!).. in a car with an IDIOT driver... and probably hardly any provisions...
I dunno.. I can't decide.
He said.. 'But all my friends parents are letting them go'
I said yeah.. 'Because most of the are always in the pub.. and don't even care where their kids are!'
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Claayer: Yeah he wants to go sooo badly.. I am slightly concerned he may go without my permission..
(which would be a first!.. But I don't want that to happen)
Which will happen more than likely...sorry but kids rebel at that age..i did..(which would be a first!.. But I don't want that to happen)
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cardsfan24: Which will happen more than likely...sorry but kids rebel at that age..i did..
yeah and me..
I would probably have lied to my parents about where I was staying.. and gone anyway. (because there is NO WAY they'd have let me go at that age either)
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Claayer: yeah and me..
I would probably have lied to my parents about where I was staying.. and gone anyway. (because there is NO WAY they'd have let me go at that age either)
I would probably have lied to my parents about where I was staying.. and gone anyway. (because there is NO WAY they'd have let me go at that age either)
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Claayer: Aaawww But yep.. my gut instinct is *NO*...
I just can't work out whether it's time for me to give him a little more rein..
and!!!.. I only have TODAY! to decide... they are planning on buying the tickets today..
Just remember...you know better than he what is best...that is why you have the big "tricked out Momma nametag" I just can't work out whether it's time for me to give him a little more rein..
and!!!.. I only have TODAY! to decide... they are planning on buying the tickets today..
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pyaremohan: smart boy.congrats suz
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Dont_Look_Now: Just remember...you know better than he what is best...that is why you have the big "tricked out Momma nametag"
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They are your kids, so I can't really give advice. If you think you made the right call, then you surely did. Especially if you do not trust one of the kids....
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just insist on him going by train Clair... the streets are mean to non-experienced drivers... they dont have to do something wrong to get killed, a drunken lorry driver can do that just as well if you are not experienced enough to see him comming.
Let him go, he sounds like a fine kid, and 16 is old enough. But take the train
Let him go, he sounds like a fine kid, and 16 is old enough. But take the train
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Claayer: Hellooo Pya
Thanks for that... I MIGHT let him go.. if he catches the train.. Then I can help him organise the tooing and froing from the station.. tent food etc. Otherwise he MAY go without my permission (I HOPE not grrrrrr!).. in a car with an IDIOT driver... and probably hardly any provisions...
I dunno.. I can't decide.
He said.. 'But all my friends parents are letting them go'
I said yeah.. 'Because most of the are always in the pub.. and don't even care where their kids are!'
Thanks for that... I MIGHT let him go.. if he catches the train.. Then I can help him organise the tooing and froing from the station.. tent food etc. Otherwise he MAY go without my permission (I HOPE not grrrrrr!).. in a car with an IDIOT driver... and probably hardly any provisions...
I dunno.. I can't decide.
He said.. 'But all my friends parents are letting them go'
I said yeah.. 'Because most of the are always in the pub.. and don't even care where their kids are!'
Hello Claayer
ur concern is genuine n u seem to be a good mom
but hes 16yrs old .....u gotta help him with options or state the bottomline
to him n see if he comes up with anythin am sure he will come up with an alternative, i always did when i was 16
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Manolito: just insist on him going by train Clair... the streets are mean to non-experienced drivers... they dont have to do something wrong to get killed, a drunken lorry driver can do that just as well if you are not experienced enough to see him comming.
Let him go, he sounds like a fine kid, and 16 is old enough. But take the train
Let him go, he sounds like a fine kid, and 16 is old enough. But take the train
That's what I think too Mano
.. I think I am leeeeeeaning that way at the moment.
I know for a start.. there is NO WAY he is going in that car.
