Should I risk rejection and ask out the guy I like?! (164)
jennjuju: Your right, but I still can't bring myself to ever make the first move. I stick with my traditional values. Can you blame a girl?
suppose i can't .lol.,different strokes for different folks i guess.me i'm like the shyest guy ever so it takes alot for me to build up the courage to ask someone out,though when i do i make sure to be 100% sober.it just my way of showing a little bit of courage...i do see your point though some traditions just kinda stick :)
venusenvy: I remember the last time I asked a man out...I was at Tim's in line when I spotted a cutie sitting at a table. So I bought 2 iced caps and walked over and said hi! and handed him one. He was so touched. He drank the whole thing and I found out later he doesnt like them!! Anyhooo The point is, it really was that simple and I ended up meeting a really great guy.
Do it...take chances in life and love
Do it...take chances in life and love
lovely story. really.I have taken my chances venus, and what it has taught me thru expereince is that men are opportunists. I love them dearly, but do not trust them. And it is not for malice. It is because of my experiences & what they have been.
My head tells me that logically there are men out there who can be trusted on a personal level (Oddly enough, in business I trust them completely).
But my heart has expereinced otherwise in my personal life.
But as far as asking a man out - that is just not me, but I see nothing wrong there if u r comfortable
Orla2010: Why can't asking someone out be pain free?! I want to .... but I can't!!!
If you want to reduce the risk ... you could not ask him to go out ... but I`d ask him to do something like go play tennis, go for a run, bike ride or to a museum or so , whatever kind of things you both like and would do anyways... this gives less pressure ... test the water .. one can do sports with several people while going on a date sounds so official ... this is also a great way to get to know someone ... could keep it short (=/less than hr) ... would work for me .. my 2 cents ... good luck ... 
Orla2010: No, I don't want to get hurt ... but I don't want to regret it either ....
If you get rejected by this guy and have to see him everyday it will be torture for you and you will hate yourself for putting yourself in that kind of situation ,,,,so not worth it 
lovely4u7da: If you get rejected by this guy and have to see him everyday it will be torture for you and you will hate yourself for putting yourself in that kind of situation ,,,,so not worth it
If she see`s the guy every day then she is still goney be tortured anyway ..at least if she asks him she will know one way or the other and cn move on...you never know it may be so much worth it....
boomboom_uk: If she see`s the guy every day then she is still goney be tortured anyway ..at least if she asks him she will know one way or the other and cn move on...you never know it may be so much worth it....
you are right but one torture is not as bad as the other from experience i would rather let it go it was awful when I let him know
felixis99: IDK that my attitude is victorian but u really r not showing ur best side on here either. were I a man reading here, I'd be concerned about how argumentative you seem, and wonder what nerve I have touched for u to react with such hostility - relax
Have you ever considered how your posts come across to others, as far as being arguementative and hostile?
You don't seem to have much nice to say about men in general, and that alone would be enough to put off the vast majority of guys that can read. I've avoided you since you arrived and made a nasty comment directed towards myself, and have seen you do the same to others as well.
Why would you want to come on to a site like CS and attempt to poison the minds of other ladies, in regards to men, relationships, and people in general?
The occasional rant or venting is one thing, but the endless tirade againt men gets a little tiring.
Have a nice evening.
lovely4u7da: you are right but one torture is not as bad as the other from experience i would rather let it go it was awful when I let him know
I understand what your saying but if she doesnt find out then she will never be able to let it go..especially seeing him everyday she will always have what if`s..
kidatheart: Have you ever considered how your posts come across to others, as far as being arguementative and hostile?
You don't seem to have much nice to say about men in general, and that alone would be enough to put off the vast majority of guys that can read. I've avoided you since you arrived and made a nasty comment directed towards myself, and have seen you do the same to others as well.
Why would you want to come on to a site like CS and attempt to poison the minds of other ladies, in regards to men, relationships, and people in general?
The occasional rant or venting is one thing, but the endless tirade againt men gets a little tiring.
Have a nice evening.
You don't seem to have much nice to say about men in general, and that alone would be enough to put off the vast majority of guys that can read. I've avoided you since you arrived and made a nasty comment directed towards myself, and have seen you do the same to others as well.
Why would you want to come on to a site like CS and attempt to poison the minds of other ladies, in regards to men, relationships, and people in general?
The occasional rant or venting is one thing, but the endless tirade againt men gets a little tiring.
Have a nice evening.
Your endless tirade against me is beginning to look like I have touched a nerve of truth for it to upset you so much.
I have only stated the FACTS of my experience, and as I have stated previously- I can;t say it was otherwise. that wold be lying. I have not ever made a nasty comment toward u - or anyone on here ever. but you seem to enjoy following me lately and trying to cause trouble for which I have reported you. Good nite
kidatheart: Have you ever considered how your posts come across to others, as far as being arguementative and hostile?
