what is a great first date (51)
sweetiefireball: Just wondering about what is the preferred date nowadays...
I voted for coffee only, nothing better than a good
cup of coffee to have a simple conversation.
Points for something different.
On a second date I once went to the Salvation Army Restore for some stuff I needed for my apt building and then to Ikea to look at kitchen cabinets for a kitchen he was remodeling.
I like a man that can think of something unusual to do.
On a second date I once went to the Salvation Army Restore for some stuff I needed for my apt building and then to Ikea to look at kitchen cabinets for a kitchen he was remodeling.
I like a man that can think of something unusual to do.
Jillll: Points for something different.
On a second date I once went to the Salvation Army Restore for some stuff I needed for my apt building and then to Ikea to look at kitchen cabinets for a kitchen he was remodeling.
I like a man that can think of something unusual to do.
On a second date I once went to the Salvation Army Restore for some stuff I needed for my apt building and then to Ikea to look at kitchen cabinets for a kitchen he was remodeling.
I like a man that can think of something unusual to do.
Seems to me you hit the lotto with him.
Jillll: Points for something different.
On a second date I once went to the Salvation Army Restore for some stuff I needed for my apt building and then to Ikea to look at kitchen cabinets for a kitchen he was remodeling.
I like a man that can think of something unusual to do.
On a second date I once went to the Salvation Army Restore for some stuff I needed for my apt building and then to Ikea to look at kitchen cabinets for a kitchen he was remodeling.
I like a man that can think of something unusual to do.
One time I took a new lady to Habitat for Humanity rehab for seniors in our city! I had volunteered for that before she told me what day she had available for a date! And she agreed to go pound nails as opposed to telling me to go pound pavement.
Another time and another lady, she went with me an the Eagle Scout model rocket launch that I had volunteered with.
Unfortunately, neither worked out in the long run.
iwil55: I voted just coffee because there is no "other, explain" selection.
It all depends on what you are calling a first date...
First there is a "first meeting". Wouldn't call that a "date". Personally, I like to get a face-to-face as soon as possible because anything less can hide the real you. For this I like coffee or a drink. Something that is easy to get in or out of, just in case there is no "spark" or chemistry or if there is any misrepresentation.
Now the second meeting is what I would call a first date. I would usually try to go for something a little different here. No movies - can't talk. No big dinner out - can't talk while performing the barbaric act of stuffing your face with food. No hard sport - too out of breath to talk. Usually no motorcycle ride as it is hard to talk over the wind and sound of the big twin-V. I prefer some kind of activity oriented get together, where we can feel comfortable, not self concious (i.e. no pressures), and talk. (Do you notice a pattern here? Sorry, I couldn't hear you.) It could be walking at a park or wilderness or beach. (Don't forget the picnic basket.) Going to a farmer's market to shop for appetizers that you can take home to prepare is fun. Go play pool or darts at a pub. Kind of depends on the lady and her interests.
Any takers?
It all depends on what you are calling a first date...
First there is a "first meeting". Wouldn't call that a "date". Personally, I like to get a face-to-face as soon as possible because anything less can hide the real you. For this I like coffee or a drink. Something that is easy to get in or out of, just in case there is no "spark" or chemistry or if there is any misrepresentation.
Now the second meeting is what I would call a first date. I would usually try to go for something a little different here. No movies - can't talk. No big dinner out - can't talk while performing the barbaric act of stuffing your face with food. No hard sport - too out of breath to talk. Usually no motorcycle ride as it is hard to talk over the wind and sound of the big twin-V. I prefer some kind of activity oriented get together, where we can feel comfortable, not self concious (i.e. no pressures), and talk. (Do you notice a pattern here? Sorry, I couldn't hear you.) It could be walking at a park or wilderness or beach. (Don't forget the picnic basket.) Going to a farmer's market to shop for appetizers that you can take home to prepare is fun. Go play pool or darts at a pub. Kind of depends on the lady and her interests.
Any takers?
Putt putt golf
Free outdoor concert or peformance (St. Louis offers 'Shakespeare in the Park' during the summer months), but spreading the blanket away from the crowd so that the music can still be heard as background music, but able to hold a conversation.
A stroll through the zoo or botanical gardens.
An afternoon at a winery or bicycling along a river trail.
Kaybee50: I have enjoyed the pleasure of many first dates.
I have two that I consider "best" though, and both totally different.
