rohaan Forum Posts (10,561)

RE: Here's a serious Question.

yes I know--I have been called on this before. I really don't mean to sound so "wordy"--I don't think of it this way as this kind of expressing seems to come natural. But you're right to tease me a little, most of the world isn't quite as ...superfluously loquacious! love you dear...

RE: Here's a serious Question.

How about this, depending upon the ages of the kids and their cognitive skill level:
1. Why don't you want Daddy to date?
2. Is there something about "Sally" you don't like?
3. Do you not want Daddy to have a nice lady friend? Why not?

I think often if you include the kids in your plans, as a sort of family meeting, etc... you might have some good success. Finding a way to let them know you have a right to happiness without giving the "get used to it this is the way it's going to be" routine. Most kids of a single parent are going to resist having another adult taking (in their mind) their Daddy away. It's natural for them to do this. I have noticed when I have my great niece and nephew in a store or restaurant, and engage in conversation with another adult, even their parents, they become fidgety, unfocused, and even more demanding of my time. Kids want the attention. You have some fish to fry, but you're probably a good cook, so I'm sure you'll figure it out. Don't, however, allow kids to dictate to you. This is not a solution at all, either. OK--no 'pats' this time, out of respect!

RE: W D - 40

Zippers that catch, especially those on parkas and sleeping bags and tents, jar lids that won't come off (you gotta spray it just under the lip, but just a little. No it won't be toxic--also a very tight screw that won't come out, just spray a little wd on it and let it sit for a minute, that screw will untwist nicely. Or, if you don't have "goo gone" you can put a little wd on the stickie tags on picture frames, let sit, and that tag will wipe right off. dang, I am so good.

RE: W D - 40

I heard that it "unfreezes" a carlock in Winter, (did someone else already say that?) it sure is a useful product, that's for sure.

RE: If someone was taken from you by unfairly and everyday you see reminder of it would hold a grudge

"appear", "assume", "probably". What do you think a company I am doing financial business with would say to me if I said, "I will appear to have the intent of paying my bill. I assume you will extend my contract to double the time. I probably will pay you back". Not too cognitive, is it?

RE: If someone was taken from you by unfairly and everyday you see reminder of it would hold a grudge

Mr. Bodleing:

((s i g h )). let it go. you made your point. You are doing an awful lot of judging of someone you do not know. ((s i g h )) I thought you were different than that. ((s i g h ))

RE: Here's a serious Question.

"there is bad in the best of us, and good in the worst of us"

thanks bob

RE: Here's a serious Question.

Well said. and..elegantly so!

RE: Here's a serious Question.

You are confusing. What exactly, do you want to hear from us? It seems when someone answers this post, you cop an attitude. You don't seem like the kind of man to parlay/vacillate back and forth, but it seems like this is what you are doing. If guilt is *&#@@! ng with you, then find closure so you won't be *#@@!'d with-- if someone uses the supplied emoticons to convey something, don't find fault with them. Seems to me they are just trying to be friendly. What kind of a man are you, anyway? Wait--why don't you go ahead and tell us precisely what it is you want to hear so we can be on your good side? Custom designed interactions.

RE: Here's a serious Question.

Oh is this ever a potentially caustic scenario. I'm fairly old fashioned when it comes to this kind of thing. Maybe not all, or even maybe not even most, kids are going to be belligerent about the parent dating. Too much competition. It's as natural as it can be. Now, should it be considered, tolerated? Look, you are the Mom or the Dad. You are paying the bills. You have the greater experience of life. I believe that it is inappropriate to allow your children to dictate who you choose to see. This is too much power to be giving your child.You do this and you become their "yes" man or woman. It is poor parenting to allow a child to rule the roost, and letting them influence your personal friendships is the epitome of this. Not wise, I say NO to this. If you do this, everything else might as well go to hell, too.

RE: If someone was taken from you by unfairly and everyday you see reminder of it would hold a grudge

I was going by his profile, but I guess what you're saying is that no one could really know for sure. Are you on my case or what? If so, please take a powder!

RE: If someone was taken from you by unfairly and everyday you see reminder of it would hold a grudge

You must find out why you are so hurt and angry and heal it somehow, put it behind you. You are too young to be so agitated about things you cannot change. Life is for living gloriously, happily, and fully, not for harboring all this angst that goes nowhere. Take this for example, - there exists an abundance of knowledge, education and resources to end abject poverty in the United States. So....why does it still exist? Kapiche? The world turns the way it does, and it has been doing this for millions of years, and they haven't gotten rid of trouble yet. You're a handsome, healthy young man. Have a good life. Do you know who Helen Keller was? She was a highly intelligent and formally educated writer, teacher, speaker and professor. She was blind and deaf. One of her most famous quotes is "Keep your face to the sun and you will not see the shadow". I have very good reasons for telling you all this. A beautiful and lovely life is what I have left to strive for. AND, it's WORKING. Come out of the doldrums, kiddo. You could be much worse off.

RE: Does anyone here really care...

Every time I try to get serious in a thread y'all start horsing around. OK--here's my little contribution to your funny farm!

"AUNTIE EM....I HATE YOU I HATE KANSAS. I'M TAKING THE DOG."

