you are surprisingly wise person and you looks to see the whole spectrum of life,when most here have bound them self into one single color.
About older women's baggage as you come up with....it is for sure real and what I have use instead of baggage is,that older women has a lot of buffer zones and that scares you off,because you feel it is going to bring in troubles,when younger women are clearly more easier and ready to walk the road together.
That said,I don't want in any way generalize,because I'm very hard against generalizing,there are always two end and the more wider middle part in everything,so there are for sure older women with less buffer zone,but not easy to find and for to make your self feeling more secure,you lean in the younger direction.
And then to you,welcome to Caribbean and I'm sure you get a hightened welcome from women here too
the big problem is,that the people who are judging age difference,don't accept our right to be different,they do what ever to drag everybody into the same box and to convince that specially big different in age is something awful,in the same time they have trouble by them self to get a relationship working ,or even to find somebody....
I have have contact to many clearly younger woman from Caribbean and also talk about it in Antigua and they all have exactly the same opinion as Georgie is explaining here....
Here is an young Lady working in the Mall and every time she see me coming to buy food she is around me,she is clearly ready to go forward,it is me who don't let it go,even my Grandson said when he was here,that that women really like you.
She is very smart,in my opinion more smart,than other women I have been with...anyway,here in Antigua is a lot of smart women and they know what they want and not hide it,they don't stay and wait,that the man start,like this Lady,she came to me by her self and told me,that she like me and,that she know that I'm a nice person....she had follow me already for months,how I behave with people in normal life.
The whole thing is simple,that people who has problems with age differences can not value enough the real feelings between two people,they judge everything by how it looks....that Lady in the Mall check me for months first,before she came to me and when she told me,that she know,that I'm a nice person,in the same time she also show, what she is valuing most in a man and that is the point in women here in Caribbean,when they don't care about age difference and almost sure in women where ever in the world,when age difference don't bother them.
you are right,that's why I said earlier on my own Blog,that women shoul learn to fight,so that they can protect them self....that's why I teach my own daughter Boxing too.
I tell you,there is no way I can understand men that hit women,what is that of a relationship,and Love,that can not exist at all....I have never hit my children either....better to walk away,if your can not stop your self from hitting a woma.
My daughter has a relationship with an African guy,he is the Father to my Grandson and he start to hit my Daughter,she hit back and they had a real cage fight....they was on the way to marry,but when I heard it,I said I'm not coming to that wedding....my daughter was upset to me,she left with him to Africa,but when she came back to Finland for delivering their son,he pick up an other girlfriend in Africa.....She then cut off with him and when the son was same 3-4 years old he came to my Daughters home arguing and again hitting her and also the son,because he try to protect his Mother....and my grandson always remember that,even he is 13 already.
my Indonesian ex was earlier in marriage with a Japanese guy....she told,that he hit her first time after the wedding in the car.....later she was pregnant and he kick her in the stomach,she lose the baby and the doctors clean to much her inside and she lost the ability to come pregnant.
I had a short relationship with a Finnish model,who had work earlier as a model in US and her Ex Husband had hit her for years in the stomach,what make her get a cancer in the stomach....they had to cut most of everything out and she could eat only small portions of food every 2 hours....all to that,when they did the operation for cancer,they in mistake used strings,that did not solve by them self and they start to come one by one out trough the skin in different places,
So there are a lot of sad lives around,because of ego filled brutal men.
It is only weak men, that go on on women....a strong man,that is proud about himself,never go on weaker persons.....I have never dominate any woman,but yes,I have stop their aggression,like using nails on me or trowing something on me,by locking them to the wall,so long,that they have calm down,but really hitting anyone,never.
I so many times sitting by my self,wondering and also been frustrated about how it is possible,that so many people build boxes around them self and about almost everything that exist in their world....and in many cases there is even no windows,they just isolate them self from what ever possibilities.......they never try anything different,they are even afraid to think anything different....it is like a world of dogmas.
