I grew up with both parents. Eventually as I got older my father seemed more like a brother and the older I got like a younger brother due to a disease he had that eventually effected the mind. But loved him dearly like a dad. He was the best!!!!!
Both bio-parents. I was in total shock when my 1st wife divorced me. I couldn't accept that. It simply was not supposed to be that way. All I ever knew was one mom, one dad. That's the only world I knew...total trust and unquestioned commitment...never a worry about coming home and no one there. The life I've lived is nothing at all like the loving family I grew up in. It was an idealistic life compared to todays accepted life styles.
I did not enjoy the step parent thing at all. I accepted step mom out of loyalty to my Father, and somehow felt that I was disloyal to my Mother. Later when my Mother died, it took me a long time to get over the guilt I felt.
Even though I get along with step mom today. There are still some little ripples of resentment. For example: Look on the walls of their home, you will see pictures of all three of my brothers. You will only find a picture of me in a drawer.
my parents divorced when i was 12 yrs old. and each one got an apt in the same building - mom on 1st floor & dad on 2nd floor. my brother & i were free to choose who we wanted to stay with, so we just went back & forth. it was easier then the 2 of them living together and constantly fighting and bickering.
I grew up being a pawn in my parents divorce game..I was passed around from relative to relative like a dube....by the time I was 13 years old I was on my own ...working a job at burger chef( lied about my age...it was easy in those days to get fake id's) I met and married someone much older than I and at too young of age....many mistakes have been made along the way due to this self taught way of survival...Never stayed in one school long enough to make friends... seen the bottoms of garbage cans and the insides of gas station bathrooms more than i care to remember.... I am not bitter about this as the lessons I have learned have taught me the most valuable of lessons... what is really important in this messed up world.. love..kindness..compassion...empathy... may i say humbly...I think i did a pretty good job raising myself in spite of it all.....
wow...I have never said that before actually feels good
No doubt Jodi... you've lived the life and know it's true meaning and value. KUDOS to you!
So many people take so much for granted and demand they have everything handed to them and to be catered to. You, my dear, are what life's all about... you found yourself and flourished from the things you were denied. Tho' I feel that I was blessed as a child I still sometimes feel that I had the same struggles that you had.... just because you have a family and a home does not mean that life is or has been easy. Money and material things don't mean shit when it comes to being happy.
but....this is not a sad story..it is one of encouragement....to show that no matter how the deck is stacked against you ....you can overcome.... it is from these times in my life that give me the strength to overcome the strifes i suffer today..........
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