So THAT's why we're single! (89)
KNenagh: That is only something you know and can change.
All I expect from someone is being honest and I found that even that is impossible to get in most instances.
All I expect from someone is being honest and I found that even that is impossible to get in most instances.
Honest can be scary. I talk (you probably noticed!
) so communication is my main requirement. If he can't communicate, we're going nowhere. I hate guessing games.
truheart1941: .....is there a nypo......site.......
Speaking of....
skippyguy: BUT if i find someone does not care to put in similar effort, what is the point..???
Sometimes i find woman are not content enough to get to know a person, it has the be the Full Monty from the start...so to speak..
Sometimes i find woman are not content enough to get to know a person, it has the be the Full Monty from the start...so to speak..
Matched expectations is where it gets exciting - when you realize it is growing at a speed that is pleasing, not frightening. Someone who wants the whole 9 yards from the second date is scary as hell!
VivianLee: Honest can be scary. I talk (you probably noticed!) so communication is my main requirement. If he can't communicate, we're going nowhere. I hate guessing games.
I know, I don't do guessing as well and need clear announcements.
I'm trying to be as clear as possible and that does throw the locals a good bit.
VivianLee: Matched expectations is where it gets exciting - when you realize it is growing at a speed that is pleasing, not frightening. Someone who wants the whole 9 yards from the second date is scary as hell!
Quite true........it is, its a fine line at times, but at that stage i would be happy just to share likenesses, so more dates should not be an issue !
and yes mind reading is not cut up to what its meant to be in Regards to that Scenario !
KNenagh: I know, I don't do guessing as well and need clear announcements.
I'm trying to be as clear as possible and that does throw the locals a good bit.
I'm trying to be as clear as possible and that does throw the locals a good bit.
How about
* I just want someone normal who can be a best friend and lover IN MY OWN COUNTRY??
* I just want someone normal who can be a best friend and lover IN MY OWN COUNTRY??
I just want awesome and won't settle until he has the ability to curl my toes.....not just figuratively speaking, but literally!
Single, by choice, because I don't want just ANYbody.
Single, by choice, because I don't want just ANYbody.
REALLY,yeah right
Ric70: REALLY,yeah right
Are you speaking to me? at me? or not at all?
truheart1941: ...I want to settle down......but over here...I,m treated like a prize.bull.......being transported....from place to place.....just for breeding purposes.......I feel I,m being used....... .....................................................................................................................................
That is so cute and funny
I find that with any person the so called amazing does disappear as I'm not sure any of us are complete sweet little angels all the time. I suppose I am looking for a honest and genuinely nice and thoughtful person who is mature and thinks about what he says, or what acts come out of him before it does and me as well. As with most relationships it is in the never really being able to take back what is put out there that usually destroys the relationship in the end. So, being thoughtful, respectful, mature, flexible and gracious helps keep the union together. To me this is the greatest act of LOVE. As no matter how pretty he is today it will fade, just as all of us grow older. It is the gem inside that we cherish for ever. 
I think we're all guilty(myself included) of becoming so annoyingly analytical about his/her and our own movements regarding anything "potential", that either party can't be arsed making the effort half the time.
Why can't we just let things happen naturally? Connect and then let things flow. It should be just a natural process, shouldn't it?
Why can't we just let things happen naturally? Connect and then let things flow. It should be just a natural process, shouldn't it?
BerrySmoothie: I think we're all guilty(myself included) of becoming so annoyingly analytical about his/her and our own movements regarding anything "potential", that either party can't be arsed making the effort half the time.
Why can't we just let things happen naturally? Connect and then let things flow. It should be just a natural process, shouldn't it?
Why can't we just let things happen naturally? Connect and then let things flow. It should be just a natural process, shouldn't it?
Hiya Berry
I think you're onto something there as I was nowhere near as analytical when I was younger as I am now. I think with age and previous experiences, we might tend to tread more carefully. At least I know I do.2intrigued: Hiya Berry I think you're onto something there as I was nowhere near as analytical when I was younger as I am now. I think with age and previous experiences, we might tend to tread more carefully. At least I know I do.
Hiya Deb
Yep, as guilty of it as the next.
When I was younger I just used to dive in the deep end.
