Don't look Back In Anger!! (33)
I've never seen the point in holding grudges why should I allow people continue to keep me prisoner within their sad miserable little world.
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annaroach: Isn't it futile, to hold grudges, and to stay angry, for things that happened
in the past,, who does that affect only ourselves.
Is your opinion different from mine?
As far as relationships? in the past,, who does that affect only ourselves.
Is your opinion different from mine?
Stay angry as long as necessary to survive or get through it.
Forgive when you can. Not when others say "It is time to move on" or "You have to get over this".
But NEVER
FORGET (Or act like something never happened.. because it did happen)
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me
We teach people how to treat us. And forgive and forget is teaching them you are a doormat
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I forgive but I don't forget...
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Bearwoman: I've never seen the point in holding grudges why should I allow people continue to keep me prisoner within their sad miserable little world.
That is a good attitude to have !
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CossackCat: As far as relationships?
Stay angry as long as necessary to survive or get through it.
Forgive when you can. Not when others say "It is time to move on" or "You have to get over this".
But NEVER FORGET
(Or act like something never happened.. because it did happen)
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me
We teach people how to treat us. And forgive and forget is teaching them you are a doormat
Oh i agree, nothing is instant, in time though, if something is still eating you up,Stay angry as long as necessary to survive or get through it.
Forgive when you can. Not when others say "It is time to move on" or "You have to get over this".
But NEVER FORGET
(Or act like something never happened.. because it did happen)
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me
We teach people how to treat us. And forgive and forget is teaching them you are a doormat
with regard to what happened, isn't that bad for us, if we can't move on from it ?
Is there not a time when we realize that we are stronger because of being able to forgive
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pKrema: I forgive but I don't forget...
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CossackCat: As far as relationships?
Stay angry as long as necessary to survive or get through it.
Forgive when you can. Not when others say "It is time to move on" or "You have to get over this".
But NEVER FORGET
(Or act like something never happened.. because it did happen)
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me
We teach people how to treat us. And forgive and forget is teaching them you are a doormat
agree.Stay angry as long as necessary to survive or get through it.
Forgive when you can. Not when others say "It is time to move on" or "You have to get over this".
But NEVER FORGET
(Or act like something never happened.. because it did happen)
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me
We teach people how to treat us. And forgive and forget is teaching them you are a doormat
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Bearing a grudge is futile, it's a form of self punishment. Some people carry this burden around for years allowing their animosity and loathing to eat away at them endlessly.
There is a quick and almost immediate way out though....it's called forgiveness.
Forgiveness, when it's authentic, will release a person from the chains of this type of suffering and that's what bearing a grudge is, it's a form of suffering.
Forgiveness releases you from such unnecessary suffering. .. always.
There is a quick and almost immediate way out though....it's called forgiveness.
Forgiveness, when it's authentic, will release a person from the chains of this type of suffering and that's what bearing a grudge is, it's a form of suffering.
Forgiveness releases you from such unnecessary suffering. .. always.
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annaroach: Yeah, not so easy to forget !
It's impossible to forget...unless one is incredibly good in manipulating their memory...With the time you think less and less about it...but sometimes, a little something could bring the memory back to life...
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bodleing2: Bearing a grudge is futile, it's a form of self punishment. Some people carry this burden around for years allowing their animosity and loathing to eat away at them endlessly.
There is a quick and almost immediate way out though....it's called forgiveness.
Forgiveness, when it's authentic, will release a person from the chains of this type of suffering and that's what bearing a grudge is, it's a form of suffering.
Forgiveness releases you from such unnecessary suffering. .. always.
Thank you for that Bodleing, that is what i think, and what i have done,There is a quick and almost immediate way out though....it's called forgiveness.
Forgiveness, when it's authentic, will release a person from the chains of this type of suffering and that's what bearing a grudge is, it's a form of suffering.
Forgiveness releases you from such unnecessary suffering. .. always.
and thankful that i was able to do it,, it does indeed release me from any suffering and
has made me stronger, i know that there are people that don't agree with this, but for me it was the
only way ,and best for my well being.!
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pKrema: It's impossible to forget...unless one is incredibly good in manipulating their memory...
