Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work? ( Archived) (35)

Sep 2, 2009 9:25 AM CSTLiberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
cameraman
cameramancameramanSt. Petersburg, Florida, USA29 Threads 19 Polls 2,501 Posts

Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?(Vote Below)

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Married couples should have other lovers.
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10%
Married couples should remain monogamous.
66
84%
Undecided.
5
6%
Total Votes
79
With actress Tilda Swinton declaring that three is company in her relationship, we explore whether giving up monogamy can set you free.

These days, when a bride floats down the aisle we think of a monogamous future in which she and her husband are blissfully faithful forever; anything else seems shocking, bohemian, perverse. Take the unusual and much-talked-about ménage of flame-haired actress Tilda Swinton. She lives in a large, rambling house in Scotland with her twins and their father, playwright John Byrne — and her lover, Sandro Kopp, a beautiful, shaggy-haired artist nearly 20 years younger than she is, sometimes lives there too. When pressed by reporters, she has called her arrangement "sane," which is about the last word most of us would associate with that kind of home life. "We are all a family," she has said. "What you must also know is that we are all very happy."

- Harper's BAZAAR
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Sep 2, 2009 9:30 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
explorador
exploradorexploradorsmall village, Gavleborg Sweden6 Threads 113 Posts
Absolutely, people change, inevitably get bored of each other with time. Why do we have to own each other? People should be together because they they want to not because they have to.
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Sep 2, 2009 9:50 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
morgan5
morgan5morgan5chelmsford, Essex, England UK87 Threads 8,237 Posts
Depending on the couples involved maybe it works for some.

But if that is want you want (to have more than one partner) why get married in the first place confused
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Sep 2, 2009 9:53 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
Big_John
Big_JohnBig_JohnOcean Springs, Mississippi USA19 Threads 9,767 Posts
I guess to me I don't care whether it can work or not. It isn't for me. I don't share! I won't share! My faith and me require me to be faithful. To each their own!
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Sep 2, 2009 9:54 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
jvaski
jvaskijvaskiunknown, California USA115 Threads 11 Polls 9,576 Posts
Works great , if you don't mind dipping into someone elses sauce once in a while ...................uh oh
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Sep 2, 2009 9:55 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
It's not for me but I guess they do if both partners argree with it.

Why even bother to get married in the first place?
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Sep 2, 2009 10:30 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
giftmagic
giftmagicgiftmagicadelaide, South Australia Australia25 Threads 690 Posts
jvaski: Works great , if you don't mind dipping into someone elses sauce once in a while ...................



at least we know then don't we??
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Sep 2, 2009 10:49 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada70 Threads 15,139 Posts
I wouldnt get married if i wanted to go elsewhere..

Only one man for me...and that is my husband...

Some find out when they think it may be better to stray but then find out it wasnt worth it at all..

dunno
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Sep 2, 2009 10:51 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
morgan5
morgan5morgan5chelmsford, Essex, England UK87 Threads 8,237 Posts
kissmedeeply: I wouldnt get married if i wanted to go elsewhere..

Only one man for me...and that is my husband...

Some find out when they think it may be better to stray but then find out it wasnt worth it at all..
wave love the new pic joanne lovely to see Eric hug bouquet
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Sep 2, 2009 10:52 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada70 Threads 15,139 Posts
morgan5: love the new pic joanne lovely to see Eric


hello hun..

he knows i put it up..but not plsed becos he was so tired working and havent shaved for days...laugh teddybear
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Sep 2, 2009 10:55 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
morgan5
morgan5morgan5chelmsford, Essex, England UK87 Threads 8,237 Posts
kissmedeeply: hello hun..

he knows i put it up..but not plsed becos he was so tired working and havent shaved for days...
nice to see him because he was such great fun, and even better to see you two together and soo happy wine hug
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Sep 2, 2009 11:01 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada70 Threads 15,139 Posts
morgan5: nice to see him because he was such great fun, and even better to see you two together and soo happy
laugh yeh he has everyone just loving him here..they think he is so funnydoh grin
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Sep 2, 2009 11:11 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
morgan5
morgan5morgan5chelmsford, Essex, England UK87 Threads 8,237 Posts
Antjo39: Another option in your poll could be:
People should stay single forever and screw or keep an ocassional companion whenever they feel like it.
Not a way i would want to live, think that would be a very empty existance wine
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Sep 2, 2009 11:18 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
Big_John
Big_JohnBig_JohnOcean Springs, Mississippi USA19 Threads 9,767 Posts
Antjo39: Another option in your poll could be:
People should stay single forever and screw or keep an ocassional companion whenever they feel like it.



I guess this is what keeps me coming back to the internet I find that people are so unique, different and has such variety that I enjoy the show. This is a large world and the characters in in produce great theater. Bravo!!! Huzzah!!!!
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Sep 2, 2009 11:19 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
morgan5: Not a way i would want to live, think that would be a very empty existance
Some of us can start feeling the way you do and after experiencing life and broken dreams - a sort of awakening- migrate to the other possible conclusion of calm and life-enriching alonness.wine
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Sep 2, 2009 11:20 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
Big_John: I guess this is what keeps me coming back to the internet I find that people are so unique, different and has such variety that I enjoy the show. This is a large world and the characters in in produce great theater. Bravo!!! Huzzah!!!!
Certainly your "normality" is a show too, though a boring one...
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Sep 2, 2009 11:21 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
Big_John
Big_JohnBig_JohnOcean Springs, Mississippi USA19 Threads 9,767 Posts
Antjo39: Certainly your "normality" is a show too, though a boring one...