One of them, we met at the farmer's market in the old town part of my city and strolled by the stalls, he bought me a single rose, we shared a fresh white peach. As the sun started to set, we walked down the road to an ice cream stand, both of us ordered a sundae, and we sat on a park bench watching the trains go by, enjoying the cool breeze on a hot summer's night, and talking. How did this evolve? He ended up being my stalker, but that first date was good.
The other memorable first date was that I met a guy at a Tapas restaurant. He had arrived first, had the table chosen and met me at the door. I was quite nervous, as he and I had spoken by phone for several weeks leading up to this meeting and I already felt some pretty powerful stuff going on. He took great care in getting me past the blushing, stammering, fidgeting and as I grew more comfortable, neither of us wanted the evening to end, and I felt comfortable enough going to his home. He picked up a dessert on his way to his home, brewed some fresh coffee, and since his living room had no furniture, we sat on the floor in front of his fireplace and shared the dessert and coffee and talked...yes talked...until the sunrise. He asked if he could kiss me. It was such a magical moment as no one had asked first before. I left his home, went home and showered and changed clothes, met him at a park at noon, and that "first date" lasted for 10 days. We were together for a year.
I have two that I consider "best" though, and both totally different.
One of them, we met at the farmer's market in the old town part of my city and strolled by the stalls, he bought me a single rose, we shared a fresh white peach. As the sun started to set, we walked down the road to an ice cream stand, both of us ordered a sundae, and we sat on a park bench watching the trains go by, enjoying the cool breeze on a hot summer's night, and talking. How did this evolve? He ended up being my stalker, but that first date was good.
The other memorable first date was that I met a guy at a Tapas restaurant. He had arrived first, had the table chosen and met me at the door. I was quite nervous, as he and I had spoken by phone for several weeks leading up to this meeting and I already felt some pretty powerful stuff going on. He took great care in getting me past the blushing, stammering, fidgeting and as I grew more comfortable, neither of us wanted the evening to end, and I felt comfortable enough going to his home. He picked up a dessert on his way to his home, brewed some fresh coffee, and since his living room had no furniture, we sat on the floor in front of his fireplace and shared the dessert and coffee and talked...yes talked...until the sunrise. He asked if he could kiss me. It was such a magical moment as no one had asked first before. I left his home, went home and showered and changed clothes, met him at a park at noon, and that "first date" lasted for 10 days. We were together for a year.
So, the first date you shared sounded good, but not the stalking part!
But the second one...wow!! That's the kind of stuff that happens in a "Hallmark" movie! I enjoyed reading it, so thanks for sharing!! And I love it when a man asks if he can kiss me! (But it's pretty rare!) - they just usually go for it....but I'll admit, I have as well :)
Obstinance_Works: The supermarket. There's something really entertaining about doing your grocery shopping with a new woman, and if she's turns out to be a total rag, then at least you've done your weekly shop.
This was refreshingly funny....thanks for the
LadyLori: So, the first date you shared sounded good, but not the stalking part!
But the second one...wow!! That's the kind of stuff that happens in a "Hallmark" movie! I enjoyed reading it, so thanks for sharing!! And I love it when a man asks if he can kiss me! (But it's pretty rare!) - they just usually go for it....but I'll admit, I have as well :)
But the second one...wow!! That's the kind of stuff that happens in a "Hallmark" movie! I enjoyed reading it, so thanks for sharing!! And I love it when a man asks if he can kiss me! (But it's pretty rare!) - they just usually go for it....but I'll admit, I have as well :)
That first guy still renews his "focus" on me when we happen to cross paths, which is every few months or so. This is after 2 years. I am moving at the end of July, so at least he won't know anymore where I live.
And I just remembered with the 2nd guy, he asked first if he could hold my hand. The kiss came later. This is someone I knew before even meeting face to face that he had my full, undivided attention. After my 2nd phone convo with him, I had no interest in meeting or chatting with anyone else. I am that way, still to this day...when someone captures my interest, it is not in my nature to continue checking out other "prospects".
Kaybee50: That first guy still renews his "focus" on me when we happen to cross paths, which is every few months or so. This is after 2 years. I am moving at the end of July, so at least he won't know anymore where I live.
And I just remembered with the 2nd guy, he asked first if he could hold my hand. The kiss came later. This is someone I knew before even meeting face to face that he had my full, undivided attention. After my 2nd phone convo with him, I had no interest in meeting or chatting with anyone else. I am that way, still to this day...when someone captures my interest, it is not in my nature to continue checking out other "prospects".