With the time you think less and less about it...but sometimes, a little something could bring the memory back to life...
Yes that's true, but when you say you can forgive, does that mean that you With the time you think less and less about it...but sometimes, a little something could bring the memory back to life...
can be ok with the person that you needed to forgive, or not?
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annaroach: Yes that's true, but when you say you can forgive, does that mean that you
can be ok with the person that you needed to forgive, or not?
Of course I'd prefer them away from me but yes, I can be OK with them...and not forcefully...can be ok with the person that you needed to forgive, or not?
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pKrema: Of course I'd prefer them away from me but yes, I can be OK with them...and not forcefully...
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annaroach: Thank you for that Bodleing, that is what i think, and what i have done,
and thankful that i was able to do it,, it does indeed release me from any suffering and
has made me stronger, i know that there are people that don't agree with this, but for me it was the
only way ,and best for my well being.!
It always works. The only people who would disagree are those who have not tried to forgive, and I mean to forgive fully, with the awareness, like you mentioned, that its your well being and peace of mind that benefits the most.and thankful that i was able to do it,, it does indeed release me from any suffering and
has made me stronger, i know that there are people that don't agree with this, but for me it was the
only way ,and best for my well being.!
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bodleing2: It always works. The only people who would disagree are those who have not tried to forgive, and I mean to forgive fully, with the awareness, like you mentioned, that its your well being and peace of mind that benefits the most.
Exactly, i couldn't be at peace until i forgive.Then i'm happy ,so it does work!
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annaroach: Yes that's true, but when you say you can forgive, does that mean that you
can be ok with the person that you needed to forgive, or not?
Some people, some relationships are just toxic can be ok with the person that you needed to forgive, or not?
Toxic Relationships
13 Signs You're In A Toxic Relationship And It's Ruining Your Life
30 Signs You're in a Toxic Relationship
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CossackCat: Some people, some relationships are just toxic
Toxic Relationships
13 Signs You're In A Toxic Relationship And It's Ruining Your Life
30 Signs You're in a Toxic Relationship
Sorry i don't open links.Toxic Relationships
13 Signs You're In A Toxic Relationship And It's Ruining Your Life
30 Signs You're in a Toxic Relationship
Some know instinctively that they are in toxic relationships
They also stay too long in them, for different reasons, never good to stay in one
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Dammit Anna, I thought this was going to be about Manchester shoe gazers Oasis, greatest band of the 90s...
But yes and no...
I forgive, but I never forget...does that sound like I never really forgive?...
I become acutely aware of people who've wronged me, I'd be careful what I say about and around them... Once untrustworthy, always untrustworthy... Doesn't mean I have to keep them out of my life, just not have them in my inner circle...and that's here as well as IRL...
But yes and no...
I forgive, but I never forget...does that sound like I never really forgive?...
I become acutely aware of people who've wronged me, I'd be careful what I say about and around them... Once untrustworthy, always untrustworthy... Doesn't mean I have to keep them out of my life, just not have them in my inner circle...and that's here as well as IRL...
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Arthur_Sixpence: Dammit Anna, I thought this was going to be about Manchester shoe gazers Oasis, greatest band of the 90s...
But yes and no...
I forgive, but I never forget...does that sound like I never really forgive?...
I become acutely aware of people who've wronged me, I'd be careful what I say about and around them... Once untrustworthy, always untrustworthy... Doesn't mean I have to keep them out of my life, just not have them in my inner circle...and that's here as well as IRL...
I am a fan of Oasis, and it was hearing them on the radio today that prompted this.But yes and no...
I forgive, but I never forget...does that sound like I never really forgive?...
I become acutely aware of people who've wronged me, I'd be careful what I say about and around them... Once untrustworthy, always untrustworthy... Doesn't mean I have to keep them out of my life, just not have them in my inner circle...and that's here as well as IRL...
I don't know really if it means that you never forgive.
I have only one experience to draw from, and it was not easy for a long time for me to forgive
But when i did, i now don't let it dictate my life any further , i kinda have forgotten too for most part
Now , i'm not a saint, but i am in a very good place, so i guess that's what is important .
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in the past,, who does that affect only ourselves.
Is your opinion different from mine?