Dilemma with my teen.. what would you do? (121)

I shoudl tell my son about you all really..

thanks to many of you he is going. (on the train.. WITH plenty of rules)..

But if I hadn't made this thread.. he wouldn't be going.


So thanks for him (even thought he doesn't even know)

Mornin' Clair!

Read only page 6, this site is useful!

Good move, thread and TRAIN!

Helloo lovely 'Every girl needs a man like M'

yep.. it had bee A LOT of help to me.

Thanks for that sweetheart, am running a bit slow here today. Been sleeping on the couch, ouch!

Waterbed sprung a leak monday, my godess has been in San Diego [for what seems like weeks!] for a visit with her daughter and granddaughter.

My son is 16yrs old (just)..

To be fair to him.. he is well behaved.. and I do trust him. He usually (I think! haha) tells me where's he's been and what he's been up to. Is never late home etc etc..

Right well.. He and some of his friends want to go to a festival.. this one -->

BUT!!.. it's about 300 miles away!

AND! there is no 'adult' going with them... well not a decent one.

The person that plans of driving them.. he is an adult (just)... but he is not the sharpest tool in the shed.. and his driving freaks me out! (I seen him driving around the town)..

I have (so far) told my son.. nope...

But he reeeeeeeeally wants to go.. I do trust him.. (and he is 'smart') but 300 miles is a bloody long way with no adults with them. But I feel a bit mean saying no.. I feel guilty for saying no now.

What should I do??

Let him go? (and grin and bear it)..

Let him go.. IFFFF they catch the train instead..



if you trust your son i think you should let him go. also if he is going to get in trouble better now than when hes 30-40 yrs of age. i see it where i live all the time. very good kids then at 30 yrs of age they throw their life away. the young kids who were in trouble early turn out to be real smart adults. thats not to say that a child has to get in trouble. i think the bottom line is if you trust him that all that really matters. have a great day and good luck.

Yes right away Mistress Claayer

haha crumbs!


how do you fix those?.. just with a puncture repair thing?

With everything that is happening in Uk right now, have to say i would say no, not so much about not trusting him but there are some strange people out there and without a responsible adult going i would not take the risk. There wil will loads more concerts to go on , do what you feel comfortable with

Hi Morgan!

Wanna go for a train ride?

hi hun still waiting to go shopping, we can combine the 2

Oh boy, another combination for Dio.


Hi, Morgan.

Definitely, but I'm not trying on any bikinis for you.

sorry I didn't reply sooner. Just couln't figure it out. Look. The kid's going to be 18 in a couple of years and you're not going to have a hell of a lot to say about what he does. For what it's worth, I think your loosening the apron strings at about the right pace. Can't say that's much in the way of advisr, but I think I can give you a little support for what it's worth.
Bob

Well...might as well add my 2 cents since you asked....I would stick to your original answer. I remember when mine was a teen - and often times - 1) if I backed down from a decision and gave in, he'd be back soon with another request - even more the next time and 2) these things often have some hidden agenda - of other things that will be occuring that he's not telling you about cuz he knows what mom doesn't know, won't hurt her. I'm not saying that's what's happening here - could be innocent - but never know and why take a chance. Anyway....for what it's worth - there it is. good luck

Tough call Clair, do what you gut is telling you. You know the answer.

Have you tried calling the parents of the other friends to find out what they're actually allowing?

The answer is simple! But since I don't have children...I can't know a damn thing!

I don't have any kids,so I DON'T think I'M QUALIFIED TO GIVE ADVICE on something I HAVEN'T EXPERIENCED,but I would suggest speaking to somebody who does have kids in that age area who's been through a similar experience and maybe give you some insight.

Good Luck.

So Claayer
did your son go???

I have a similiar problem, my son, who is also 16, worked all summer, earned a sizeable amount of cash, applied & paid for his passport, and now wants to go to California(2400 mi away) to visit an online friend....
he's also a very responsible, level headed young man...I've spoken to his friend's mother, and she assures me he's welcome there and if there is any kind of trouble she'll put him back on the plane home (the friends dad's on the police force--there's no drinking, smoking or drugs allowed--and my son is very vocal and proud of the fact he has never done any of those things)
I'm thinking this is a very adult move that he wants to do and am leaning on letting him go - to see a bit of the world

Am I crazy??