Darn! no takers.. Wow, a free date with live music, free dinner, fireworks ringing in the New Year.. Well.. This is really sad.. for me that is.. If anyone from Sac wants to meet me I will be at Red Lion Hotel
Lastly,, remember everyone these are my feelings.. You are all entitled to yours.. That is why I ask for What would you do? I just wanted to know.. Do you have to think like me? NO.. Do I have a right to my opinion.. Yes.. Do you have a right to yours YES! Do you have to conform to my way of thinking NO! Do I have to conform to yours? NO! Some of us will agree to agree, while other will agree to disagree.. I state my feelings and I comment on yours.. I am not always known to be right.. I will be the first to admit that.. There are always to sides to every story! I accept that.. but I will not compromise my belief for the sake of conformity of man here on earth.. Because ultimately, "... change the things I can not accept.. and accept the things I can not change.." Until that time comes that I can not change it or have my say in it.. I will do all I can to change it! Thanks for the posts.. interesting to see what everyone has to say.. Love forever and a day! ME
Thanks Ken.. very informative.. Yet.. Did I mention I don't like Snakes??? Don't like em.. don't like em.. don't like em.. Poor Chickens!!! lol.. no serious.. will do something today though.. If I don't post anything tomorrow.. Well... and I know about snake shot, inside the chicken pen! I did not give second thought about back flash of the pellets.. but I learned my lesion in the sound in doing so.. Ears certainly do not like it.. Did this .. this past summer with a rattler! Got the rattler and the sound rattled my ears! Probably why my hearing seemed to be getting worse! haha.. OK.. Wish me luck.. going out to dread the poor situation! I also heard about putting out plastic eggs too.. however it could cause the chickens to go crazy!
Thanks dutch and Molly.. I do not believe Mr. Wonderful or Mr. Perfect for us ladies out there do exist. They only exist in the one we select for us. I do understand just looking for Normal..
Agree zmountain man! I too do not always respond, due to my lack of commitment to the site. So I even forget about it sometimes. However my dear. You did not answer the remaining two questions.. Play fair!
On the other hand after reading your further post.. you being a mother may be early stages.. haha.. which is the stages of motherhood.. Your mother is a woman, she knows the emptiness of being alone. She may not want you to endure the empty lonely nights. She wants someone strong to care and look out for you. She wants all the things for you, that she feels she may not be able to accomplish in herself with her age! Encourage her going out and meeting someone. Turn the table! :)
A mother NEVER stops worrying about their children. They are on their minds night and day. It is hard to breath when their child is away, at any age. It is a never ending fear of a phone call, that you become missing, or meeting the wrong person, or an accident, or if you are ill. How do you tell her? Easy.. Go visit her! Sit her down after visiting a little while and helping her out. Take her hand and tell her how much you love her! Tell her how proud you are of her raising you, and by her raising you, she taught you strength, and patience! Let her know that while you know she worries, you will do better in staying in contact! (and do so! as mothers need to hear their youngs voice!) Let her know that while you understand her concerns about you, that you just are not ready and want to experience life as she did on your own. You will listen to all advise but the choices you make are your choices and you hope she will accept those choices. (trust me she will still try to stir you in her direction way of thinking so accept it!) Tell her over and over how much you love her! Thank her, ask for advise (even if you do not want to hear it! as it makes a mother feel needed).. Do this tenderly, but with strong conviction.
Let me add. A mother does not ever stop being a mom! We give up our own youths to raise you, and do our best to make you strong to survive in the wild (so to speak). We make mistakes along the way and we are not perfect as you did not come with an perfect raising instruction manual.. We are human with feelings and emotions and desires as a woman. Look past her as a mother and look at her as a woman like you, young and what she must have endured during your age time line. When our children leave our nest, we need to know that we are still loved on a constant daily basis. Most of us feel like we are yesterdays trash when you leave! As you want to prove to her, yourself and others that you are capable of living without her. We know in our hearts you have to go out and spread your wings and learn to fly, but in reality we are the ones who need to learn to fly now. Our wings were clipped the day you were born, as you became our life, our breath, and reason for living. When you leave we see our life long work gone and know not what to do. The silence is deafening. Have compassion for her! Without her you would not be where you are today! Just because you are gone, include her! You will become better friends than just mother and daughter/son. This comes from a mother with a 30yr old, 29, year old and 25 year old. I still have my empty nest syndrome and I do not believe until I draw my last breath will it ever go away! It is called unconditional love! It is called Mother!