You don't seem to have much nice to say about men in general, and that alone would be enough to put off the vast majority of guys that can read. I've avoided you since you arrived and made a nasty comment directed towards myself, and have seen you do the same to others as well.
Why would you want to come on to a site like CS and attempt to poison the minds of other ladies, in regards to men, relationships, and people in general?
The occasional rant or venting is one thing, but the endless tirade againt men gets a little tiring.
Have a nice evening.
You don't seem to have much nice to say about men in general, and that alone would be enough to put off the vast majority of guys that can read. I've avoided you since you arrived and made a nasty comment directed towards myself, and have seen you do the same to others as well.
Why would you want to come on to a site like CS and attempt to poison the minds of other ladies, in regards to men, relationships, and people in general?
The occasional rant or venting is one thing, but the endless tirade againt men gets a little tiring.
Have a nice evening.
Well said Kid
felixis99: Your endless tirade against me is beginning to look like I have touched a nerve of truth for it to upset you so much.
I have only stated the FACTS of my experience, and as I have stated previously- I can;t say it was otherwise. that wold be lying. I have not ever made a nasty comment toward u - or anyone on here ever. but you seem to enjoy following me lately and trying to cause trouble for which I have reported you. Good nite
I have only stated the FACTS of my experience, and as I have stated previously- I can;t say it was otherwise. that wold be lying. I have not ever made a nasty comment toward u - or anyone on here ever. but you seem to enjoy following me lately and trying to cause trouble for which I have reported you. Good nite
Your known for that also Felix...you constantly report anyone who dissagrees with you Ive seen that quite a few times.
Orla2010: Why can't asking someone out be pain free?! I want to .... but I can't!!!
guys are used to rejections give it a go u never know no pain no gain its a guessing game anyway this way ull know.felixis99: Your endless tirade against me is beginning to look like I have touched a nerve of truth for it to upset you so much.
I have only stated the FACTS of my experience, and as I have stated previously- I can;t say it was otherwise. that wold be lying. I have not ever made a nasty comment toward u - or anyone on here ever. but you seem to enjoy following me lately and trying to cause trouble for which I have reported you. Good nite
I have only stated the FACTS of my experience, and as I have stated previously- I can;t say it was otherwise. that wold be lying. I have not ever made a nasty comment toward u - or anyone on here ever. but you seem to enjoy following me lately and trying to cause trouble for which I have reported you. Good nite
Two replies to you is hardly endless (3 now), but report away.
Post histories are available for all to read.
kidatheart: Two replies to you is hardly endless (3 now), but report away. Post histories are available for all to read.
Again all I can conclude is that I have touched a nerve of truth to prompt ur rant. yes post histories are available to read, but not to be taken out of context as most (like 99.9%) of the time I spend on here it is spent goofing around - though not wiht u granted.
I will dpeak up tho to defend myself. and will not apologize for that. becasue I do not agree with ur opinion, or you mine does not gice u the right to attack me
reb56: guys are used to rejections give it a go u never know no pain no gain its a guessing game anyway this way ull know.
How would you feel Reb, if a lady walked up and asked you out??
venusenvy: Your known for that also Felix...you constantly report anyone who dissagrees with you Ive seen that quite a few times.
no I don't do that either. If there is a personal insult or someone attacks me or attempts to instigate an argument I might report them and I have every right to do so.I have had little occasion to do that on here until this subject arose. Once again I have obviously touched a nerve.
I did not think people would agree with my opinion but I am saddended by the degree of hostility that I have been subjected to by virtue of having a minority opinion on here with this topic.
My opinion is as valid as the next person's. I do not attack others for their opinions on a personal level. I do not attack them at all, but I have been known to disagree, which is fine.
I simply do not wish to be personally insulted or attacked for my opinion.
why don't you two agree to disagree,and not talk to each other any more...
felixis99: no I don't do that either. If there is a personal insult or someone attacks me or attempts to instigate an argument I might report them and I have every right to do so.
I have had little occasion to do that on here until this subject arose. Once again I have obviously touched a nerve.
I did not think people would agree with my opinion but I am saddended by the degree of hostility that I have been subjected to by virtue of having a minority opinion on here with this topic.
My opinion is as valid as the next person's. I do not attack others for their opinions on a personal level. I do not attack them at all, but I have been known to disagree, which is fine.
I simply do not wish to be personally insulted or attacked for my opinion.
I have had little occasion to do that on here until this subject arose. Once again I have obviously touched a nerve.
I did not think people would agree with my opinion but I am saddended by the degree of hostility that I have been subjected to by virtue of having a minority opinion on here with this topic.
My opinion is as valid as the next person's. I do not attack others for their opinions on a personal level. I do not attack them at all, but I have been known to disagree, which is fine.
I simply do not wish to be personally insulted or attacked for my opinion.
