It is right to

Demand that your partner give you his/her email password or cell phone password? Can u trust a partner who refuses to give you those passwords. If your partner refuses, then the questions is what is he/she hiding...confused frustrated heart beating
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I personally wouldn't give my partner either. He either trusts me or he doesn't. Its not that I have nothing to hide; I just don't think he needs to have this information as its none of his business. I would not ask for his email or cell phone password as its none of my business either.
@Single, I believe that loving someone means sharing everything with them. If somethings are none of their business then what sort of sharing is that. If you cant trust him enough to share those things then what are you hiding?
If they are demanding it then the other person is resisting. Both of them are in a relationship with the wrong person.
@Mary, maybe I put it wrong by saying demand, in actual fact i wanted to say ask. Is it right to even ask for that?
It would either be trouble with trust or a need to be controlling ... and likely both.

Privacy should be respected. thumbs up

If privacy cannot be respected, the problems won't be solved by spying on each other. uh oh
There are limits to what a person should share. I just don't think this is necessary. I don't share every little bit of information with a partner as for one there are certain things that I can't tell him and have to take to the grave with me. There has to be an understanding between a couple of where the line can't be crossed. To me, asking that info is insinuating that I am hiding something and that means the trust has been broken; therefore the relationship would end. Now, if I willingly offered to give him the info; that would be different but he has no right to demand or ask me for that info.
Thanks Inthemind. You said it well with your statement.
If someone is demanding your passwords, there are probably trust and control issues with that person. I would not give out anything like that because it was demanded.
Well I can only answer your question by saying this. With my husband and I,and even before he was my husband, there was no asking for passwords. Giving them just happened naturally. So if you have to ask then I guess you are both two very different people who probably should not be involved with each other.


The only wrong thing here would be these two different people trying to force their way of thinking on the other. If someone wants privacy then let them have it and go find someone more compatible. If someone lives their life completely open with their partner and this makes you too uncomfortable then leave them be and go find someone more in line with your way of thinking. Neither way of being is wrong,just different.
My friend has been married for 25 years. He and his wife love each other very much. She does not have his computer or cell phone password. This is because she trusts him and doesn't feel the need to spy on him. I sure when people go on a girls or boys night out and your best friend told you something confidential; you aren't going to tell your partner what you talked about. You would betray your friend's confidence; so that could well happen with a cell phone or computer. As a few people said; respect your partner's privacy. JMO
This is not about spying but about how much you trust your partner. Why should you hide somethings from him if you are really honest to him?
Are you talking to me single4ever? Or luckyss 12?
lucky...If you trust them, there would be no need to ask for such information....right?dunno
Oops, yes I was talking to you Mary and the Op actually.
Lucky; its all about giving that person some privacy. I don't think its too much too ask if you really love that person. Why would a partner need to have that information anyways?
@Positive I wont delete your comment because of your opinion about me. You have every right to think whatever you want about me. Im asking this question because such things happen in life and all Im looking for is what other people think about them.@Single I dont have a password on my cellphone because I dont see the need to have one as Im single lol.
you never have a right to "DEMAND" anything from a partner. that is "demanding" a position of superiority over the other person, not a mutual and equal respect of the other person in the relationship.
@Positive, I have already said that I put it wrong I should have said ask not demand. lollaugh laugh laugh applause banana
Well single4ever all I can tell you is that I am not saying that anyone else should try and live how my husband and I do. What is right for us is wrong for many other people.

Second of all it's not about spying,it's just that neither one of us care if the other has this info. The last time I logged onto his msn was when he called me one night while on duty. His grandmother as supposed to be sending him an email about some family issue. He did not want to wait so I opened it and read it too him.

As for what friends tell me,well all I can say is that yes I do share everything with Mike. He is the most important person in the world to me and matters to me more then anyone. This man for years has spent hours in the hospital with me, been by my side for everything. Again I am not saying this type of relationship would work for everyone,but for us it's what works.
Mary I like what you have said here. There are emergencies like you have pointed out and a need to go to your partner's computer or phone and if you don't have anything to hide you would give them your password without worries.

If you have somethings that you want to keep private from your partner then it means they are things that you are ashamed of or it means you are hiding your infidelities in your computer or cellphone.
Thats pure bull Lucky. Just because I don't give a guy my passwords doesn't mean I am hiding anything or ashamed of anything. Its called privacy; nothing more. I am not going to jeopardize my job, my military career, or good friends just because my partner wants my passwords. He will have his own phone and computer; as well I will respect his right for privacy.
Mary; I would be horrified if I told you something in confidence and you told your husband what I said. With my friends; I respect their right to privacy and would not ruin my friendship with them by telling my partner what they told me. But as you said; that is what works for you and I do respect that.
sorry he just upset me , its like ownership we dont have the right to take everything away from another and lock them away , we dont have to live in a dictatorship world , look at what going on over sea's ..people are dieing so others can be free sigh
Good post Virgo!

I would not be asking for passwords. I would hope it would be a mute issue between us. I have nothing to hide so if he did ask it would prove to me he didn't trust me, now creating a problem in the relationship. Is it really worth it to satisfy your own insecurity? NO.
Lucky

I think its a matter of trust,if you are demanding this information then you have no trust for your partner.
Demand. That is a strong word. No. I would not demand my partner to give his phone and email password to me. And I will not too. As the reasons had already been laid down by the others. Its his own, and I still do want him his privacy. If he want to share it with me, then I will be okay with it. If not, then I will not go beyond that. Same goes to me. And I do respect that.
Who's Got a Partner To Give it Too???? Is this Connecting Marrieds????confused dunno roll eyes
Demanding is bad.

And yess i give him my paswords juts to make him calm cos i aint got nothing to hide, is not like i can't change them after. laugh wink wave
Hey Beachnit; you are spot on with your comments. thumbs up
@Beachnit,,.well writtenthumbs up .
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