Worse Ratio of Women to Men in the world (203)
langleygirl: Its very evident that this is a "bad time of year" for you .... its complaint after complaint in almost every post that you make. Its frankly off-putting that you have such a negative attitude and poor me attitude.
Perhaps you need to re-examine your checklist of what you seek - perhaps you are overlooking some wonderful people because you can't see beyond a few details.
Maybe you need a time out to get yourself in a better emotional state - negativity will only attract that to you. Get out and enjoy life - a happy person radiates this from within and it naturally draws people to you. Dwelling in gloom does the opposite.
Perhaps you need to re-examine your checklist of what you seek - perhaps you are overlooking some wonderful people because you can't see beyond a few details.
Maybe you need a time out to get yourself in a better emotional state - negativity will only attract that to you. Get out and enjoy life - a happy person radiates this from within and it naturally draws people to you. Dwelling in gloom does the opposite.
You took the words right out of my mouth. Every thread its one negative thing afer another with this guy. At first I was trying to help him with suggestions but now I see he just wants to pity himself. Oh well, its his choice. Me, I am going out to have fun and keep my options open.
cincinnati ohio is the lamest place on earth
stevieonup: cincinnati ohio is the lamest place on earth
Alaska has the worst ratio of female to males in the States, so be happy your not there?
your poll does not actually include all the continents in the world so perhaps instead of saying in the "world" in your question, you could have narrowed it down to the areas you were actually interested in? 
langleygirl: Its very evident that this is a "bad time of year" for you .... its complaint after complaint in almost every post that you make.
Not every post I make... go see the one with the sleeping kitten in the Photos forum!
langleygirl: Perhaps you need to re-examine your checklist of what you seek - perhaps you are overlooking some wonderful people because you can't see beyond a few details.
Only a few details? You don't know me too well... lol!
langleygirl: Maybe you need a time out to get yourself in a better emotional state - negativity will only attract that to you. Get out and enjoy life - a happy person radiates this from within and it naturally draws people to you. Dwelling in gloom does the opposite.
I find it really doesn't matter one way or another what my emotional state might be. I've read psychologist studies that men with women enjoy life and "radiate" happiness alot more than single men who haven't had a date in a very long time. Like you need a degree in pschology to figure that out?
Maybe you missed it, but I'm hardly the only single male complaining about the women or lack there'of on here. Note the title of this topic?
I think I'd enjoy life alot more if I just had a decent movie and dinner date every so often at least.
- Michael
navygirl1: You asked what made me decide to meet him. We chatted online and he seemed like a real great guy. Then we talked on the phone. Yes, he is far away from me but comes into Calgary once a week, so I will get some time to know him. Our first date went extremely well. He is a real sweetheart and extremely kind. I will take it day by day and see where it goes. I figure its worth the try. He has already mentioned he wants me to move to Vancouver, so I certainly would relocate. I really loved BC when I lived there and I was planning on moving back in the Spring. I just have to finish some renos and getting rid of stuff before the move.
Well good for you then!
I take it that this isn't the same guy who was showing you all his vehicle titles then?
- Michael
navygirl1: You took the words right out of my mouth. Every thread its one negative thing afer another with this guy. At first I was trying to help him with suggestions but now I see he just wants to pity himself. Oh well, its his choice. Me, I am going out to have fun and keep my options open.
Ummm... well gee thanks alot. I feel about 2 inches tall now... here, kick me again why don't ya?
- Michael
Michael211_2000: Ummm... well gee thanks alot. I feel about 2 inches tall now... here, kick me again why don't ya?
- Michael
- Michael
Sorry, it wasn't meant to hurt you. Its just all this negative feedback gets depressing. You shoot down every suggestion that anyone has made and find fault. Its as though you have given up. You claim you don't like being alone but you are doing everything to push people away. Do you honestly think you will find someone being so negative? We are all having a hard time meeting people and we are trying to be supportive and keep the positive attitude. Here is a test for you. Each day when you get up, find one positive thing to be happy about. Start with your health and go from there. Again, it wasn't meant to hurt you but enough is enough. Please don't dampen the spirits of those of us that want to stay positive.
Michael211_2000: Ummm... well gee thanks alot. I feel about 2 inches tall now... here, kick me again why don't ya?
