If you did not have to pay child support would you? (56)

cristina: Feed them for Christ Sake!

lusciousmile: It's shameful, to hear of irresponsible adult parents. I hope I don't run into one of those.

mddljoe: speaking of folks that do
not pay...

i was blessed to raise my two children alone...

we never received monetary or emotional support from their mother...

now they are adults
she would like to build a relationship with them..

interesting dynamic...

BarrenPneuma: I pay 800 dollars to one ex and 400 to the other. I have spent 70,000 dollars over the past years to ensure my rights to have access to my children and regardless of the outcome (unanimously in favour of regular access) my exes follw the plan outlined by the courts until a few months pass and then I have to engage the courts again and again. I cannot call or even check their school records because they just refuse. Telling the schools without any documetation that they are the sole parent seems to work even when I bring in the court papers.
My mother died last year and my first ex has decided that even though it has been almost eight years she is entitled to the house. It has been thrown out of court multiple times already but she returns with a new direction each time. Now it is that the house is entitled to our children but in her care. Soon to be at a court near me for the low low cost of about 20,000 dollars.
When they decide to mutually attack me (odd that they never knew each other before but now party together all the time) they call the FRO (Family Responsibility Office) and report non-payments which freezes my bank accounts instantly. Even though all payments are through them. Any report is treated this way automatically even when it is clearly impossible. My payments to them come off of my cheques before I see a single cent. Three months of this early last year had me at a point where I could not even afford to eat. Then I get the typical phone calls laughing and explaining that they will not rest until I am dead and buried. My youngest son was horrified to see me one day on the street because his mother had told him that I died. He was cring uncontrollably in my arms and it damn near killed me.
Both of my exes have given up working for welfare. The first one and her boyfriend were arrested for half a million dollars worth of drugs, guns and other issues. He took the fall and went to jail for three months. Last year they vacationed in the US and Mexico, no border issues no nothing. I know people who have done three months for half an ounce of pot and no priors and to this day have criminal records that keep them tightly inside our Canadian borders.
The new ploy which has pushed my completely away is the FRO though as whenever I regain access through the courts they get involved (still have not gained a single penny back from the almost 15,000 dollars they froze). When my money is gone I cannot afford to feed myself so how could I in any good faith accept my children for a week with no food? It works let me tell you and I am done. I give up. In Canada a welfare lawyer is virtually undefeatable as the government does not want to pay for the woman and the child alone so they always get money from the man and even with all the issues on the mother's sides with drugs (both of them now) money talks in court here. Just keep paying and you win. I cannot compete with a drug dealer's salary no matter how hard I work.
I am leaving this country not to avoid payments but to free myself from all the headaches of these two hateful women. Oddly I have not spoken to the first in almost 7 years and the second in 3 yet somehow I am some sort of fisture in their imaginations.
I should have just killed the first one, I would be getting out of jail in the next few years and never would have met the other one. But then again I could never hurt the mother's of our children no matter what they do. It's why I gotta go.

countryangel79: I just went to court a few weeks ago about this issue first question out of the magistrates mouth to my ex is how are you supporting your child? His answer was I go and visit him when I have time. She didn't buy that answer and again asked him how do you support you son. He wasn't getting her point that emotional support is good but I did not make this child on my own so why should I the mother support him on my own I have never asked for anything money wise the court demanded it out of him. I do what has to be done monetarily, physically, medically etc no matter what the cost to me. I took the lowest amount that the court would allow and I still get greif for the fact that he was ordered to pay it by the court. He could have signed off on all his right and walked away

countryangel79: In fact him and his new wife are so bright that they think if they can just get me married then they will no longer have to pay support and that my spouse will support his child for him