I wouldn't consider the fathers feelings. Only the child. And the childs future. If you do this, how will it affect the childs future? Do you think it will be positive or disruptive?
Emily is 13, knows what I did and the reasons I did them. She's thanked me for loving her enough to do what I did. She has never had any desire to meet her father.
You do what you think is best for the child, even if it doesn't coincide with the childs wishes. It's hard, and I've been there. You may feel very alone. People may disagree with you. But do what YOU think is best for the child.
And remember, the child is often better off without that person in their lives. You don't want to put your child in a situation with a parent that will say they'll be there and they never show up. That was my decision, I didn't want my daughter to ever know neglect and she would have with her father. He's never seen her.
Being the better person is sticking to your guns for what is best, not bowing to others wishes and what they may say.
I had people who disagreed with my decisions come back to me later and say I'd done the right thing, though not one person thought I was doing the right thing at the time.
If you need someone to talk to, feel free to email me. I'll tell you what I went through.
I understand. I have felt the same way Morgan. I don't think I could have gotten through the past months without the help of these wonderful people, you included.
My nephew was an artist. He did one of a guy shooting himself in the head -- he comes home one day with a bunch of t-shirts he'd had made with this. His mom freaked out - said some kid will kill himself and you'll get sued for giving them the idea! Unfortunately, my nephew died very shortly after that.
For those who've asked, Em is doing better today. Another day or two and I think she'll be back to normal. Thanks for the thoughts and prayers, friends.
I know you're so proud of him. Bless his heart, hun. My thoughts are with you all. Morgan I may not be there with you, but I've been crying with you through the whole thing. You're in my heart, hun.
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She is 13, it's almost a given. 
RE: do you let your ex see your child he gave up his rights to?
I wouldn't consider the fathers feelings. Only the child. And the childs future. If you do this, how will it affect the childs future? Do you think it will be positive or disruptive?