Now it is tentative steps down in the shallow end, toe check to see if temperature is ok first and then a painstakingly slow submerge. It's our(both genders) experiences. Shame, really....because there may be two likely parties who could really connect, but the walls are too high....and I am sure as hell over rescuing men from their caves, even if they want to be found?
BerrySmoothie: Hiya Deb
Yep, as guilty of it as the next.
When I was younger I just used to dive in the deep end.
Now it is tentative steps down in the shallow end, toe check to see if temperature is ok first and then a painstakingly slow submerge. It's our(both genders) experiences. Shame, really....because there may be two likely parties who could really connect, but the walls are too high....and I am sure as hell over rescuing men from their caves, even if they want to be found?
Yep, as guilty of it as the next.
When I was younger I just used to dive in the deep end.
Now it is tentative steps down in the shallow end, toe check to see if temperature is ok first and then a painstakingly slow submerge. It's our(both genders) experiences. Shame, really....because there may be two likely parties who could really connect, but the walls are too high....and I am sure as hell over rescuing men from their caves, even if they want to be found?
Same here and sometimes I just don't test the water at all because the wall is there. My rescuing days are done too so if someone wants to rescue me, they better bring a very tall ladder and a jackhammer.
BerrySmoothie: Hiya Deb
Yep, as guilty of it as the next.
When I was younger I just used to dive in the deep end.
Now it is tentative steps down in the shallow end, toe check to see if temperature is ok first and then a painstakingly slow submerge. It's our(both genders) experiences. Shame, really....because there may be two likely parties who could really connect, but the walls are too high....and I am sure as hell over rescuing men from their caves, even if they want to be found?
Yep, as guilty of it as the next.
When I was younger I just used to dive in the deep end.
Now it is tentative steps down in the shallow end, toe check to see if temperature is ok first and then a painstakingly slow submerge. It's our(both genders) experiences. Shame, really....because there may be two likely parties who could really connect, but the walls are too high....and I am sure as hell over rescuing men from their caves, even if they want to be found?
Perhaps it's because my expectations are unrealistic? unattainable?
Perhaps I'm the one that has placed the wall too high?
I dunno....but I'm doing my Math and something is not adding up.
2intrigued: Same here and sometimes I just don't test the water at all because the wall is there. My rescuing days are done too so if someone wants to rescue me, they better bring a very tall ladder and a jackhammer.
Reminds me the story of the apple tree.
The best, sweetest most delicious apples are found at the top of the tree, but always the most difficult to reach.
Are we asking too much of men Deb....to put in some spade work? some effort?
BerrySmoothie: Reminds me the story of the apple tree.
The best, sweetest most delicious apples are found at the top of the tree, but always the most difficult to reach.
Are we asking too much of men Deb....to put in some spade work? some effort?
The best, sweetest most delicious apples are found at the top of the tree, but always the most difficult to reach.
Are we asking too much of men Deb....to put in some spade work? some effort?
The best apples are found at the top of the tree and....
------------------------------WOMEN
------------------------- are like APPLES
----------------------on trees. The BEST ones
---------------------are at the TOP of the tree.
--------------------MOST men DON'T want to reach
-------------------for the GOOD ONES because they
-----------------are AFRAID of falling and getting HURT.
----------------- Instead they pick the ROTTEN apples
------------------from the ground that aren't as GOOD,
-----------------but are EASY. The apples on TOP think
-----------------something is wrong with THEM when in
------------------reality, they're AMAZING. They just
-------------------have to wait for the RIGHT man to
---------------------come along, THE ONE who is
---------------------------BRAVE enough to
-------------------------------CLIMB all
--------------------------------the way
-------------------------------to the TOP
------------------------------of the TREE...
2intrigued: The best apples are found at the top of the tree and....
------------------------------WOMEN
------------------------- are like APPLES
----------------------on trees. The BEST ones
---------------------are at the TOP of the tree.
--------------------MOST men DON'T want to reach
-------------------for the GOOD ONES because they
-----------------are AFRAID of falling and getting HURT.
----------------- Instead they pick the ROTTEN apples
------------------from the ground that aren't as GOOD,
-----------------but are EASY. The apples on TOP think
-----------------something is wrong with THEM when in
------------------reality, they're AMAZING. They just
-------------------have to wait for the RIGHT man to
---------------------come along, THE ONE who is
---------------------------BRAVE enough to
-------------------------------CLIMB all
--------------------------------the way
-------------------------------to the TOP
------------------------------of the TREE...