Really? think carefully cause I can remember several times you saying you've reported peeps. MEH!!
not worth it!!! whatever...carry-on demonfairy: why don't you two agree to disagree,and not talk to each other any more...
not a bad idea. tho I did that a long time agoI don't usually talk to either one of them anyway
not really sure why the sudden interestWhat do you have gain by not asking?Take the risk and ask
venusenvy: How would you feel Reb, if a lady walked up and asked you out??
I don't know about Reb but I would be flattered and I probably would say yes, I have this thing about not disappointing ladies even if I don't care for them.
Orla2010: Why can't asking someone out be pain free?! I want to .... but I can't!!!
go for it.. what have u to loose ..
kidatheart: Have you ever considered how your posts come across to others, as far as being arguementative and hostile?
You don't seem to have much nice to say about men in general, and that alone would be enough to put off the vast majority of guys that can read. I've avoided you since you arrived and made a nasty comment directed towards myself, and have seen you do the same to others as well.
Why would you want to come on to a site like CS and attempt to poison the minds of other ladies, in regards to men, relationships, and people in general?
The occasional rant or venting is one thing, but the endless tirade againt men gets a little tiring.
Have a nice evening.
You don't seem to have much nice to say about men in general, and that alone would be enough to put off the vast majority of guys that can read. I've avoided you since you arrived and made a nasty comment directed towards myself, and have seen you do the same to others as well.
Why would you want to come on to a site like CS and attempt to poison the minds of other ladies, in regards to men, relationships, and people in general?
The occasional rant or venting is one thing, but the endless tirade againt men gets a little tiring.
Have a nice evening.
Wise words
kidatheart: Have you ever considered how your posts come across to others, as far as being arguementative and hostile?
You don't seem to have much nice to say about men in general, and that alone would be enough to put off the vast majority of guys that can read. I've avoided you since you arrived and made a nasty comment directed towards myself, and have seen you do the same to others as well.
Why would you want to come on to a site like CS and attempt to poison the minds of other ladies, in regards to men, relationships, and people in general?
The occasional rant or venting is one thing, but the endless tirade againt men gets a little tiring.
Have a nice evening.
You don't seem to have much nice to say about men in general, and that alone would be enough to put off the vast majority of guys that can read. I've avoided you since you arrived and made a nasty comment directed towards myself, and have seen you do the same to others as well.
Why would you want to come on to a site like CS and attempt to poison the minds of other ladies, in regards to men, relationships, and people in general?
The occasional rant or venting is one thing, but the endless tirade againt men gets a little tiring.
Have a nice evening.
Wise words
running_prince: If you want to reduce the risk ... you could not ask him to go out ... but I`d ask him to do something like go play tennis, go for a run, bike ride or to a museum or so , whatever kind of things you both like and would do anyways... this gives less pressure ... test the water .. one can do sports with several people while going on a date sounds so official ... this is also a great way to get to know someone ... could keep it short (=/less than hr) ... would work for me .. my 2 cents ... good luck ...
Good idea, but depending on how it is presented it still may sound as though she is asking him out.
So, you ask him out, big deal.
You must realize that in the grand scheme of things first meetings do not amount to life or death. You ask or be asked out, you, or they say yes or no and you need only try to enjoy a pleasant time together, Period. There is no contract, inferred or implied. Don't make a mountain out of a molehill and fool yourself into thinking there is some grand plan unfolding before your very eyes. Just chill out and enjoy a night out.
You must realize that in the grand scheme of things first meetings do not amount to life or death. You ask or be asked out, you, or they say yes or no and you need only try to enjoy a pleasant time together, Period. There is no contract, inferred or implied. Don't make a mountain out of a molehill and fool yourself into thinking there is some grand plan unfolding before your very eyes. Just chill out and enjoy a night out.
Orla2010: Why can't asking someone out be pain free?! I want to .... but I can't!!!
Yes.
It could be that he fancies you but doesn't feel confident enough to grasp the nettle, is fearful of rejection.
What have you got to lose? If you don't, you won't get to go out with him anyway.....
Good luck!
Update ..... and i't all bad 
(i) I snogged (nothing more) someone I work with at the weekend .... NOT the guy I like and it was a completely drunken encounter
(ii) I found out the guy I like is moving to another city in a few weeks
(i) I snogged (nothing more) someone I work with at the weekend .... NOT the guy I like and it was a completely drunken encounter
(ii) I found out the guy I like is moving to another city in a few weeks
Orla2010: Update ..... and i't all bad
(i) I snogged (nothing more) someone I work with at the weekend .... NOT the guy I like and it was a completely drunken encounter
(ii) I found out the guy I like is moving to another city in a few weeks
(i) I snogged (nothing more) someone I work with at the weekend .... NOT the guy I like and it was a completely drunken encounter
(ii) I found out the guy I like is moving to another city in a few weeks
Oh dear....well, why did you snog some other guy? was it because you found out he was moving?
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