Marriage or Live Togather? and Why (203)
gininitaly: You're telling me?
What I have noticed is that is you mention the word 'relationship'.... most men you talk to seem to think you want to tar, feather and chain them up in the wood shed.
It would be nice if they would at least consider that there might be other more realistic options, if they would just ask.
I don't think we live in a black and white world and I think most of us are intelligent enough to be flexible don't you?
What I have noticed is that is you mention the word 'relationship'.... most men you talk to seem to think you want to tar, feather and chain them up in the wood shed.
It would be nice if they would at least consider that there might be other more realistic options, if they would just ask.
I don't think we live in a black and white world and I think most of us are intelligent enough to be flexible don't you?
I dunno about most, but some are flexible, and some even moreso!
I see all to many looking at marriage as the ultimate goal, or the prize, in their search for "the one", or "forever". To me that sounds more like feeding an insecurity than having a loving realtionship.
This whole concept of the one or a soul mate sounds a bit like fantasy drivel to me as well. The notion that one person can be all things to someone is insane, and puts a lot of pressure on people, as well as the relationship.
I don't see what's wrong with taking things one day at a time, and seeing how it goes. Who knows, it may end up 20 or 50 years down the road, still taking it one day at a time, enjoying each other's company.
If people are looking for a solid commitment, hard work, determination, compromise, sacrifice, and all that, then they should join the military.
To me, that doesn't sound much like a warm loving realtionship either. Why does it have to be so difficult? Why should it be?
Sounds good kid.... unless you jive with someone 500+ miles away... then how do you deal with one day at a time? 
... hell, most of em just want a one night stand anyway... so day 2 seems nigh on impossible. 
I do hear what you're saying and agree that feeling good together shouldn't be a chore but a plus, but the logistics of something mellow and easy get harder and harder. Personally I think as you go down the road, the pleasure of being 2, gives way to the laziness of not doing anything at all about it. Just easier to bang one on occasion.
I've just have the delusion that what's fun in life is more fun if you have someone to share them with.
... hell, most of em just want a one night stand anyway... so day 2 seems nigh on impossible. I do hear what you're saying and agree that feeling good together shouldn't be a chore but a plus, but the logistics of something mellow and easy get harder and harder. Personally I think as you go down the road, the pleasure of being 2, gives way to the laziness of not doing anything at all about it. Just easier to bang one on occasion.
I've just have the delusion that what's fun in life is more fun if you have someone to share them with.
I not I've 
gininitaly: Sounds good kid.... unless you jive with someone 500+ miles away... then how do you deal with one day at a time? ... hell, most of em just want a one night stand anyway... so day 2 seems nigh on impossible.
I do hear what you're saying and agree that feeling good together shouldn't be a chore but a plus, but the logistics of something mellow and easy get harder and harder. Personally I think as you go down the road, the pleasure of being 2, gives way to the laziness of not doing anything at all about it. Just easier to bang one on occasion.
I've just have the delusion that what's fun in life is more fun if you have someone to share them with.
I do hear what you're saying and agree that feeling good together shouldn't be a chore but a plus, but the logistics of something mellow and easy get harder and harder. Personally I think as you go down the road, the pleasure of being 2, gives way to the laziness of not doing anything at all about it. Just easier to bang one on occasion.
I've just have the delusion that what's fun in life is more fun if you have someone to share them with.
A one night stand, now that really is a bit much Madam, 2 hours and that includes dinner.
Only kidding but if you are attracted to someone distance is a serious problem. But if you are actually in the same country and folk often are and they see a couple of hundred miles as a problem then I think they are making excuses.I have often been that distance apart from friends, family and the odd girlfriend (usually very odd)
So the distance can be a bit awkward but, can be overcome and it can be good as every time you meet it is a lot fresher.
Just a few thoughts from a cranky old jock
gininitaly: Sounds good kid.... unless you jive with someone 500+ miles away... then how do you deal with one day at a time? ... hell, most of em just want a one night stand anyway... so day 2 seems nigh on impossible.
