know someone for a year and ask them out but they ignore your question!!! and put you off (25)
singleM1987: ive knowen this girl forabout a year and i have never asked her out tell now just wanted too take things slow she says she wants too be with me but when i ask her too be with me she ignores me and never answers my question
Then she doesn't really want to be with you....move on....
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"My suggestions is,is to move on...".
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Take control...ask her to dinner tomorrow night. If she says yes, great!! If she says no, then ask why not. Then you will get an answer. Good luck....
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Then she doesn't really want to be with you....move on....
I agree here , she doesn't. And you just go and have fun, and maybe then when she sees you enjoying life, just maybe she will change her mind. But I wouldn't count on it. Good luck with the next one.
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Then she doesn't really want to be with you....move on....
Agree'd, love is a mutual experience, not something that you can convince or force.
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singleM1987: ive knowen this girl forabout a year and i have never asked her out tell now just wanted too take things slow she says she wants too be with me but when i ask her too be with me she ignores me and never answers my question
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I didnt bother with the poll. If someone puts you off after you ask them out, then they just arent into you. Stop dwelling on it and move on.
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Da10th: Agree'd, love is a mutual experience, not something that you can convince or force.
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Da10th: Agree'd, love is a mutual experience, not something that you can convince or force.
Exactly...especially after knowing someone for a year...
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krimsa: I didnt bother with the poll. If someone puts you off after you ask them out, then they just arent into you. Stop dwelling on it and move on.
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krimsa: I didnt bother with the poll. If someone puts you off after you ask them out, then they just arent into you. Stop dwelling on it and move on.
EXACTLY
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mbcasey: Take control...ask her to dinner tomorrow night. If she says yes, great!! If she says no, then ask why not. Then you will get an answer. Good luck....
I think this is a better answer for you. Give it a try and if she blows you off....move on.
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I didn't know wether to pick # 1 or # 2 they basically mean the same thing to me.... But it means they don't want you that way.... that for sure...they were just being nice and ignoring you...
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The problem with pursuing something like this is it generally will give the impression that you are a little strange, possibly possessive or unstable. Most women are afraid of that and don’t want to deal with it. It’s very frightening or it can be. I’m not saying that you are this way or that you mean her any harm, it’s just how it can "appear". You don’t want to force her into a position to have to be mean to you.
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krimsa: The problem with pursuing something like this is it generally will give the impression that you are a little strange, possibly possessive or unstable. Most women are afraid of that and don’t want to deal with it. It’s very frightening or it can be. I’m not saying that you are this way or that you mean her any harm, it’s just how it can "appear". You don’t want to force her into a position to have to be mean to you.
The OP stated she said she wanted to be with him as well, so if possibly she didn't mean that, why say it in the first place?
Wouldn't that be a "game" in that case, or at a minimum, her being dishonest with him, and herself?
Why would she then have to resort to being mean to him? Why wouldn't it be better to ask the relevant questions and expect an honest answer? Nobody has to or should be made out to be a weirdo over something like that. I don't see how asking her would be in any way "forcing" her to do anything other than be honest.
Unless she never stated she was interested, then I could understand, but such is not the case, or at least according to the OP.
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kidatheart: The OP stated she said she wanted to be with him as well, so if possibly she didn't mean that, why say it in the first place?
Wouldn't that be a "game" in that case, or at a minimum, her being dishonest with him, and herself?
Why would she then have to resort to being mean to him? Why wouldn't it be better to ask the relevant questions and expect an honest answer? Nobody has to or should be made out to be a weirdo over something like that. I don't see how asking her would be in any way "forcing" her to do anything other than be honest.
Unless she never stated she was interested, then I could understand, but such is not the case, or at least according to the OP.
Wouldn't that be a "game" in that case, or at a minimum, her being dishonest with him, and herself?
Why would she then have to resort to being mean to him? Why wouldn't it be better to ask the relevant questions and expect an honest answer? Nobody has to or should be made out to be a weirdo over something like that. I don't see how asking her would be in any way "forcing" her to do anything other than be honest.
Unless she never stated she was interested, then I could understand, but such is not the case, or at least according to the OP.
I think she is playing games..otherwise why not answer and go with it...if she's really interested and wants to be with him????
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When you and this friend go out, is it the two of you or a group?
Do you buy her food and drinks or does she pay her own way?
Sit down someplace quite and ask her if she really wants to go our with you or just remain friends. Tell her you just want to know, so you can either start dating or get on with your dating someone else. That way if she does not respond, it is not because she did not hear you. It is because she does not want to hurt your feelings.
Best of luck
Do you buy her food and drinks or does she pay her own way?
Sit down someplace quite and ask her if she really wants to go our with you or just remain friends. Tell her you just want to know, so you can either start dating or get on with your dating someone else. That way if she does not respond, it is not because she did not hear you. It is because she does not want to hurt your feelings.
Best of luck
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mbcasey: Take control...ask her to dinner tomorrow night. If she says yes, great!! If she says no, then ask why not. Then you will get an answer. Good luck....
I agree with this as my answer too! If that dont work move on, BUT DO TRY THIS FIRST
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I say NEXT! Move on. Sorry but there is no sense in waiting for someone who doesn't really want you.
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seattle_girl: I say NEXT! Move on. Sorry but there is no sense in waiting for someone who doesn't really want you.
True, you can only get ignored for so long.
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singleM1987: ive knowen this girl forabout a year and i have never asked her out tell now just wanted too take things slow she says she wants too be with me but when i ask her too be with me she ignores me and never answers my question
I know that wouldn’t be easy for you to move on especially that you’ve been together for about a year. A relationship doesn’t work only from your side, your partner should want you as much as you want her and if she’s doesn’t want you, ask her why? If she answers you why, then you can make some changes about you and get back with her. If she even doesn’t answer you why, she’s not a logical person and that’s the best that you don’t waste your time and to move on.
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Polarbutterfly: "My suggestions is,is to move on...".
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I'd move on.
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singleM1987: ive knowen this girl forabout a year and i have never asked her out tell now just wanted too take things slow she says she wants too be with me but when i ask her too be with me she ignores me and never answers my question
Maybe you just left it a little too long to ask her out seriously.
A year is a long time, she is clearly fond of you, but probably not in a romantic way.
Move on as others have advised.
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know someone for a year and ask them out but they ignore your question!!! and put you off(Vote Below)