Back in the day a man's attention is expressed with respect and dignity. And don't get me wrong, I get flattered with the attention I get, especially the genuine ones. However, I don't appreciate to be called names if I deign to say "NO" to anyone. indeed what an age we live in.
Oh no. the polite society won't appreciate it. there are those who prefer women who are more mild mannered. I usually don't care, but where I came from, I am always reminded to care.
I'm sure I dodged bullets too. I guess I have a streak in me that's a "people pleaser"? Because I have this urge to explain myself a lot. Trying to mend that now, as not everyone will understand and accept your explanation. :blah blah:
I'm sure I dodged bullets too. I guess I have a streak in me that's a "people pleaser"? Because I have this urge to explain myself a lot. Trying to mend that now, as not everyone will understand and accept your explanation.
Yeah, i have met some who are being gentlemen about it. Accept and walk away. I had been in a relationship with someone 17 years older than me. He was my first boyfriend. I loved him but the difference in our preferences are way too big to ignore in the long run. So I have a good reason not to want that again, don’t i?
I block them right away. I just don’t reply anymore once they start being rude. I have better things to do, besides just because i explained something, doesn’t mean that he will change his mind, so why waste effort?
I totally agree. I love my papa dearly however, if he is to be separated from my mama, he would be at a loss. From when they wake up until they go to bed, he needs constant reminding of what he must do. Even those that are essential for his health. He got sick a few months back and if he is without a family, he'd just die. I'm not saying that he is irresponsible or anything, but he seemed to be very dependent on my mama for many things. Which I can say is also true for many other men.
You know to yourself what I mean. Not everything is what it seems. And because you think you are right, doesn’t make you right. Is it good manners to tag team with another gentleman and prey on me? Some kind of gentlemen. Or maybe you don’t. As you’ve said, wisdom comes with age. And you aren’t 95.
I am not on a mighty horse and I am not liking the tone the 2 of you are throwing at me. I have ll the right to want the things I want and to not want the things i di not want. I do not need to explain myself.
I never asked the 2 of you to come to my blog and comment. You came at your own free will and you are welcome. But if you both dislike me, by all means you are free to ignore me all you want.
Some people talk of manners like they are entitled to it.
I am dealing with a lot right now. I don’t need the 2 of you to understand and I certainly do not need your judgement.
Again, if you don’t like me, because it pretty feels personal now, by all means, ignore my blogs and ignore me altogether.
When I say exes coming around i meant trying to initiate communication again. Not literally coming to my presence. And no it isn’t sign of having a good luck. I have let them ho for a reason or two. Some more grave than other. So, i am not flattered or lucky for them coming back.
I also just a dream about Celebrating only the end of a good year. For me being alive is enough to celebrate about. I might be sulking right now, but I wish to celebrate as well in my own way. Doesn’t mean i want to do them with fireworks and stuff. A small celebration will do.
I have met some who were devoid of it despite their advanced age. As for my opinion, Although wisdom doesn’t comes with age, it most certainly comes to those who want it.
Hello Butch. As do I. I look at them as painful yet necessary. I cannot hide from them, might as well experience the extent of the pain. And live with it. Happy new year to you too
I definitely agree with having happy thoughts happy disposition and miserable thoughts miserable disposition as well.
But sometimes b you can’t really just help it. I want to be miserable just for a few minutes in the safety of my room, I think that won’t hurt my entire life.
Oh I have a crystal ball, it just doesn’t tell me anything.
I am starting to actually think that this year would be exactly the same as the previous when it comes to the limitations this pandemic has brought.
I myself am a realist. But I am also hopeful. Because this year, I have started to prioritize the things I should have prioritized years ago. This makes me a little more hopeful to bring even a small change from the previous months at least.
Its just amazing how the body manifests the internal turmoil the mind and spirit has.
Thank you everyone. I really just miss him. So so much that even opening myself to a new person is so difficult. I feel like i was traumatized at how painful it was. And its making me want to control everything to avoid such pain.
He isn’t from here. I posted here because there’s no chance of him every reading this. I can’t bare the thought of him knowing how painful the break up was for me.
I just want to hear how others would have handled the situation. To get insights. Or maybe even validation. I might be thinking wrong or might be missing something.
It was also more than a year of dating. Nothing too crazy. I am always firm with my decision. Even when I broke up with my 4-year bf. But I don’t know why I seem to lose all discipline with this one! I hate to admit it.
I took a stand when I broke up with him. But he’s coming back. He disturbed my silence.
That’s the thing. I didn’t hold on because he doesn’t provide what I need from him. And that’s not the fancy dinners, or expensive gifts, or how good we look together. I want his attention and affection. I certainly get those when we are together. But it doesn’t happen often. I give him the benefit of the doubt because he truly is busy and he lives far. Like 40mins - 1 hour. I may even be just making these excuses for him. I don’t know.
I certainly don’t want to be FWB or casual with him or anyone for that matter. Sometimes I think it’s my fault for letting him get away with being absentee. I want to be considerate, but it’s taking a toll on my own needs.
Or maybe I’m overthinking things? Maybe I should take this at face value and just base my decision to what I receive? It sounds shallow.
I give him plenty of space. I don’t txt him or call him when he doesn’t do it first because i might be disturbing him. Also I message him only when something comes up. And even so, he messages me at an average of 5-7 days.
I asked him if he even remembers me anytime in those 5 days, and he said of course. He just feels like there’s nothing important to talk about. Or he fears that the conversation might go in and on and he will have no work done. I swear sometimes it sounds like an excuse. But I understand he’s busy.
Thank you for all your insightful comments everyone. Things are a little more clear. I guess I will need to think of what I can accept and what I cannot. If it is ok with me to go on with him without the pressure of putting a label on a relationship. Or if I should just move on totally. Our situation is unique, yes. And he isn’t from the same country as I am.
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Back in the day a man's attention is expressed with respect and dignity. And don't get me wrong, I get flattered with the attention I get, especially the genuine ones. However, I don't appreciate to be called names if I deign to say "NO" to anyone. indeed what an age we live in.