Ah Heck Mimi.. one cant have too many friends If he is not your type then keep it strictly as friends. In the mean time get out of the house. Venture the world with smiles. Enjoy life. Nothing ventured not gained! Wish you the best in what ever your decision.
Take this time out and new your self. Don't go jumping out of the frying pan into an other. Figure out what it is you really want out of life and a mate. Find your own faults in your current/past relationship and be honest with yourself, where you went wrong, and where she went wrong. What you do like and what you don't like. Take time to breath! Take time to polish up a diamond so it glitters.
Thanks all.. and for sure with the cooking being the best! The best part.. It was the first wood cook stove I cooked on.. but it makes it more special that it was my momma and granny that taught me on it.. Just lost my mom on Aug 1st, this year, so I tend to think she had a hand in making it happen! ;)
lol when you think about it. No wonder women did not work to bring home the bacon. Spent all their time pregnant, and staying by the wood cook stove cooking and to keep warm. When hubby returned home from a hard days work. She would warm him up and whoops there comes another one. lol. Notice that women really never got out of the house to earn a living before the electric stove, the automatic washing machine, then came along the tv, dishwasher, vacuum cleaner, and more grocery stores came in and more electric items, (less pregnancy happened when batteries were created! lol).. just saying.. then came women's lib.. along with birth control, and more batteries!
Have fly paper.. Never did the penny thing.. Hello wallop.. Thanks for the profile intrigue. Don't want it as a pet.. 2 to 3 months huh?? Wow.. Thanks all.. for input and greetings.
Haha.. right you cant swat what you cant find at least in the middle of the night.. and it has its hiding spot that I cant find in the day time.. But oh well!! I think they have a life span don't they? If it just trains the next one! LOL
Thanks again everyone.. good points taken by many.. However.. as far as being a lone and having no one.. I think most of the folks here would argue that point. While I felt the same way you did at your age.. as you age.. and the children are all gone, and the nest is empty.. It gets very lonely. Living way out in the middle of no where you find yourself talking to yourself. Limited income keeps you home bound often. You can only argue and play with the dog for so long. The demand of chickens and cats wanting fed can only lighten the morning moments for a short time. I think 14 years is long enough to be alone. It is time to have someone else to yell at, laugh with, dream with. Even if the dreams are not the same, (God knows I don't need a clone of me) We mostly want someone to explore new beginnings. However we all get set in our ways and need someone else to help pull us out.. I think the getting to know someone is a must! Most of us having previous relationships that clearly did not turn out well.. we have moved forward and while we learn from out past, we sometimes are too critical of those we view as a potential future. Do we really give them opportunity? Or do we just ignore them and say.. HE>>> NO and just not answer them anymore as they flew up a red flag without their knowledge. It's a fifty fifty to me. A mail order Husband would not be too bad.. Would I do it? Probably not. Either way I am a smart girl and know the directions to the Court House... Been there before! :)
Hey Dee Listen, this is not a feeling alone thing.. it is being scared out of your witts.. I know.. Although I did not have thyroid cancer I did have to have my thyroids destroyed.. I know that feeling.. However I was one of the lucky ones to have my family there as support.. However during that time I had to leave them as to not expose them to any danger for about 10 days.. I was scared to death... I could not show them this either.. So I know what you are going through.. However.. You know what.. I did have God.. I know with what you have gone through.. it seems he is not there.. but sweetness.. maybe that is the other reason you feel so alone... email me ... if you want.. I will be here for you to talk to.. I've been there hon. Tricia
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It's been so long!
Awe thank you all so much!