I have notice a lot of men more so who lie about their age.. If they are not lying.. then man oh man.. life has taken its toll on them. I just hope CS keeps up with my age as it is spot on!
I was certainly a combo.. However being the youngest for 9 years I was also very spoiled. I could hang with the boys and cry like a girl.. or hang with the girls and be creative like a boy.. As the years went by I became all girl.. Now as I have aged and being single acting like a Farmerette in Training.. You would never have guess that I wore nothing other than dresses most my life. I loved going to the dump yard with my dad.. Never like house work with my mom.
I would like to know the answer to that one.. I have a friend that I knew in 9th grade (another state) recently found me.. Said he had this mad crush on me way back when knew all there was about me, including class's family etc.. and blew my mind out of the water.. been talking off and on for over 2 years.. Pretty much has ask me to marry him.. however does not stay in touch on a daily basis, and sometimes just a quick reply.. only real heart to hearts maybe once every two weeks or so.. he lives 2200 miles away and his job is just getting off the ground, has a lot of leg work.. Wondering if It will ever happen?? Will it work.. or will I just eventually give up..
Generally speaking, I don't believe high school students are mature enough to make that kind of decision[/quote
I disagree. While some maybe immature those usually do not pass. Remember they must study for this test. Do some really understand the full ramifications of their decisions, NO! Our military training is changing and not for the better in my opinion with new comments from enlisted men and women.
They do recruit in High School here in No. Ca. they start at the age of 17 if someone ask questions then they fulfill the answers. Then they keep an eye on that student when they near the age 18 then they are spoke to again if they still have interest. Yes I agree I do not always like the recruitment skills by some. It is a branch party to most recruits (so to speak)and a recruiters dream to have a high score recruit. Majority of recruiters really do have the best interest of the student in mind and their goals. I think during war time, it is more difficult on them as they know what they are potentially sending young men and women into.
While I see your point. Testing in High School does not ensure an enlistment. That is the decision that the student needs to make. While alcohol disrupts critical response time and clear mind. A gun in hand is a choice and they are made aware of the consequences prior to pulling the trigger with a clear mind. I would not agree to have a military personnel at any given age to pull a trigger and under any influence. We teach our young children to hunt and responsible gun safety and they can not drink, yet if the need arises to defend, survive, and to protect they are trained to do so.
They have been doing it for years. Nothing new. I know, I used to do the testing. Several kids have career goals. It is amazing to see how many kids have a level head on their shoulders. By the way it is not mandatory for all High School students to tests.. only those who want to.
Thank you venusenvy! I posted on the one prior to yours with an update: While nothing is ever for certain, I am pretty sure that is not the case here, nor does he have someone else.. but I can not ever say never.. so in time we will see. Thank you!
Thank you BB Snickers.. for your response. While you indicated Me to be my own problem is far from the truth. I ask for advise and your message received through your eyes. I have to take into an account of everyone's perspective and place weight upon the most viable information I get. Not just what I want to hear, but what others open me to hear. With that said, you indicated that women "portray men in a bad light" It is what it is.. We talk for hours on evening and the next day he is off radar.. That is not bad light.. that is a fact. I ask what that meant. As far as me denying him to fly that night. Well one thing your are not aware of is that he just regained a job that means a great deal to him. He waited three years to get this job status back and I am not one to allow anyone to throw it away for a fly by the seat of the pants. I think of him more than that. He understand that much and I would not by no means up my happiness above his. He is one to think spontaneously without the after effect. While I like that about him, it can get one into trouble if you do not have another there who lets them see things clearer, to avoid mistakes. While I would have loved to have him fly that evening it could have cost him a lot more than a cost of flight. As far as me being a victim.. I am almost 53 years old. I have been there done that so to speak in relationship. I will not take fault of a victim!!!!!!! I am no ones victim.. As far as the comment about the work.. I did not once complain about his work.. I merely ask that he indicated (which appears to be true) was a problem.. He worked too much.. Somewhere along the way it would be nice to get a message before work or after work, or before going to bed.. just to say, "worked all day hope your day was good." or "thinking of you". I did need to know if work did take this much away from a mans thoughts towards a relationship we are building.. But as far as me being a victim.. or putting him down, or reading further into than what I said; I think you are the one response that I took the offense too. I was not asking for you to judge me or to judge him. I gave the scenario of what was taking place with honesty. I was asking for honesty back from a mans point of view.. If this is your view I thank you for it being honest from what capable standards you hold towards such a situation through your eyes
