Worse Ratio of Women to Men in the world (203)
alexey8: Interesting...from reading your posts (Navygirl and Michael)...I was thinking, I wonder if we the individuals are the problem in getting dates, or is dating just something that is becoming harder to come by?
If you think about it, there are plenty of single men and women of all ages, all around the world. But, for some reason many of us still can't find a date. And for the most part, the people on this site, and I am sure other sites, as well as in reality are decent people. But, somehow many of still remain single.
I wonder why that is...
If you think about it, there are plenty of single men and women of all ages, all around the world. But, for some reason many of us still can't find a date. And for the most part, the people on this site, and I am sure other sites, as well as in reality are decent people. But, somehow many of still remain single.
I wonder why that is...
You are right. We certainly do have a part in why we are single. Maybe being too picky, maybe living in the wrong part of the world, or someting simple as our attitude. If I could figure what I was doing wrong, I would certainly try to change that about me. I guess all I can say is I am going to keep a positve attitude and keep the faith that he is out there somewhere for me. I want to keep my dream alive because if I don't what is the pointof living if you have nothing to look forward to? Life is too short and precious to give up on your dreams.
CjTenorSax: I would take the risk.
My parents were 18.5 yrs apart. Father, Elder.
My best friend from grade school through Hs, Her parents were 22.5 yrs apart. Mother, Elder.
Both of our Parents' had the strongest Marriages I have ever seen.
My parents were 18.5 yrs apart. Father, Elder.
My best friend from grade school through Hs, Her parents were 22.5 yrs apart. Mother, Elder.
Both of our Parents' had the strongest Marriages I have ever seen.
Wow, that is unheard of. I like to keep the age difference withint 10 years personally. I wouldn't feel comfortable with someone that young but that is just me. Also a man that young usually wants children and I don't and can't. These are things I have to consider.
alexey8: Well, I can understand Michael...when you have no date...once a week seems ideal and great. But, once you have a date, once a week seems not enough at all, that week long wait seems like forever. Our perspectives about dating change. And the more attached you become of the person and the stronger your feelings for them become, the more and more you want to be with them, and even a day can seem to long. So, I suppose it just depends on what stage you are at. Can't really compare to say one is easier or harder, or better. Although any kind of date is most likely better then no date at all, this I can agree with Michael.
Thank-you Alexey. I was trying to think of how to describe it. you have explained it very well.
The only thing I would add is that wait IS very hard for two people that are on the same page. . . But, if the two are at different places in terms of closeness, the person with the stronger feelings can go through he** if the other wants that closeness but is not there, yet or wants to wait on developing those stronger feelings.
navygirl1: You are right.
We certainly do have a part in why we are single.
Maybe being too picky,
maybe living in the wrong part of the world, or someting simple as our attitude.
If I could figure what I was doing wrong, I would certainly try to change that about me.
I guess all I can say is I am going to keep a positve attitude and keep the faith that he is out there somewhere for me. I want to keep my dream alive because if I don't what is the pointof living if you have nothing to look forward to?
Life is too short and precious to give up on your dreams.
We certainly do have a part in why we are single.
Maybe being too picky,
maybe living in the wrong part of the world, or someting simple as our attitude.
If I could figure what I was doing wrong, I would certainly try to change that about me.
I guess all I can say is I am going to keep a positve attitude and keep the faith that he is out there somewhere for me. I want to keep my dream alive because if I don't what is the pointof living if you have nothing to look forward to?
Life is too short and precious to give up on your dreams.
CjTenorSax: Thank-you Alexey. I was trying to think of how to describe it. you have explained it very well.
The only thing I would add is that wait IS very hard for two people that are on the same page. . . But, if the two are at different places in terms of closeness, the person with the stronger feelings can go through he** if the other wants that closeness but is not there, yet or wants to wait on developing those stronger feelings.
The only thing I would add is that wait IS very hard for two people that are on the same page. . . But, if the two are at different places in terms of closeness, the person with the stronger feelings can go through he** if the other wants that closeness but is not there, yet or wants to wait on developing those stronger feelings.
Yes, and that is what is so hard about only seeing the man once a week. We really seem to hit if off and already have a close connection. Time will tell really and fortunately, I keep myself busy between visits.
navygirl1: Wow, that is unheard of. I like to keep the age difference withint 10 years personally. I wouldn't feel comfortable with someone that young but that is just me. Also a man that young usually wants children and I don't and can't. These are things I have to consider.