- Michael
- Michael
I guess you have something negative to say about my LDR too. Go ahead as it won't dampen my spirits. Yes he is 12 hours away, but at least I am going to try.
navygirl1: I guess you have something negative to say about my LDR too. Go ahead as it won't dampen my spirits. Yes he is 12 hours away, but at least I am going to try.
No I don't actually... I wish you the best of luck with it, it sounds like a good thing to me. He lives where you kinda wanted to move back to anyhows... so, good for you.
You seem to think you know me, but you don't.
- Michael
Michael211_2000: No I don't actually... I wish you the best of luck with it, it sounds like a good thing to me. He lives where you kinda wanted to move back to anyhows... so, good for you.
You seem to think you know me, but you don't.
- Michael
You seem to think you know me, but you don't.
- Michael
No, I don't know you but have to form an opinion by what you write.
Michael211_2000: No I don't actually... I wish you the best of luck with it, it sounds like a good thing to me. He lives where you kinda wanted to move back to anyhows... so, good for you.
You seem to think you know me, but you don't.
- Michael
You seem to think you know me, but you don't.
- Michael
You know after giving it some thought, who am I to tell you not to be negative and depressed? Hey, knock yourself out. We all choose our paths and how we live our lives so I wish you luck.
navygirl1: Sorry, it wasn't meant to hurt you.
Yes it was.
navygirl1: Its just all this negative feedback gets depressing.
Read the Poll title again... Hello! If I was actually having dates or had a chance of having dates then I wouldn't have wasted my time posting my experiences on this topic. I wish my experiences were different... I wish Tiger Woods would have my experiences instead, he would be deserving of them at least. I on the other hand don't deserve this IMHO.
navygirl1: You shoot down every suggestion that anyone has made and find fault. Its as though you have given up. You claim you don't like being alone but you are doing everything to push people away. Do you honestly think you will find someone being so negative? We are all having a hard time meeting people and we are trying to be supportive and keep the positive attitude.
Every suggestion was either something I had already tried (sometimes for years on end to no avail!) or something I am unable to do.
On here, yes I have given up... I've been on CS for over 2 years now and it's a dead end. There's no point in trying to pretend otherwise. Why should I lie about it?
Who am I pushing away exactly? Who? My profile get's viewed by 2 or 3 women a day at most, thousands of miles away typically... read the poll's topic again! It's VERY bad here where I am. There're typically more women seeking women than women seeking men where I am... most of the women seeking men profiles are fake in my area! Don't ask how I know this.
Being positive never had any effect either... you think I got this way from being single only a few months or a year or two? Or that I'm just somehow between girlfriends?
Real good job of being supportive there hun. With support like this a guy could spend alot of time in the hospital with broken bones and internal injuries! Eeeek!
Finally, you don't seem to be having that hard a time meeting people from what I'm reading here... good for you. I'm not criticizing, I just wish I was having half as much success as you are. It is not the same experience, being a single male on here, as what you women experience. Not even close! I'm not saying you have it easy, but I bet any man you send a message to on CS WILL at least reply back and talk with you a little bit... walk a mile in my shoes, have the empty inbox month after month after month with nobody you've written to replying back. Then tell me how positive it makes you feel.
- Michael
navygirl1: You know after giving it some thought, who am I to tell you not to be negative and depressed? Hey, knock yourself out. We all choose our paths and how we live our lives so I wish you luck.
Oooh! Put some steel-toed boots on and kick me some more why don't ya?
- Michael
Michael211_2000: Oooh! Put some steel-toed boots on and kick me some more why don't ya?
- Michael
- Michael
See, you make such a big thing out of nothing. If I thought like you I wouldn't even be alive right now. I forgot to mention I spent about 8 years on about 7 other dating sites and no replies. Lets also add met a guy about a year ago and he not only verbally abused me but hit me so hard he almost broke my neck. So, I have had my share of a rough go, but I pick myself up and keep trying. If CS doesn't work for me, I will keep trying other dating sites until I do meet someone. I was on CS many years ago and never once got a date or even a reply. That is just life.
CjTenorSax: You both also have a friend here in Atwater, Ohio.
