RedCrystal Blog Comments (775)

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I've thought about that, actually.....but I think I might want to own a house first, rather then rent an apartment as I do now.

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Oh no, I'm done having babies LOL....I'm mom to 3 and gramma to 1....I think that's plenty, though I would accept someone else's....just wouldn't want to do the whole child birth thing all over again at my age.

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Shay, that would make for a sweet proposal.....I love the outdoors as well....love the wilderness and camping. Good choice

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lmao virgo, no matter how I look at it, it's bad then, right? I will say this. I do respect the man wholeheartedly, but I also have my own two feet on the ground as well.....seeing as I've raised my 3 kids on my own for over 10 years, I can't be doing all that bad.

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Well....either way, in the end, she ended up getting hurt by the response that she knew was to come (even though in the back of her mind...some just try to say, well, love is more important, it doesn't matter....well..now it does)Different life values should be considered....because they don't go away....they may be set aside and avoided, but they always come up eventually and the end result is usually not good.

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wow nevica that is crazy see here in the states, they would already be considered married, it's called "common law marriage" .... living together for more than 7 years. And, again, I wouldn't have done what I did if I thought he would have said no..I knew how he felt about the whole marriage thing and what his values were. He had asked someone once and was really devastated by her answer so he said he would never ask another woman again. But it seems this woman you speak of knew what the answer would have been but decided to do it anyway. My question would be this, if she knew what she wanted in life and also knew his views on marriage, why would she involve herself with a man who's values differed so much from her own. That is not a small disagreement to be taken lightly but something to be considered in the long run when you're chosing your mate, otherwise that issue will arise one day and someone will definitely be hurt and to walk into a situation like that and knowingly persue it would be foolish, no?

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I was merely comparing his partaking of the situation verses your own views on it "...placing him in a situation were he would find it very difficult to say anything other than " YES " , somehow if I were placed in that position, what else could I do but do as he did." I knew him well, otherwise I wouldn't have been foolish enough to make that decision.

Though not sure what this has to do with any of the questions mentioned in the blog.

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Yes, Ariel....he was appreciative ..smiling throughout...and it was a happy moment for the both of us.....things just changed over the years.

Oh I'd kinda feel bad about your first proposal....though maybe you just weren't ready? .... as far as the 2nd and 3rd...Red would have said no lol...seems the heart just wasn't in it on his part, with the way the whole proposal came across...maybe that's just me. I couldn't possibly take that seriously lol. But I suppose all things happen for a reason, no?


Well spring, he definitely wasn't you. We were friends for quite some time even before dating so I knew him quite well. He didn't need instructions, he knew my mind and I knew his.....he was very much intelligent and wasn't the kind of person to be a pushover.....and pushed into a corner. Very stubborn at that and spoke his mind without sugarcoating things. He wasn't one to say yes when he meant no. But sometimes people just change with time and circumstance. And he did......can't bring back the past or change it.

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It's a dedication to the other....a promise...a bond. As I've mentioned, I've been married once before...it ended badly because of infidelity on his part, but I was willing to make that dedication when I asked ... and followed through till the end. I'm not going to let one bad apple totally change my views. My parents have been happily married for almost 50 years so it's not impossible. I guess I'm just old school with old values. But that is me and I'm content with it. Now surely, we've strayed from the actual subject, no?

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Sorry you feel that way 10k

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lmao jim that's awful

RE: Y-M-C-A

Oh yes! The YMCA is definitely an awesome place. I used to love to go swimming there and when I was a kid they had dances and rollerskating every friday night....called Friday Night at the Y ...for kids. Ariel, it's a family center with a gym, swimming pool, excercise equipment, basketball court, raquet ball, etc etc. A really fun family place. I do miss it.

We also have a boys and girls club right down the street from me but it's nothing like the YMCA.....the YMCA has so much more to offer.

RE: Y-M-C-A

We don't have a YMCA here in Bristol....but the nearest ones would be in Plainville and Southington, also in CT..just a town away. In fact when I was going to business school, I was working part-time at the YMCA at the front desk in Southington....had a membership there as well.

RE: Personal Quality

YES In...now we're on the same page

Just stressin......

LMAO wuzzy!! Ditto! Crazy man

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Spoken like a "strong ox"

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Have fun

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It's not something I direct my attention to. Human nature, possibly. My friendships and relationships aren't something I look for, they just happen. I don't seek out traits, just notice them later on down the road. A beautiful mind is what attracts me, physically and intellectually. If that is the kind of answer you are looking for...but it's something you don't see until a friendship has already begun.

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Shay lol

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Exactly what I was initially saying, shay....in not so many words lol ... agreed

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Yes....I do use intuition, not too afraid to admit that. You can use both intuition and intellect in chosing a partner....the usage of both would be common sense, an even balance rather than using one more over the other. Not trying to improve myself by any means because I always give 100% of who I am...no less. If I improve as I grow older, it's not intentional but just natural growth. I am happy with the person that I am. Not perfect, and I like it that way.

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....and each person has their own imperfections that make them perfectly unique. I don't strive to be better because I am happy with who I am and would not want to be something I am not. Those who love me, do so for the person that I am and always have been.

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Well I don't search for it.....it comes with time after I've gotten to know them. It's only then that I can look at them and know what traits I value. And each friendship is different in that sort.

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There are different traits I admire in different people. Everyone is unique in their own way.

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Frank

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I don't rate myself and I don't rate others. I am a far cry from perfect and wouldn't even try to be. I accept others for their inner quality, and can't really rate that because one person's view of high quality would be another's view of low quality. So really, what's the point?

RE: A Man

10k

RE: lost my train of thought

HAH done that more than once

RE: Let's....

Hello hello......hmmm dunno...canada isn'=t much different then US Hi sugar!

Just stressin......

bahahahahaaaaa!!