And I just remembered with the 2nd guy, he asked first if he could hold my hand. The kiss came later. This is someone I knew before even meeting face to face that he had my full, undivided attention. After my 2nd phone convo with him, I had no interest in meeting or chatting with anyone else. I am that way, still to this day...when someone captures my interest, it is not in my nature to continue checking out other "prospects".
It sounds like you will be better off as soon as you move! Hopefully you'll "shake him" for good!!
And that is sweet about the second one :)
You're a good woman!
Kaybee50: Putt putt golf
Free outdoor concert or peformance (St. Louis offers 'Shakespeare in the Park' during the summer months), but spreading the blanket away from the crowd so that the music can still be heard as background music, but able to hold a conversation.
A stroll through the zoo or botanical gardens.
An afternoon at a winery or bicycling along a river trail.
Free outdoor concert or peformance (St. Louis offers 'Shakespeare in the Park' during the summer months), but spreading the blanket away from the crowd so that the music can still be heard as background music, but able to hold a conversation.
A stroll through the zoo or botanical gardens.
An afternoon at a winery or bicycling along a river trail.
Oh, I've done some of those too! Denver botanical in the dead of winter (its indoors and warm), American River bike trail or tubing in Sacramento, wine tasting (and espressos) central coast Cali. Great fun ideas. Can't forget gluvine on the walkplatz in Fankfurt or ...
In regards to the very first date I would hope that the guy and I would've discussed our interests and then plan the first date plans were.
I wouldn't want to agree to going on a date and then find out the he and I don't share similar interests.
I wouldn't want to agree to going on a date and then find out the he and I don't share similar interests.
iwil55: Oh, I've done some of those too! Denver botanical in the dead of winter (its indoors and warm), American River bike trail or tubing in Sacramento, wine tasting (and espressos) central coast Cali. Great fun ideas. Can't forget gluvine on the walkplatz in Fankfurt or ...
Denver dates, based on previous experience:
Going up to visit Buffalo Bill's memorial site.
Driving up into the foothills to a charming little abandoned mining town (Can't remember the name of it), for a slice of the best cherry pie in the world.
Seeing the dinosaur footprints by Red Rock Ampitheater.
LadyLori: It sounds like you will be better off as soon as you move! Hopefully you'll "shake him" for good!!
And that is sweet about the second one :)
You're a good woman!
And that is sweet about the second one :)
You're a good woman!
Good woman? I'm a royal pain-in-the-backside. Ask any guy who has gotten to know me.
The stalker guy...we both belong a group that has regular events and functions, and we have mutual friends as well, so he is usually at the same shindigs I attend. I will never be able to completely shake him.
I,m just a casual guy.....plan nothing.....perhaps decide to do something.....fishing/listen to muscic....watch a movie....what every takes my mood......oh.....you don't like that....????/emmmmm. next please......
iwil55: Oh, I've done some of those too! Denver botanical in the dead of winter (its indoors and warm), American River bike trail or tubing in Sacramento, wine tasting (and espressos) central coast Cali. Great fun ideas. Can't forget gluvine on the walkplatz in Fankfurt or ...
After a gluehwein or two, I'm usually crawling, not walking along the Platz.
Sharing breakfast in bed 
sweetiefireball: Just wondering about what is the preferred date nowadays...
That she actually shows up. That is a good start
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Apart a "movie", everything else is on the cards.And in the end the question is ..."""Your place??? or mine???""".
One that makes u think u can't live the rest of ur life without her or him
chris27292729: Apart a "movie", everything else is on the cards.And in the end the question is ..."""Your place??? or mine???""".
Almost…in this day and age the very last question is a variation of "Do you have or bring protection?"
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It all depends on what you are calling a first date...
First there is a "first meeting". Wouldn't call that a "date". Personally, I like to get a face-to-face as soon as possible because anything less can hide the real you. For this I like coffee or a drink. Something that is easy to get in or out of, just in case there is no "spark" or chemistry or if there is any misrepresentation.
Now the second meeting is what I would call a first date. I would usually try to go for something a little different here. No movies - can't talk. No big dinner out - can't talk while performing the barbaric act of stuffing your face with food. No hard sport - too out of breath to talk. Usually no motorcycle ride as it is hard to talk over the wind and sound of the big twin-V. I prefer some kind of activity oriented get together, where we can feel comfortable, not self concious (i.e. no pressures), and talk. (Do you notice a pattern here? Sorry, I couldn't hear you.) It could be walking at a park or wilderness or beach. (Don't forget the picnic basket.) Going to a farmer's market to shop for appetizers that you can take home to prepare is fun. Go play pool or darts at a pub. Kind of depends on the lady and her interests.
Any takers?