Have you ever been to a speed dating night? ( Archived) (34)

Thank you. No, I've never tried/seen/heard of that. Could be weird, could be fun... depends on the general vibe in the room.


Jan-- that pic you have posted is absolutely LOVELY btw!

Thank you sweet lady.

No never, how is it arranged?

I have never tried this but i think the whole idea is based on the concept that you know within a minute or so of meeting someone if there is a connection or not
So three minutes with each person is considered ample time to make a judgement and meeting up to 15 people ,for example, should be odds on for a result
I am not convinced though
Ref who arranges this,i suppose anyone could set this up themselves, you would just need a venue and a bit of advertising

I think I would at least let a date take through an entire dinner date to reject me rather than being booted in 5 minutes in speed dating.

Wondering if they have snail dating for those of us who are less evolved?

I wonder what a lady would think if you invited her out for a 5 minute speed date--one-on-one? Ask her for a coffee at Starbuck and when the coffee is done the date is over!!! Probably would be weird....

Sounds kind of like those "throw aways" we talked about so long ago. Disposable dates?

I ain't?????

You bad...

I have found out that I enjoy dates that start in the mid-afternoon and last late into the evening. Gives you plenty of time to learn about a person and to truly get quality time. Usuallly after a 6, 7 or 10 hour date I find I know quite a bit about them.

I do know whether the chemistry and spark is there or not in the first 5 minutes.

If it isn't there, what the heck do you do for the other nine hours?

In my experience, and from what I have gleaned from others, what tends to happen is that there might be 15 men, 15 women, and either the men move around the tables or the women, every three mins.

Belive it or not, sometimes it can be a LONG three mins, and I have to admit, you approach a table sometimes and think 'Oh, FFS, I need to get this 180 seconds over with'.... Just being honest! Anyway, the problem is that by the time you get to the 6th person, it gets sort of samey, having the superficial chat that you can have with anyone, in three mins. You get a bit tired by how repetitive it is, by the end.

If you see someone who appeals, you tick them, and that works if they like you.

Next day, you log on, and if ticks mate, phone numbers are released to both.

I do not think I would have the confidence to try it, my ego would get such a kick if nobody ticked my box. I think under pressure of three minutes I would be ummmm, errrrm for three minutes. However, my friend met his wife on one of these. Me, I could not take the rejection especially based on an artificial 3 minutes. Not for me but some people must get results.

Good points.

However, given how artificial it can be, would this perceived rejection actually count?

Surely the only kind that matters, is when those you love reject you?

Besides, how do you know, you might get a fair % of ticks, and get a boost..?

Me either! I couldn't do it. I tend to base relationships on friendship, not first impressions. I would also feel like a total jerk.


But hey...if it works for some, have at it!

Tbh, I thought that before I went.

The penny soon drops that you cannot look like a jerk, since everyone else there is in the same gig!

Maybe for you, but I'm certain it would be a disaster for me. I would be the one with toilet paper stuck to her shoe...the one who trips on her way to the table, spilling my drink all over the poor guy in the process while tipping my pocketbook and looking on in horror as tampons and God-Knows-What get flown about the room...

Wouldnt mind trying it... I'd be well surprised if I met the woman of my life there though.. but pretty much same chance there as anywhere else I suppose =)