question....you have been dating a guy/girl on & off for last last 5 yrs n you split up & you decid (19)
I wouldn't waste my time with someone like that tbh, and wouldn't have returned his calls after this happening once or twice. 
You said he is caring, 
someone caring wouldn't do that to you.
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sweetp44: i live in a very rural countryside with my son, i met a man a year after my husband left (he had an affair for 2yrs) this man was caring & hard workin, but every so often he would just stop returning calls and txts, after 5/6 years of this happening i told him exactly what i thought & yet again he refused to contact me, i thought i would try computer dating site where i found my ex's profile ( his profile pic was 10 yrs out of date & his profile write up was, well it was a complete lie), i also found out that every time he stopped calling he was seeing girls from this site, what should i have done when i found this out???
I'd pick answers 1 & 3 and high tail out o there!!!
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KNenagh: I wouldn't waste my time with someone like that tbh, and wouldn't have returned his calls after this happening once or twice. You said he is caring, someone caring wouldn't do that to you.
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clarification please...
not sure if this is someone you see in real life, or someone you phone and text with only..
not really sure what type of relationship you have/had with this gentleman so not sure how to answer. did you discuss commitment? were you a 'couple' with partnership intact?
so...
you met someone
you met someone in real life
sometimes they don't return your calls or texts and you don't see them for a while
then you learn, when he stops calling you, he's seeing someone else
have i got it right?
why would you want to be with someone who is in contact with or seeing other women and keeping it a secret?
do you need to do anything?
maybe stop calling him? be open to finding someone who actually considers you in the relationship?
not sure if this is someone you see in real life, or someone you phone and text with only..
not really sure what type of relationship you have/had with this gentleman so not sure how to answer. did you discuss commitment? were you a 'couple' with partnership intact?
so...
you met someone
you met someone in real life
sometimes they don't return your calls or texts and you don't see them for a while
then you learn, when he stops calling you, he's seeing someone else
have i got it right?
why would you want to be with someone who is in contact with or seeing other women and keeping it a secret?
do you need to do anything?
maybe stop calling him? be open to finding someone who actually considers you in the relationship?
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jono7: clarification please...
not sure if this is someone you see in real life, or someone you phone and text with only..
not really sure what type of relationship you have/had with this gentleman so not sure how to answer. did you discuss commitment? were you a 'couple' with partnership intact?
so...
you met someone
you met someone in real life
sometimes they don't return your calls or texts and you don't see them for a while
then you learn, when he stops calling you, he's seeing someone else
have i got it right?
why would you want to be with someone who is in contact with or seeing other women and keeping it a secret?
do you need to do anything?
maybe stop calling him? be open to finding someone who actually considers you in the relationship?
not sure if this is someone you see in real life, or someone you phone and text with only..
not really sure what type of relationship you have/had with this gentleman so not sure how to answer. did you discuss commitment? were you a 'couple' with partnership intact?
so...
you met someone
you met someone in real life
sometimes they don't return your calls or texts and you don't see them for a while
then you learn, when he stops calling you, he's seeing someone else
have i got it right?
why would you want to be with someone who is in contact with or seeing other women and keeping it a secret?
do you need to do anything?
maybe stop calling him? be open to finding someone who actually considers you in the relationship?
I agree Jo and very well said.
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5/6 years?
The first time a call isn't returned, or promised time kept, or some promise was "forgotten", I get a heavy feeling in my tummy. But there is that voice that says, "Don't be like that. Things happen. People are busy etc...".
But here is the rub. You've already set the precedent. They've already learned how to treat you and it rarely changes from that point on. It is just a cycle of frustration and feeling like you're girl number 9 on their "contact list".
I have always given a second chance, and probably always will. To date, I've always kicked myself afterwards because I already knew how it would be.
The first time a call isn't returned, or promised time kept, or some promise was "forgotten", I get a heavy feeling in my tummy. But there is that voice that says, "Don't be like that. Things happen. People are busy etc...".
But here is the rub. You've already set the precedent. They've already learned how to treat you and it rarely changes from that point on. It is just a cycle of frustration and feeling like you're girl number 9 on their "contact list".
