I think when I was younger I would fly off the handle over just about anything. Now being at my age, having served in the military; I tend not to take things too seriously anymore. Over the years, I have seen many of my friends die and realize there is nothing worse than losing people you care about. How can I be upset about a waiter getting my order wrong when you realize just how short life can be? So, yeah I try not to let much bother me anymore as I believe in one policy; if no one got hurt or died; it can be fixed.
Mary; I would be horrified if I told you something in confidence and you told your husband what I said. With my friends; I respect their right to privacy and would not ruin my friendship with them by telling my partner what they told me. But as you said; that is what works for you and I do respect that.
Thats pure bull Lucky. Just because I don't give a guy my passwords doesn't mean I am hiding anything or ashamed of anything. Its called privacy; nothing more. I am not going to jeopardize my job, my military career, or good friends just because my partner wants my passwords. He will have his own phone and computer; as well I will respect his right for privacy.
Lucky; its all about giving that person some privacy. I don't think its too much too ask if you really love that person. Why would a partner need to have that information anyways?
My friend has been married for 25 years. He and his wife love each other very much. She does not have his computer or cell phone password. This is because she trusts him and doesn't feel the need to spy on him. I sure when people go on a girls or boys night out and your best friend told you something confidential; you aren't going to tell your partner what you talked about. You would betray your friend's confidence; so that could well happen with a cell phone or computer. As a few people said; respect your partner's privacy. JMO
There are limits to what a person should share. I just don't think this is necessary. I don't share every little bit of information with a partner as for one there are certain things that I can't tell him and have to take to the grave with me. There has to be an understanding between a couple of where the line can't be crossed. To me, asking that info is insinuating that I am hiding something and that means the trust has been broken; therefore the relationship would end. Now, if I willingly offered to give him the info; that would be different but he has no right to demand or ask me for that info.
I personally wouldn't give my partner either. He either trusts me or he doesn't. Its not that I have nothing to hide; I just don't think he needs to have this information as its none of his business. I would not ask for his email or cell phone password as its none of my business either.
Sorry to hear that you are feeling so low cherish49. I hope someone will come and sweep you off your feet. For me; after having experiencing nothing but hell with the dating life; I quite enjoy the single life so Valentine's has no meaning to me. However, I do hope you will find happiness on Valentine's day.
No one wants a divorce but there are so many factors that lead to it. Fact is people change with time and find they have nothing in common with the person they fell in love with. Some people try to control their partner; others won't give that person any space away from them. Some stop communicating, some are taken for granted, others give so much of themselves that there is nothing left of themself or some constantly fight over money. I think in general; a relationship puts too many demands on people; too many conditions, and the person tends to pull away. People aren't meant to be caged up like animals or controled like children. I certainly don't have the answers to prevent a divorce but I can only relay what divorced couples have told me. I agree though; I hope more people can work on their marriages and be as happy as the day the got married.
I think we all change with life and experiences but one should never change soley for the sake of another person. If you can't accept the person for the way they are; then you shouldn't be with them. No one has a right to change you. JMO
I don't think its a fraud unless someone is taking money from you. Personally I found dating disappointing but that has only been my experience and again that is not a fraud; just the wrong people. I don't understand why you think its a fraud.
What I want for Christmas is to see all our homeless off the streets in a warm bed and a stomach full of food. I don't want and don't accept anything for myself as I am blessed to have so much.
There is no such thing as unconditonal love. I don't know of anyone in a relationship that loves someone that doesn't return their love which is considered a condition.
I think people have been hurt so much that they don't want anything serious. I know men my age have gone through bad divorces and have financially been devasted; so they certainly don't want anything serious and really who can blame them.
I don't like what I see in the mirror. I see an old; overweight, and under educated woman. So, no I am not happy with myself. You are correct that I can't truly love someone until I am happy which is why I gave up on ever meeting anyone.
Some people have jobs like being a police officer, school teacher, military, or may be a public figure so they don't post pics as they don't want others knowing they are on a dating site. I don't see the big reason. Besides if you like the person; they eventually will show you their picture via private email.
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RE: GORGEOUS,BUT ALONE.
Yes, I can see by your picture how handsome you are; although I think you look a little pale.