I also have the same problem. I never carried past the first trimester. I had 5 pregnancies. Six miscarriages, The last were twins.
I also had many fertility problems resulting in ~ half or more of my surgeries to correct the problems.
Now, My fertility problems are stablized but age is my biggest enemey. At this point my most promising option will be with Donor Eggs.\
Throughout my late 20's and Early 30's I found that most Men became CommittmentPhobes when learning of my Fertility Issues.
CjTenorSax: Thank-you Alexey. I was trying to think of how to describe it. you have explained it very well.
The only thing I would add is that wait IS very hard for two people that are on the same page. . . But, if the two are at different places in terms of closeness, the person with the stronger feelings can go through he** if the other wants that closeness but is not there, yet or wants to wait on developing those stronger feelings.
The only thing I would add is that wait IS very hard for two people that are on the same page. . . But, if the two are at different places in terms of closeness, the person with the stronger feelings can go through he** if the other wants that closeness but is not there, yet or wants to wait on developing those stronger feelings.
Yes good add!
CjTenorSax: I also have the same problem. I never carried past the first trimester. I had 5 pregnancies. Six miscarriages, The last were twins.
I also had many fertility problems resulting in ~ half or more of my surgeries to correct the problems.
Now, My fertility problems are stablized but age is my biggest enemey. At this point my most promising option will be with Donor Eggs.
Throughout my late 20's and Early 30's I found that most Men became CommittmentPhobes when learning of my Fertility Issues.
I also had many fertility problems resulting in ~ half or more of my surgeries to correct the problems.
Now, My fertility problems are stablized but age is my biggest enemey. At this point my most promising option will be with Donor Eggs.
Throughout my late 20's and Early 30's I found that most Men became CommittmentPhobes when learning of my Fertility Issues.
I am sorry to hear that about you not being able to have children when you were younger. I didn't have children as I wanted my military career. Even if I could have children now, I really don't want to as I am involved in volunteer work and my bands, that it wouldn't be fair to the child. I am finding men in their 40s and 50s going through committment phobes too. I guess most have been burned with previous marriages so I say; sign a prenaup. Also I seeing more guys in the 40s and 50s want children. I would be 68 before the kid is an adult. Can't see me paying for an education on my old age pension. I don't think the guys really think this through when they say they want kids at such a late age. I heard a lady had a child at 60 something then died within a few months; now the kid is an orphan. Hardly seems fair to the poor child.
alexey8: Interesting...from reading your posts (Navygirl and Michael)...I was thinking, I wonder if we the individuals are the problem in getting dates, or is dating just something that is becoming harder to come by?
Well, I spent several months and several thousand dollars with a realtionship therapist talking and asking "What is wrong with me? Why does nobody I send a message to ever write back? Why do I go years without a single damned date?" and his conclusion was that there was nothing wrong with me that I should be a really good "catch" (non-smoker no children college degreed fit taller than average good career own my home on acreage etc. etc. etc.) and he had no explanation as to why I wasn't having any dates.
And he came so highly recommended too.
alexey8: If you think about it, there are plenty of single men and women of all ages, all around the world.
Not around Houston or the State of Texas apparently... CBS local news reported a few years ago that there are over 70,000 MORE single men than women in the Houston metro area. When I do a search on CS, and enter in just the most basic of criteria I'd prefer for a 100 mile radius (non-smoker, no children, not obese), I come up with only a handful of matches... most of which haven't been on CS in over 4 weeks, and none of which have ever responded to my message attempts. So I'm doomed.
If I could just pack up my stuff pick up and move... well, I wouldn't know where to move to even. But I can't, so... I'm doomed, I guess.
- Michael
navygirl1: I guess all I can say is I am going to keep a positve attitude and keep the faith that he is out there somewhere for me.
When you are actually having some dates (which, you are), it's alot easier to do that though hun.
As the saying goes, walk a mile in my shoes... then if you like them, you'll have a head start and I'll be barefoot!
- Michael
Michael211_2000: When you are actually having some dates (which, you are), it's alot easier to do that though hun.
As the saying goes, walk a mile in my shoes... then if you like them, you'll have a head start and I'll be barefoot!
- Michael
As the saying goes, walk a mile in my shoes... then if you like them, you'll have a head start and I'll be barefoot!
