Should a person compromise who they are to be with the one they love? (119)
cameramanSt. Petersburg, Florida USA29 Threads 19 Polls 2,501 PostsI believe in "to thyself be true," so I can be around anybody and talk about anything without having to compromise myself. 
If she loves me and want me to be who I am not, then she really doesn't love me for who I am but only for who she wants me to be, which I will not.
If she loves me and want me to be who I am not, then she really doesn't love me for who I am but only for who she wants me to be, which I will not.
does compromise mean cooking again?
Well the obvious answer would be No. In my opinion yes yes yes I would change for the better in a second. I am proud to humble myself. I have been so self centered and egotistical growing up. I have always been entitled and a spoiled brat. I would love to change who I have been . Now that I am venturing on the second half of my life, compromise is something I respect.
dillinger: well, that's not really my fault, i'm an idiot, i don't know any better
I love this guy !!!!!
tennesseejudy: does compromise mean cooking again?
YES, BINGO
How would you ever Guess something Like that?
and
heatherhuntsman: Well the obvious answer would be No. In my opinion yes yes yes I would change for the better in a second. I am proud to humble myself. I have been so self centered and egotistical growing up. I have always been entitled and a spoiled brat. I would love to change who I have been . Now that I am venturing on the second half of my life, compromise is something I respect.
right on
ometimes whasts called compromise is actually growth
i used to live in van nuys
BOBANBOBAN: everybody said no, so my anwser is YES compromise
its for love
btw do you know Karate???
Ya thats what I thinkits for love
btw do you know Karate???
druidess6308: Absolutely, Petal. And it's what I give in return. Any changes I make come from within, and are ones I want to make. And I don't ask anyone to change for me, either. I either love them for who they are, or I didn't really love them, did I?
After all my relationships which have been only a few in the romantic area, they all lasted five years or more, I think changing for the better of the family etc. is soooooo smart. changing is cool.
prussiafox: er... that post was directed at Witchay...
Control is control... period.
Control is control... period.
There's a differemce in the motivations. But some women also have bad motivations. Here's a clue. If you look up sites about abusive men and abusive women, the psychologists all say that men who want to tell you what to wear are abusive. (Because they want to make their girlfriend into a status symbol.) Not so much stuff about that in text about abusive females. There's a reason for that. The two genders sometimes have very different motivations for doing what they do. And I never tried to get down on my exes and force them to change. That's not what I;m into.
Boban said Yes,
I will say yes too, as in my experience, we MUST be somewhat flexable to be able to adhere, to each other, and COMPROMISE IS LIFE AND DEATH of a relationship.....
Compromise..... is Critical to every Serious relationship, and if you are NOT WILLING TO FEX, it will Break, and Love will Drown, untill we learn HOW TO CXOMPROMISE< and let it Build the Bons of love that Can weather the Storms..... We all must be willing to Change Some,
And if you wont flex some, you will never Endure a Lasting Love.....
because you will be to busy defending all of your Habits and ways..... Meaning Many are too stubborn, to hold on to love! And Many will Loose it again! Thats my opinion, from My past experiences.......
I will say yes too, as in my experience, we MUST be somewhat flexable to be able to adhere, to each other, and COMPROMISE IS LIFE AND DEATH of a relationship.....
Compromise..... is Critical to every Serious relationship, and if you are NOT WILLING TO FEX, it will Break, and Love will Drown, untill we learn HOW TO CXOMPROMISE< and let it Build the Bons of love that Can weather the Storms..... We all must be willing to Change Some,
And if you wont flex some, you will never Endure a Lasting Love.....
because you will be to busy defending all of your Habits and ways..... Meaning Many are too stubborn, to hold on to love! And Many will Loose it again! Thats my opinion, from My past experiences.......
heatherhuntsman: After all my relationships which have been only a few in the romantic area, they all lasted five years or more, I think changing for the better of the family etc. is soooooo smart. changing is cool.
Thats what Im talking about
HotrodLarrys: Boban said Yes,
I will say yes too, as in my experience, we MUST be somewhat flexable to be able to adhere, to each other, and COMPROMISE IS LIFE AND DEATH of a relationship.....
Compromise..... is Critical to every Serious relationship, and if you are NOT WILLING TO FEX, it will Break, and Love will Drown, untill we learn HOW TO CXOMPROMISE< and let it Build the Bons of love that Can weather the Storms..... We all must be willing to Change Some,
And if you wont flex some, you will never Endure a Lasting Love..... because you will be to busy defending all of your Habits and ways..... Meaning Many are too stubborn, to hold on to love! And Many will Loose it again! Thats my opinion, from My past experiences.......