Dorothy

RE: If someone was taken from you by unfairly and everyday you see reminder of it would hold a grudge

I don't want to give you a wishy-washy mixed message, but I do agree with ginger, to a degree. There is much to be considered for your age, and a respect perhaps for experiences only you hold the key and knowledge to. And, per your earlier reply to me, which was polite, by the way, and I thank you, the quote "All that it takes for evil to prevail is for good men to do nothing" comes to mind. You are bright and your heart is in the right place for wanting to right the wrongs you identify in your spectrum of the world. Now, the frustrating part is that you have not been at all forthright. What, precisely, are you talking about? Or, to be transparent would in some way be a jeapordy to you? What is it, my boy? Be direct and to the point so we may understand you better. THAT is the essence of communication, not inuendoes and riddles. A personal note to you: the world will never be what any of us really, really would like it to be. Try to find happiness in the things you do have control with. Your life will go much better when you come to this realization.

RE: Does anyone here really care...

I think it's fair to know what one wants--however, I do think that one's income should not be asked, just because that is a private matter. It also tends to prejudice people who aren't rich/well-to-do, and money is an inappropriate factor in love. But if I want someone who isn't bald, grossly overweight, or who has personal convictions and agendas I strongly disagree with, then it is my preogative. After all, as tasteless as I find trying to get a personal companion in this manner, it is a sort of "market", we ARE looking, aren't we? And why not get what we want, since we took the step in the first place?

RE: Gone too soon singers

Janis Joplin, Harry Chapin, Freddie Mercury

RE: Great movie quotes.

Judge: "Young woman, are you showing disdain for this courtroom"?


Mae West: "On the contrary, your honor. I'm doin' muh best ta hide it".

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(may be from "My Little Chickadee", am not quite sure. but it's great, huh?)

RE: What would you do?

woops--
t a n g l e d------

RE: Relationship and Religion

what's KFC?

RE: Relationship and Religion

People do it all the time. Many movies have been made themed on this--the Catholic boy falls in love with the Jewish girl, etc... I have always believed that love is far stronger than religious dogma. That's how powerful true love is. And I think that is absolutely wonderful. There is nothing so nice as love.

RE: What would you do?

"Oh what a tangles web..."

RE: Am I Really that shallow....

Hi RR--I think you do just fine--my little surprise was I had no idea anybody lived on Gibralter--I'm a fairly educated dweeb, but I thought it just kind of sat out there with wrecked schooners and seagulls and an old lighthouse or something, and that people just visited it to take pictures. Well la dee dah--heads up, Bud-you're only shallow if you think you're shallow. The only man you ever need to be concerned about is the one with his hand in your front pocket. Kapiche?

RE: One Reason Arizona Passed SB 1070

I was hoping someone would address the 'majority' rule ideal. I'm all for the bill, too, however--it would seem to make sense in a democratic country that majority rules. That's kinda what it means. Sorta. BUT, WAIT--if we decided everything on majority rule, vigilante groups would abound, innocent people would be punished before a fair trial,etc..., and it has been said if majority ruled we would still have segregation, minimum wage laws would be thrown out the window (most of the voting rich (corporate America) would see to it! These are just a couple of examples. The United States of America constitutionally guarantees the rights of THE INDIVIDUAL. There are very good reasons why we do not (always) go with "majority" rule.

70's TV Show

I remember that! I always kinda liked him (the repairman)

70's TV Show

thanx honey--you were the only one who knew. Check your mail, darling.

RE: Britain has a new Prime Minister

Hey, I,m just curious--what were the choices? Why do many British not like this new PM? Would the next strongest candidate have been better? (I really do not know--fill me in briefly on English current events. thanks)

RE: Virtual infidelity: who do you think is right?

your marriage is in disrepair. Find out if and how to fix it, or call it a day. A wife who gets love letters from an Italian friend is unhappy. As far as what do I think is right? well, she is not right, and this kind of privacy is out of line to expect in a marriage. You are not right, because you are talking to us, instead of her. Do your laundry at home. With your wife. The last option is cancelled out by the comments I made on the first two. (The Italian is NOT in the wrong, assuming he doesn't know she's married. I gather she lied to him).

70's TV Show

Yes! but what was the actress's name who played the mom? (I am LMAO at that guy's remark, "what did you mean by that"?--what a Delbert Gridley! Jeeze Louize..)

70's TV Show

I have been talking to a friend lately about retro-television shows. We are both fairly good at trivia, but neither of us can remember the following: There was a show about a single mother with two daughters, Valerie Bertinelli played a daughter, as did John Phillips daughter (forget her first name). What was the mother's real name, AND name in the show? What was the name of the show? thanx--

RE: What would you do?

there is something really evil about a person who would ask such a question. Can you imagine the hurt and pain and sorrow they would be dredging up? Why would someone want to do this? Oh, I know, we are a nasty bunch, us humans. I saw terrible mind games and tons of nastiness toward unsuspecting people every day of my working life. And that was in a hospital. Where staff are supposed to be modeling tenderness, kindness, caring. This world is so screwed up. I wouldn't even answer this. Or the answer would be, "Get out".