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pyaremohan: Hello Claayer
ur concern is genuine n u seem to be a good mom
but hes 16yrs old .....u gotta help him with options or state the bottomline
to him n see if he comes up with anythin am sure he will come up with an alternative, i always did when i was 16
ur concern is genuine n u seem to be a good mom
but hes 16yrs old .....u gotta help him with options or state the bottomline
to him n see if he comes up with anythin am sure he will come up with an alternative, i always did when i was 16
hahah
I even emailed the festival .. and have told them too.. haha!
I have asked them how it stands with a group of 16yr olds.. unaccompanied.
I'm waiting for a reply.
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Claayer: My son is 16yrs old (just)..
To be fair to him.. he is well behaved.. and I do trust him. He usually (I think! haha) tells me where's he's been and what he's been up to. Is never late home etc etc..
Right well.. He and some of his friends want to go to a festival.. this one -->
BUT!!.. it's about 300 miles away!
AND! there is no 'adult' going with them... well not a decent one.
The person that plans of driving them.. he is an adult (just)... but he is not the sharpest tool in the shed.. and his driving freaks me out! (I seen him driving around the town)..
I have (so far) told my son.. nope...
But he reeeeeeeeally wants to go.. I do trust him.. (and he is 'smart') but 300 miles is a bloody long way with no adults with them. But I feel a bit mean saying no.. I feel guilty for saying no now.
What should I do??
Let him go? (and grin and bear it)..
Let him go.. IFFFF they catch the train instead..
Or stick by what I said and say no..
To be fair to him.. he is well behaved.. and I do trust him. He usually (I think! haha) tells me where's he's been and what he's been up to. Is never late home etc etc..
Right well.. He and some of his friends want to go to a festival.. this one -->
BUT!!.. it's about 300 miles away!
AND! there is no 'adult' going with them... well not a decent one.
The person that plans of driving them.. he is an adult (just)... but he is not the sharpest tool in the shed.. and his driving freaks me out! (I seen him driving around the town)..
I have (so far) told my son.. nope...
But he reeeeeeeeally wants to go.. I do trust him.. (and he is 'smart') but 300 miles is a bloody long way with no adults with them. But I feel a bit mean saying no.. I feel guilty for saying no now.
What should I do??
Let him go? (and grin and bear it)..
Let him go.. IFFFF they catch the train instead..
Or stick by what I said and say no..
Thats a tough one... I definitely wouldn't let him drive..it really is a tough one.. I remember what I was like as a teen...
... if it wasn't 300 miles away.. and if there wasn't a strong liklihood of drugs and alcohol or at least if there was a decent adult then maybe.. would you consider taking a mate and going urself.. you can emphasise that you and your mate will do your own thing and not breath down their neck.. if nothing else it may mortify him into submission...feel for ya babe!!
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Aries01: Thats a tough one... I definitely wouldn't let him drive..it really is a tough one.. I remember what I was like as a teen... ... if it wasn't 300 miles away.. and if there wasn't a strong liklihood of drugs and alcohol or at least if there was a decent adult then maybe.. would you consider taking a mate and going urself.. you can emphasise that you and your mate will do your own thing and not breath down their neck.. if nothing else it may mortify him into submission...
feel for ya babe!!
feel for ya babe!!
Yeah THAT is my other concern.. although.. I'm hoping he's not that stupid.. but you know.. we were all teens once.. and you know what peer pressure is like..
I can't go myself.. I can't take that time off. (Plus I would have the other two)
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Claayer: That's what I think too Mano ..
I think I am leeeeeeaning that way at the moment.
I know for a start.. there is NO WAY he is going in that car.
I think I am leeeeeeaning that way at the moment.
I know for a start.. there is NO WAY he is going in that car.
Good for you mom
The last thing you would want to do with a teenager is let him feel like you are unjust to him, you never know how they will react. But a little bit of explaining and compromise on both sides works wonders and shapes more responsible kids
And thanks for everything, i could feel your suport
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Claayer: That's what I think too Mano ..
I think I am leeeeeeaning that way at the moment.
I know for a start.. there is NO WAY he is going in that car.
I think I am leeeeeeaning that way at the moment.