To compromise your core beliefs, no, but all the little things, of course. I would change as I can to make that special lady happy.I will say yes too, as in my experience, we MUST be somewhat flexable to be able to adhere, to each other, and COMPROMISE IS LIFE AND DEATH of a relationship.....
Compromise..... is Critical to every Serious relationship, and if you are NOT WILLING TO FEX, it will Break, and Love will Drown, untill we learn HOW TO CXOMPROMISE< and let it Build the Bons of love that Can weather the Storms..... We all must be willing to Change Some,
And if you wont flex some, you will never Endure a Lasting Love..... because you will be to busy defending all of your Habits and ways..... Meaning Many are too stubborn, to hold on to love! And Many will Loose it again! Thats my opinion, from My past experiences.......
Sometimes 100% compromise is the best way Out of trouble..
avecaim: Sometimes 100% compromise is the best way Out of trouble..
Not for me. I refuse to let men pull that on me. And if a girl wants 100 percent control of you it's probably time to run away screaming.
mnowsa: hey witchy, i promise i will let you cut my hair everyday..my hair grows too fast.
Cool, but I would like to see a picture of you before the wedding.
avecaim: Sometimes 100% compromise is the best way Out of trouble..
ill say who wants to feel not good enuf by someone trying to constantly fix them or make them better?
in my opinion
having been on both sides of that
i mean thats the underlying message
seeking lower companions
i could scold, fix or help them
all those made me feel better than them or 'good'
to dress up the dynamic of words
or else i picked those types of people and played the not good enuf but i want to try to be as good as you angle
its all manipulation of ourselves and the other guy
acceptance is the answer to all my discomfort today-with my self or others
Witchaywoman: Cool, but I would like to see a picture of you before the wedding.
i am ugly. but my HEART is full of love for pretty women. so you should have no problem
I think I said that all basackwards. I mean never compromise whom you are but put down the things that cause harm Strive forward as a determined individual 
USThumper: To compromise your core beliefs, no, but all the little things, of course. I would change as I can to make that special lady happy.
Zackly
HotrodLarrys: Zackly
really
avecaim: I feel you
I put the TRUTH on the line.......
The truth will allways stand, I never have to try to prop legs under it , for it to stand.....
The Truth will stand on its own
avecaim: really
Uh yea
Compromise? Not sure I would use that word. But I have and will if need be step out of my comfort zone and try new things with that man in my life. Who knows we may find things we enjoy that we never would have tried otherwise.
I won't change the person I am just to make him happy. But I don't have to change me as he does not have to change himself to experience little things that bring us closer
I won't change the person I am just to make him happy. But I don't have to change me as he does not have to change himself to experience little things that bring us closer
I don't know if I would CHANGE me. I know I want kids and I wouldn't want to change that.
avecaim: I don't know if I would CHANGE me. I know I want kids and I wouldn't want to change that.
As Thumper said, That is a Core value to you.....
Myself, I had kids , and they are Grown, and i do not want any more, so in a case of your core values, you need to find someone that also wants kids,
So That limits you to who would be your best match..... A jerk that wants kids, or a man that Loves you......
you must look for that in a man, Just because he also wants kids is no reason to think he is the right one for You..... But first you should find true Love..... Kid dont need unstable parents!
morgan5: No, if you fall in love with someone it should be for the person they are, to try and change them is wrong.
Doesn't mean there shouldn't be some compromise on some things tho
As always, Morgan is spot on!Doesn't mean there shouldn't be some compromise on some things tho
HotrodLarrys: As Thumper said, That is a Core value to you.....
Myself, I had kids , and they are Grown, and i do not want any more, so in a case of your core values, you need to find someone that also wants kids,
So That limits you to who would be your best match..... A jerk that wants kids, or a man that Loves you......you must look for that in a man, Just because he also wants kids is no reason to think he is the right one for You..... But first you should find true Love..... Kid dont need unstable parents!
Myself, I had kids , and they are Grown, and i do not want any more, so in a case of your core values, you need to find someone that also wants kids,
So That limits you to who would be your best match..... A jerk that wants kids, or a man that Loves you......you must look for that in a man, Just because he also wants kids is no reason to think he is the right one for You..... But first you should find true Love..... Kid dont need unstable parents!
absolutely not, I agree
avecaim: absolutely not, I agree
sure give something to think about tho
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