Should I risk rejection and ask out the guy I like?! (164)
felixis99simplicity, Ohio USA139 Threads 2 Polls 13,363 Postsdavpk10: We pursue cause if we didn't ...we would never get any....not cause we like to....
whatever
venusenvy: Maybe you wouldnt...but I would, Ive read many times on this site how much men like it, are flattered. and wish women asked more often.
IDC - to me it just sounds like they want us to make it easy for them...like they want us to do everything - ask them out, pay, work FT, do the housework, take care of the kids while they scratch their crotches and watch nascar and football - uh uh
felixis99: IDC - to me it just sounds like they want us to make it easy for them...like they want us to do everything - ask them out, pay, work FT, do the housework, take care of the kids while they scratch their crotches and watch nascar and football - uh uh
You forgot washing the car, darning the socks and mowing the lawn. You clearly haven't been properly trained.
DodgeBabe: Do they?
From what I've experienced and heard, a lot of men actually love being the pursued instead of the pursuer..
I dont think it should be up to the guy all the time. Guys have nerves too; we have to do our bit also, in my opinion.
From what I've experienced and heard, a lot of men actually love being the pursued instead of the pursuer..
I dont think it should be up to the guy all the time. Guys have nerves too; we have to do our bit also, in my opinion.
men r flattered by some pursuit, but it won't last if u keep on & they'll tire of there being no challenge
now I am talking about the beginning stages - it's different if u have been together awhile IMO
u can let them talk u into doing their work - fine - but I don't buy into it
felixis99: IDC - to me it just sounds like they want us to make it easy for them...like they want us to do everything - ask them out, pay, work FT, do the housework, take care of the kids while they scratch their crotches and watch nascar and football - uh uh
And you think this is a bad way?..
Sounds about fair to me....
gardenhackle: You forgot washing the car, darning the socks and mowing the lawn. You clearly haven't been properly trained.
davpk10: And you think this is a bad way?..
Sounds about fair to me....
ya & u def look the part there pool boySounds about fair to me....
felixis99: men r flattered by some pursuit, but it won't last if u keep on & they'll tire of there being no challenge
now I am talking about the beginning stages - it's different if u have been together awhile IMO
u can let them talk u into doing their work - fine - but I don't buy into it
now I am talking about the beginning stages - it's different if u have been together awhile IMO
u can let them talk u into doing their work - fine - but I don't buy into it
Just because I ask a man out, doesnt mean he wont be...challenged.
felixis99: ya & u def look the part there pool boy
Thanks...
Now bring me another beer ,and don't forget the pretzels...and be quick about it ...and maybe ,just maybe mind you ,I'll let you use the automatic dishwasher tomorrow....
davpk10: Thanks... Now bring me another beer ,and don't forget the pretzels...and be quick about it ...and maybe ,just maybe mind you ,I'll let you use the automatic dishwasher tomorrow....
will slap my butt a little when I bend over t ohand u ur beer?
felixis99: it always suits me. If I could be paid t obe a 50s housewife I'd do it in a minute, but IDK any men who could afford the salary
Might I also respectfully suggest you jump into the decade already! Its not the 50's anymore wake up and smell 2010. Women ask men out all the time. Ive yet to see one react negativly. Women go after what they want in life ...and so they should.
Thanks for all your suggestions guys ... I totally bottled it today though 
I'm soooooo stupid!!!!!
I'm soooooo stupid!!!!!
Orla2010: Thanks for all your suggestions guys ... I totally bottled it today though
I'm soooooo stupid!!!!!
Not too worry Orla , if its to happen u will get the strenght I'm soooooo stupid!!!!!
Orla2010: Thanks for all your suggestions guys ... I totally bottled it today though
I'm soooooo stupid!!!!!
I'm soooooo stupid!!!!!
well there`s always tomorrow..or the day after..or the next...dont give up....
Restless_Rebel: What happened? Do you mean, you blew it? Did you ask him?
YOU'RE NOT STUPID!!
YOU'RE NOT STUPID!!
No, when I say I bottled it I mean I didn't ask him
Oh.... the agony of unrequited lust! 
I had an opportunity but it just seemed like the words froze in my mouth and refused to come out ...
Orla2010: No, when I say I bottled it I mean I didn't ask him Oh.... the agony of unrequited lust!
I had an opportunity but it just seemed like the words froze in my mouth and refused to come out ...
I had an opportunity but it just seemed like the words froze in my mouth and refused to come out ...
O...your nerving yourself out...we all do that...For me the best thing is to not think about it, dont rehearse, just walk up and do it!
Orla2010: No, when I say I bottled it I mean I didn't ask him Oh.... the agony of unrequited lust!
I had an opportunity but it just seemed like the words froze in my mouth and refused to come out ...
I had an opportunity but it just seemed like the words froze in my mouth and refused to come out ...
Orla, are you getting any vibes from him? One way or the other? Can you sort of feel him out without coming right out and asking him out?
Maybe, you could trip and fall down in front of him, make it look good(but don't actually hurt yourself)grimace and wince a bit and see how he reacts. If he's really, really concerned then he might keep coming around you more checking on you and one thing could lead to another(like chat him out a bit), eh?