Honestly I have never lived like that,I have been independent from it and I still want to keep my wings,see,touch and taste what ever is available....and if I could have a possibility to live my life again....yes,for sure I'm going to make it in the same way as before as a FREE THINKER
you just talk about young women,that has not select by the heart and then you are heavily generalizing,what is not at all a fact about the life.
I have talk about that smell point with my Son,that is in Medicine and the smell is clearly involved when there is a real attraction and it is the smell that has a big meaning,if you are a good mach or not and take note,EVERY PERSON SMELL DIFFERENT.
If these young women smell a bad smell,they have for sure not select the men with the heart.
I remember when my Indonesian Ex was sniffing my body and I ask her,what she is doing and she said,you smell so good....I had nothing on my self,it was my pure own smell......and I'm sure,that somebody else could had smell it as not so good.
yes of course,it is the heart we have to follow and nobody outsider should have the right to affect our decision....in my case one of my 3 children had doubt with that Lady,but when he saw her,he accepted her...she was a mix and her parent both loved me clearly and whole her family and all friends,had told her,that she should go back to Antigua,they did not understand at all the whole situation.
I married a 31 years old Caribbean lady,from a other Island,when I was 66. When I ask her why she wanted to marry me,her answer was,that I filled up the dream of what kind of husband she had always wanted and,that she didn't know if I loved her,but she loved me for sure.
Her problem was,that she did not like Antigua and she got a very strong home sickness.....she went back after 5 month and I put in for divorce....and an other thing was,that her Mother had Alzheimer's and I think she was also caring for her.
She did not want the divorce and it was hard for me to get it,because she was strongly against divorce and it took time to dig needed signs from her for the divorce.
Now to gold digging,she did not ask anything in wealth or money from me in the divorce,she said,that she did not marry me for money,she had just only wanted me to be her children's father.
Many months after the divorce,she came up,that she wanted to marry me later again...so in my opinion she was thinking,that she could change her feelings and be able to live later in Antigua.
People,that has no experience of age difference and are by them self in age difference problem box,are so sure,that they know,even they don't know anything....the only thing what really matter is,how you feel to be together and do you have similar things of interest.
Here on CS,I have seen a lot of blogs and comments on age difference and specially younger members know so much about what is the life of older people and still they know nothing.....how could they,because they have not yet enter that age by them self and if it has to do with relationship,they have never experience a clear difference in age.....sometime I laugh here by my self,how stupid these opinions can be......the perhaps most important thing in older men is,that they take much better care of their woman,much because more experience and reduced ego level,they don't only take,they have learn to give more.
Happily at least,that they in the last minute stop them to kill all,I was looking at some document about that too.....making money,there are always some people,that find a way to go around things.
Yes,I believe so too....and they could do the job for sure better.
If you look at Doctors without borders,they are all volunteers and still they do the best job and they stay firm even they don't know in many cases,if they are alive tomorrow.
I know,I have read about it and there was a document video about where they have the Gorillas and they find oil there and they was on the way to destroy the whole place...happily they got it stopped,but for how long
I dumped a Lady,that was for sure the completely best woman I have ever met and for a stupid reason,but again I could never had got my Daughter and my two Sons,if I had marry her....in fact I think that was meant to be my fate.
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....so sorry girls,there are no money left anymore 
RE: young women dating older men
Johnny,you are surprisingly wise person and you looks to see the whole spectrum of life,when most here have bound them self into one single color.
About older women's baggage as you come up with....it is for sure real and what I have use instead of baggage is,that older women has a lot of buffer zones and that scares you off,because you feel it is going to bring in troubles,when younger women are clearly more easier and ready to walk the road together.
That said,I don't want in any way generalize,because I'm very hard against generalizing,there are always two end and the more wider middle part in everything,so there are for sure older women with less buffer zone,but not easy to find and for to make your self feeling more secure,you lean in the younger direction.
And then to you,welcome to Caribbean and I'm sure you get a hightened welcome from women here too