I have always given a second chance, and probably always will. To date, I've always kicked myself afterwards because I already knew how it would be.
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Kaybee50: 5/6 years?
The first time a call isn't returned, or promised time kept, or some promise was "forgotten", I get a heavy feeling in my tummy. But there is that voice that says, "Don't be like that. Things happen. People are busy etc...".
But here is the rub. You've already set the precedent. They've already learned how to treat you and it rarely changes from that point on. It is just a cycle of frustration and feeling like you're girl number 9 on their "contact list".
I have always given a second chance, and probably always will. To date, I've always kicked myself afterwards because I already knew how it would be.
The first time a call isn't returned, or promised time kept, or some promise was "forgotten", I get a heavy feeling in my tummy. But there is that voice that says, "Don't be like that. Things happen. People are busy etc...".
But here is the rub. You've already set the precedent. They've already learned how to treat you and it rarely changes from that point on. It is just a cycle of frustration and feeling like you're girl number 9 on their "contact list".
I have always given a second chance, and probably always will. To date, I've always kicked myself afterwards because I already knew how it would be.
i think folks often do have their own answers...but ignore them because they aren't the answers they want...and that can be men or women. instead of acknowledging the feelings..just as they are..i think some folks (and i include myself here) know at a deeper level that they aren't being respected or treated in the way they desire, but make excuses for the other, and let the undesired behavior continue...afraid of rejection if they speak out about it.
i agree with your post. if one has permitted themselves to be treated without respect..it's unlikely it will be reintroduced into the equation. if the relationship was working to begin with...then the respect would already be in place.
i also agree with a second chance as life does get in the way sometimes with arrangements or 'forgotten promises'.
but isn't there a saying...
first time shame on them
second time shame on self
or something like that...
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jono7: clarification please...
not sure if this is someone you see in real life, or someone you phone and text with only..
not really sure what type of relationship you have/had with this gentleman so not sure how to answer. did you discuss commitment? were you a 'couple' with partnership intact?
so...
you met someone
you met someone in real life
sometimes they don't return your calls or texts and you don't see them for a while
then you learn, when he stops calling you, he's seeing someone else
have i got it right?
why would you want to be with someone who is in contact with or seeing other women and keeping it a secret?
do you need to do anything?
maybe stop calling him? be open to finding someone who actually considers you in the relationship?
not sure if this is someone you see in real life, or someone you phone and text with only..
not really sure what type of relationship you have/had with this gentleman so not sure how to answer. did you discuss commitment? were you a 'couple' with partnership intact?
so...
you met someone
you met someone in real life
sometimes they don't return your calls or texts and you don't see them for a while
then you learn, when he stops calling you, he's seeing someone else
have i got it right?
why would you want to be with someone who is in contact with or seeing other women and keeping it a secret?
do you need to do anything?
maybe stop calling him? be open to finding someone who actually considers you in the relationship?
Sorry Jono but this has to be one of the worst comments I’ve observed you post.
Why not wait for a confirmation that would give you a better idea on just what type of advice to put forword?
It appears you followed the crowd and chose the worst scenerio and went with it.
Maybe he did keep it a secret and there was no commitment.
I think it’s called dating and if I’m dating more then one it’s not necessary to inform the other.
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hi purr 
i hear ya...
yes..i am waiting to hear more information and might of jumped the gun on this one.
question for you though..
would you continue to date someone for five or six years that doesn't return your calls?
that's the part that confused me...
but i agree, if it's a dating sometimes situation..then no one owes anyone any information.
i'd like to think after 5/6 years, there would develop a more serious commitment, no?
and no...not following the crowd...my opinions are my own, and thought you would know that about me by now..
i hear ya...
yes..i am waiting to hear more information and might of jumped the gun on this one.
question for you though..
would you continue to date someone for five or six years that doesn't return your calls?
that's the part that confused me...
but i agree, if it's a dating sometimes situation..then no one owes anyone any information.
i'd like to think after 5/6 years, there would develop a more serious commitment, no?
and no...not following the crowd...my opinions are my own, and thought you would know that about me by now..
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purr4mance: Sorry Jono but this has to be one of the worst comments I’ve observed you post.
Why not wait for a confirmation that would give you a better idea on just what type of advice to put forword?