I do hear what you're saying and agree that feeling good together shouldn't be a chore but a plus, but the logistics of something mellow and easy get harder and harder. Personally I think as you go down the road, the pleasure of being 2, gives way to the laziness of not doing anything at all about it. Just easier to bang one on occasion.
I've just have the delusion that what's fun in life is more fun if you have someone to share them with.
I do hear what you're saying and agree that feeling good together shouldn't be a chore but a plus, but the logistics of something mellow and easy get harder and harder. Personally I think as you go down the road, the pleasure of being 2, gives way to the laziness of not doing anything at all about it. Just easier to bang one on occasion.
I've just have the delusion that what's fun in life is more fun if you have someone to share them with.
I'm not excluding the possibility of ever living with someone, if things progressed to that point.
I just have no interest in "marriage" itself, and people that are adamant about getting married kinda freak me out!
Is it really that important? Is that what really matters?
The idea of having an endless string of one night stands with the same woman does have a nice ring to it though.
gininitaly:
I've just have the delusion that what's fun in life is more fun if you have someone to share them with.
I've just have the delusion that what's fun in life is more fun if you have someone to share them with.
Do you mean like arguments ? ......
patmac: A one night stand, now that really is a bit much Madam, 2 hours and that includes dinner.
Only kidding but if you are attracted to someone distance is a serious problem. But if you are actually in the same country and folk often are and they see a couple of hundred miles as a problem then I think they are making excuses.
I have often been that distance apart from friends, family and the odd girlfriend (usually very odd)
So the distance can be a bit awkward but, can be overcome and it can be good as every time you meet it is a lot fresher.
Just a few thoughts from a cranky old jock
Only kidding but if you are attracted to someone distance is a serious problem. But if you are actually in the same country and folk often are and they see a couple of hundred miles as a problem then I think they are making excuses.
I have often been that distance apart from friends, family and the odd girlfriend (usually very odd)
So the distance can be a bit awkward but, can be overcome and it can be good as every time you meet it is a lot fresher.
Just a few thoughts from a cranky old jock
Morning Cranky
Well they say "Where there's a will there's a way".
kidatheart: I'm not excluding the possibility of ever living with someone, if things progressed to that point.
I just have no interest in "marriage" itself, and people that are adamant about getting married kinda freak me out!
Is it really that important? Is that what really matters?
The idea of having an endless string of one night stands with the same woman does have a nice ring to it though.
I just have no interest in "marriage" itself, and people that are adamant about getting married kinda freak me out!
Is it really that important? Is that what really matters?
The idea of having an endless string of one night stands with the same woman does have a nice ring to it though.
Nope, no way and yep and you get a bed warmer too.
RDM59: Hi there H ..... don't go getting angry with yourself now ....
Why not get spitting mad, it'd be a lot slipperier that way.
RDM59: Do you mean like arguments ? ......
Hey RD..I don't know about you.... but I can't be bothered.
But it seems you ought to know how to pick one by now who's on the same page... isn't that what learning from your mistakes is all about?
gininitaly: Hey RD..I don't know about you.... but I can't be bothered.
But it seems you ought to know how to pick one by now who's on the same page... isn't that what learning from your mistakes is all about?
But it seems you ought to know how to pick one by now who's on the same page... isn't that what learning from your mistakes is all about?
Very true, but I've also learnt that people can change, and usually do .....
Me included.....
RDM59: Very true, but I've also learnt that people can change, and usually do .....
Me included.....
Me included.....
Hi R
Good evening to you... and I'll have you know that its a grand thing to change... clothes and underwear... I mean...not personalities tho...
gininitaly: Hey RD..I don't know about you.... but I can't be bothered.
But it seems you ought to know how to pick one by now who's on the same page... isn't that what learning from your mistakes is all about?
But it seems you ought to know how to pick one by now who's on the same page... isn't that what learning from your mistakes is all about?
we all learn from Mistakes...
I am speaking from mistakes, and various Ages speak from a whole different viewpoint! 10, 20, 30, 40 Yrs. difference makes alot of difference in ones perspective in life, My Kids are up, Grown and Adults, and some at that age dont think the same, Nor can they!
