young women dating older men
Somebody recently posted a blog about she preferring to date older men. One thing I found interesting were a few comments by women saying she had daddy issues....like it is a bad thing or something?What does it mean to have daddy issues?
What is wrong with a woman having daddy issues?
With the divorce rate being so high and a lot of independent women out there, wouldn't daddy issues be somewhat common?
I was listening to Fox news last night and they were talking about the rioting/violence going on in Milwaukee. One of the guests was attributing it to these people not having fathers in their life.
What am I missing here? If a young lady grows up without a father, that is no fault of her own. Why should she not look for a stable male figure in her life if that is what she is craving?
The impression I got from some...that was not a good thing.
Anyway...just something that confused me and I only have a few minutes at the moment here...will be on later to respond. Thank you.
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Those cases where it didn't work out ,get heard about more than the good instances that it did work out,
I see no wrong in someone want a more mature person in their life,(within reason
It should be up to an individual to decide what makes them happy, not public opinion.
I heard of a formula for determining the ideal man/woman ages for compatibility...
Divide the man's age by 2. Add seven. That's the 'ideal' woman's age.
Example...
A 90 year old man.
same way a older man is taken for financial gain and dump same way the younger is used and dump.
a older man is more mature and will stand by and support you in hard times but the younger one will turn tail and run.
ever hear the common saying?" new brrom sweep clean but old broom knows the corners"?
well a young man will always be chasing but the older man has complete his chase and are ready to settle down, most women are seeking stability.
"a older man is more mature and will stand by and support you in hard times but the younger one will turn tail and run."
where does that wisdom come from?
I'm just wondering.
No risk no glory .. that's how it works in life.
Catherine Zeta Jones 25 years younger than Michael Douglas
Kathy Lee 23 years younger than Frank Gifford.
Both women share the exact same birthday as their husbands.
August 16th for the Giffords & September 25th for the Douglas duo.
Numerologists might make note of the fact that both birthdays reduce to the number 7.
Here is an young Lady working in the Mall and every time she see me coming to buy food she is around me,she is clearly ready to go forward,it is me who don't let it go,even my Grandson said when he was here,that that women really like you.
She is very smart,in my opinion more smart,than other women I have been with...anyway,here in Antigua is a lot of smart women and they know what they want and not hide it,they don't stay and wait,that the man start,like this Lady,she came to me by her self and told me,that she like me and,that she know that I'm a nice person....she had follow me already for months,how I behave with people in normal life.
The whole thing is simple,that people who has problems with age differences can not value enough the real feelings between two people,they judge everything by how it looks....that Lady in the Mall check me for months first,before she came to me and when she told me,that she know,that I'm a nice person,in the same time she also show, what she is valuing most in a man and that is the point in women here in Caribbean,when they don't care about age difference and almost sure in women where ever in the world,when age difference don't bother them.
I've been asked a lot of times, "Why??"
I don't have one straight answer. I myself don't even know why I'm so crazy over their wrinkles!!
Maybe I see them as a father figure? Probably, and like you've said, Johnny,.......
What is wrong with that?
Is it such a bad thing?
I totally agree that the people in the relationship should decide. It sounded like from many responses there are some negative social stigmas attached to such a thing.
There is a married couple who I am friends with. He is in his mid-50's and she is in here mid-20's....they are as happy as happy can be.
Thank you.
the big problem is,that the people who are judging age difference,don't accept our right to be different,they do what ever to drag everybody into the same box and to convince that specially big different in age is something awful,in the same time they have trouble by them self to get a relationship working ,or even to find somebody....
That is some good information. I appreciate you sharing it with us. Certainly, I can see where many women want a take charge man...and I am pretty sure that is how our biology has made us out to be. However, with feminism these days...that mixes out a bit what some people "think" they want in a relationship.
Wish you the best....and thank you.
Hmmm, I cannot argue with that equation. That sounds like it would work for me just fine. ....don't get me wrong, I don't mind women my age either.
However, I have heard it said before...some of these older women carry so many negative viewpoints towards relationships...that it is difficult to break through the wall created.
To each their own. Whatever floats your boat.......as long as the person is not under-aged and being coerced into it.
Both are consenting adults, clearly know what they are doing. So, what is the problem?
Got dog!...............
I don't see anything wrong with any of this stuff. As long as the lady brings me chocolate candy bars, a few diet sodas spiked, then I'll probably give her what she wants (you know what I mean, ha ha ha). She just has to go a little easy on me, 'cause I'm getting older and slower everyday.
Good information with those couples. Not too many older women with men though.
You have me curious. ....something more to things, with the number 7 involved?
I have heard a lot of weird stories from the Hollywood area with rituals and that sort of stuff.
Younger women want a replacement for their childrens father, older women want a hand minding the grandkids.
So even if they already have a competent father for their children, the younger woman still wants to replace him? Older women want help with grand kids? Hmmm....not sure about the first one. But the second one sounds like the grand mother should just decline taking the kids in the first place?
Hmmm...it sounds like you should give it a try. I am not saying throw her in your bed and ravish her...but hey...try a date or two with her. She may actually surprise you and you may she is just who you are looking for.
But...
You got me thinking about moving to the Caribbean. :)
I am guessing it is fairly common in today's society. Very good for you DC. You are owning who you are :).
I am just curious as to why some people talk about it as some sort of bad thing. I would suspect that would make people uncomfortable with who they really are.
Thanks DC
Perhaps DC could shed some light on that.
Thanks RC
Consenting adults....
I remember you said you would not date me because I was younger than you.
I am not sure I got that from either comment.
What do you think? Are you on board to the idea of younger women dating older men?
I think that is a reasonable thought and perhaps spot on too.
I should add, and for good reason too.
If the population is fairly close to 50/50 male to female....any man taken out of the dating pool in his old days is one less man for an older woman.
I can understand their fear if that is what is going on.
However....
There is biology too.
It is difficult to combat nature.
I think people need to be educated at a young age at the importance of relationships.
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Perhaps some of the fuel behind feminism??
I don't mind a guy who is of the same age as my dad, or even older. My dad would've been 64 if he were to be still alive....
you are surprisingly wise person and you looks to see the whole spectrum of life,when most here have bound them self into one single color.
About older women's baggage as you come up with....it is for sure real and what I have use instead of baggage is,that older women has a lot of buffer zones and that scares you off,because you feel it is going to bring in troubles,when younger women are clearly more easier and ready to walk the road together.
That said,I don't want in any way generalize,because I'm very hard against generalizing,there are always two end and the more wider middle part in everything,so there are for sure older women with less buffer zone,but not easy to find and for to make your self feeling more secure,you lean in the younger direction.
And then to you,welcome to Caribbean and I'm sure you get a hightened welcome from women here too
scotty just know,when he don't know.....typical to people that has no experience but still behave like expert
I can see,you have build a dogma by your self already....have to admit you are a real expert in the issue.....tanks for your wise advise