Should I risk rejection and ask out the guy I like?! (164)
Costapacketparis, Centre-Val de Loire France2 Threads 2,182 PostsCeCIE: start by sending him flowers.
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Restless_Rebel: I still think Orla should go with the "slip and fall in front of him" act.Wait!! Wait!! I've got just the thing. Ask him if he could recommend a good movie. That will tell you if he's been to the movies with someone and it will give you a hint of what type of movies he likes to watch and that could be the start of a conversation and then he may ask you out to another movie he's interested in. How's that??
That's actually a good idea ... at least it doesn't seem too desperate. Might just try it. Won't see him until next week though
Orla2010: That's actually a good idea ... at least it doesn't seem too desperate. Might just try it. Won't see him until next week though
Awwwww!!!...and here I was on the edge of my seat, filled with suspense, waiting to hear the news one way or the other with baited breath.
Orla, you're driving me to drink. I don't drink except on the weekends, but this situation has gotten me biting my fingernails, so instead...I'm going to pop open a bottle of champagne tonight and drink til I'm silly. I will also make a toast to you and the guy finally getting this thing sorted out next week.
Here's to you Orla!!!
Restless_Rebel: Awwwww!!!...and here I was on the edge of my seat, filled with suspense, waiting to hear the news one way or the other with baited breath.
Orla, you're driving me to drink. I don't drink except on the weekends, but this situation has gotten me biting my fingernails, so instead...I'm going to pop open a bottle of champagne tonight and drink til I'm silly. I will also make a toast to you and the guy finally getting this thing sorted out next week.
Here's to you Orla!!!
Orla, you're driving me to drink. I don't drink except on the weekends, but this situation has gotten me biting my fingernails, so instead...I'm going to pop open a bottle of champagne tonight and drink til I'm silly. I will also make a toast to you and the guy finally getting this thing sorted out next week.
Here's to you Orla!!!
Thanks
Cheers
I wonder what he's doing .... maybe getting jiggy with another lady!
Orla2010: Thanks
Cheers
I wonder what he's doing .... maybe getting jiggy with another lady!
Cheers
I wonder what he's doing .... maybe getting jiggy with another lady!
Now, now, there'll be none of that kind of talk. He's probably tired from working all week, relaxing with a few beers and thinking
why didn't I ask Orla out. You know, I bet he's probably going through something similar to what you're going through about him. Men hate rejection also and sometimes it takes just a wee bit of nudging from either party to "get this party started"!!!!!You keep us posted as we're all cheering for you. I think most of us could use a success story right about now.
Orla2010: Why can't asking someone out be pain free?! I want to .... but I can't!!!
Open rebuke is better than secret love.
Proverbs 27:5
OMG...i think we're on the same boat...
ive never asked a guy nor had I tried to introduce myself to a guy first...first, for me, i find it a lil embarrassing coz I was brought up/raised by my parents in a conservative manner... and in my OPOV, i find it a lil off...i like this guy a lot and I think he also does like me coz of our stealing glances...but the problem is, nobody wants to make the first introductory move..like hi or hello...well i think i'll just stick to my belief, "if you don't wanna meet me, then that's ok, i won't come approach you either"... i will lose the opportunity, that's ok...
ive never asked a guy nor had I tried to introduce myself to a guy first...first, for me, i find it a lil embarrassing coz I was brought up/raised by my parents in a conservative manner... and in my OPOV, i find it a lil off...i like this guy a lot and I think he also does like me coz of our stealing glances...but the problem is, nobody wants to make the first introductory move..like hi or hello...well i think i'll just stick to my belief, "if you don't wanna meet me, then that's ok, i won't come approach you either"... i will lose the opportunity, that's ok...
Maybe there is a course somewhere called "Reading Body Language". I certainly need to go on it anyway.
I could always write him a note .... giving my mobile number and saying that if he is interested just send me a text ....??? At least I wouldn't have to hear the rejection one on one that way
I could always write him a note .... giving my mobile number and saying that if he is interested just send me a text ....??? At least I wouldn't have to hear the rejection one on one that way
go for it..the worst is he can say no..
in slow motion.
in slow motion.
venusenvy: Might I also respectfully suggest you jump into the decade already! Its not the 50's anymore wake up and smell 2010. Women ask men out all the time. Ive yet to see one react negativly. Women go after what they want in life ...and so they should.
No, honestly, you may not. Just who, may I ask, do you think u are?
If you get rejected, it hurts, but then you get over it.
Your right, but I still can't bring myself to ever make the first move. I stick with my traditional values. Can you blame a girl?
Men are like buses..you miss one..there's another one 10 minutes behind,,guess the same applies to women.
thewall2: Men are like buses..you miss one..there's another one 10 minutes behind,,guess the same applies to women.
Orla2010: Why can't asking someone out be pain free?! I want to .... but I can't!!!
Hi Orla,rejection can be pain free if you ask with good intent.If you dont ask you'll never know and if you ask and he says no, than thank him as he may well be doing you a favour.
We set ourselves up for pain by having an expectation so if you live by the rule no expectations no disappointments then life will be less painful.In nearly every situation there is something to be learned be it about ourselves or life in general and it doesn't need to be seen or felt as negative experience especially if it is one we grow from.
redsing comprehension 101, no one was talking behind MY back ( and generally I am too busy dong what I am supposed to be doing to notice if they are)
I was talking about male friends talking about agessive women - tho that is not the term they used
I realized that many people might not agree wiht my view, but I am still entitled to express it. Everyone, Veritaas, must do what they think is best for them in any given situation. I cannot recommend asking a man out. That doesn't mean u have to agree.[/quote
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You tanked up ?
