And HOW THE HELL are we gonna know that???????????? My daughter has now done 13 years..........and she´s just 32......so that doesn´t look too bleak!!!!!
venusenvy: Sometimes yes and sometimes no just like anything in life
Statistically...no they don't last as long. Divorce used to be seen as a social disgrace, people were more likely to stay together 'for the children', many women did not have a career to fall back on as they were stay-at-home-Mums. I know it was very much a 'you made your bed, lie in it'/'make the best of it' when I was young.
I blame feminism. Relationships and marriages lasted much longer when you were allowed to discipline your wife with a good sturdy leather belt and when they were not allowed to have their own jobs or financial means.
Godsgift: I blame feminism. Relationships and marriages lasted much longer when you were allowed to discipline your wife with a good sturdy leather belt and when they were not allowed to have their own jobs or financial means.
You had better stay close to that hole in the ground!
No, relationships of today don't last like the relationships of the past. There are many different reasons for this and although it sad that so many relationships end and people don't seem to commit, in some cases it is a good thing. Why is it a good thing? Because in the past women were second class citizens with very few options in life. They could not support themselves so making a good marriage was a very important career move. Either that or join a convent. Those were the choices. And if she married someone who supported her well financially, it might not have turned out too good on a personal level, but she would put up with that because leaving the marriage was not an option. So they put up with misery so that they and their children would be supported. What a sad life. Thankfully nowadays there is choice, if the relationship is not working. There is no reason to stay in bad relationships. So nowadays women have higher expectations of relationships and if they don't find that perfect relationship they can go it alone if thats their choice.
hoolet: And HOW THE HELL are we gonna know that???????????? My daughter has now done 13 years..........and she´s just 32......so that doesn´t look too bleak!!!!!
Newagain: No, relationships of today don't last like the relationships of the past. There are many different reasons for this and although it sad that so many relationships end and people don't seem to commit, in some cases it is a good thing. Why is it a good thing? Because in the past women were second class citizens with very few options in life. They could not support themselves so making a good marriage was a very important career move. Either that or join a convent. Those were the choices. And if she married someone who supported her well financially, it might not have turned out too good on a personal level, but she would put up with that because leaving the marriage was not an option. So they put up with misery so that they and their children would be supported. What a sad life. Thankfully nowadays there is choice, if the relationship is not working. There is no reason to stay in bad relationships. So nowadays women have higher expectations of relationships and if they don't find that perfect relationship they can go it alone if thats their choice.
As far as leaving the marriage being an option, I understand what you mean but 44 years ago I made the option to leave my marriage for the safety of myself and my child. You can't wait for things to happen.....you have to make it happen.
The thing about having expectations is that when anyone has expectation of the way it should be, that's when they leave themself open for disappointment.
It's not a comprising world anymore. Our government couldn't compromise on whether we were going to go over the cliff; our employers don't compromise with less pay to save our jobs; and our marital or significant partners don't comprimise to save the vow we made at the altar. They would rather "Sweat The Small Stuff" and give up.
Newagain: No, relationships of today don't last like the relationships of the past. There are many different reasons for this and although it sad that so many relationships end and people don't seem to commit, in some cases it is a good thing. Why is it a good thing? Because in the past women were second class citizens with very few options in life. They could not support themselves so making a good marriage was a very important career move. Either that or join a convent. Those were the choices. And if she married someone who supported her well financially, it might not have turned out too good on a personal level, but she would put up with that because leaving the marriage was not an option. So they put up with misery so that they and their children would be supported. What a sad life. Thankfully nowadays there is choice, if the relationship is not working. There is no reason to stay in bad relationships. So nowadays women have higher expectations of relationships and if they don't find that perfect relationship they can go it alone if thats their choice.
I respect what you've said and it makes so much sence. But here's the problem, because of the ease of having a divorce, people see it as the easy and only way out and in the end some get married several times and still end up alone and wish they had just worked it out the very first time. My advice is people should never have divorce as an option. This is a last resort and should be used only if someone is totally being unfaithful in a relationship. Even in some cases, this could still be worked out. However, there's no excuse or reason to cheat. I think I should ask that on a blog :) xx
montemonte: As far as leaving the marriage being an option, I understand what you mean but 44 years ago I made the option to leave my marriage for the safety of myself and my child. You can't wait for things to happen.....you have to make it happen.