- Michael
As I said its only been recently. Its been 12 long lonely years.
navygirl1: I am sorry to hear that about you not being able to have children when you were younger. I didn't have children as I wanted my military career. Even if I could have children now, I really don't want to as I am involved in volunteer work and my bands, that it wouldn't be fair to the child. I am finding men in their 40s and 50s going through committment phobes too. I guess most have been burned with previous marriages so I say; sign a prenaup. Also I seeing more guys in the 40s and 50s want children. I would be 68 before the kid is an adult. Can't see me paying for an education on my old age pension. I don't think the guys really think this through when they say they want kids at such a late age. I heard a lady had a child at 60 something then died within a few months; now the kid is an orphan. Hardly seems fair to the poor child.
I too have seen guys in their 40's and up wanting children. Most have missed out on the raising of them in divorce.
I know that I will be quite up there or even not at all, if I were to have a child now.
That is why I would be open to the (right) much younger man because our child would at least possibly have her/his Father to raise him/her.
Also, a younger parent could marry a good woman again and the child would still have the love of two parents, even though the one bilogical parent was gone.
Michael211_2000: Well, I spent several months and several thousand dollars with a realtionship therapist talking and asking "What is wrong with me? Why does nobody I send a message to ever write back? Why do I go years without a single damned date?" and his conclusion was that there was nothing wrong with me that I should be a really good "catch" (non-smoker no children college degreed fit taller than average good career own my home on acreage etc. etc. etc.) and he had no explanation as to why I wasn't having any dates.
And he came so highly recommended too.
Not around Houston or the State of Texas apparently... CBS local news reported a few years ago that there are over 70,000 MORE single men than women in the Houston metro area. When I do a search on CS, and enter in just the most basic of criteria I'd prefer for a 100 mile radius (non-smoker, no children, not obese), I come up with only a handful of matches... most of which haven't been on CS in over 4 weeks, and none of which have ever responded to my message attempts. So I'm doomed.
If I could just pack up my stuff pick up and move... well, I wouldn't know where to move to even. But I can't, so... I'm doomed, I guess.
- Michael
And he came so highly recommended too.
Not around Houston or the State of Texas apparently... CBS local news reported a few years ago that there are over 70,000 MORE single men than women in the Houston metro area. When I do a search on CS, and enter in just the most basic of criteria I'd prefer for a 100 mile radius (non-smoker, no children, not obese), I come up with only a handful of matches... most of which haven't been on CS in over 4 weeks, and none of which have ever responded to my message attempts. So I'm doomed.
If I could just pack up my stuff pick up and move... well, I wouldn't know where to move to even. But I can't, so... I'm doomed, I guess.
- Michael
To be honest I dont know where to start here, not just on this post but on any of the posts I have read from your good self. First of all, self pity is no pity. I get the impression, rightly or wrongly that you feel you are to good for most of the women you are in contact with, and I get that vibe when I am only back on this site a few days. Yes a lot of women in your age group will be single mothers, its a fact of life.
Michael211_2000: Well, I spent several months and several thousand dollars with a realtionship therapist talking and asking "What is wrong with me? Why does nobody I send a message to ever write back? Why do I go years without a single damned date?" and his conclusion was that there was nothing wrong with me that I should be a really good "catch" (non-smoker no children college degreed fit taller than average good career own my home on acreage etc. etc. etc.) and he had no explanation as to why I wasn't having any dates.
And he came so highly recommended too.
Not around Houston or the State of Texas apparently... CBS local news reported a few years ago that there are over 70,000 MORE single men than women in the Houston metro area. When I do a search on CS, and enter in just the most basic of criteria I'd prefer for a 100 mile radius (non-smoker, no children, not obese), I come up with only a handful of matches... most of which haven't been on CS in over 4 weeks, and none of which have ever responded to my message attempts. So I'm doomed.
If I could just pack up my stuff pick up and move... well, I wouldn't know where to move to even. But I can't, so... I'm doomed, I guess.
- Michael
And he came so highly recommended too.
Not around Houston or the State of Texas apparently... CBS local news reported a few years ago that there are over 70,000 MORE single men than women in the Houston metro area. When I do a search on CS, and enter in just the most basic of criteria I'd prefer for a 100 mile radius (non-smoker, no children, not obese), I come up with only a handful of matches... most of which haven't been on CS in over 4 weeks, and none of which have ever responded to my message attempts. So I'm doomed.
If I could just pack up my stuff pick up and move... well, I wouldn't know where to move to even. But I can't, so... I'm doomed, I guess.
- Michael
70,000 That is terrible... 