It appears you followed the crowd and chose the worst scenerio and went with it.
Maybe he did keep it a secret and there was no commitment.
I think it’s called dating and if I’m dating more then one it’s not necessary to inform the other.
Why not wait for a confirmation that would give you a better idea on just what type of advice to put forword?
It appears you followed the crowd and chose the worst scenerio and went with it.
Maybe he did keep it a secret and there was no commitment.
I think it’s called dating and if I’m dating more then one it’s not necessary to inform the other.
When dating, but not in a committed relationship, it is acceptable to not return calls/texts?
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Kaybee and Jono.
Depends on the situation. What’s working for me at the time????
Again, the op stated dated, no commitment or partnership.
Depends on the situation. What’s working for me at the time????
Again, the op stated dated, no commitment or partnership.
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purr4mance: Kaybee and Jono.
Depends on the situation. What’s working for me at the time????
Again, the op stated dated, no commitment or partnership.
Depends on the situation. What’s working for me at the time????
Again, the op stated dated, no commitment or partnership.
Fair enough. Is this how you would like to be treated? Not having your calls returned?
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Kaybee50: Fair enough. Is this how you would like to be treated? Not having your calls returned?
Kaybee,not sure this thread is about what I purrrrrrfer
After having said that,
I think you already know the answer to your question.
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Five years of "off and on dating" with someone who is clearly not that committed is more than enough.
No blame to the guy necessarily. We haven't heard his side and it's not our business really, but if the relationship hasn't got off the ground in 5 years it's never gonna fly. Time to move on. Life is too short to waste on hopeless causes.
No blame to the guy necessarily. We haven't heard his side and it's not our business really, but if the relationship hasn't got off the ground in 5 years it's never gonna fly. Time to move on. Life is too short to waste on hopeless causes.
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Kaybee50: When dating, but not in a committed relationship, it is acceptable to not return calls/texts?
Yes, it is.
But of course, not returning calls is a message in itself.
It's sometimes the best and least painful way to convey the message that the person doesn't want to continue dating.
It depends on the people involved and their personalities.
If discussion tends to break down into arguments, a quiet exit is probably the best solution.
Maybe the guy's just a coward, or maybe he's just trying to end the relationship in the least painful way for you both.
Chances are it's a little of both.
In any case, it's over. Time to move on.
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RayfromUSA: Yes, it is.
But of course, not returning calls is a message in itself...
But of course, not returning calls is a message in itself...
Sorry Kaybee, I thought the quetion came from the OP. My response was to her situation and not to you.
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sweetp44: i live in a very rural countryside with my son, i met a man a year after my husband left (he had an affair for 2yrs) this man was caring & hard workin, but every so often he would just stop returning calls and txts, after 5/6 years of this happening i told him exactly what i thought & yet again he refused to contact me, i thought i would try computer dating site where i found my ex's profile ( his profile pic was 10 yrs out of date & his profile write up was, well it was a complete lie), i also found out that every time he stopped calling he was seeing girls from this site, what should i have done when i found this out???
What a dirty dog! *uck that loser! Move on.
There's no sense in confronting him unless you do it for self-satisfaction, which is understandable, because you're only gonna hear the same old *hit, LIES! Excuses!
Why bother, I would just dip out quick! Get the hell away from that dirty dog and move on to bigger and better.
Move forward, not backward.
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My rule of thumb in dating and/or relationships is this....
If I am not happy, I voice the reason why and it is discussed. If it keeps repeating and he KNOWS it irks me, it is over.
Simple. Don't fight for some-one who is not fighting for you!
If I am not happy, I voice the reason why and it is discussed. If it keeps repeating and he KNOWS it irks me, it is over.
Simple. Don't fight for some-one who is not fighting for you!
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It sounds like a long casual relationship to me. Did you two ever have the "commitment" talk? If you are not committed to one another than, thats all it is... a casual relationship. If this isnt acceptable to you then move on. Personally I wouldnt want to be with him after discovering all the lies on his profile...
People will treat you as you allow them too. If you decide to move on, then remember, the best revenge is living well.
People will treat you as you allow them too. If you decide to move on, then remember, the best revenge is living well.
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