I was talking about male friends talking about agessive women - tho that is not the term they used
I realized that many people might not agree wiht my view, but I am still entitled to express it. Everyone, Veritaas, must do what they think is best for them in any given situation. I cannot recommend asking a man out. That doesn't mean u have to agree.[/quote
Spelling comprehension 101
You tanked up ?sorry for the typing errors - I hadn't realized how dark it's gotten
I was typing in semi darkness
I was typing in semi darkness
felixis99: redsing comprehension 101, no one was talking behind MY back ( and generally I am too busy dong what I am supposed to be doing to notice if they are)
I was talking about male friends talking about agessive women - tho that is not the term they used
I realized that many people might not agree wiht my view, but I am still entitled to express it. Everyone, Veritaas, must do what they think is best for them in any given situation. I cannot recommend asking a man out. That doesn't mean u have to agree.
I was talking about male friends talking about agessive women - tho that is not the term they used
I realized that many people might not agree wiht my view, but I am still entitled to express it. Everyone, Veritaas, must do what they think is best for them in any given situation. I cannot recommend asking a man out. That doesn't mean u have to agree.
Spelling comprehension 101
merrilou: redsing comprehension 101, no one was talking behind MY back ( and generally I am too busy dong what I am supposed to be doing to notice if they are)
I was talking about male friends talking about agessive women - tho that is not the term they used
I realized that many people might not agree wiht my view, but I am still entitled to express it. Everyone, Veritaas, must do what they think is best for them in any given situation. I cannot recommend asking a man out. That doesn't mean u have to agree.[/quote
Spelling comprehension 101
You tanked up ?
I was talking about male friends talking about agessive women - tho that is not the term they used
I realized that many people might not agree wiht my view, but I am still entitled to express it. Everyone, Veritaas, must do what they think is best for them in any given situation. I cannot recommend asking a man out. That doesn't mean u have to agree.[/quote
Spelling comprehension 101
You tanked up ?
no ^ read the above explanationfelixis99: sorry for the typing errors - I hadn't realized how dark it's gotten
I was typing in semi darkness
I was typing in semi darkness
thewall2: Men are like buses..you miss one..there's another one 10 minutes behind,,guess the same applies to women.
my bus must be veeeeerrrryy delayed
felixis99: no ^ read the above explanation
lol I did
I find your outlook antiquated at best. This is 2010 theres no reason on earth why a women cant ask a man out...And I assure you, they like it! For your information...Im a VERY nice woman...thank-you.
People twittering behind there hands shows a lack of intelligence. I couldnt care less what anyone else has to say about me. However I can assure you Ive never experienced men talking in front of me as though I were not there.
I would also tell one of my own girls to go after what they want in life. Goodness! go clack your pearls and rattle your tea cup at someone else.
People twittering behind there hands shows a lack of intelligence. I couldnt care less what anyone else has to say about me. However I can assure you Ive never experienced men talking in front of me as though I were not there.
I would also tell one of my own girls to go after what they want in life. Goodness! go clack your pearls and rattle your tea cup at someone else.
felixis99: There is nothing wrong with my attitude about men, and there is no need to insult me. Your sttitude tells me that I have touoched a nerve for some reason that is your problem not mine.
I am also entitled to my opinion, and I do not know what planet you are from cupcake, but that is reality:
Nice girls don't chase the boys. Trust me, they will be talking about u behind ur back if you do.
My Exes friends used to talk in front of me (about females they knew) like I wasn't there - IDK if they even realized I was listening. I'm an eyewiness to many many of these lockeroom-type discussions. I pretty much know exsctly what they think.
I am also entitled to my opinion, and I do not know what planet you are from cupcake, but that is reality:
Nice girls don't chase the boys. Trust me, they will be talking about u behind ur back if you do.
My Exes friends used to talk in front of me (about females they knew) like I wasn't there - IDK if they even realized I was listening. I'm an eyewiness to many many of these lockeroom-type discussions. I pretty much know exsctly what they think.
i would ask him out for you but i'm afraid it'll reflect badly on you. 
Orla2010: Why can't asking someone out be pain free?! I want to .... but I can't!!!
venusenvy: I find your outlook antiquated at best. This is 2010 theres no reason on earth why a women cant ask a man out...And I assure you, they like it! For your information...Im a VERY nice woman...thank-you.
People twittering behind there hands shows a lack of intelligence. I couldnt care less what anyone else has to say about me. However I can assure you Ive never experienced men talking in front of me as though I were not there.
I would also tell one of my own girls to go after what they want in life. Goodness! go clack your pearls and rattle your tea cup at someone else.
People twittering behind there hands shows a lack of intelligence. I couldnt care less what anyone else has to say about me. However I can assure you Ive never experienced men talking in front of me as though I were not there.
I would also tell one of my own girls to go after what they want in life. Goodness! go clack your pearls and rattle your tea cup at someone else.
might I suggest u follow ur own advice -
felixis99: might I suggest u follow ur own advice -
Im not the one with alrighty uptighty victorian attitude.
they were talking to my ex-at the time , my ex-husband, not to me. For me, it would be inappropriate to bust into a bunch of bawdy man lockeroom type talk. I have no interest in sharing dirty comments with a bunch of drunk friends of my (ex) husband.
IDK if they REALIZED I was there at those times as I was often in the next room.
They spent plenty of time talking to me....
otherwise (when they should have been with their wives and girlfriends prolly )
IDK if they REALIZED I was there at those times as I was often in the next room.
They spent plenty of time talking to me....
otherwise (when they should have been with their wives and girlfriends prolly )venusenvy: Im not the one with alrighty uptighty victorian attitude.
IDK that my attitude is victorian but u really r not showing ur best side on here either. were I a man reading here, I'd be concerned about how argumentative you seem, and wonder what nerve I have touched for u to react with such hostility - relaxMore Threads
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