With actress Tilda Swinton declaring that three is company in her relationship, we explore whether giving up monogamy can set you free.
These days, when a bride floats down the aisle we think of a monogamous future in which she and her husband are blissfully faithful forever; anything else seems shocking, bohemian, perverse. Take the unusual and much-talked-about ménage of flame-haired actress Tilda Swinton. She lives in a large, rambling house in Scotland with her twins and their father, playwright John Byrne — and her lover, Sandro Kopp, a beautiful, shaggy-haired artist nearly 20 years younger than she is, sometimes lives there too. When pressed by reporters, she has called her arrangement "sane," which is about the last word most of us would associate with that kind of home life. "We are all a family," she has said. "What you must also know is that we are all very happy."
exploradorsmall village, Gavleborg Sweden113 posts
Absolutely, people change, inevitably get bored of each other with time. Why do we have to own each other? People should be together because they they want to not because they have to.
I guess to me I don't care whether it can work or not. It isn't for me. I don't share! I won't share! My faith and me require me to be faithful. To each their own!
Antjo39: Another option in your poll could be: People should stay single forever and screw or keep an ocassional companion whenever they feel like it.
I guess this is what keeps me coming back to the internet I find that people are so unique, different and has such variety that I enjoy the show. This is a large world and the characters in in produce great theater. Bravo!!! Huzzah!!!!
morgan5: Not a way i would want to live, think that would be a very empty existance
Some of us can start feeling the way you do and after experiencing life and broken dreams - a sort of awakening- migrate to the other possible conclusion of calm and life-enriching alonness.
Big_John: I guess this is what keeps me coming back to the internet I find that people are so unique, different and has such variety that I enjoy the show. This is a large world and the characters in in produce great theater. Bravo!!! Huzzah!!!!
Certainly your "normality" is a show too, though a boring one...
Antjo39: Some of us can start feeling the way you do and after experiencing life and broken dreams - a sort of awakening- migrate to the other possible conclusion of calm and life-enriching alonness.
I have had my fair share of broken dreams believe me, like many here but giving up i think is kind of sad
kissmedeeply: just someone trying to stir up the pot again
I wonder who is trying to do so? soemone giving his own opinions even if some pele do not liek them or another one trying to belittle others and after being replied firmly say in a "wise-like" tone "we choose our paths..." Hypocrisy.
And Mind you, we don´t really choose anything at all. We are just into the incontrollable whirl of life..
kissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada15,139 posts
Antjo39: I wonder who is trying to do so? soemone giving his own opinions even if some pele do not liek them or another one trying to belittle others and after being replied firmly say in a "wise-like" tone "we choose our paths..." Hypocrisy.
And Mind you, we don´t really choose anything at all. We are just into the incontrollable whirl of life..
explorador: Absolutely, people change, inevitably get bored of each other with time. Why do we have to own each other? People should be together because they they want to not because they have to.
I am sorry but this is typical swedish .. how can you have emotional security if you change your relationship like you change your lipstick?
I guess maybe for some people. But I couldn't have or would want multiple partners. And I have to agree with someone who posted earlier. Why get married?
namcazam: I guess maybe for some people. But I couldn't have or would want multiple partners. And I have to agree with someone who posted earlier. Why get married?
BUT...How many lipsticks is your pic wearing...? LOL
Here's one more....
wildprotector: I am sorry but this is typical swedish .. how can you have emotional security if you change your relationship like you change your lipstick?
exploradorsmall village, Gavleborg Sweden113 posts
wildprotector: I am sorry but this is typical swedish .. how can you have emotional security if you change your relationship like you change your lipstick?
i don't change them, i have them at the same time like you may have a few good friends at the same time and love them all. it may be several good long term secure relationships. nothing typical swedish in it and i am not swedish
You bring up a good point Pike. If both people accept that type of lifestyle, Why not. I personally don't understand it, but if that life style makes them happy in life, go for it.
Btw how far along, Are you on the wagon? Good to see you again.
namcazam: You bring up a good point Pike. If both people accept that type of lifestyle, Why not. I personally don't understand it, but if that life style makes them happy in life, go for it.
Btw how far along, Are you on the wagon? Good to see you again.
i had sme whiskey the other night for the first time in three or four months. still haven't had a cigarette. i really had no intent to never drink ever again. but, after the other night, i'm sure not in any hurry to do it again.
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These days, when a bride floats down the aisle we think of a monogamous future in which she and her husband are blissfully faithful forever; anything else seems shocking, bohemian, perverse. Take the unusual and much-talked-about ménage of flame-haired actress Tilda Swinton. She lives in a large, rambling house in Scotland with her twins and their father, playwright John Byrne — and her lover, Sandro Kopp, a beautiful, shaggy-haired artist nearly 20 years younger than she is, sometimes lives there too. When pressed by reporters, she has called her arrangement "sane," which is about the last word most of us would associate with that kind of home life. "We are all a family," she has said. "What you must also know is that we are all very happy."
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