We each choose our own path in life. Mine is fine with me.
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Sep 2, 2009 11:28 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada70 Threads 15,139 Posts
Big_John: We each choose our own path in life. Mine is fine with me.


just someone trying to stir up the pot again
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Sep 2, 2009 11:28 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
morgan5
morgan5morgan5chelmsford, Essex, England UK87 Threads 8,237 Posts
Antjo39: Some of us can start feeling the way you do and after experiencing life and broken dreams - a sort of awakening- migrate to the other possible conclusion of calm and life-enriching alonness.
I have had my fair share of broken dreams believe me, like many here but giving up i think is kind of sad wine
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Sep 2, 2009 11:35 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
kissmedeeply: just someone trying to stir up the pot again
I wonder who is trying to do so? soemone giving his own opinions even if some pele do not liek them or another one trying to belittle others and after being replied firmly say in a "wise-like" tone "we choose our paths..."
Hypocrisy.

And Mind you, we don´t really choose anything at all. We are just into the incontrollable whirl of life..
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Sep 2, 2009 11:35 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
morgan5: I have had my fair share of broken dreams believe me, like many here but giving up i think is kind of sad
I appreciate your courage..wine
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Sep 2, 2009 11:36 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada70 Threads 15,139 Posts
Antjo39: I wonder who is trying to do so? soemone giving his own opinions even if some pele do not liek them or another one trying to belittle others and after being replied firmly say in a "wise-like" tone "we choose our paths..."
Hypocrisy.

And Mind you, we don´t really choose anything at all. We are just into the incontrollable whirl of life..


have a great daywave
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Sep 2, 2009 11:36 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
kissmedeeply: have a great day
You toowave kiss
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Sep 2, 2009 11:44 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
wildprotector
wildprotectorwildprotectorHobart, Tasmania Australia24 Threads 7 Polls 352 Posts
explorador: Absolutely, people change, inevitably get bored of each other with time. Why do we have to own each other? People should be together because they they want to not because they have to.


I am sorry but this is typical swedish .. how can you have emotional security if you change your relationship like you change your lipstick?
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Sep 2, 2009 5:45 PM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
namcazam
namcazamnamcazamPiermont, New Hampshire USA2 Threads 241 Posts
I guess maybe for some people. But I couldn't have or would want multiple partners. And I have to agree with someone who posted earlier. Why get married?
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Sep 2, 2009 5:46 PM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
namcazam
namcazamnamcazamPiermont, New Hampshire USA2 Threads 241 Posts
namcazam: I guess maybe for some people. But I couldn't have or would want multiple partners. And I have to agree with someone who posted earlier. Why get married?


I meant to type wouldn't...sorry
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Sep 3, 2009 2:54 AM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
BrainsNBeauty2
BrainsNBeauty2BrainsNBeauty2Hobart, Tasmania Australia12 Posts
Here Here!!!

BUT...How many lipsticks is your pic wearing...? LOLangel

Here's one more....lips
wildprotector: I am sorry but this is typical swedish .. how can you have emotional security if you change your relationship like you change your lipstick?
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Sep 3, 2009 6:25 PM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
explorador
exploradorexploradorsmall village, Gavleborg Sweden6 Threads 113 Posts
wildprotector: I am sorry but this is typical swedish .. how can you have emotional security if you change your relationship like you change your lipstick?

i don't change them, i have them at the same time like you may have a few good friends at the same time and love them all. it may be several good long term secure relationships. nothing typical swedish in it and i am not swedish
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Sep 3, 2009 6:30 PM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
namcazam
namcazamnamcazamPiermont, New Hampshire USA2 Threads 241 Posts
You bring up a good point Pike.
If both people accept that type of lifestyle, Why not.
I personally don't understand it, but if that life style makes them happy in life, go for it.

Btw how far along, Are you on the wagon? Good to see you again.
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Sep 3, 2009 7:24 PM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
pikengren
pikengrenpikengrenlake worth, Florida USA72 Threads 2 Polls 2,003 Posts
namcazam: You bring up a good point Pike.
If both people accept that type of lifestyle, Why not.
I personally don't understand it, but if that life style makes them happy in life, go for it.

Btw how far along, Are you on the wagon? Good to see you again.



i had sme whiskey the other night for the first time in three or four months. still haven't had a cigarette.
i really had no intent to never drink ever again. but, after the other night, i'm sure not in any hurry to do it again. grin

it just doesn't fit in with my schedule.

thanks for asking!
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Sep 4, 2009 5:35 PM CST Liberated in Love: Can Open Marriage Work?
namcazam
namcazamnamcazamPiermont, New Hampshire USA2 Threads 241 Posts
NP keep up the good workcheering
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