Thanks,its always nice to meet new friends. I was trying to get the point to Michael that he is not alone in how he feels. We all hate to be alone but can't dwell on it. I am just trying to stay positive and not let this get me down.
BlainX: There are NO nice women in this area!
lol
Very limited idea of the world
navygirl1: I am sorry you are going through such hard times.
I'm not looking for you to be sorry... you appear to be angry or frustrated with me because of my experiences, which just aren't good experiences when it comes to dating. Contrary to what you seem to think I didn't choose this... do I need to repeat all that I've tried already????
It's a heck of a list!I'd love to be able to talk about good experiences... but I haven't HAD any!
I'm not an angry divorcee with lots of baggage like children and such, and unlike yourself I'd be flattered to have 21 to 30-something year old women actually trying to talk with me for a change... someone who hasn't had children with Mr. Wrong (and Mr. Wrong and sometimes Mr. Wrong also... you just have no idea what I'm asked to deal with here I swear!).
Soon Tiger Woods wife will be yet another single mom... and I bet Tiger won't date single mom's but won't have any lack of women to go out with in spite of all he's done.
But I digress... as I said previously, being a single male on here is a totally different experience than being a single female on here apparently; we're ignored for the most part (as plenty of other men on here have complained about already). Is this somehow my fault... I can honestly say I was born this way! (a male, that is)
I've not been in a relationship, period. You've done much better than I from the sound of it. Practically everybody has me beat hands down already... try having no baggage at all, no ex's no nothing. I don't remember from 1 date to the next what a date is supposed to be like even, they're so far and few between here.
While I could be mistaken, I don't believe it's an LDR when the other person is coming into your area on a regular basis and going out with you and you've already been looking at moving to the other person's area anyhows...
Too soon to call it an R of any type really, but hopefully this leads to another R for you. Good luck. My hat's off to you!- Michael
Michael211_2000: I'm not looking for you to be sorry... you appear to be angry or frustrated with me because of my experiences, which just aren't good experiences when it comes to dating. Contrary to what you seem to think I didn't choose this... do I need to repeat all that I've tried already???? It's a heck of a list!
I'd love to be able to talk about good experiences... but I haven't HAD any!
I'm not an angry divorcee with lots of baggage like children and such, and unlike yourself I'd be flattered to have 21 to 30-something year old women actually trying to talk with me for a change... someone who hasn't had children with Mr. Wrong (and Mr. Wrong and sometimes Mr. Wrong also... you just have no idea what I'm asked to deal with here I swear!).
Soon Tiger Woods wife will be yet another single mom... and I bet Tiger won't date single mom's but won't have any lack of women to go out with in spite of all he's done.
But I digress... as I said previously, being a single male on here is a totally different experience than being a single female on here apparently; we're ignored for the most part (as plenty of other men on here have complained about already). Is this somehow my fault... I can honestly say I was born this way! (a male, that is)
I've not been in a relationship, period. You've done much better than I from the sound of it. Practically everybody has me beat hands down already... try having no baggage at all, no ex's no nothing. I don't remember from 1 date to the next what a date is supposed to be like even, they're so far and few between here.
While I could be mistaken, I don't believe it's an LDR when the other person is coming into your area on a regular basis and going out with you and you've already been looking at moving to the other person's area anyhows... Too soon to call it an R of any type really, but hopefully this leads to another R for you. Good luck. My hat's off to you!
- Michael
I'd love to be able to talk about good experiences... but I haven't HAD any!
I'm not an angry divorcee with lots of baggage like children and such, and unlike yourself I'd be flattered to have 21 to 30-something year old women actually trying to talk with me for a change... someone who hasn't had children with Mr. Wrong (and Mr. Wrong and sometimes Mr. Wrong also... you just have no idea what I'm asked to deal with here I swear!).
Soon Tiger Woods wife will be yet another single mom... and I bet Tiger won't date single mom's but won't have any lack of women to go out with in spite of all he's done.
But I digress... as I said previously, being a single male on here is a totally different experience than being a single female on here apparently; we're ignored for the most part (as plenty of other men on here have complained about already). Is this somehow my fault... I can honestly say I was born this way! (a male, that is)
I've not been in a relationship, period. You've done much better than I from the sound of it. Practically everybody has me beat hands down already... try having no baggage at all, no ex's no nothing. I don't remember from 1 date to the next what a date is supposed to be like even, they're so far and few between here.
