If you experienced true love, you wouldn't be here. True love does not exist? Or does it? (52)

I am glad you added the disclaimer about those who lost because of death..I do believe in true love and I hope to find that again at some point in my life, I had a wonderful marriage of 22 yrs and would say yes it was true love, as I still love him with everything I got. But I believe that I have room in my heart for love again.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

If there is ever a question in your heart of any of these things...then it isn't true love.

These qualities can certainly be found in all truly loving relationships. The problem with trying to “find” love in our dating lives, is that too often we don't look for these characteristics. Rather we look at physical appearance, popularity, or wealth. These are not the qualities we should be looking at. Looking at the outward appearance does not love make...but looking at the heart.

Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action—true love.

I am on any dating site for friendship and playtime. A release from my everyday life....boooooring.

I am widowed twice....miss them both every day. And, if I was in a loving relationship...I most likely would still be on these sites for a different kind of enjoyment ie...diary threads and such. "whats love got to do with it?"

I'm done with my book now.

Beautiful answer Chatty....

Hey Ken man. Thanks.

And did I do you justce in that other diary thread? I think you are a catch.... keep on truckin....and...send all applicants my way...I'll take care of ya.

Well, according to your disclaimer, much of this doesn't apply to me. But then, I've also been divorced a few times. My first and third marriages I don't really count. They were mistakes. My second, though, I lost to his medication. He became a stranger...Mr. Hyde is what I ended up with, rather than the man I'd been married to for years and who fathered my sons. I still love the man I married, it's the stranger he became that I don't love.

True love can exist, and yet the relationship not work because people change and grow and sometimes they end up going in different directions. What you have posted is regards to an idealized love that some are lucky enough to find, but not all of us.