Imagine what it was like living in the 19th century...if you were in a voilent marriage..and had children....what were the options?
Michael_Specter: I respect what you've said and it makes so much sence. But here's the problem, because of the ease of having a divorce, people see it as the easy and only way out and in the end some get married several times and still end up alone and wish they had just worked it out the very first time. My advice is people should never have divorce as an option. This is a last resort and should be used only if someone is totally being unfaithful in a relationship. Even in some cases, this could still be worked out. However, there's no excuse or reason to cheat. I think I should ask that on a blog :) xx
So which is it, its shouldnt be an option or it should be a if someone is unfaithful?
Divorce over here isnt easy, you have to be 5 years seperated before you can apply for one. And cheating is far from the only reason to end a relationship
Michael_Specter: I respect what you've said and it makes so much sence. But here's the problem, because of the ease of having a divorce, people see it as the easy and only way out and in the end some get married several times and still end up alone and wish they had just worked it out the very first time. My advice is people should never have divorce as an option. This is a last resort and should be used only if someone is totally being unfaithful in a relationship. Even in some cases, this could still be worked out. However, there's no excuse or reason to cheat. I think I should ask that on a blog :) xx
But you can't force people to stay married if they are not happy. I agree that it should be a last resort and people should take there vows seriously and not make commitments they don't intend keeping. But people have free will and have to make there own choices. In my country which used to be a strong catholic country , divorce was not allowed until 1995. But that didn't make all the marriages work and didn't make people stay together. People still seperated and began new relationships. People are human, and make mistakes and sometimes need a second chance. Unfortunately, there will always be people who don't take it seriously and casually go from one relationship to another and get married without serious consideration
Glatlol: So which is it, its shouldnt be an option or it should be a if someone is unfaithful?
Divorce over here isnt easy, you have to be 5 years seperated before you can apply for one. And cheating is far from the only reason to end a relationship
True, there are many reasons why people need to seperate
Glatlol: So which is it, its shouldnt be an option or it should be a if someone is unfaithful?
Divorce over here isnt easy, you have to be 5 years seperated before you can apply for one. And cheating is far from the only reason to end a relationship
well if it make you happy ending relationships no little reasons because of pride am in no position to advice you otherwise. Like my mum used to say, marriage is not for kids. If anyone cant handle the problems that come with marriage then they should never venture into it. Life has a way of balancing us out. You can never be happy all the time. There are also good and bad times. You love someone enough to marry them, then the love would make you patient with them. Love they say conquers all. I might not be in love with anyone right now but I no it does exist and when you do find it, it's not worth throwing away through divorce all cos it seems to be the easy way out. In the long run whether you like it or not you regret it especially when there are kids involved.
Newagain: But you can't force people to stay married if they are not happy. I agree that it should be a last resort and people should take there vows seriously and not make commitments they don't intend keeping. But people have free will and have to make there own choices. In my country which used to be a strong catholic country , divorce was not allowed until 1995. But that didn't make all the marriages work and didn't make people stay together. People still seperated and began new relationships. People are human, and make mistakes and sometimes need a second chance. Unfortunately, there will always be people who don't take it seriously and casually go from one relationship to another and get married without serious consideration
you got that right......without serious consideration. That's part of the problem. Its very true people make mistakes but if people would put in more work and take the vows really seriously, then we'l get back to the times were divorce used to be really low. People need to understand that they cant always be happy. Life come with problems and happy moments.
Michael_Specter: you continue speaking like that and id be forced to disrespect you the way you have been disrespecting me. What has age got to do with anything. If you wanna go on about that at my age I have achieved allot. Please dont make me disrespect you. Whether you like it or not the statement is right. The fact that you re poor doesnt mean there are no rich people, the fact that ure not educated doesnt mean there's no education, the fact that you dont feel love doesnt mean it doesnt exist. Please mind what you say to me and everyone else, this is meant to be a discussion not a platform to insult people. Divorce is a silly and easy option. U dont want to get married stay single thats my opinion. Your opinion is urs and mine is mine. Tanks for reading!
No it is not, thats the childish part of you speaking. Read your own post, what are you discussing? You are not, you are telling people what you think and stating it as fact, the fact is that divorce is not always easy and it is immature and disrespectful to people for you to say it is.