Chris Thank you for your response. While my walls are somewhat still being built it is a form of way of protection from a heart. Until someone is able to penetrate those walls and scatter them so far across the seas then and only then can one become comfortable. I have had my heart broken many times through my years, as I am sure to many to count know that feeling well. Right or wrong my motto has been, I rather be alone and lonely than to be with someone and alone. With all due respect, alone and lonely works for me much better. It hurts less and no one to blame for that loneliness but myself. When you are with someone and lonely it hurts like a constant dagger to the heart and makes one wonder why they are not good enough to be loved or cared for. Isolation is sometimes what allows for the walls to crumble.. You know both sides of the wall and what is in between. Everything that walks the face of the earth has a defense mechanism. This "Isolation" period of life has allowed me to look at my mistakes, and the mistakes of others and be ready not to settle for anything less. Past relationships are just that.. Past.. but one has to learn from their past to make their future brighter. The point being about my wall... he crumbles little bits at time, and if it comes to the part that he was not worthy to crumble it.. it opens me up for that do over again mourning period of why me? I don't want Why me anymore! I don't want my wall down unless that person for sure will never allow it to be rebuilt. With it down I am vulnerable to all those aches and pains again. So if Isolation is destined, then at least it will be shorter this time, if the wall only weakens.. Thank you for your input!
Thank you Halv0.. for your response.. I have an update.. I have taken everyone's advice into consideration. I even wrote an email that has not been sent.. I wanted to write my feelings down in the course if things did not quiet improve. With all that said, this weekend we were able to talk.. Advised not to push, but to somehow to get around to the problem at hand I presented him with a forum scenario that came across my way during the week.. I explained about a mirror image of OUR current situation and yet a (little white lie) opted out of the situation due to the closeness in nature.. Ultimately here was his response. HIM: "While people are feeling the situation and each other out is one thing. Once it has become established that another is number one in their life, that is what they should be. Number one is number one. Quoting "Dirty Dancing",...."Nobody puts Baby in a corner", and that is the way a relationship when people are in love and loving each other and nurturing each other should be. One should be able to immerse themselves into the others spirit and bond with their soul. Do you remember "Cocoon"? The two alien spirits made love by bonding their spiritual energy, melding with one another. That is what a marriage should be, Indivisible, a fortress."
So.. I don't think he totally got the picture, but he was able to explain that because of the distance and infrequency of chatting through those two years no matter how much we are like one, we are still in the faze (through his eyes) of getting to know each other. With that also said, he has offered me a plane ticket to come see him.
This answer was enough not to rock the boat, and for me to take a step back with all the advice I got from here to assess it through his eyes. Not just mine. That is why I ask for the advice of you men.
Now him and I following through that offer, or vice versa it yet to be seen. I guess to only know if this leads into the direction of lost hearts rejoining after years and lives apart will see if I meet up to his expectations and he mine. So that we can either move forward or remain two people who paths crossed in this life time.
I thank you all so very much.. I has been so helpful for me not to go off the wall into a space of oblivion and possibly over reaction.
:( Sadly I ask and yet with heavy heart I got the most honest answers I think I could get. Though it hurts, it feels good to at least know the truth even if it does not come from him. This too shall go down in the book of life and the well "crap happens" :).. Time to rebuild that wall ... lol... however this time it is built with steel and not stone!