I understand your problem with the local search here on CS. It seems very hard to find local people. And the ones that are nearby, are usually ones who haven't been online for ages. I am sure you have already tried these things, but I would say the most chance you have of meeting someone would be contacting someone that you have chatted to on the forums. Also, don't set a distance limit. I wish I could ofter good advice for you. But, I probably don't have any ideas that you have not tried. I know its frustrating. And I really wish you luck and to find someone.
CjTenorSax: I too have seen guys in their 40's and up wanting children. Most have missed out on the raising of them in divorce.
I know that I will be quite up there or even not at all, if I were to have a child now.
That is why I would be open to the (right) much younger man because our child would at least possibly have her/his Father to raise him/her.
Also, a younger parent could marry a good woman again and the child would still have the love of two parents, even though the one bilogical parent was gone.
I know that I will be quite up there or even not at all, if I were to have a child now.
That is why I would be open to the (right) much younger man because our child would at least possibly have her/his Father to raise him/her.
Also, a younger parent could marry a good woman again and the child would still have the love of two parents, even though the one bilogical parent was gone.
I never thought of it that way. Guess I am a bit selfish. I just want to come and go as I please. Heck, I don't even have pets as I just don't want the responsibility of taking care of them. I can pack up and go away for a weekend at the drop of a hat or get home whenever I want and not have to worry about taking care of someone. Figured I took on enough responsibility serving in the military, now I just want some time for me.
Michael211_2000: When you are actually having some dates (which, you are), it's alot easier to do that though hun.
As the saying goes, walk a mile in my shoes... then if you like them, you'll have a head start and I'll be barefoot! - Michael
As the saying goes, walk a mile in my shoes... then if you like them, you'll have a head start and I'll be barefoot! - Michael
Is that the rest of the saying?
My Da used to say that, but differently. He said that if you want to understand a person walk at least a quarter mile to a mile in their moccasins. However, most people would not even be able to walk 1/32nd to 1/16th of a mile in anothers moccasins so you can never really know.
navygirl1: As I said its only been recently. Its been 12 long lonely years.
Understood on both counts for each of you.
Well, actually...this might help or might not, I don't know. But, thinking back...I noticed that the best relationship I had, was one that happened when I was not looking for one. Actually, at the time I was not interested in getting involved with someone, because I had an idea of what I wanted to do the next year (involved going abroad) But, then I met this wonderful girl, and although I had no expectations and thought it would be impossible for her to like me, she indeed liked me, and we had a wonderful relationship. To this day it was the best relationship that I was in. The reason it ended, well that is personal and I will not post it in the public forums. But, the point is, that I found the best relationship when I was not seeking one, actually when I was trying to avoid one. And when I seem determined to find a relationship, it never works out. So, maybe just letting things happen naturally is the best way. Don't think you are doomed, because you are not. But, if you are constantly looking, perhaps you will miss the person that is for you. Its like when you loose something, often it is right there in front of you, but since you are looking so hard and trying so hard, you don't find it.
Well, that is the best advice I can offer you Michael, or anyone for that matter. Wish everyone on here the best of luck!
70,000 That is terrible...
Also, don't set a distance limit./quote)
Thats why I am looking elsewhere and distance would not be a factor for me; but that is just me.
Also, don't set a distance limit./quote)
Thats why I am looking elsewhere and distance would not be a factor for me; but that is just me.
navygirl1: I never thought of it that way. Guess I am a bit selfish. I just want to come and go as I please. Heck, I don't even have pets as I just don't want the responsibility of taking care of them. I can pack up and go away for a weekend at the drop of a hat or get home whenever I want and not have to worry about taking care of someone. Figured I took on enough responsibility serving in the military, now I just want some time for me.
Understood and there is nothing wrong with that.
alexey8: Well, actually...this might help or might not, I don't know. But, thinking back...I noticed that the best relationship I had, was one that happened when I was not looking for one. Actually, at the time I was not interested in getting involved with someone, because I had an idea of what I wanted to do the next year (involved going abroad) But, then I met this wonderful girl, and although I had no expectations and thought it would be impossible for her to like me, she indeed liked me, and we had a wonderful relationship. To this day it was the best relationship that I was in. The reason it ended, well that is personal and I will not post it in the public forums. But, the point is, that I found the best relationship when I was not seeking one, actually when I was trying to avoid one. And when I seem determined to find a relationship, it never works out. So, maybe just letting things happen naturally is the best way. Don't think you are doomed, because you are not. But, if you are constantly looking, perhaps you will miss the person that is for you.
Its like when you loose something, often it is right there in front of you, but since you are looking so hard and trying so hard, you don't find it.