You've got me on tenterhooks wondering how this is all going to turn out. I'm cheering for ya!!!
Restless_Rebel: Orla, are you getting any vibes from him? One way or the other? Can you sort of feel him out without coming right out and asking him out?
Maybe, you could trip and fall down in front of him, make it look good(but don't actually hurt yourself)grimace and wince a bit and see how he reacts. If he's really, really concerned then he might keep coming around you more checking on you and one thing could lead to another(like chat him out a bit), eh?
You've got me on tenterhooks wondering how this is all going to turn out. I'm cheering for ya!!!
Maybe, you could trip and fall down in front of him, make it look good(but don't actually hurt yourself)grimace and wince a bit and see how he reacts. If he's really, really concerned then he might keep coming around you more checking on you and one thing could lead to another(like chat him out a bit), eh?
You've got me on tenterhooks wondering how this is all going to turn out. I'm cheering for ya!!!
I often catch him looking at me .... but maybe he's just thinking "Gosh, she's not too hot" or "What kind of weird make-up is that" ?!!!
Also, he always opens his eyes really wide when he talks to me ....which is supposed to be a sign that someone likes you. But then again, what do I know .... I'm on a freakin' dating site!!!
Do you have a phone # for this fellow? It might be easier than face to face. I think this will be one of the things you two will end up laughing about.
Orla2010: I often catch him looking at me .... but maybe he's just thinking "Gosh, she's not too hot" or "What kind of weird make-up is that" ?!!!
Also, he always opens his eyes really wide when he talks to me ....which is supposed to be a sign that someone likes you. But then again, what do I know .... I'm on a freakin' dating site!!!
Also, he always opens his eyes really wide when he talks to me ....which is supposed to be a sign that someone likes you. But then again, what do I know .... I'm on a freakin' dating site!!!
Well if you catch him looking at you that means he is interested in you i would say from a male point of view. Men dont check out wemon they aint interested in.
Orla2010: I often catch him looking at me .... but maybe he's just thinking "Gosh, she's not too hot" or "What kind of weird make-up is that" ?!!!
Also, he always opens his eyes really wide when he talks to me ....which is supposed to be a sign that someone likes you. But then again, what do I know .... I'm on a freakin' dating site!!!
Also, he always opens his eyes really wide when he talks to me ....which is supposed to be a sign that someone likes you. But then again, what do I know .... I'm on a freakin' dating site!!!
LOL you're funny we're ALL on a freakin dating site-and you're asking us,what do we know
If its too scary to formally ask him out,ask him something half way..erm..to add you to facebook,or if he wants to grab a coffee after whatever you are doing when you keep seeing him.or if you share an interest,something related that might be you befriending him so less confrontational..its a way of feeling out his reaction without his needing to outright reject you.
GalwayGuy35: Well if you catch him looking at you that means he is interested in you i would say from a male point of view. Men dont check out wemon they aint interested in.
He mostly looks at me when I am talking to other people though
Orla2010: He mostly looks at me when I am talking to other people though
Well he probably doesnt want to make it too obvious. From what you have said i believe he does like you but like some guys he might be afraid of rejection asking you out for a date. I think you should mention going for a drink after work tomorrow and i think it will work out. I bottled it years ago with someone i really liked at work and only found after that she liked me when it was too late so dont let that happen to you.
Orla2010: He mostly looks at me when I am talking to other people though
When you catch him looking at you, stick your tongue out at him and see what his reaction is.
That ought to be a good ice breaker, humour always is.
Orla2010: Why can't asking someone out be pain free?! I want to .... but I can't!!!
Is this still going!
You should have been laid and have 4 kids by now if you listened to the people on page 1......
GalwayGuy35: Well he probably doesnt want to make it too obvious. From what you have said i believe he does like you but like some guys he might be afraid of rejection asking you out for a date. I think you should mention going for a drink after work tomorrow and i think it will work out. I bottled it years ago with someone i really liked at work and only found after that she liked me when it was too late so dont let that happen to you.
Yeah, I would hate to regret not doing something ... but as I said I wouldn't be on a datin site if I was some kind of dating Phd holder
The most I can manage is a maniacal grin. He quite possibly thinks I am deranged
Costapacket: Is this still going!
You should have been laid and have 4 kids by now if you listened to the people on page 1......
You should have been laid and have 4 kids by now if you listened to the people on page 1......
Costapacket: Is this still going!
You should have been laid and have 4 kids by now if you listened to the people on page 1......
You should have been laid and have 4 kids by now if you listened to the people on page 1......
ya Nut I still think Orla should go with the "slip and fall in front of him" act.
Wait!! Wait!! I've got just the thing. Ask him if he could recommend a good movie. That will tell you if he's been to the movies with someone and it will give you a hint of what type of movies he likes to watch and that could be the start of a conversation and then he may ask you out to another movie he's interested in. How's that??
Wait!! Wait!! I've got just the thing. Ask him if he could recommend a good movie. That will tell you if he's been to the movies with someone and it will give you a hint of what type of movies he likes to watch and that could be the start of a conversation and then he may ask you out to another movie he's interested in. How's that??
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