While I could be mistaken, I don't believe it's an LDR when the other person is coming into your area on a regular basis and going out with you and you've already been looking at moving to the other person's area anyhows... Too soon to call it an R of any type really, but hopefully this leads to another R for you. Good luck. My hat's off to you!
- Michael
I agree its different for men here on CS. I am just saying I have had difficulties too. I am almost 50 and what am I going to do with a 30 year old; like seriously? Yeah I guess being in an abusive relationship is better than none at all; hmm may have to think about that one. Ironically the guy I met is from another dating site, so still haven't met anyone on CS. It is an LDR as we aren't in the same area. I only get to see him one day a week, so its not easy. Even if he didn't come down here once a week, I would try to take time off to drive down to see him if we do get into a relationship. I know 12 hours is a bit of a drive but I think it would be worth it if he is the right guy for me.
navygirl1: See, you make such a big thing out of nothing. If I thought like you I wouldn't even be alive right now.
I probably shouldn't be at this point. Other men, who've had more and far better dating experiences than I, have committed suicide from being single too long (by drugs or alcohol, if not outright). My pain runs deeper than you can imagine.
navygirl1: I forgot to mention I spent about 8 years on about 7 other dating sites and no replies.
Ok this is a contest that you WILL NOT WIN at! I've been on far far more for far longer than you. Do I need to list just the ones I can recall offhand yet again?
navygirl1: Lets also add met a guy about a year ago and he not only verbally abused me but hit me so hard he almost broke my neck.
Seems to be a common theme amongst women. So what've I done to deserve being this single compared to those guys? Nothing, that's what! Those guys at least would deserve to be on CS with an empty inbox every day for years on end...
Regards.
- Michael
navygirl1: I agree its different for men here on CS. I am just saying I have had difficulties too. I am almost 50 and what am I going to do with a 30 year old; like seriously?
Seriously... whatever you'd like to do. Gosh, and they say I'm too picky.
navygirl1: I only get to see him one day a week, so its not easy.
You poor thing... I wish I could say I feel your pain, but I can't. I'd be thrilled to have a date once a week... once a month... hell even once a year would be an improvement! I can't believe you're complaining about 1 day a week! *I* wouldn't even know what to do with someone 1 day a week! Geez!
- Michael
Seems to be a common theme amongst women. So what've I done to deserve being this single compared to those guys? Nothing, that's what! Those guys at least would deserve to be on CS with an empty inbox every day for years on end...
No they don't deserve to be on CS at all, they belong in jail which is exactly where I put the guy. This is not a contest about how hard it is to meet people. I could tell you horror stories. I have just hit the tip of the iceberg. Sum it up, the ratio of men to women here in Calgary is not good and there is no chance of me meeting anyone; I have accepted that. So I am moving to a place where there is a better ratio. Its a risk that I may indeed not meet anyone but its one I am willing to take. I have some female friends at ages 25 to 35 and who are going through the same thing I am so I am glad to know its just not my age.
No they don't deserve to be on CS at all, they belong in jail which is exactly where I put the guy. This is not a contest about how hard it is to meet people. I could tell you horror stories. I have just hit the tip of the iceberg. Sum it up, the ratio of men to women here in Calgary is not good and there is no chance of me meeting anyone; I have accepted that. So I am moving to a place where there is a better ratio. Its a risk that I may indeed not meet anyone but its one I am willing to take. I have some female friends at ages 25 to 35 and who are going through the same thing I am so I am glad to know its just not my age.
Michael211_2000: Seriously... whatever you'd like to do. Gosh, and they say I'm too picky.
You poor thing... I wish I could say I feel your pain, but I can't. I'd be thrilled to have a date once a week... once a month... hell even once a year would be an improvement! I can't believe you're complaining about 1 day a week! *I* wouldn't even know what to do with someone 1 day a week! Geez!
- Michael
You poor thing... I wish I could say I feel your pain, but I can't. I'd be thrilled to have a date once a week... once a month... hell even once a year would be an improvement! I can't believe you're complaining about 1 day a week! *I* wouldn't even know what to do with someone 1 day a week! Geez!