Glatlol: No it is not, thats the childish part of you speaking. Read your own post, what are you discussing? You are not, you are telling people what you think and stating it as fact, the fact is that divorce is not always easy and it is immature and disrespectful to people for you to say it is.
Glatlol: No it is not, thats the childish part of you speaking. Read your own post, what are you discussing? You are not, you are telling people what you think and stating it as fact, the fact is that divorce is not always easy and it is immature and disrespectful to people for you to say it is.
you making me laugh so much. Look for example, you at university studying for a doctorate. u are judged and scored based on ur opinions and wat u consider facts. Doesnt have to be right but thats my opinion. You dont like it then dont take it. It is not disrespectful and i beg ur pardon I seem to be more mature minded than u re. To call someone a kid or call them childish in a discussion is really immature. Focus on the topic and forget about maturity or achievements cos trust me you dont wanna open that door with me. All due respect still given.
Michael_Specter: you making me laugh so much. Look for example, you at university studying for a doctorate. u are judged and scored based on ur opinions and wat u consider facts. Doesnt have to be right but thats my opinion. You dont like it then dont take it. It is not disrespectful and i beg ur pardon I seem to be more mature minded than u re. To call someone a kid or call them childish in a discussion is really immature. Focus on the topic and forget about maturity or achievements cos trust me you dont wanna open that door with me. All due respect still given.
No, at University you are judged on your grasp of the actual facts not what you think they are. You are the one not sticking to a discussion, why do you think divorce is easy? Why do you think its the easy option? You havent given any reason other then that you think its true, yo certainly wouldnt get far in University with that attitude.
And dont try enter a battle of wits with me, I dont like to battle with an unarmed opponent.
Glatlol: No, at University you are judged on your grasp of the actual facts not what you think they are. You are the one not sticking to a discussion, why do you think divorce is easy? Why do you think its the easy option? You havent given any reason other then that you think its true, yo certainly wouldnt get far in University with that attitude.
And dont try enter a battle of wits with me, I dont like to battle with an unarmed opponent.
Okay i shouldnt be conversing with you. Now i never said divorce was easy, i said it is an easy option. If u dont understand the difference then am sorry cant continue trying to explains simple english language stuffs to u. tot u said u were old and got all the experience and brains.
By the ways yes i am young. In fact I am really very young. I am 25 okay. I got a BSc in civil engineering, an MSc and a PhD in petroleum engineering all from the united kingdom. So as for not going far with school, excuse me I got the highest level of education already and my name is Dr Michael :)
dont just go about trying to find a place to hit people thats just not necessary. Like I said what my opinions are are exactly what i said. you got ur opinions? keep it to urself or share with people that want to listen. I understand the sort of person u re already so u can just go on trying to insult but truth be told am sure u got nothing and i mean nothing on me! deal with it and be happy..
Michael_Specter: Okay i shouldnt be conversing with you. Now i never said divorce was easy, i said it is an easy option. If u dont understand the difference then am sorry cant continue trying to explains simple english language stuffs to u. tot u said u were old and got all the experience and brains.
By the ways yes i am young. In fact I am really very young. I am 25 okay. I got a BSc in civil engineering, an MSc and a PhD in petroleum engineering all from the united kingdom. So as for not going far with school, excuse me I got the highest level of education already and my name is Dr Michael :)
dont just go about trying to find a place to hit people thats just not necessary. Like I said what my opinions are are exactly what i said. you got ur opinions? keep it to urself or share with people that want to listen. I understand the sort of person u re already so u can just go on trying to insult but truth be told am sure u got nothing and i mean nothing on me! deal with it and be happy..
lol you are a riot a minute lol.
I take it spelling, grammer and punctuation werent on the curriculum?
Still waiting for you to discuss anything rather than give your opinions are facts, is that actually going to happen at any stage?
Newagain: What do you know about me? Nothing! So how do you know if I made a silly mistake? As it happens I dealt with my mistake, I divorced it! You seem incapable of a mature discussion, so I will not respond anymore, its like talking to a ten year old. When we grow up we stop believing in fairy tales. The world is not black and white there are many shades of grey in between, you will realise that some day.
And thank you for the congratulations
you are absolutely welcome old one. I dont care wat u do with ur life cos i dont no u and i dont have people like u on my list. I might be a 10yr old so i still got a chance but i hope u dont end up alone 90yr old.. u obviously have this attitude in ur daily life that why u re were u are. Just make an effort to get a life missy
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