Well, you hit the nail on the head; they were young girls. I certainly wouldn't have been offended by a young guy making that comment but was surprised to hear a guy my age made that comment. Looking at your profile, I don't see where they get fat from but what do the young ones know anyways. I guess it boils down to being who we are and if others don't like it, then its their problem.
Okay, looked at your profile. You don't look like you need to lose weight at all. Not sure what a size 14UK compares to a 14 USA. About two years ago, I was a size 22US because of my car accident; couldn't move. I am now a size 12US so I know that isn't too large of a size.
Thanks, I appreciate that. I thought I was doing well until I read the comments from him but it wasn't just him. There were a few others that made the same comment about my weight, so got me thinking about it.
Yes, I have seen those guidelines myself and could not possibly meet them. I am 5'8" to start with, cycle a lot and do weight training. I personally don't weigh myself but rather measure by inches or how my clothes fit. I tried to follow those charts and you could count my ribs as I literaly was starving myself to meet the weight they suggest. Now, I focus on just being healthy and ignore the pounds.
I think you are right that he was looking for swimsuit model and realistically at my age, that seems a tad far fetched. The important thing to me is to stay healthy, so not going to starve myself to make him happy. I agree, he could have worded it a little kinder to me rather than just saying I was fat. Thanks again for the kind words. That really makes me feel better about myself as I must say it was a shock to hear hime say that to me.
As I was saying to Ambrose to each his own and if you aren't comfortable dating someone who does carry more weight than they should, I would not sit in judgement. I was just curious as to how one puts a person's weight into perspective when dating. It just really threw off when I got those comments said to me.
Nope those picturs are of me; taken in January. I actually have increased my workouts since then. So, this is why I was surprised by their reaction. Just chaulk it up to each his own I guess. And thanks for your kind comments about my physical shape. Kind of hurting this morning from my workout but to me its worthwhile.
Actually I was told this within the last two weeks that I was too fat to date. I agree a few extra pounds certainly would not affect my decision on dating someone. Would rather have a few extra pounds rather than someone making themselves sick to stay thin.
Yes, I draw the line when a man can't bend over and tie his shoes. A guy that has a few pounds overweight is alright with as you pointed out, we aren't young anymore and I certainly don't expect him to be the same weight he was 19.
Absolutely. I learned by reading books, internet, or just asking my males friends to show me how I can do things for myself. Its a great feeling to be able to do things for yourself and my house looks great with the renos I did.
I am curious as to what being too overweight too date. A few guys have told me I was too fat (exact words) to date. This surprised me as I really didn't think I looked that bad. Now, not saying I shouldn't lose a few more pounds but never considered myself fat. So my question is would you date someone overweight or is weight just not a factor in dating? Also what do you consider overweight?
No, not being negative. I am a positive person and if I meet someone here then great, but I also have to realistic about this too. I have met some wonderful people on here but being as far away as they are, what are the chances of me ever meeting these people? So, don't take my comment as being negative. I am quite happy with my life and all it has to offer.
Too overweight to date?
I would seriously suggest weight training as it boosts your metabolism and burns off the fat. Just do light dumbells. Good luck with your goal.