Tho we all have walked a different path, at a different time, so a Variety of answers..
RDM59: I'm needing a new car and I sure want to test drive it first.
So if EVERYTHING was absolutely perfect in the relationship, better than you'd ever experienced before, you'd dump her if she was a lil shy in the bedroom?
Pfffffffttt!!!!
Merriweather: Hi R
Good evening to you... and I'll have you know that its a grand thing to change... clothes and underwear... I mean...not personalities tho...
Good evening to you... and I'll have you know that its a grand thing to change... clothes and underwear... I mean...not personalities tho...
... Hi there possum .... I've got no knickers to change..... .... being a true Scot of course .....SummerUK: So if EVERYTHING was absolutely perfect in the relationship, better than you'd ever experienced before, you'd dump her if she was a lil shy in the bedroom? Pfffffffttt!!!!
But I wouldn't know if EVERYTHING was perfect until the test drive was over now, would I .....
Merriweather: Hi R
Good evening to you... and I'll have you know that its a grand thing to change... clothes and underwear... I mean...not personalities tho...
Good evening to you... and I'll have you know that its a grand thing to change... clothes and underwear... I mean...not personalities tho...
Hello Merriweather
, Long Time, Hello Everybody, yes Ralph, we all do Change, thats what I meant in that last post, what seems right now, may not be right in 10-20 yrs...RDM59: But I wouldn't know if EVERYTHING was perfect until the test drive was over now, would I .....
Just keep a couple of spares just in case mate. HotrodLarrys: Hello Merriweather, Long Time, Hello Everybody, yes Ralph, we all do Change, thats what I meant in that last post, what seems right now, may not be right in 10-20 yrs...
Perhaps it might be wiser then to wait and not get hooked up again until my doctor has told me that I've only got 9 more years to live ....
RDM59: But I wouldn't know if EVERYTHING was perfect until the test drive was over now, would I .....
Ok smarty pants I meant if everything 'else' was perfick
RDM59: Perhaps it might be wiser then to wait and not get hooked up again until my doctor has told me that I've only got 9 more years to live ....
If you have a problem with the 9 yrs, GET ANOTHER DOCTOR!
for crying out loud!
Morning Illu
How the weather today?
Bloody freezing here I'm so fed up of it
How the weather today?
Bloody freezing here I'm so fed up of it
cincity: And which model is your favourite?
Hot Sweet and Nasty,
But Warm Too
HotrodLarrys: Hot Sweet and Nasty,
But Warm Too
But Warm Too
SummerUK: Morning Illu
How the weather today?
Bloody freezing here I'm so fed up of it
How the weather today?
Bloody freezing here I'm so fed up of it
Chilly Willy here too. Blowing a gale, car was all over the place going to work..... scary!
SummerUK: Well I was trying to be polite
You just didnt want to Embarass us Young Men Right!
Both give me the kreeps
HotrodLarrys: Hello Merriweather, Long Time, Hello Everybody, yes Ralph, we all do Change, thats what I meant in that last post, what seems right now, may not be right in 10-20 yrs...
Hi Larry...
Nice to see you...
I know... people do change and that's why they veer off the path that they took .... started off together... and some people lose their partners with death and illness.. ..so grieving can be long.. all sorts of changes..
But if you are stronger than the wind.. you wont allow yourself to be blown down the wrong paths ...
SummerUK: Ok smarty pants I meant if everything 'else' was perfick
Hiah Summer
Howz you hun.. ?
You wont be getting a yes outta him... He aint a smarty pants cos to his own admission... he dont wear any...
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tho to do that we must all find someone close to home!
that isnt allways easy tho!
What I have noticed is that is you mention the word 'relationship'.... most men you talk to seem to think you want to tar, feather and chain them up in the wood shed.
It would be nice if they would at least consider that there might be other more realistic options, if they would just ask.
I don't think we live in a black and white world and I think most of us are intelligent enough to be flexible don't you?