It was 1962 when I first heard The Beatles first record on the radio, Love Me Do. I wasn't long after I had discovered Bob Dylan and it became obvious the times really were a changin.
It always works. The only people who would disagree are those who have not tried to forgive, and I mean to forgive fully, with the awareness, like you mentioned, that its your well being and peace of mind that benefits the most.
Bearing a grudge is futile, it's a form of self punishment. Some people carry this burden around for years allowing their animosity and loathing to eat away at them endlessly. There is a quick and almost immediate way out though....it's called forgiveness. Forgiveness, when it's authentic, will release a person from the chains of this type of suffering and that's what bearing a grudge is, it's a form of suffering. Forgiveness releases you from such unnecessary suffering. .. always.
Haha, I once asked a Buddhist nun that question, she said, no because the tree doesn't exist. I think she was joking. But, if a tree falls in a forest, the air will vibrate, if there are no eardrums around to pick up those vibrations, it could be argued that there is no sound. That is connectivity, cause and effect.
If I look out of my window and see an old oak tree, is that tree simply there, a given object in the landscape? Not at all To a neutrino, which can pass through the entire earth in a few millionths of a second, solid objects are as vaporous as fog. My nervous system must create an oak Tree from the fog of quantum data. Everything about that tree is malleable. To a proton, which takes billions of years to be born and then decay, the life of the oak tree is less than a split second To a mayfly with its lifespan of one day, the oak Tree is literally eternal. To a Druid priest, the tree would be sacred, the home of forest deities, to a logger it's just a days work. Take any quality the tree may have and it changes according to the perceiver. Now consider the environment of the tree. Every quality possessed by the air, the sea, the earth and the sun are equally under my control. In a catatonic state, I would see nothing that I see now. In a state of religious inspiration, colours, smells and sounds might be acutely sharp. This is more than a subjective shift. To perceive the world my brain must convert visual protons into sensory information. The most important point of all this is..... there is no tree out there, it's just an appearance to my mind.
Taken from my notes from How to Know God Deepak Chopra.
That's a good insight to the buddhist belief that all there is emptiness and appearance. What appears to our mind comes from emptiness, nothing exists from its own side, nothing is independent from our minds.
I remember talking to someone a while back when she said, I must dash, I've got to take Gary to the park. I asked if Gary was her son, she said no, Gary's my dog.
RE: Where were you when you first heard the Beatles on the Ed Sullivan Show?
It was 1962 when I first heard The Beatles first record on the radio, Love Me Do.I wasn't long after I had discovered Bob Dylan and it became obvious the times really were a changin.