Well, that is the best advice I can offer you Michael, or anyone for that matter. Wish everyone on here the best of luck!
Its like when you loose something, often it is right there in front of you, but since you are looking so hard and trying so hard, you don't find it.
Well, that is the best advice I can offer you Michael, or anyone for that matter. Wish everyone on here the best of luck!
Bingo! That is how it usually is. Very wise advice and experience Alexey.
I noticed that the best relationship I had, was one that happened when I was not looking for one. Actually, at the time I was not interested in getting involved with someone, because I had an idea of what I wanted to , it never works out. So, maybe just letting things happen naturally is the best way. Don't think you are doomed, because you are not. But, if you are constantly looking, perhaps you will miss the person that is for you.
Its like when you loose something, often it is right there in front of you, but since you are looking so hard and trying so hard, you don't find it.
Actually I have heard that. The guy I met was a bit of a surprise as I wasn't actively looking at the other dating site. Just sort of forgot it and he contacted me out of the blue. Figure its worth a try.
Its like when you loose something, often it is right there in front of you, but since you are looking so hard and trying so hard, you don't find it.
Actually I have heard that. The guy I met was a bit of a surprise as I wasn't actively looking at the other dating site. Just sort of forgot it and he contacted me out of the blue. Figure its worth a try.
alexey8: Well, I can understand Michael...when you have no date...once a week seems ideal and great. But, once you have a date, once a week seems not enough at all, that week long wait seems like forever. Our perspectives about dating change. And the more attached you become of the person and the stronger your feelings for them become, the more and more you want to be with them, and even a day can seem to long. So, I suppose it just depends on what stage you are at. Can't really compare to say one is easier or harder, or better. Although any kind of date is most likely better then no date at all, this I can agree with Michael.
Michael is frustrated because he can't find a date or at least meet a single woman in his city. He tried everything since 1990's and no success! He want someone who does'nt have kids in a previous relationship and someone who likes to rollerblade. All single women in Houston were taken, and that's really frustrating. But he doesn't want to try meeting women in another city or state. Navygirl took a chance. I think sometimes we have to take risks. You'll never know what's in store for you. Life is full of surprises.
In our country, men get married before they reach the age of 30 and women before they reach the age of 28. When I turned 25 and no bf, I feel so old already. When I turned 27 I met a guy I thought I was going to marry. I was wrong. When I turned 30, all the guys my age were all married so I can't find a date anymore. So I decided to live in another country thinking I can find single men my age. And the rest are history. That's why I'm suggesting Michael to try communicating to women in another
state if you can't find women in his location.
In my case, I live in NYC, and there's a lot of single men and women, getting a date is easy especially if you just want to get laid. But I rather not dating than dating someone I am not attracted to. For me finding the right connection or chemistry is hard to find. I don't know but they said the more you date, the more you get the chance to find what you're looking for. But I don't think it is. I tried to meet and date as much as possible and I can't still find the right connection.
CjTenorSax: Bingo! That is how it usually is. Very wise advice and experience Alexey.
Thank you 
navygirl1: As I said its only been recently. Its been 12 long lonely years.
Misery does not love company... Misery needs hope. And I'm all out.
- Michael
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......................................................Navygirl took a chance. I think sometimes we have to take risks. You'll never know what's in store for you. Life is full of surprises.
That is so true. I don't want to look back and say I didn't even try. Dating and falling in love is always a risk but is worth taking. All I can do is try.
That is so true. I don't want to look back and say I didn't even try. Dating and falling in love is always a risk but is worth taking. All I can do is try.
Michael211_2000: Misery does not love company... Misery needs hope. And I'm all out.
- Michael
- Michael
And as I have said in a previous post "self pity is no pity"
Kalimera: And as I have said in a previous post "self pity is no pity"
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Hey, is that the Crimbo Kid I just seen ride into town .......
Howdy there stranger...pull up a stool and have a
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Get real. Its not about being picky. A guy 30 dating a woman 50? He is young enough to be my son. What the heck would I have in common with someone that young? Yes, I take the risk, give my heart, and then he runs off with someone his own age. Gee, would never see that coming.
I am greatful that I can see this man once a week but I just wish I could spend more time with him to get to know him. So far I have enjoyed his company and would like to see him more often. The good thing is I keep busy with volunteer work so I don't focus on this.
I would take the risk.
My parents were 18.5 yrs apart. Father, Elder.
My best friend from grade school through Hs, Her parents were 22.5 yrs apart. Mother, Elder.
Both of our Parents' had the strongest Marriages I have ever seen.