The big day.......
Maybe I did something not so traditional when I had asked my exhusband to marry me, but I figured hey, why does one follow tradition anyway? Would breaking a tradition have any effect on the marriage to follow?
But at any rate....I did it as such...When he had gotten home from work one day, he went into the bedroom where on the bed were 8 numbered balloons, representing each month we were together and in each balloon was some confetti and a little note. On each note was written a fond memory of which we shared in those 8 months. In the balloon numbered #8 the note had said to look out the window. He looked out the window and in the driveway was his truck with a huge, and I mean huge, handwritten card (I am an amateur artist so it did come out quite nicely)on the front window. (This whole time I was in hiding, watching from a distance. In the card was all the vows I would promise him....ending in, of course, a proposal. And when he finished reading it, I was standing behind him with a set of rings. Well he did say yes....even though the marriage ended 6 years later...it was definitely a moment.
Are you a stickler for tradition? Does a man have to be the one to propose? Or you ok with vice versa? Were you ever married? If so, how were you proposed to, or how did you propose to the other? And, lastly, if you were never married, how would you want to be proposed to or how would you propose? ..... it's fun to see the imaginative juices flowing here
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THINK RED... WHAT'S GONNA CHANGE -IMPROVE OR DEGRADE- BY GETTIN MARRIED? NADA DE NADA. WHAT DO WE DO FOR NOTHING? NADA DE NADA.
SO, WHY MARRYING?
As far as tradition is concern, I place no value in it. Perhaps because I never had a Real family in my childhood... at any rate, I would gladly welcome the proposal from my opposite gender, as long as we knew well how we felt about each other... love.
Oh I'd kinda feel bad about your first proposal....though maybe you just weren't ready? .... as far as the 2nd and 3rd...Red would have said no lol...seems the heart just wasn't in it on his part, with the way the whole proposal came across...maybe that's just me. I couldn't possibly take that seriously lol. But I suppose all things happen for a reason, no?
Well spring, he definitely wasn't you. We were friends for quite some time even before dating so I knew him quite well. He didn't need instructions, he knew my mind and I knew his.....he was very much intelligent and wasn't the kind of person to be a pushover.....and pushed into a corner. Very stubborn at that and spoke his mind without sugarcoating things. He wasn't one to say yes when he meant no. But sometimes people just change with time and circumstance. And he did......can't bring back the past or change it.
Though not sure what this has to do with any of the questions mentioned in the blog.
I am not into fancy restaurants proposal. I wanted it to be a surprise on the outdoors. On a secluded beach for example where we are both enjoying the sun. Or when we are camping and hiking in a mountain. Situations like that. If I can see the sincerity and the love, it is perfect for me.
I feel as committed to him now as I did before,but since it was important to him I did it for him.