- Michael
Um, Michael, it is NOT easy to see someone once a week.
But as for what you would do? You start with conversation then go from there.
Try living in Lamont, Alberta.
I don't think there's one single woman out here under 70, and she's in a nursing home.
I don't think there's one single woman out here under 70, and she's in a nursing home.
Interesting...from reading your posts (Navygirl and Michael)...I was thinking, I wonder if we the individuals are the problem in getting dates, or is dating just something that is becoming harder to come by? If you think about it, there are plenty of single men and women of all ages, all around the world. But, for some reason many of us still can't find a date. And for the most part, the people on this site, and I am sure other sites, as well as in reality are decent people. But, somehow many of still remain single.
I wonder why that is...
Seriously... whatever you'd like to do. Gosh, and they say I'm too picky.
Get real. Its not about being picky. A guy 30 dating a woman 50? He is young enough to be my son. What the heck would I have in common with someone that young? Yes, I take the risk, give my heart, and then he runs off with someone his own age. Gee, would never see that coming.
I am greatful that I can see this man once a week but I just wish I could spend more time with him to get to know him. So far I have enjoyed his company and would like to see him more often. The good thing is I keep busy with volunteer work so I don't focus on this.
Get real. Its not about being picky. A guy 30 dating a woman 50? He is young enough to be my son. What the heck would I have in common with someone that young? Yes, I take the risk, give my heart, and then he runs off with someone his own age. Gee, would never see that coming.
I am greatful that I can see this man once a week but I just wish I could spend more time with him to get to know him. So far I have enjoyed his company and would like to see him more often. The good thing is I keep busy with volunteer work so I don't focus on this.
alexey8: Interesting...from reading your posts (Navygirl and Michael)...I was thinking, I wonder if we the individuals are the problem in getting dates, or is dating just something that is becoming harder to come by?
If you think about it, there are plenty of single men and women of all ages, all around the world. But, for some reason many of us still can't find a date. And for the most part, the people on this site, and I am sure other sites, as well as in reality are decent people. But, somehow many of still remain single.
I wonder why that is...
If you think about it, there are plenty of single men and women of all ages, all around the world. But, for some reason many of us still can't find a date. And for the most part, the people on this site, and I am sure other sites, as well as in reality are decent people. But, somehow many of still remain single.
I wonder why that is...
Choices....too many, too little, whatever you want to see, it will be.
Happily single.
CjTenorSax: Um, Michael, it is NOT easy to see someone once a week.
But as for what you would do? You start with conversation then go from there.
But as for what you would do? You start with conversation then go from there.
Well, I can understand Michael...when you have no date...once a week seems ideal and great. But, once you have a date, once a week seems not enough at all, that week long wait seems like forever. Our perspectives about dating change. And the more attached you become of the person and the stronger your feelings for them become, the more and more you want to be with them, and even a day can seem to long. So, I suppose it just depends on what stage you are at. Can't really compare to say one is easier or harder, or better. Although any kind of date is most likely better then no date at all, this I can agree with Michael.
kidatheart: Choices....too many, too little, whatever you want to see, it will be.
Happily single.
Happily single.
yes, that is a pretty good answer actually. 
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Congratulations! That's a really good news! Maybe he's the one you're waiting for. What made you decide to talk and meet him? He's so far away from you. You are so right, it's better to meet someone far than sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself because you can't find someone in your city just like Michael
I would consider that also, meeting someone from another city or state, but not from another country. It does work to some people. If you have chemistry chances are you'll be inseparable and one of you have to relocate. And I believe most likely women are the one who relocate. Just like my mother, she lived 6 hrs dirve to my father's town and she relocate after they got married.
So goodluck to you new found Keep us posted!
You asked what made me decide to meet him. We chatted online and he seemed like a real great guy. Then we talked on the phone. Yes, he is far away from me but comes into Calgary once a week, so I will get some time to know him. Our first date went extremely well. He is a real sweetheart and extremely kind. I will take it day by day and see where it goes. I figure its worth the try. He has already mentioned he wants me to move to Vancouver, so I certainly would relocate. I really loved BC when I lived there and I was planning on moving back in the Spring. I just have to finish some renos and getting rid of stuff before the move.