I know for a start.. there is NO WAY he is going in that car.
Be sure to drop him to the station and pick him up though... if he was anything like me as a teen.. not being allowed to drive wouldn't have stopped me jumping into someone elses car...
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Manolito: Good for you mom
The last thing you would want to do with a teenager is let him feel like you are unjust to him, you never know how they will react. But a little bit of explaining and compromise on both sides works wonders and shapes more responsible kids
And thanks for everything, i could feel your suport
The last thing you would want to do with a teenager is let him feel like you are unjust to him, you never know how they will react. But a little bit of explaining and compromise on both sides works wonders and shapes more responsible kids
And thanks for everything, i could feel your suport
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Aries01: Be sure to drop him to the station and pick him up though... if he was anything like me as a teen.. not being allowed to drive wouldn't have stopped me jumping into someone elses car...
Hmm this is true!
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Right I have to get back to work..
Thanks for all the input so far
Thanks for all the input so far
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Claayer: My son is 16yrs old (just)..
To be fair to him.. he is well behaved.. and I do trust him. He usually (I think! haha) tells me where's he's been and what he's been up to. Is never late home etc etc..
Right well.. He and some of his friends want to go to a festival.. this one -->
BUT!!.. it's about 300 miles away!
AND! there is no 'adult' going with them... well not a decent one.
The person that plans of driving them.. he is an adult (just)... but he is not the sharpest tool in the shed.. and his driving freaks me out! (I seen him driving around the town)..
I have (so far) told my son.. nope...
But he reeeeeeeeally wants to go.. I do trust him.. (and he is 'smart') but 300 miles is a bloody long way with no adults with them. But I feel a bit mean saying no.. I feel guilty for saying no now.
What should I do??
Let him go? (and grin and bear it)..
Let him go.. IFFFF they catch the train instead..
Or stick by what I said and say no..
I'd tell him that THIS is the Chance,on which all the other Chances are dependent on.To be fair to him.. he is well behaved.. and I do trust him. He usually (I think! haha) tells me where's he's been and what he's been up to. Is never late home etc etc..
Right well.. He and some of his friends want to go to a festival.. this one -->
BUT!!.. it's about 300 miles away!
AND! there is no 'adult' going with them... well not a decent one.
The person that plans of driving them.. he is an adult (just)... but he is not the sharpest tool in the shed.. and his driving freaks me out! (I seen him driving around the town)..
I have (so far) told my son.. nope...
But he reeeeeeeeally wants to go.. I do trust him.. (and he is 'smart') but 300 miles is a bloody long way with no adults with them. But I feel a bit mean saying no.. I feel guilty for saying no now.
What should I do??
Let him go? (and grin and bear it)..
Let him go.. IFFFF they catch the train instead..
Or stick by what I said and say no..
Screw Up ,and you're screwed!
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Conrad73: I'd tell him that THIS is the Chance,on which all the other Chances are dependent on.
Screw Up ,and you're screwed!
Screw Up ,and you're screwed!
hahaha... Hellooo Conrad
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Dilemma with my teen.. what would you do?(Vote Below)
To be fair to him.. he is well behaved.. and I do trust him. He usually (I think! haha) tells me where's he's been and what he's been up to. Is never late home etc etc..
Right well.. He and some of his friends want to go to a festival.. this one -->
BUT!!.. it's about 300 miles away!
AND! there is no 'adult' going with them... well not a decent one.
The person that plans of driving them.. he is an adult (just)... but he is not the sharpest tool in the shed.. and his driving freaks me out! (I seen him driving around the town)..
I have (so far) told my son.. nope...
But he reeeeeeeeally wants to go.. I do trust him.. (and he is 'smart') but 300 miles is a bloody long way with no adults with them.
But I feel a bit mean saying no.. I feel guilty for saying no now.
What should I do??
Let him go? (and grin and bear it)..
Let him go.. IFFFF they catch the train instead..
Or stick by what I said and say no..