------------------------------WOMEN
------------------------- are like APPLES
----------------------on trees. The BEST ones
---------------------are at the TOP of the tree.
--------------------MOST men DON'T want to reach
-------------------for the GOOD ONES because they
-----------------are AFRAID of falling and getting HURT.
----------------- Instead they pick the ROTTEN apples
------------------from the ground that aren't as GOOD,
-----------------but are EASY. The apples on TOP think
-----------------something is wrong with THEM when in
------------------reality, they're AMAZING. They just
-------------------have to wait for the RIGHT man to
---------------------come along, THE ONE who is
---------------------------BRAVE enough to
-------------------------------CLIMB all
--------------------------------the way
-------------------------------to the TOP
------------------------------of the TREE...
Thanks for posting that.
By the time any man reaches us they'll need a cherry picker hoist.
Manually speaking, it'll be out of the question. They'll be past it, and so will we....
I'm off to have a cuppa. I'm currently reading Dating for Dummies, but the tips ain't working....
BerrySmoothie: Thanks for posting that.
By the time any man reaches us they'll need a cherry picker hoist.
Manually speaking, it'll be out of the question. They'll be past it, and so will we....
I'm off to have a cuppa. I'm currently reading Dating for Dummies, but the tips ain't working....
By the time any man reaches us they'll need a cherry picker hoist.
Manually speaking, it'll be out of the question. They'll be past it, and so will we....
I'm off to have a cuppa. I'm currently reading Dating for Dummies, but the tips ain't working....
I've got a super duper scissor lift on order as we speak and I'll let you borrow it first because I have all the time in the world.
I'm reading Cobwebs In The Attic for Dummies. 2intrigued: I've got a super duper scissor lift on order as we speak and I'll let you borrow it first because I have all the time in the world. I'm reading Cobwebs In The Attic for Dummies.
Yeah....I know that book. I lent it to you.
Your memory is fading dear....
That's good re the super duper whatever lift....because I feel my time is running out....I'll pay for freight costs....
BerrySmoothie: Yeah....I know that book. I lent it to you.
Your memory is fading dear....
That's good re the super duper whatever lift....because I feel my time is running out....I'll pay for freight costs....
Your memory is fading dear....
That's good re the super duper whatever lift....because I feel my time is running out....I'll pay for freight costs....
We're simply lost and need a brave man to take us by the hand... After he uses the scissor lift and yes, it's super.
2intrigued: We're simply lost and need a brave man to take us by the hand... After he uses the scissor lift and yes, it's super.
Dorothy clicks her heels....off to see the wizard!
I'll bring you back a cup of tea too dear and some yummy dunkin bikkies(slang for cookies....I dunno what you guys call them....but they are biscuits to us)
I'll catchya later...
I think fortune spins on a small pin head
It could be something just as simple as bad luck (or good luck depending on how you look at it)
By the way, great thread starting
It could be something just as simple as bad luck (or good luck depending on how you look at it)
By the way, great thread starting
VivianLee: It is incredibly easy to meet someone, but the hardest thing in the world to meet someone *special*. So - we all been there. Met someone good but no fairy godmother appears to wave a wand and make everything happen exactly the way we want it to. He's interested. She's interested. There's no obstacles that couldn't be overcome. And yet ...
Do we give up too easily? Ever walked away from something that could have worked?
Ever regretted it?
Do we give up too easily? Ever walked away from something that could have worked?
Ever regretted it?
BerrySmoothie: Dorothy clicks her heels....off to see the wizard!
I'll bring you back a cup of tea too dear and some yummy dunkin bikkies(slang for cookies....I dunno what you guys call them....but they are biscuits to us)
I'll catchya later...
I'll bring you back a cup of tea too dear and some yummy dunkin bikkies(slang for cookies....I dunno what you guys call them....but they are biscuits to us)
I'll catchya later...
Thanks for the tea and dunkin bikkies...we call them cookies but bikkies sounds better.
Catch ya later... 
Oh for first love: when there was no requirements, just girl sees boy, boy sees girl: we like! 
The process has been reduced to role playing..
Ego's loving other bigger, better ego's..
And not "I" loving "You"..
Ego's loving other bigger, better ego's..
And not "I" loving "You"..
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