Dag, you could make a "Daggotto". Here is a recipe. One shot of whiskey (is it Jack Daniels?), one shot of vodka, one shot of tequila (without the worm), one tall glass, crushed ice
Place the ice in the glass 1/2 full, then add the shots from above. Pour in 1/4 cup of wine (white preferably), 1/4 cup of ginger ale, Sprite, or 7up. Shake don't stir. Then top with two cherries and a spit of amaretto. Find a good movie, sit on the couch, and sip slowly.
Since I have been alone for several years now, and just recently got back into the so called dating scene, I would say I am pickier now that I was 30 years ago. Being young and in love, and going through Hell! then deciding you want to do it all over again takes guts -- lots of them.
When you get older, you know what you want to live with, live for, and how you want to do it. You have already set your life in a motion that cannot be stopped. Why shouldn't you be picky? Why should you settle for second best? Just because the goods may be used does not mean they are not worthy. Everyone has made mistakes and everyone has baggage of some kind. Some more than others.
What do you want to do with whom you are doing it? Do you want a one night stand or just a wayward lily? Do you want a pamper or to be pampered? I want to know that tomorrow I wake up, from there, I will see what is promised. God says he gives us one day at a time. There is no guarantees on tomorrow either. Since I have no one to answer to, my goal is to please me.
Now, when, or if I ever, get someone in my life, the goals will probably change. I have been alone long enough to know that I can survive without it -- but love is very nice to have!
On the hair: I had straight hair for 40+ years. Never curled it etc as it did no good. Then one day I noticed these tiny little curls, and then it was a high humid day, and all these little shirley temples show up all around my head. Now it is curly, and I dont' think I will change it. After all, they came from somewhere, might as well keep them.
Well, let's see! If I was where you are or vice versa!
I am very happy you can laugh about it now, but I can lay odds that when you are in the bibs, you did not give a damn about what people thought. Now, look at you!
You may not can help the looks you were born with but you can surely make the best of them with an excellent personality and a great attitude. These make a difference.
The things I have been through come no where near what is listed here. I can feel the heartaches and the heartbreaks from each one, including Jeepers! I want to sit here and cry for each of you.
But, We all need to look forward not backward, now that we have to accept the past and look forward to our futures. I think each one of us that are here have done that. The hurt is still there, but it does wan as time goes by. Brighter days are ahead of us. One day we will look back and see the good things, not the bad.
Most of the ones who put that in their profile is saying they want a door mat. I, for one, am not one. I don't think anyone who wants to be treated properly is -- except for maybe the one who put that in their profile.
Not all the drive in movies are gone. I love the one we have in our town. I also like the way that ponytails with bows are coming back in style. I don't think crenolyn skirts will ever come back, but our cheerleaders wear the saddle shoes. They have weights in them for better kickability.
I know what a drive in theatre is simply because there has been one in my town for over 50 years. It will be here for a long time to come as far as I can tell too. We have one of the three left. I am not sure where the other two are, but I know that it was in the Atlanta Constitution Journal one year about these phenomenons.
If you have one where you are, does anyone know where the other one is?
You are still young. Just wait until you get my age. It is very different and we run into the "shallow" ends more than you would think.
Good luck in your hunting. You should not have any problems. The one you probably need will be very shy but based on you and you on her. You will know when the time is truly right.
I think the first meeting should be on neutral ground, but if they are willing to fly to my area, then that shows good faith. If they want me to fly to them, that would definitely put up the stop lights! They may be hiding something -- like a wheelchair they have not told you about
Things are not always what they seem, and at times, the ticket is one way. Just be careful.
RE: Why did I do it
Dag, you could make a "Daggotto". Here is a recipe. One shot of whiskey (is it Jack Daniels?), one shot of vodka, one shot of tequila (without the worm), one tall glass, crushed icePlace the ice in the glass 1/2 full, then add the shots from above. Pour in 1/4 cup of wine (white preferably), 1/4 cup of ginger ale, Sprite, or 7up. Shake don't stir. Then top with two cherries and a spit of amaretto. Find a good movie, sit on the couch, and sip slowly.
You will never know what hit you.