Re: Clint--yeah, he was great--25 or 30 years ago. Hey Pedalguy--what was that movie, where he made all the townspeople paint the whole town red? Then he whopped the outlaws who came into town to cause trouble. Do you remember?
Depending on regions, "blackwater" may very well have been his way of telling you the dancer(s) or, the place, was a "waste", a dive, etc... Additionally, he probably was checking you out, and that comment was his flimsy attempt to break the ice. Google "blackwater"--it is commonly used as a term for something not worth anything. I am guessing that is what he was saying.
There is always someone in a relationship like "FWB" who really wants it to be more. Therefore, it doesn't "work" and probably should be avoided. People aren't made to be so close to one another and have no deeper caring. It doesn't work, not forever, anyhow.
Very sorry that Christmas has such a tragic memory. There are many people who do not understand that it is losing a child, just the same. In my life, it has been important and helpful for me to know that there is a value in everything, even loss and sorrow (yes, I know it's tough to wrap our mind around that).
Very sorry that Christmas has such a tragic memory. There are many people who do not understand that it is losing a child, just the same. In my life, it has been important and helpful for me to know that there is a value in everything, even loss and sorrow (yes, I know it's tough to wrap our mind around that).
How about just saying, "Learn to keep toxic people at arms' length"? It says just as much. (You don't have to get soaked to know its raining. Know what I mean?)
As a retired medical technician, this is something I do have some experience with, both as a clinician and yes, I have some personal experience with it. Please note, however, that as my own physicians taught me, some depression, and some stress, and some anxiety, is perfectly normal in the whole population. The border is crossed when these very human conditions start hindering a positive outlook on life, cause critical problems in relationships and careers, and have a direct link to physiological problems, such as frequent eating and/or illness disorders. A very effective tool for addressing the more acute conditions (besides chemicals) is to firmly and unconditionally get on a routine. Consistently donating time to someone who needs it has proven to be astronomically helpful. The key is to GET BUSY. It may seem hard at first, but when the habit is formed, many sufferers say it is the best thing that ever happened to them. One last thing--if it applies, ditch the cigarette smoking and alcohol. As long as these two, or one or the other, remain, therapy of any kind is severely crippled. Now, get crackin'....
If you researched, there are so many careers that are "risky"--doctors, nurses/medical assistants run daily risks of contracting fatal diseases, some are even unknown. Airline pilots, train conductors, long-haul truck drivers, smelting plant production workers (hear about the guys who fell into a vat of molten steel? geeze------) You can't discount somebody because they may be in a risky situation. What about all our military personnel, etc...? Life IS risk---So, if your question was if the chemistry is right, etc... then I would say if you love the person and they love you, then be together. If one of you doesn't survive in the long run (and I hear one usually goes first, anyhow, duh) then c'est la vie. You can't run from the world.
Much of it has to do with how you approach an employer. If your personal appearance is neat, and you are well groomed, and can fill out forms without needing many questions answered, and are polite, all those things. One of the nicest things ever said to me was by a bartender/friend, and it was this:" No matter what the economy--good help is always hard to find. And YOU'RE great help". (I also never had problems finding work). I guess the answer is to be well-read, neat and clean, and strive to be "good help".
Try to see it as adding more armour, not giving up good qualities. There are wonderful people in the world, and I know it's hard to maintain a sweet, trusting personality when there are so many wrongs, but try to have both: Good armour, good sense, and a loving and trusting heart. You're a smart cookie. Make it work for you.
You have posted a very interesting blog. First, it is not a negative quality to recognize your own assets in regards to looks, athletic appeal, and so forth. More importantly, how you conduct yourself toward others and having empathy, compassion, and genuine care for others surpasses the visual recommendations. Having said that, and validating knowing and liking one's own looks and personality, the correct thing to say when complimented on any front is "Thank you". Do not say things like, "yes, I know" even jokingly. Although some may understand you are being facetious, generally people will view you as being egotistical, which is, by the way, never a good asset. Just say "thank you" nothing more or less, smile, and then find something nice to say about them.
Lying is a bad habit, like drinking, stealing. Once it starts, and especially if the liar "gets away with it", it continues pathologically (the liar becomes so enmeshed in his/her own lies they no longer believe they are lying).
I have read much of your Christian blogs--and they are indeed very interesting. I applaud your enthusiasm, albeit that God really needs no defenders. A few things you fail to mention, (and yes, I am a believer, yes, I like men, yes, God loves me completely, so don't make the mistake of attempting to imply that He doesn't. It is between Him and me; it has nothing to do with you. Try to use your own brain cells a bit, after all, He went to the trouble to give them to you. Now, listen up, and listen GOOD:
John 14:27 "Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid".