That is what I feel will happen too. You all have been kind in giving me your opinions. We women look through our eyes, and that is why I wanted a mans objective point of view. As far as getting an honest word.. Yeah Not sure it will be given! So from what everyone is saying, work should not be a problem or an excuse. That women are not delusional in the respect that if you really care for someone.. intermit communications is a tale tale sign means that he is not into it as he indicates.. Right?
I'm in CA, he is in Tex.. Financial situations arise. I have met him. He is from my past childhood (so to speak) we do know each other. We do know what each (so to speak). It is the issue of him tracking me down, revealing his flame for me, me adjusting to the knowledge of this, then nothing, then again some time down the road he carries it back to his flame for me, then nothing, then to him revealing his maybe in love with me. The what if's! He expresses his inner feelings (I don't believe him to be drunk when he does! lol) he opens feelings inside of me.. long dead almost 10 years and then leaves me hanging in the balance as if it was all a dream!
Seriously It was not my intent to bash. I am merely responding to your point of view.. which is what I am asking is the truth.. The point being.. is yes while he will talk for hours, it is the day after and the after and the day after episodes of as if I did not exist and the feelings he opened up during that conversation. That is the point. Why off radar! You answered me and that I appreciate!
This is correct Cciny. Ultimately it is me who has to make that decision as to weather it is worth it or not. For those men out there. For all the men out there please understand. Women do hang onto each and every word. They do have feelings and those feelings are real and respected. I believe if a man is really not into a woman he could immediately cut those ties and express his self so and not leave a woman hungry for answers. Again I thank everyone for your response.
Please understand in that two year time frame we must have only spoke 12 times in good serious conversation. This is not a daily thing. This is a repeated occurrence that after the good serious conversations he goes off radar. Other than that we talk on a general hello basis, how is life going, hope things are going well, got a new job, etc. casual may times a year. It is this last time that he revealed his deep intentions and wanted to fly that night to see me. I of course declined him as this (rehire) for this position was new and I respected his quick fly off the wall offer. I think you hit the nail on the head in the other post of your response to women. He just is not into me!
Thank you so much! I really needed to hear the truth on that. I actually get on and get off. I am not looking to chat all the time. I would like just a quick hello, thinking of you. I am usually the one trying to get off the computer so he can get rest. He is the one insisting on chatting more. I thank you for the input.. As I felt this what he may be doing. So essentially you are saying that (men) when you take an interest in a woman, it is only interest for that moment until it strikes you again to grace her with your time, when you have time and not that you are into her, just that she is available when you are. Right?
lol.. when it comes to love when do we women have common sense.. lol. that appears thrown out the door the moment we feel emotions. haha. but your are all right. putting it into words.. each are giving me my own advise. Just sometimes we wonder if we are in the same realm as the rest of the world when lost in that possibility of the love ever after syndrome.
Thanks... That is why I am asking men.. Us Women would have already come to that conclusion too, as I am facing right now. If I am not worth the effort of at least "good morning, having a great day, talk to you when I can get free" little note.. then I am not worth being on that back burner. No matter how long it took for him to track me down!
Yeah, that is what it feels like is a back burner.. A man who was young boy at the time who had a major crush on me. Too immature to let me know of these feels when we were younger. I moved away in the middle of summer with my family (had no choice). According to him I haunted his mind all these years as the one who got away. He said he looked for me everywhere .. even in places I did not even know he knew about. He had never found me until two years ago.
Bogart. Thank you. While I am not quiet sure what it meant, it gave me no better understanding. While I do not want anyone to treat me this way (who would) I do not know if I am holding on to air or someone who could be the soul mate that once got away. It certainly appears that way when we talk and share. I know what I would not allow from anyone else and this certainly fits that category. Is it because I know him from my past so I already feel that connection even after 30 plus years? Trust me I never knew this and it appeared he searched me out for years and looked for me everywhere. I did not seek him out. He sought me.
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RE: If you lie about your age on CS are you actually....
I have notice a lot of men more so who lie about their age.. If they are not lying.. then man oh man.. life has taken its toll on them. I just hope CS keeps up with my age as it is spot on!