Matthew 10:34 "Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a SWORD".
These are both from the New Testament, and say the complete opposite. In fact the two statements are in direct conflict with one another. There are many, many inconsistencies similar to this. By the way, do you believe an unwed young lady should be stoned to death? Well, the Bible indicates that is what she should get. Come on, you really, really need to find the wonderful, loving God that really is there and stop thinking of Him as being this monster that is going to destroy people. It is not like that at all. Man, you need to get your mind straight about God=LOVE, not hate and horrors. Think about it this way: You believe that God loves you and wants to be your friend, right? If someone told you they loved you and wanted to be your best friend, but they would torment and torture you if you didn't, would you be all excited about being their friend? Please, please use your head. Come on!
It's shallow, no matter who does it. Change your view on this. Get to know somebody through communication first, then exchange photos. It is perfectly reasonable, and you get a much broader idea of who they are if you're not just going by a pic, which can be deceiving, anyhow.
Just wondering if it's possible that they are not coached thoroughly enough before embarking on this kind of position? Sounds like their expectations are different than what the dose of reality actually is. Perhaps a more realistic educational briefing before the voyage? JMO.
Go read my thread--the one you posted earlier was locked. Tell us some more of what this is all about on that one. Hopefully it won't get removed, too. (I responded to Jan...) Hey, sorry about your luck, but they're everywhere--the dishonest ones, I mean.
Auto-Immune Diseases of all kinds are on the rise. Some are relatively rare (I have the rarest--sorry, don't wish to be specific). As a medical professional I have to wonder why the increase in these illnesses? Could it be all the artificial ingredients in things we ingest, the environment in general, the toxins in the air, ground, and water, any ideas? I wish you the very best, love, sounds like you are coping very well. (Me, too. Have actually discovered tons of things I might have overlooked, and live CAN really be beautiful, exciting, even in the very little and common things. I never thought I would be so awe-struck with sunrises, so warmed inside by the bay and ocean breezes, so enriched by wonderful people around me. There is always something good to be gained from illness, yes, I know that sounds cliche, but it IS totally true.
You know what? My drill instructor told me I could sleep in every day this week, and spend the rest of boot camp learning meditation and poetry. Plus, in my down-time, I get to nurture my inner child. He also said whenever I get lonely, I can come over to his barraks, and spend the night. In his bed. With him. God I love the army!
I agree with denmcintyre--if you are stopped and have your picture ID/proof that you are here legally, then what's the problem? Many of us of all ethnic groups are stopped and asked for ID all the time for a variety of reasons. AND, if you are stopped and cannot prove that you are here legally, then you deserve to be sent back. (People from Europe, Australia, etc... who want to move to the United States have to go through the proper application process--why should we let another group skirt the procedures? It is not fair to turn a blind eye, no matter how "qualified" the argument). Suppose I wanted to move to Australia or New Zealand, and because my profession is needed there, I expect to bypass their immigration system. Gonna work? N O T ! The same rules apply for everybody. I suspect Arizona had no other alternative than to be proactive about this out of control problem. Thumbs up to that state.
I don't want to venture out on a limb with an unknown strength, but in your country women (as I understand it) are not liberal--seems very traditional, etc... so it would be unlikely that a woman would pursue a man in India, at least not like they do here, and doubly so not an already married man. So,,I am a bit confused about you saying you are married, but still no chics. Well of course not. Culturally, that sort of thing doesn't go on, because if it did, and don't take this the wrong way, but you would be a good catch, I think. It's not the same. and if you are happily married, why would it matter?
I can't hardly believe this is right here in black and white! Thanks for validating what I have thought to be true for decades. A long time ago, I had never felt a "part" of the dating crowd, just kind of a tolerated pet of some kind or another. Then I met a girl I fell in love with, a real doll, and we set up housekeeping and went out to the local bars and taverns. All of a sudden, I am THE cutest, THE most handsome boy in town--the fave of all the gorgeous girls. (Caused some friction with my lovie...) Now, where were all these ladies when I was single? I was around all the time. Hmmmmm........nothing more desirable than a man who is attached to somebody else. Why is this?
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Re: Clint--yeah, he was great--25 or 30 years ago. Hey Pedalguy--what was that movie, where he made all the townspeople paint the whole town red? Then he whopped the outlaws who came into town to cause trouble. Do you remember?Hi Ali--I know it's your blog. Carry on........